| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 4/24/2008 2:25:10 PM | Wow, but it's interesting that even though it is a redundant thread, there is actually a lot of hatred STILL OUT THERE!!
I'm a moderate gamer. Obviously it has a potential to be addictive and destructive behavior, but I find that a simple kitchen timer solves that problem. Or for myself, I have other things to get done.
I personally, don't watch television. If millions of people can watch American Idol, I can play runescape. We all get play time.
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 4/24/2008 5:24:10 PM | Amen, Silentman.
The fact is Sardonis, a prospective woman is going to find out your hobbies one way or another. How is hiding them from her going to help your chances? If gaming is a dealbreaker for some, I GUARANTEE dishonesty is the dealbreaker for most, if not all.... | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 4/24/2008 5:27:37 PM | i cant stand consoles (despite owning an XBOX360 - which only sits there as a DVD player....)
But this is simply because when i was in labour with my daughter my ex was blowing a heap of money on a nintendo DS and a load of computer games for his other consoles.....apparently he figured he was going to get bored what with a new baby and all.......
So personally a real gaming geek would be a no go. | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 4/24/2008 5:41:43 PM | So Essex, can I say this then? A Gamer - that is, an individual who lives, eats and works for games, owns several consoles, or lives on the pc for days on end playing the online rpg unto death is a no-go. On the other hand, a gamer, that is someone who games maybe a couple hours a day, reads a book, enjoys some good music, maybe the theatre, going out with the crew for beers, and takes time out when his with a woman to maybe make her dinner, or cuddle up with her to watch movies, or rube her neck after a long day could be a possible mate? Is that a possible?
And obviously, he cannot be off buying games while you're delivering. What kind of @$$-hat does that? | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 4/24/2008 7:37:32 PM | It can get extreme. I had an online friend. ( actually met him through an online game) For some reason he was playing the game a lot more then me even tho he was a single working father. He was frequently calling in sick, at least twice a month. He went through 6 jobs in 4 months, each time claiming the company went out of business. He ended up getting evicted, leaving all his furniture in the apartment, this is after people had helped him out financially. All the time still playing his game.
I can play runescape Ummmm I just noticed this runescape is the game I was talking about, Ive been playing it for 4 years way south. | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 4/24/2008 9:17:54 PM | Thank you Silentman, for speaking out for all of the gamers on these forums.
It frustrates me that in 2008 we still have women that think that a gamer is just the virgin living in his parents basement with no education and more Star Wars figurines than friends. We gamers are a diverse and colorful group. We have jobs, lives, families, friends, and other hobbies. Sure there are those that don't do anything else but marathon sessions of WOW or Halo, but that group has diminished.
I personally love video games. I've played them ever since I was little. It was the family activity a lot of times when I was little. Get everyone in the same room participating in a fun interactive activity that most of the time was very very family friendly. Can the same be said for television these days?
Ladies, please don't write off every guy that says he enjoys video games, in my opinion you would be doing a lot of great guys, not to mention yourselves, a great disservice. | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 4/25/2008 12:20:44 AM | If you belong to group or carry a label and you get bent out of shape by the perception of outsiders, then you've only got a few options.
Change your label or group affiliation (note the label difference between trailers, mobile homes and modulars...).
Work to change public perception by showing the truth and exposing derogatory myths.
Work to police your own who are the very stereotype who get all the negative attention and blacken your reputation by association.
Accept that you are a card carrying member of a club that has caused legitimate negative perceptions, and laugh it off.
Be an individual, a leader instead of a follower.
Wah wah boo hoo every chance you get and point fingers at all of those who see what they see and call them evil for having open eyes while crying victim for yourself.
I'm sure there are other options, the point is that there is truth in every steretype, and we all label and associate and we either carry our memberships with authentic pride or we try to stand tall by knocking others down. | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 4/25/2008 1:08:55 AM | | Yeah what's up with most women not liking video games? I only have one female friend that will enjoy sitting down to a video game every now and then. It's cheap fun for those rainy days and just as "real" as anything on t.v. or watching a movie. So what gives? | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 4/25/2008 1:59:11 AM | | I don't care if the person I am dating is into video games. Hell, I'll even play them too once in a while(even though I suck at them). It's all about moderation. When you start getting obsessive, that's no bueno, whether it be video games, or anything else. Besides, if you truly despise them-it gives you free time to pursue some of your own hobbies, so what's not to like about that? Just because you're dating someone, doesn't mean you have to have every single thing in common, or spend every waking moment with them. | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 4/25/2008 2:44:06 AM | Im not sure why some people are so defensive. Ok so most of the women have said they dont like it .
Some dont like it if a man smokes, drinks too much, is a gamer, is short, fat, works at a fishery LOL, is married and so on but some will be ok with these traits also.
Personally I couldnt possibly find the time in the day to sit down and play a game. I dont meet people that have that sort of time either , where do you even buy them - toy stores? I dont know.
In the past I have known a few friend couples that did and it caused alot of problems.
I doubt I would be keen on someone if they said they are a gamer, perhaps ignorant of me but thats my privledge. | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 4/25/2008 5:19:23 AM | A real gamer is a 100% no go for me, and thats for the reasons ive already stated bad experience of a hardcore gamer ....
A couple of hours here and there, fine, everyone has hobbies. But real obsessives. No. | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 4/25/2008 7:33:48 AM | I find it funny some of the replies by the women. I play video games periodically, it used to be an almost obsession when I first discovered the Massive Multi player Online games. Now it consists of playing a few console games maybe a few hours after I get off work and get home once or twice a week. Saying that video games make people stupid that it dumbs people down is just ignorant. Yes there are some games that are just kill, kill, kill, but they still have puzzles that make you think. Shoot video games help train the military, and Department of Justice personnel, that means FBI, CIA, DEA, they help NASA, and Airline pilots. Video games are just simulations, some are just changed to make them more interesting and are expanded to alternate Virtual Realities. It should only matter if they are an obsessive video gamer.
Lets do an exercise. What do you think of when you think video gamer? "Nerd" What do you think of when you think nerd? Computers, video games, books. What do you think of when you think books? Knowledge. Knowledge = smart. Smart = money. If the person in question isn't obsessive then they have the potential to make some good money. I would classify my self as that type of nerd. I'm pretty ****ing smart and I make good money and live a good life, and guess what.... I play video games.
Anyways I have other hobbies that I would have to say take more money for me to sustain. I love paintball, it takes more of my money than games, its not cheap. Plus I can and do get hurt playing. I love to ride motorcycles, that takes a good bit of money for gear upkeep and motorcycle maintenance, and its alot more dangerous, especially driving in the DC metro area. These people here are crazy drivers. | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 4/25/2008 8:38:56 AM | | I think, for the most part, it all comes down to women looking for grown up guys who have grown up hobbies/interests. And playing video games is way down on the list of grown up hobbies/interest for a lot of women. | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 4/25/2008 8:39:48 AM | @Essex_Blonde: Define real gamer. I'm not a professional gamer by any means but I do attempt to attend training, scrims and ladder matches for the clan I am part of as often as possible (I play Battlefield 2 for anyone wondering). I'm not a casual gamer either since I invest time in improving my skills for the benifit of my clan, not just myself. I don't play often due to my crazy work hours but when I do it's not just for the hell of it, whenever I join a server it's to improve my skills and at the very least keep them sharp.
Is my situation, to you, a real gamer? | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 4/25/2008 9:00:03 AM | -BOOooOm Head shot!
-MEDIIIIIIIICCCCCC
You're all dorks...tsk tsk tsk
Women prefer a manly man, who drinks a six pack every weekend while watching sports. A man who goes out and drinks with his friends and hits on other women. Not a nerd who sits there and play video games....
I once chose ultima online over my gf, that was yeaarrs ago. Not because I loved the game though, because she was friggin boring.
I had more fun improving my carpenter skills , then actually spending time with her.
So if a man is ignoring you, maybe, just maybe....you're way too boring for him...eh?
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 4/25/2008 10:08:16 AM | There has always been a "nerd factor" with video games. Years ago, it was a spotty teenager's thing. Nowaday;s video games have evolved into the equivalent of movies involving complex puzzle solving, twisting & interesting storylines, brain power, hand to eye co-ordinationhigh quality production values & adult themes. It's not all mindless violence as some people would believe (although it is there in the more childish games that i'm not into). Hey, I enjoy video games, but I certainly wouldn't call it a hobby - it's the same as watching a DVD or a movie to me. I can take it or leave it.
There's nothing wrong with having a blast the PS3 here or there. But there is something wrong with playing 8 hrs or more a night on it non stop.... that is what happens with some people. They do get obsessive over it. The key is knowing when to switch the thing off.
As they say it's like a second childhood. I say, the first one never ended. The toys just got bigger and more expensive...
Years I remember my ex saying she hated computer games... until I caught her playing Doom. hahaha. I couldn't get her off the damn thing... | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 4/25/2008 12:47:50 PM | It an ask a girl, but I guess I can post my own comments.
Pushed to an extreme, anything can be bad for a relationship, when you realise you only do your dishes every 3 days, that half the time your order out, that your floor has an inch thick of dust, yes it's a dam problem. (Been there, seen it, learned from it)
But when a gamer works his 8hr a day, gets home, cook, do his dishes, get his 50 daily push-up done, sweep weekly. I don't see what the problem with him spending the 2-3 hr left of his day before sleep in playing games if he's to spend the night alone bored. (Yeah that's me xD)
Problem is ppl sterotype, judge and put everyone in the same basket and that's the kind of ppl I would definitly refuse to hang with.
Anyways, just my 2 cents | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 4/25/2008 1:30:40 PM | Women prefer a manly man, who drinks a six pack every weekend while watching sports. A man who goes out and drinks with his friends and hits on other women. Not a nerd who sits there and play video games....
<---raises hand*
....And... um,
NO.
That formerly evolutionarily necessary brutish brand of "manly" is now going obsolete.
"Nerd" and "Geek," on the other hand, have been reclaimed as positive terms and no longer
considered an insult in many of the circles which match that description to others...
Their intelligence and particular skill-sets are now recognized, appreciated, and compensated.
Whereas the men who have ALWAYS been of the "Belching-Womanizing-Sports Freak" flavor
would never have the where-with-all to recognize their description to be an insult.
Give me even a HARDCORE geek over a weekend pig any day!  | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 4/25/2008 4:32:35 PM | rickau
im afraid you lost me when you started babbling on about "clans".
Yes id say you were an obsessive gamer.
I have no issue with people spending an hour or two out their day doing whatever floats their boat - as ive said everyone has hobbies and everyone needs to unwind.
I just dont get people who spend every waking minute living, breathing, talking games. I tried for 3 years but omg it's hard work 
"wanna go out tonight?"
"uh?"
"want to go out and have a few beers and get drunk and come back for some sex?"
"uh?"
"want to come out with me and my best friend and get drunk and the 3 of us come back here for some sex?"
"uh? yeah yeah whatever i'll have chips with that" | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 4/25/2008 4:50:31 PM |
You see the slippery slope your logic takes you down? Frankly, your assumptions point to significant character flaws in yourself if you're going to let something like the presence of video games in a childless, single man's life be a "deal breaker" for you. You think video games drop someone's IQ? This tells me you've never played them. Check out some RPG titles that engage in heavy story; there was a game that came out back in 2000 called "Deus Ex", that built upon conspiracies involving the Illuminati, FEMA, and even the Hong Kong Triads. It had a very engaging story coupled with "first person shooter" -style action. You think this game would lower your IQ?
they might be good for the IQ but those types of games still require the player to sit in front of a TV/computer screen for hours on end while the real world is put on hold.
like all things in life it's about MODERATION. if you can sit and play for 30min and then turn it off, cool. but if you have to sit there until your finished your quest or until you get the the next level... that's when i start to have a problem with video games. my best friend is married to a guy that comes home from work, sits in front of the computer, goes to bed and then repeats. when a person starts to forget about the real world and the woman they've married... that's when i have a problem with video games. | |
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