| What is the best way to approach in the supermarket/store?
Posted: 4/23/2008 9:24:24 PM | Hmm, the guy asking about whether rayon sheets would be hot in the summertime was pretty cute. But I never know whether to pursue something like that or if he'd then get freaked out if I was responding with a little intensity.
I think there is a certain amount of projecting that you are out there and open to possibilities and/or looking. People can pick up on that. I don't think I was projecting those vibes then. | |
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| What is the best way to approach in the supermarket/store?
Posted: 4/24/2008 12:14:35 AM | Smile
Eye contact
Ask for help finding something
Make a funny (anything lame will work if she's at all available or interested)
Smile
run into her again in the store
REPEAT
BTW, I tried these with a really sweet looking guy and he was flirting right back but he must not have been THAT interested because he didn't try to talk more to get the 411. And I didn't have the balls to say "hey, I like you, are you single." I should have I guess, but I'm too damn busy in life now :( But if I see him there again you bet I'll give it a shot. Can't hurt! (Mr. Trader Joe's that cut into the closed line and opened it for me, thank you! Loved your tan jeans and chino shirt) :angel: | |
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| What is the best way to approach in the supermarket/store?
Posted: 4/24/2008 12:22:44 AM | 'Have you ever had sex in the freezer cabinet where they keep the broccoli' never works for me.
And I recommend not buying frozen stuff if you're actually there for dating as 12 hours later it's all soggy and if you haven't pulled you'll feel that way too.
You could try saying 'I own this shop, in fact I own the shop nationally, make that internationally'. Then ask them if they want you delivering to their door. Get credit card details, address and telephone number. | |
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| What is the best way to approach in the supermarket/store?
Posted: 4/24/2008 10:24:01 AM | play dumb and ask her about her preferences on a brand of something. Play like you don't know and unless she's completely not interested, I'm sure most women will offer you some advice I was going to suggest this. Except play dumb about something you actually know about, solicit her advice, then talk about what you do know. You can actually start a minor conversation this way, and she might be intrigued that you aren't as dumb as you intially appeared to be. | |
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| What is the best way to approach in the supermarket/store?
Posted: 4/24/2008 11:15:50 AM | lol..I'm almost always in the same boat as JAFO (love your name by the way! I can relate!). Whenever, wherever someone takes a moment to talk, I pretty much have to be beaten over the head to have me catch on to anything more than just being friendly. And on top of that, if I'm being clumsy, as suggested above by a few....it's not usually because I'm 'thinking with motives', but rather just because I really truly am clumsy. The market where I shop even has people follow me around now with mops as I walk through.
It's also in what time of day and day of week you go too. Saturday mornings are much more productive than just right after everyone gets off work and are in a rush. And pick a market which is more fun to shop in than just the usual chains......Henry's, Bristol Farms, Trader Joes and the Natural Food Store here are regular social havens as compared to Vons, Ralphs, Safeway, etc. Find the social ones in your neighborhood w unique products too ~ unless of course you want a relationship from Kraft. Finally, have fun and enjoy while there, people see that, and also pick up interesting and healthy stuff in your cart in case someone wants to have a prop with which to strike up a conversation with you! | |
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| What is the best way to approach in the supermarket/store?
Posted: 4/24/2008 12:23:29 PM | Do you cook? (Hint: Women adore a man that can cook!)
Make a comment about something in her cart, such as "Do you have a good recipe for 'that'?" If the answer is 'yes', ask for the recipe. If she doesn't, then jot one down (if you know it) along with your name and phone # , just in case she has any questions.
If conversation continues (pretty good indication that she is not involved with someone), make some comment like how you really like to cook with others, share the kitchen, go to certain restaurants...etc. ASK for her opinion! You get the idea.
If she is getting 'bulk' items....cases of soda (better yet, beer!), bags of chips....make some kind of funny comment like "Looks like you are having a party. Am I invited" Is she getting ribs from the butcher? "Perfect weather for a BBQ! Whats your favorite BBQ sauce?"
I happen to work in a major food store and the space in front of my counter is a rather busy 'meet and greet' place....I've seen a couple of 'pick ups' happen! | |
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| What is the best way to approach in the supermarket/store?
Posted: 4/24/2008 12:44:53 PM | I agree with Naomi. Trying to fake a conversation doesn't work for me. The ladies in my area tend to be guarded against getting hit on anyway. Forget the BS. Apologize for imposing and hand her a business card and tell her you'd like to have coffee with her sometime. Now it's completely up to her. Sometimes they call and sometimes they don't. Not really any different then on POF is it?
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Chris | |
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| What is the best way to approach in the supermarket/store?
Posted: 4/24/2008 12:51:25 PM | Part II.
I hand out business cards all the time anyway. It's just a part of what I do. The plus side is that if she does call, it gives her something to go with. Something she can ask you questions about in order to start a conversation.
My trouble is I always seem to have my kids in tow when I see a girl I'd like to meet! I've never approached a woman with my kids there. I don't think the kids would care or realize what was going on but I'm sure the woman would think it was strange!
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| What is the best way to approach in the supermarket/store?
Posted: 4/24/2008 1:34:47 PM | I disagree with an earlier post about Saturday morning being the best time to flirt at the super market. I think the best time is during the week right after work. The single ones will be in the express lane with just enough to make a salad...maybe some chocolate too . Offer to let her ahead of you, make reference that you're not really in any hurry. Ask questions instead of making comments. If the interest is there on her part she will respond. Take it from there. | |
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| What is the best way to approach in the supermarket/store?
Posted: 4/24/2008 2:23:24 PM | One thing to remember about using the grocery store as a dating pool is that you probably ought not to be too agressive nor act like a serial dater there. Word will get around and you'll find shopping there get mighty uncomftorable. Staff whispering behind your back, sour looks from other customers etc etc
I would suggest if there's one particular woman, then do exactly as someone suggested. Glance towards her cart and ask her about one of the products. "I was thinking of switching to that too. Do you like it?" etc. LISTEN to her answer. If she gives you a quick answer and continues pushing her cart away, she's NOT into you. If she bothers to stand there and explain, listen because you'll need to take something from that to ask another question. Then you have two choices: Ask her out right then and there or wait till you see her again to have another casual conversation. Just don't come off too strong. | |
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| What is the best way to approach in the supermarket/store?
Posted: 4/24/2008 4:56:29 PM | | chris I have to disagree with you.To have a man approach me with his children in tow would be perfect............attractive guy(In my eyes) children in tow, giggling ,laughing ,being silly, in a family setting should we say.It would say it all wouldn't it ladies? We would see him at his finest..lol lol , we know what its like to shop with our children at times.........things are forgotten, they have to use the bathroom, and then there is the chitter and chatter, things in the cart that do not belong there.etc...............It would tell me he is proud of his children, not hiding them, loves to be with them and not afraid (or maybe couldn't get a sitter) but at least he approaches,and thats where his business card may come in handy,she will see you have your hands full, which is impressive to me,and you just say anything about the children and women usually respond........apoligize for not being able to talk and voila.........out comes the business card, smiles and giggles from the children ,he is walking backwards, smiling and tripping over the cart at the same time...........now wouldnt that be a perfect scenario.......makes me blush!!!!!!!!!!! but it would work for me...and when I called,you got it,opening sentence... How are the children today?been shoppin latley? | |
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. i had one man do that but he was way to old for me. :(
really funny and i can imagine now why your on here ha ha only joking love to see more laughter on here to be honest xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
