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| Kids packed her bags!!
Posted: 5/23/2008 6:56:28 AM | | Oh the father calmed them down.?.........Was this after he took them to the supposed boyfriends house...and after he let them PACK HER BAGS..............After he let them do what he should have done as a man and husband..........confront her..........now there's a man any woman would love to have in her life.......NOT | |
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| Kids packed her bags!!
Posted: 5/23/2008 8:54:54 PM |
I beg your pardon! Women frequently involve children as young as five and six when its them storming out of the house.
And those women, are just as low, as the OP
They chose to involve themselves and THEY were the ones ready to get violent with the guy thier mom was cheating with. It was the father who calmed them down.
They should not have had that choice. Who was the parent here? I wonder why they thought it would have been ok to be violent? | |
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| Kids packed her bags!!
Posted: 5/24/2008 8:10:08 AM | Oh the father calmed them down.?.........Was this after he took them to the supposed boyfriends house...and after he let them PACK HER BAGS..
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No. It was long before that. It was when the two strappling young men first caught their mother cheating and were ready to beat the guy up badly enough to hospitalise him. | |
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| Kids packed her bags!! Cuz they're good at sensitive stuff.
Posted: 6/1/2008 2:11:26 PM | As they start their descent Opie (OP) slips, falls off the tower and is killed instantly. As the ambulance takes the body away, his best bud, Ronnie says, 'Well, darn, someone should go and tell his wife.'
Donnie says, 'OK, I'm purty good at that sensitive stuff, I'll do it. '
An hour later, Donnie comes back carrying a case of Budweiser.
Ronnie says, 'Where did you get that beer, Donnie?'
'Opie's wife gave it to me,' Ronnie replies.
'That's unbelievable, you told the lady her husband was dead and she gave you beer?'
'Well, not exactly,' Donnie says. 'When she answered the door, I said to her, you must be Opie's widow.'
She said, 'You must be mistaken, I'm not a widow.'
Then I said, 'I'll bet you a case of Budweiser you are.'
Rednecks are real good at sensitive stuff--and no backs were broke posting this message. | |
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| Kids packed her bags!!
Posted: 6/9/2008 7:08:32 AM | They should not have had that choice. Who was the parent here? I wonder why they thought it would have been ok to be violent?
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On the contary. I repeat yet again, THE 18 YEAR OLD WAS A MAN, not a child. In every legals sense of the word! And the second son was only a year younger.
There's a lot of mid aged women on these boards have some serious growing up to do. Who was jabbering about "custody" earlier. That ceases completely at age 16 and is the kids choice from age 12. | |
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| Kids packed her bags!!
Posted: 6/9/2008 12:53:01 PM | add my 2 cents worth.
I am not reading 27 pages worth of forum. A majority of people here are verbally bashing this poor man to death. Obviously they have not been in a situation as unfortunate as this, or maybe the cause.
I have been through something very similar. My mum has had a drinking problem for 15+ years. At 17 i remember over hearing mum had started just wondering off, and she ended up wondering off and doing the dirty on my dad. I remember feeling utter disgust for weeks when she entered my vision. My father was always a good provider to us 6 kids, exellent parent, was pleasant to my mother when she done the most irrational of things; pretty much gave her anything she wanted and is basically a top gentleman.
I was blamed for most of the family issues since the age of 10, and when 2 weeks after my 18th birthday my drunken mother tried assalting me with a chainsaw inside the house (No, i'm not joking) to which I OBVIOUSLY defended myself, Dad kicked me out of the house. 4 Years later when mum was doing the same thing to all of my other siblings for the sake of the "kids" Dad bought mum a house out of town, and fully furnished it for her. With in about 3 months she was done for drink driving. Mum complained about this to Dad so he got her a rental joint in town, close by to where my Dad resides so he can help her.
2 Years later (present day) all of us kids are doing pretty well in life (most of the time!). I work in construction, doing fly in/fly out work in mines and other remote areas, my brother below me has still yet to find his feet but has studied areas of psychology - currently working in the snow fields. My sister is studying linguistics and is in her second year i think, and my brother just under that is a second year apprentice electrician and experiments with hydrogen technology with a hope to build some sort of commercialised business in the future (has his car running on part hydrogen at the moment, his own design and at 19!); the other 2 are still at high school. But we are all plauged by something or other that Mum has done to us in the past. I know a few of you out there will say "oh yes and your mother was a contributer to that upbringing" but no, you will be sadly wrong. Waking up at 5 in the morning to fill her glass of wine, watching T.V all day, being argumentitive at any opportunity she had and doing some things that i daren't speak of ever (yes worse then a chain saw). Come around 15 she didnt even cook dinner (the one task she only had to do) and on sunday mornings the whole family (par mum - she was in the "adults lounge" drinking wine and watching telly) would clean the house... All i can say is that she provided a "negative role model" a being on which to look at and say "this is what you can turn out like".
Going a little off topic i know, I'm just reflecting on my own experience and it seems similar to mine. For all its worth, i wish i could turn back time, unite with my siblings and pack my mothers belongs for my dad (always traditional, till death do us part ect didnt have the balls to do it) and give her the arse. Please, take pity on the OP, he is reaching out for someone at the moment, anyone that will care. The "children" involved are adults and have chosen to stick by thier fathers side instead of running off and sinking into a life of crime and drugs. | |
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| Kids packed her bags!!
Posted: 6/9/2008 1:05:50 PM | I totally agree with someone who said involving your kids was wrong. It is.
As for her reasons for having an affair she is ultimately responsible regardless of any advice she's had from others. You sound like your waiting for to wise up and come back. I think your not realising now that its all out in the open youve put all your cards on table. Instead of you sorting it the whole family is now involved and that cant be taken back and forgotten about in any way shap or form. Totally out of order getting kids involved in my book she is their mother no matter what she has personally done across you. She hasnt cheated on almost grown up kids this is about you and her. | |
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| Kids packed her bags!!
Posted: 6/9/2008 3:41:02 PM | | in America the legal age for custody is 18, and or graduates high school, whichever comes last. Choice of where to live varies from state to state, but the age starts at 14....and that is only after a judge finds the child of sound mind and body. Its still between the adults, not the children...or they would all sleep in the same bed! Foxy red...you hit it on the head. Grown up problems are still between the mother and father, no matter what age the kids are. | |
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| Kids packed her bags!!
Posted: 6/9/2008 6:20:51 PM |
They should not have had that choice. Who was the parent here? I wonder why they thought it would have been ok to be violent?
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On the contary. I repeat yet again, THE 18 YEAR OLD WAS A MAN, not a child. In every legals sense of the word! And the second son was only a year younger.
There's a lot of mid aged women on these boards have some serious growing up to do. Who was jabbering about "custody" earlier. That ceases completely at age 16 and is the kids choice from age 12
Ok, let's say, just because you turn 18, you are magically a MAN, and legally that's true, actually legally it's true at 16, where I come from. But not necessarily emotionally. And it's just okay to be violent at 16, 18, 52.
There's alot of middle aged women on these board, that need to grow up? What a ridiculous statement! I know trying to protect innocent people, make us old decrepid people, soooo awful. Trying to do the right thing by people, make us sooo awful. Trying to prevent people from hurting other people, make us sooo awful. Trying to keep problems between husband and wife, makes us sooo awful. And not trying to make your ADULT children take sides, makes us sooo awful. Need I go on? Sorry us old decrepid people don't know a damn thing about life, or how it's going to effect other people. Here's something enlightening for you, kiss my oooold ass!
I don't know who jabbered about custody. | |
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| Kids packed her bags!!
Posted: 6/9/2008 9:25:50 PM | Nothing like beating a dead horse til there's nothing left!
It's not hard to see why so many people are single! What with such bitter hate filled hearts inside people who only have their life to live yet somehow feel qualified to pass judgment on others to the point of horrendous and hugely unjustified condemnation.
Give it a rest already people! | |
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| Kids packed her bags!!
Posted: 6/10/2008 2:05:32 PM | Would someone kindly SHOOT this thread and put it out of our misery?
Cindy O | |
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| Kids packed her bags!!
Posted: 6/10/2008 2:13:20 PM | | BANG BANG......................The Op had been gone almost since the day this thread started........................may he rest in peace................. | |
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| Kids packed her bags!!
Posted: 6/10/2008 2:25:50 PM | Blimey - you lot still here, and the kids still telling their stories how they have been mentally damaged by their mothers.
Well it all goes to show, that if the parents had kept the kids out of it, then the kids would be alright now, instead of writing about their painful experiences to a load of OLD singles on a singles dating site, which of course these youngsters are on too!!! Shock Horror GASP.
Who gives a toss where the OP went, he is a nasty twisted man, who used his children in a bad way, maybe he did take them on holiday and told them he was sorry and he going to pop up and say his kids forgive him, yeahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.
ffs, IN THE MEAN TIME THE KIDS OR HIM DID NOT FIND HER AT THE SUPPOSED BOYFRIENDS HOUSE!!!!!!
just thought I would point that out.          | |
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| Kids packed her bags!!
Posted: 6/11/2008 8:04:09 PM |
Blimey - you lot still here, and the kids still telling their stories how they have been mentally damaged by their mothers.
Well it all goes to show, that if the parents had kept the kids out of it, then the kids would be alright now, instead of writing about their painful experiences to a load of OLD singles on a singles dating site, which of course these youngsters are on too!!! Shock Horror GASP.
Really i think what i'm getting at is if my mother was removed from my life much earlier on we would all be infinitly better off. Finding my mum done the dirty on me dad would have to be in the lower spectrum of things she done. | |
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| Kids packed her bags!!
Posted: 6/11/2008 8:17:17 PM | While im not thrilled to hear that the boys were there, let me just say that it doesnt matter what the father does, its the mom thats messed up the relationship with the boys.
These kids are old enough to figure out what their mom are doing. I knew at the age of 7 that my dad was a POS! So as far as im concerned, the dad could have flat out lied to the kids if he wanted, the kids would still be pissed and would have been mad at their dad for not having a backbone.
Regardless, the boys will still feel a little bad, so just reassure them that they are awesome kids and its their moms loss, not theirs.
Believe me, this woman will come back eventually for a relationship with her boys. then she will have to deal with the boys, you wont have to do a thing. Its worse for a parent when the children tells them the bridge has been burned. | |
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| Kids packed her bags!!
Posted: 7/5/2008 9:34:35 PM | Even though I believe this whole thread is bogus; it still brings to light one very important point. My ex left for work on day many years ago and never came back. She walked on me and the kids.
I was hurt devastated; but I failed my kids something awful. I was not thinking strait and bad mouth my ex to the kids. They knew what she did how couldn’t they. She was here one morning and not the next nor the next nor the next.
I was the adult, I should have curb my pain and been there for my kids instead of bad mouthing the ex. Now a decade and a half latter I see the damage I caused. I tried to get the kids and her to talk and even succeeded. They are close but not as close as a mother son and daughter should be. I am ashamed of what I did and what I put my kids through. I was the adult I should have dealt with my feelings any way I could but should never have bad mouthed her.
I hope this makes sense and if any one reads this and goes through what I did NEVER NEVER make the same mistake I did. In life, even if we don’t realize it some times the price is just to high to pay for what we do or say. A lesson I learned way to late.
Adult problems are just that;adult problems and should never be put on our kids shoulders.
Kids are smart enough to know what going on. They don't need to be reminded of it. | |
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