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| If you are in a relationship, is it still ok to meet people from here?
Posted: 5/26/2008 4:44:54 PM | I know a man on POF that dated me.. two days later moved another woman in with him. she knew he was seeing me and other women. He continues to meet women on here and at lunch and for coffee and has even had his exwife to their home. He openly admits he still loves the ex.. the live in sits at home or is at work while he is just meeting friends of course of the opposite sex.. I would tell him how wrong that was and it makes the live in seem needy and desperate to put up with it. His response is always .. she came into it knowing how I am and I want to be sure I am doing the right thing and with the right one. If I say it is just wrong and not right.. he says everyone is different and we all handle things different. I am so glad I am NOT the only one that sees this the way I do. I told him he made the right choice.. because I would NEVER let someone do me that way.. he is and would be history.
Also, men that tell several women at the same time they are in love with them sux too!!!! That would be another thread...  | |
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| If you are in a relationship, is it still ok to meet people from here?
Posted: 5/26/2008 7:48:19 PM | "To meet people from here"......
for what? coffee? chatting on line? drinks? dates?
There are alot of great people out there to meet and have relationships with, but what are you really asking...........hooking up? Pretending it is just friends but secretly looking to hook up? The answer is obvious in that case isn't it. Be honest with yourself. | |
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| If you are in a relationship, is it still ok to meet people from here?
Posted: 5/27/2008 2:37:17 AM | : If you are in a relationship, is it still ok to meet people from here?
The only answer is NO. If you wnat to lose the one you are in relaionship with then sure go on. chat away. meet. whatever. until a person relaizes its wrong to do they will probably remain single until they wisen up. | |
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| If you are in a relationship, is it still ok to meet people from here?
Posted: 5/27/2008 3:35:13 AM | I think this is incredibly taboo!!
If you are in a happy committed relationship why would you join a site that is specifically for "dating".
Ok I take your point on the "friends" issue but its not how I would be looking for friends I want to meet men for relationships and that is why I am on this site and would hope that is what they are looking for too otherwise it all gets a bit complicated!!
There are sites that cater for relationships on the side so I think they would be more suitable and there are general chat rooms for friends.
Please dont narrow my field!! LOL, Thanks
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| If you are in a relationship, is it still ok to meet people from here?
Posted: 5/27/2008 8:11:04 AM | kittenshere41 wrote: If you want to lose the one you
are in relationship with then sure, go on. chat away.
meet. whatever. until a person realizes it's wrong to do
they will probably remain single until they wisen up.
If there is someone out there who would be a better match
do you want to prevent them from meeting?
indehills wrote: I don't think it's ok, but instead of asking US,
you should be asking the person you are in the relationship with
if SHE minds or not.
I agree that understanding needs to be in place up front
that you'll upgrade if a better match comes along. | |
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| If you are in a relationship, is it still ok to meet people from here?
Posted: 5/27/2008 1:23:13 PM |
If there is someone out there who would be a better match
do you want to prevent them from meeting?
The grass always looks greener. Everyone has their problems, benefits, failures, etc. etc. You have to really get to know someone to find out about what a person is really like. If you are looking and meeting others, forget about having a good relationship with who you are currently seeing. You will be comparing what you think you know about the newly met person against the person you really know. If you don't like who you really know now, it is better to break ties than to search for someone else while still with them. jmo | |
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| If you are in a relationship, is it still ok to meet people from here?
Posted: 5/27/2008 6:16:44 PM | just em wrote: If you are looking and meeting others,
forget about having a good relationship with who you
are currently seeing.
Dating one person at a time may not necessarily be
the best method for everybody.
If you are in a relationship, is it still ok to meet people from here?
musicfan1980 wrote: Nope..it's a recipe for danger.
How do you explain those who were in a relationship,
met someone here and are happier for it? | |
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| If you are in a relationship, is it still ok to meet people from here?
Posted: 5/27/2008 9:59:05 PM | it's a red flag... or a big giant neon sign... it's NOT okay in my book to meet other people from here....to be ON here... to be chatting with other people of the opposite sex (if you are straight, same sex if you are gay etc...you get the gist) when you are in a relationship with someone else... (unless it is one of those so-called open relationships and you both run around with other people...which begs the question...is that a relationship or just a friends with benefits situation...but i digress....badly...)
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| If you are in a relationship, is it still ok to meet people from here?
Posted: 5/27/2008 11:50:18 PM | | Having friends before your involved and including them in your circle of friends thats normal. It's dangerous to add new people you meet on a dating site into an existing relationship. Couples should have some friends in common to do things with. Going out with so called friends from dating sites is dating. Doesn't sound like a committed relationship to me. | |
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