| | Is it ok to ask for your wedding ring back after divorce?Page 10 of 12 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12) | | i do not think it is ok to take back anything, that you gave her with love | |
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| Is it ok to ask for your wedding ring back after divorce?
Posted: 6/9/2010 1:56:49 PM | When my ex and I split, I asked for the ring back. I felt like she betrayed our marriage and didn't deserve it. Later we tried working on things, and I gave it back. When it was finally over, I couldn't be bothered to ask for it back. Maybe it was closure, or I wasn't ready at first. I left my wedding ring on a shelf, and I noticed my sister was wearing it on her thumb one day, so I let her keep it.
*shrugs*
during my marriage, my ring was a symbol of commitment, a vow, A symbol of love, for all the world to see. Without the marriage behind it, it really is nothing but a worthless loop of metal. | |
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| Is it ok to ask for your wedding ring back after divorce?
Posted: 6/9/2010 2:45:17 PM | | If you ask for a ring back, you might as well ask for all the other tokens of affection that were given over the course of your married life. One should bear no more meaning over the other. I can't see wanting it back unless it's a monetary drive to have it. What are you going to do with it? Keep it on a string around your neck? There's too much monetary meaning placed on rings both before and after marriage and the above poster is correct in that if the marriage is over, the ring is nothing more than a worthless loop of metal....unless someone wants it back because of it's montary value. Nine times out of ten, that's the only reason people want it. People will destroy their wedding pictures, etc. but demand a ring back. Pretty telling if you ask me. | |
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Posted: 6/9/2010 3:14:59 PM | You gave it to her..it's hers/his whoevers.
You gonna re gift it? Pulease.
Mine ? Some fish probably choked on it..I place no value on something that had no value to begin with.
Pretty telling if you ask me.
Yeah..and give her back her years would ya?
I say that's an even trade.
You: I want my ring back. I paid for it. * stomps foot*
She: Well I want back my ten freaking years (or however many) back.
Someone needs their Flintstones chewable s with omega 3's.
Think..... | |
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| Is it ok to ask for your wedding ring back after divorce?
Posted: 6/9/2010 6:55:00 PM | If the gal gives the jewelry back after the relationship ends...
the BEST thing to do with it is have it all melted down to use to Gold-Plate your favorite pistol ;)
Frankly, the ring should be given back once the divorce is initiated. | |
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Posted: 6/10/2010 9:34:30 AM | I didn't ask for her rings back... I didn't much care about it. I hear she took the diamonds and put them in her new set though. Seems she believed in the adage "men come and go, but diamonds are forever".. lol
As for what I did with mine... I took it to the nearest pawn shop, only asked for $25 (which just happened to be exactly the price of a carton of smokes at the time) and headed to the grocery store. I never smoked 200 more satisfying cigs in my life.
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| Is it ok to ask for your wedding ring back after divorce?
Posted: 6/10/2010 9:42:43 AM | What are you going to do with it?? Wear it? pawn it? give it to your next girlfriend??
you gave to her, it is hers to do with what she wishes!! (unless of course it is a family heirloom) Then she should give this piece of your family back to you.
Leave it alone already, it sounds like you are looking for excuses to pick a fight with her because you are hurt that she has moved on..
You should move on as well and put the past behind you. Its the healthy thing to do. | |
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| Is it ok to ask for your wedding ring back after divorce?
Posted: 6/10/2010 9:46:26 AM | Wedding ring? Nah, why would I want that back? I did get my engagement ring back because it had been in my family for 3 generations, and I in turn gave it back to my Mother. Not sure what she'll do with it, probably give it to her lone granddaughter.
As for my wedding ring, I had plans to toss it in the Ocean out in CA. But I lost interest in that. I think I was going to just give it the ex, who was going to have both melted and turned into some other piece of jewelry. | |
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Posted: 6/10/2010 10:02:52 AM | My three thoughts on asking for the ring back, and this thread in general:
1) I don't recommend it - most women would respond very negatively (perhaps even violently) to such a request, and if you weren't raked to death enough in the divorce proceedings, just sit back and enjoy the Spite Bonus Round. 
2) I'd never ask for one back: but that has more to do with the fact that I'd NEVER give a woman a gift SO expensive that I couldn't bear to part with it, i.e. there's NO way I'm paying 3 months of my salary for a useless trinket, when you can get a lovely pair of rings made for $1,000 or less like some of my happily married friends have. 
3) For those in the thread that commented: "well if he wants his ring back, she'd like her years wasted back" - that's crap and you know it. Regardless of who initiated the divorce and why, BOTH of their time was "wasted" - those implying that HER time is somehow more valuable than his are exactly the sort of people you see posting on the date threads about how a woman's worthy contribution to a date is "showing up". In the words of BigDaddyJinx (whom I haven't seen on here lately) - EPIC FAIL.  | |
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Posted: 6/11/2010 10:55:59 PM | Why would you want them back? You did give it (them) to her, didnt you? What she decides to do with it (them) is up to her. But for some strange reason, I seriously doubt shes going to reuse them if she chooses to remarry.
what will she do with them?
sell them
melt them and make something out of them
give them to the kids (if you have any together)
give them away
keep them in a drawer (memories)
who knows?
You asked what would other divorced ppl do with their wedding bands?
I still have mine and plan on giving them to my kids. For me, its something that symbolizes what their parents had and what led to the kids being here. Its all the good stuff. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2010 12:06:08 AM | Why does he want it back? Same reason she would want to keep it. I wanted mine back mostly because they were my parents rings. They meant something to me. Yes I demanded them back at the most appropriate time and yes she offered to give them to our children. I insisted and now have them. End of the story. Ask whats she gonna do say no? No real harm in asking even if all you want to do is get some of you money back on them.
Yes she was very pissed off to have to give them back.  | |
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Posted: 6/12/2010 12:37:40 AM | If the OP had wanted the divorce I wonder if he'd be asking for it back. Hmmm.. will it then depend on who's fault it is that the divorce was instigated..hmmm.
I wanted mine back mostly because they were my parents rings. They meant something to me. Yes I demanded them back at the most appropriate time and yes she offered to give them to our children. I insisted and now have them. End of the story.
Understandble if the rings are in your safekeeping 'til they're passed on to your kids. In this case, a future partner should get new rings imo. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2010 2:05:56 AM |
For those in the thread that commented: "well if he wants his ring back, she'd like her years wasted back" - that's crap and you know it. Regardless of who initiated the divorce and why, BOTH of their time was "wasted" - those implying that HER time is somehow more valuable than his are exactly the sort of people you see posting on the date threads about how a woman's worthy contribution to a date is "showing up". In the words of BigDaddyJinx (whom I haven't seen on here lately) - EPIC FAIL -
Lighten up Buckaroo...Like it could really happen.
Makes almost as much sense as asking for a wedding ring back * roll eyes*.
Plagiarizing another poster you look up to..Awwwwwww You DO have a "hero", now get some humor or learn when his quotes are appropriate and ask permission to use them grasshopper.
most women would respond very negatively (perhaps even violently) to such a request]
Now, WHO do you hang with.? Violent out of control women ?.YOU fail it seems...
Most men and women I know personally would know this is a totally inappropriate thing to ask. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2010 5:42:31 PM | No where in your wedding vows did you state that in case of a divorce you wanted your wedding ring back. What is the point, so you can recycle it and give it to your next wife??? If that is the case, tell your ex-wife that you want your washing machine back, the toaster, and the blender.
Nuff said! | |
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Posted: 6/15/2010 6:05:10 AM | See, my thought is if it were a family heirloom, then yes, it should be returned to the family whence it came.
However, if it is not, then no - s/he fulfilled the requirement by marrying you - if it did not work out, no matter whose fault, asking for it back is just petty and spiteful and tells me that you are not over her yet. | |
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