| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/29/2008 10:54:04 AM |
Wow, this is quite the heated discusion...
I think some embrace thier inner child and some don't. Maturity level shmaturity level, it's fun factor.
I find video games to be a great source of amusement. While others get excited over gardening. To each thier own.
If you haven't spent an evening with friends, dance dance revolution, and a few drinks, you haven't *lived*. ;) (Oh and don't forget the camera for later blackmailing purposes.)
Video games are also good value for money. You can get tons of hours of entertainment out of a $50 video game, whereas it costs you around $8 - 12 (depending on where you live) to see a movie for a couple of hours. | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/29/2008 12:30:39 PM | | LOL, Wii Fit kicks my butt! :P I'm addicted to the rhythm boxing...now if only I can manage the ski slalom and NOT miss all the gates! Whew! I'm getting tired just THINKING about how many times I've tried that! | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/29/2008 12:43:10 PM | | Video games ruined my Marriage. I am not joking, he preferred video games to Sex many nights. I have since divorced and decided it is a lot better being lonely in my single life that being lonely in a miserable marriage !! I thought I would never get divorced !! I despise him for that !! | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/29/2008 1:01:06 PM |
Video games ruined my Marriage. I am not joking, he preferred video games to Sex many nights. I have since divorced and decided it is a lot better being lonely in my single life that being lonely in a miserable marriage !! I thought I would never get divorced !! I despise him for that !!
Beg to differ it was not the video games themselves as video games have no brains it was though his fault for not being more attentive to his family it sounds like. The last I checked it takes two to tango and it takes two working together 100% + all of the time to make any marriage work. Also last I checked those two are supposed to have the brains not a video game/games.
Obviously I do not know your full story as it really is none of my business anyway but I can almost guarantee there had to have been deeper problems than just video games but we as humans will by nature blame inanimate objects being it a car,job,home or w/e that cannot defend themselves instead of putting the blame where it really belongs on the non perfect human factor.
Just another two cents in defense of poor inanimate objects that cannot defend themselves but still getting all of the blame once again.  | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/29/2008 1:44:23 PM | I have to second Chuck on that observation. I'll even take it a step further for you and show something that's actually bad. For this example, Meth.
Now, for the record, I'm not a druggy...you can ask anyone, I don't even drink alcohol!
But Meth, by itself, is a completely innocent substance. If it sits in a jar (or however they store it), it does nothing at all. However, when a weak, imperfect human puts that Meth into their bodies, it affects them in various ways, even up to death or violence.
But I guarantee when that person gets killed or overdoses or whatever from using Meth, there will be a good portion of people who blame the drugs, NOT the person who chose to take them!
I noticed on your profile, KATYM, that you are a "social drinker". Now, given that video games are evil and anyone who plays them is exactly the same. Does that mean that we should treat you as a binge-drinking alcoholic because you do the same activity that they do?
I guess what I'm saying is that it's all and well to have opinions, but we should really take a look at our own habits and hobbies. See the things that WE do before condemning someone else for their "sins".
If your marriage broke up, it was because there was no spark. If there WAS a spark, then the video games would have been forgotten. I do find it interesting, though, that you only mentioned that he chose the games over sex. Was that the only part of being a wife you weren't good at?
Yes, I know that was a cruel question, but again, a marriage (or any relationship) is about the 2 people involved. If there's something interfering, it's a flaw in the people, not in what's interfering.
And I can justify that by asking this: How did you get married in the first place? Was he always the hard-core gamer that didn't have time for you? If so, how did you meet? Why did you think it was a good idea to marry him? Was there chemistry and passion in the beginning and it died? Or was the relationship wrong from day 1?
In other words... If he wasn't attentive to you from the beginning, you shouldn't have married him. And if the gaming took over after you were married, you might try to figure out what died between the two of you that made the games more attractive to him than you were. | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/29/2008 3:17:46 PM | | Yes it as just as being addicted to anything other than your loved one/ones and attending to their needs first and above all before your own with in reason can be bad for you. | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/29/2008 3:58:04 PM | Lol, I have a PS3 that I play guitar hero 3 on when friends come over. Other than that is usually sits there. If I am bored and sitting around the house at night I'll throw in a game occasionally.
So I do play video games, but I also like to read, run, play basketball, lift weights, work on my car, go to school, work two jobs, watch movies, etc, etc. Video games are a fun way to pass free time, especially if you find a game that you can enjoy with other people.
On the other hand I've had and currently have a few friends who are way, way into video games. The worst was a former roommate who stopped working and lost everything so that he could play Final Fantasy Online...
John | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/29/2008 5:55:33 PM | Video games ruined my Marriage. I am not joking, he preferred video games to Sex many nights. I have since divorced and decided it is a lot better being lonely in my single life that being lonely in a miserable marriage !! I thought I would never get divorced !! I despise him for that !!
I'm going to third Chuck's observation and mention that, speaking as a divorced man who often used video games to escape from rotten episodes in his life... that if you man would prefer to pick up a controller to pressing your buttons, then barring any mental illnesses on his part you're just as guilty in the lack of a sex life as he is. I didn't stop desiring my wife until she started openly treating me with distain over the difficulties my career choices were bringing us... which resulted in a negative feedback loop, since once I stopped feeling affection for her it pissed her off, causing her to treat me worse, causing me to retreat more.
If you haven't already done so, you may want to examine the role you played in your marriage and ask yourself why your ex-husband preferred to play video games to spending time with you. It is possible that he was simply emotionally stunted and needed to grow up - but unless you have no clue how to pick decent men at all, the more likely answer is that something was bothering him that he couldn't talk to you about.
Either way, it's something to ponder - and fix - before you get back into dating,
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/29/2008 7:30:11 PM | I would like to date a guy who has video games and can teach me how to play. My nephew showed me a couple of his games a couple months back when I was visiting my sister's family, and I really liked them, but can't see myself investing the time or money to try to get into them on my own. If I was dating someone who already had a system and some good games he enjoyed, if he didn't mind playing with a novice that would be fun for me.
I wouldn't want to date someone who was playing the games like 15+ hours a week, but then I wouldn't want to date someone who watched TV 2-3 hours every night (and more on weekends), or was on message forums hours every day, or was habituated to any non-productive activity so much that it was like they had a part-time job that just didn't pay them anything. I've had to watch that tendency in myself too. I can get into reading a book a day if I let myself! That's not good either. Moderation in all things is healthy and variety is the spice of life, to frame it in cliches. | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/29/2008 10:24:32 PM | | I think I love everyone who posted on page 11 with an intelligent response. You guys have (somewhat) restored my faith in humanity! | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/29/2008 11:04:17 PM | I think it is a good test of character. If a woman is dead set against video games, then I got four words for her.
There is the door!
I mean, get real! If that is the worst thing you can say about someone, then its pretty superficial to make video games a deal breaker. Would a women rather have to deal with a drug addict or a person addicted to porn????? | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/30/2008 12:29:46 AM | SerenityBreeze: If ONLY I were in California!
MadelineLime: If ONLY I were in Pennsylvania!
I really think this topic has run its course (not to mention slipping a bit off-topic), so I may not post in here again unless something just HAS to be said! 
But I've got one thing to say before I go. To all you gamer girls out there....read very carefully what I'm about to say....
I'M SINGLE AND LOOKING! MESSAGE ME!!! | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/30/2008 3:31:27 AM | When i occasionally skimmed several post yesterday, i notice how a volumn kept giving ant matter silly thought to this topic, even to the point of claiming i do not use or like email. Which shows when persons try to reenforce nonsense most times they add untruths or draw up assumptions that are no existent.
One woman whom posted her ex husbands odsession was so great concerning these childish vid games that he ignored her sexually and morally to a point to where it caused a divorce by means of no legitimate ends Obsessions in people can indeed seperate them from the world. But i watched in humour as many posters in here actually turned it totally around and insulted this woman on page 10, by saying "She lost her husband because of sexual dysfunction on her part. Amazing, but it did not surprise me.
Volumns of groups of people doing and thinking the wrong and lesser way..do not make right any issue.
If i am on any date, and some man starts playing vid games like a child, when he turns around i will not be there..LOL. This topic tells me that people get to where they believe ridiculous activities and actions are okay based on how long people act stupid and if they act stupid longer this somehow means it's right.
If i give the specification on how to make bananna split cake, and people tell the wrong way to do it by spec for 200 times, this would never make it right. As Burt Reynolds said.....It depends on what part of the world one stands on as to just how stupid they are.
"Video Games done by adults are that of Stunted mental growth, and re doing what they did as children and dropping their stance of adulthood.
Read again below.
Wake up kids. Also call people whom you wish to converse intead of passing around notes.
Sigh...appears my post got buried by people who aren't awake.
Video Games and people who do Text...are simply dropping being adults and being stupid kids again. They are taking what they evolved into as beoming an adult and dropping the intelligence so they can be simple and stupid.
Once we grow up as adults, those of us whom evolved without being mentally stunted, we simply know what things to choose as far as activity is concerned. I am not a religious fanatic, but see scriptures in the Bible which enforce my thought pattern such as
"As adults thouest should drop things they did as children"
Those are wise knowledges many of us such as myself knew long beofre we were even aware those scriptures existed, because it is natural aquired wisdom for ones not mentally stunted.
When supposed adults play their little video games and act silly doing text messages..The rest of us such as myself walk around you and live in another world i doubt you can even know.
I have never answered a text, if someone cannot call me, don't bother. Speaking of Text as an example..My personal wisdom allows me to see this as how once upon a time children in 1st grade, would scribble notes and pass around a classroom. That is actually how stupid people are when they do these things.
Video games..pure childrens level!!! At least in most cases when children play little video games with space ships and rockets..luckily a parent steps in and says, okay kiddies put away your toys and do your homework. | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/30/2008 3:49:07 AM |
If that is the worst thing you can say about someone, then its pretty superficial to make video games a deal breaker. Would a women rather have to deal with a drug addict or a person addicted to porn????? Isn't it kind of stupid to be with someone who puts anything in front of you, unless it's a child?
If it's something they do for fun, fine. If they can't tear themselves away when something important needs to be done, it's entirely another. If you are not getting any exercise for the next month because you are glued to Guild Wars and find yourself waking up in a sea of half eaten Cheetos and empty cans of Mountain Dew... well then, it's an issue. This applies as well to sports, soap operas, or the Lifetime movie channel.
I don't care what the addiction is. When it's more important than the people you love or your own health, it's just not desirable. | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/30/2008 3:53:32 AM |
Isn't it kind of stupid to be with someone who puts anything in front of you, unless it's a child?
If it's something they do for fun, fine. If they can't tear themselves away when something important needs to be done, it's entirely another. If you are not getting any exercise for the next month because you are glued to Guild Wars and find yourself waking up in a sea of half eaten Cheetos and empty cans of Mountain Dew... well then, it's an issue. This applies as well to sports, soap operas, or the Lifetime movie channel.
I don't care what the addiction is. When it's more important than the people you love or your own health, it's just not desirable.
DITTO! | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/30/2008 4:24:17 AM | In response to IamKaren:
First it was hard to decipher what you quoted from what your opinion was but I muddled through it and now to address this issue on a level you might understand:
To Address Video Gaming:
1: Video games can teach us alot as far as eye to hand coordination,learning to adapt to new situations,overall adaptability over coming something newly presented and so forth. Did you know that most all modern military armys in the world are now trained via these video games you bash on as well as air line pilots,astronauts,police,firemen,architects,scientists,doctors and so many more due to the over all flexibility in all of the latest in computer software programing available.
2: Did you also know due to the advanced animation that came out of the video gaming market that now you can take a virtual tour of alot of places around the world via the internet that you might never get to yourself.
3: Did you know that thanks to the advanced animation that came out of the video game industry that now doctors can do pre virtual surgeries before they have to go into a patient to do the real thing now.
4: Did you know that thanks to the advanced video gaming industry that now weather climates can be predicted faster and with more accuracy than ever before and to forecast future weather patterns.
To Address Texting:
1: People who text are often too busy to have to use the phone or in situations they might not be able too.
2: Texting is a great way to send quick notes to friends or co workers about important things.
3: I bet texting has at least saved a few lives in the past.
And so much more for both of these things but it seems from your posts you can only see the negatives of these two valuable tools which is sad in the long run for you.
These two things are tools first yes and leisure tools second but if they are abused I can agree they can be bad but in their defense I will say more good than bad has come out of the use of these two items and that is fact.  | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/30/2008 5:17:29 AM | It suggested gamers should try reading a book.
That's funny, I've played a few games (RPGs) that have more text than any book I've ever read. I would be suggesting reading to everyone instead of just gamers, such wonderful worlds just waiting to be found in a book.
That suggestion is also funny because well, a lot of games that do involve reading are less linear than a book and usually force you to think about the consequence of your actions. Reading a book isn't some deeply filled thought process, as compared to many games out there today, that's what they rely on, you outhinking the game.
I'm probably super evil in that gals book though, I make games. | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/30/2008 6:31:50 AM | It's all about moderation for me.
Guy who plays video games 5 hours per week to unwind after work = Not a Problem
Guy who plays video games 10 hours per week to unwind after work = Yellow Alert
Guy who plays video games 15 hours per week to unwind after work = Red Alert
I play video games, watch anime, watch monty python and various other "geek" activities, but they're all in moderation. Of my interests, they take up perhaps 1/8 of what I do in a week (sans work and sleep). I can be with a guy that allows for 1/4, but not 1/2. I've dated guys like that, and they're boring. It's like they have tunnel-vision and can't see anything interesting outside of that sphere. I feel the same way about guys who are into sports or tv. If I were someone who tunnel-visioned my interests, then I'd probably be able to handle it, but I'm not. My interests change on a seasonal basis.
So, I don't mind if he plays video games once in awhile. Heck, I've yet to meet a person who can beat me at Halo 2 (Red vs. Blue is awesome). So long as he's well-rounded, it's not an issue. | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/30/2008 7:11:27 AM |
Video games..pure childrens level!!! At least in most cases when children play little video games with space ships and rockets..luckily a parent steps in and says, okay kiddies put away your toys and do your homework.
I agree that playing video games is something that reminds us of being children and dropping the adult. And to be honest that's a beautiful thing. It takes you back to a purer more simpler time without stress. Its said if you can't embrace the inner child.
And space ships and rockets? Have you seen video games these days?
Look at fracture-environment changing weapons and using terrain to your advantage
call of duty 4
AMERICAS ARMY-Developed by the army to give civilains an idea of what the Army undergoes
These games are not kiddie games! | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/30/2008 11:25:15 AM | In response to: Falling Ember
Well your scale put me out of the market then if all women would think of using that scale you use that is for sure. The game I "pay to play" online runs on two separate computer systems I have set up just for this game ( I run dual accounts due to it allows a better venue of play style) but in my own defense as well the game I play is set up architecturally so that you can either play live or play in away mode on a 24/7 basis so it gives me total freedom to go do whatever I want to 24/7 even while I sleep,go out on business or even like today going out to lunch with friends at a nice eatery.
See that is the difference in some gamers as is it is our hobby and as such we set up our gaming as a hobby not as our life or what our life centers around either.
There are countless gamers who use A.I. software to automate their gaming which is looked down upon by alot of "legit/hardcore" gamers but it allows them their time to go out with their gf's or w/e they choose to do plus enjoy their game and did you know alot of times their gf's or wives end up playing the same game/games as well and often times it turns into a family thing.
As one person posted "Everything in moderation" and that is the key in gaming,marriages or anything else for that matter. | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/30/2008 11:39:27 AM |
IamKaren's wall of text
Y'know for someone who insists that everyone who plays games and texts are stupid or silly, you sure have a damn hard time forming a coherent sentence or even spelling for that matter. y | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/30/2008 11:49:47 AM | | As long as the guy doesn't mind my geeky liking of LARP and PC Roleplaying games I don't see a problem with his video games AS LONG AS HE SHARES! | |
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