Uh I think it's a given that you are not a virgin if you are a Mother!! If I were a guy and you showed this double standard for yourself - I'd be a little put off!!
Uh, just how is it a double standard, if she became a mother while within the bounds of her marriage?
I would simply walk on by for witholding sex for the sake of contrived insitution is an alarm bell of immense proportion in this world I choose not to live detached from reality.
So anyone says that "I can't because my religion says so" you are just a sheep that is blind and follow whatever someone else tells you
I think that requirement is absolutely ridiculous, even for a young woman who has some fairy tale notion that saving her virginity for marriage is un realistic.
(I had one guy who told me that was 'stupid' since I was not a virgin and had been married before.) He is right.
i think someone should introduce you to the 21st century to be honest. a marriage certificate wont change the way you feel about someone. married or not, you should have sex with someone when it feels right, not when an out dated religious view tells you its ok to because your married.
if you were to do that, you might as well only have sex when your trying to become pregnant as the church condemns sex that is only for pleasure...thats just my 2 cents, glad i got it off my chest though!!!
Why devote yourself to a God that may or may not exist and live by pre-historic standards, it's 2008.. In my opinion no sex before marriage is a big joke.
There's certainly no shortage of arrogant, egotistical, totally bigoted folks out there in POF-land! 
OP, to be honest, it wouldn't be for me either. But stick to your beliefs, there aren't many that have principles like that today, including all the BIGOTS quoted above!
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