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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/7/2008 5:42:09 PM | | The word "obsessed" gets thrown around a lot, but we get no definitions. How do you define "obsessed"? Is it that he spends more available time on the hobby than he spends with you? Or is it that he spends more time than you personally think he should on the hobby? Those answers can be wildly far apart. The first is probably a unilateral obsession; the second? Well, if one person thinks the other is spending more time on something than they "ought to", how does the one making that accusation get the right to determine what is and isn't "appropriate" for how much time someone spends on something they enjoy? | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/10/2008 9:15:27 AM | As a gamer, I feel compelled to throw my 2 cents in here!
First off, a quote from the movie "Prime" where the leading woman is talking to one of her girlfriends about the leading man, whom she's dating, and what to get him as a present:
"He wants this 'Nintendo' thing. Do you think I should get it for him?"
"Not if you like sex"
She ends up buying him the game and a scene later shows her asking him to come to bed and he says no, wanting to keep playing his game.
The two major flaws that people associate with video games are a lack of interest in reality and social ineptitude. In other words, we either don't want to or don't know how to deal with reality and real people, so we spend all our time in the video games.
Now, there's no disputing that this a real issue and there ARE a LOT of gamers out there that are exactly those type of people. Not all of us are, though.
However, what I want to know of the ladies... How many Friends fans are there that watch it religiously? How many American Idol fans or other reality TV? How many movie buffs who have to see every movie that comes out? How many readers who go through 5 books a day?
Video games (in many cases) are just another form of story-telling. Another form of entertainment. The better ones require quite a bit of brain power to understand and master and their stories can be just as, if not much deeper, than many movies or books.
There is one major difference between movies/books and video games. A video game is interactive! You're not sitting there letting the story be pumped into your head by the actors or the printed words. If you don't play your characters' parts, then the story comes to a screeching halt!
So I want to say that anyone who "wastes" time watching movies, TV, or reading books should pick up a controller and see what they've been missing out on!
And the right video games can be VERY social, especially with the advent of the Wii, which the majority games are geared towards multiple players and kind of suck playing solo!
So...I've compared apples to oranges for you all!
My final question is for those who think gaming is for social rejects who will neglect you if you give them a chance...
What hobbies do you have that wouldn't fit into someone else's life?
Someone mentioned shopping in an earlier post as a hobby...To most guys, walking into a store without a list of exactly what he needs is a pointless and time-wasting endeavor. But you ladies can go to a store, spend HOURS and not buy a single thing! How productive is that? Think about it! (and yes, I know I'm generalizing, but it's a valid point!)
For the record, I own a ps2, an xbox, a Wii, and a lap top..in addition to my desk top computer. I play video games on a very moderate level unless I find one that really grabs my attention. But a video game NEVER takes priority over reality, ESPECIALLY if there's a lovely lady involved! ^_^
So, any of you ladies wanna come over and play with my Wii? XD
Poet | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/10/2008 10:32:54 AM | Whether it's video games, TV, going out and partying, sports, the internet, what have you, it all comes down to moderation. Yeah I play video games from time to time but I also read, watch independent films, go to art gallery openings, and otherwise try and culture myself. I could never see myself preferring to play a video game over spending quality time with a girlfriend or wife or kids if I had them. Unfortunately that is not the case for many gamers, especially if they play MMOs which is kinda like living a second life or having a second job.
So I definitely can see how women would have a negative view of male gamers (note that there are plenty of female gamers in the world too). Just like previous generations of women got sick of their boyfriends or husbands watching sports on TV all the time. Mind you the demographic for gamers has changed and it's quite common to find a gaming console of some type in people's homes in the more financially well to do countries of the world. So if someone admits to playing video games it doesn't necessarily means they are addicted to World of Warcraft, but it might be worth inquiring to a potential mate just how much of a gamer they are.
Now you wanna hear something really weird? In the video game The Darkness you can go over to your girlfriends place, snuggle up with her on the sofa, and spend the next two hours watching an old Frank Sinatra movie on TV. | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/10/2008 1:32:27 PM | | I play a lot of video games lately but that is mainly because I am single and have time on my hand. If I had a girlfriend I would certainly be more into her. | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/10/2008 7:50:20 PM |
Now you wanna hear something really weird? In the video game The Darkness you can go over to your girlfriends place, snuggle up with her on the sofa, and spend the next two hours watching an old Frank Sinatra movie on TV.
LOL, I don't think that's gonna help our case any! But I must say that dating sims are a lot of fun! :P If you screw up, just try again..and you can slowly figure out what the girl wants! Too bad girls in reality aren't so forgiving, huh? 
Now...*goes to find a copy of The Darkness, as I've never heard of it before* | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/10/2008 10:27:44 PM | | Anything- be it cars, sports, gambling, or video games, that will distract a man from his shared free time, and occasionally his obligations such as work, will always be on the chopping block. | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/10/2008 10:44:02 PM | Saw a movie of a wedding couple who got a custom video game made for them as a gift.
Apparently they both love video games and love playing games with each other.
Some people like how video games can be more socially interactive than movies/radio/television/reading.
And two people can meet that like that level of interaction added to their relationship.
I've actually met 2 people in the entertainment industry who secretly like video games. They unfortunately think their interest is nerdy. It's taboo to them. | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/10/2008 11:59:48 PM | | Until now, I was unaware of the general dislike of video games by women. Most of my friends are women, and most of them are avid gamers. I actually had a girlfriend a while back who would spend more time playing World of Warcraft than anything else. It got on my nerves, and do play a good bit of games. Don't even get me started about the damn Karaoke games out for PS2. None of them can sing, but oh how they love to try... | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/11/2008 3:48:10 AM | I do game, and the idea that it drops my IQ is quite, well ... I play some world of warcraft.
some of the calcualtions you have to do to work out if one item is better for you than another is quite nuts tbh. And has to be carefully worked out and balanced inline with a myriad of other details.
Then theres the story behind it which has been growing for quite some time now. You can even explore the world of warcraft and see the areas and know why someplaces look as they do or have a lot of certain things there, or even find mini-books to read ingame about the history of the game.
Then theres strategies that have to be developed or learned - some things in game dont conform to the best case senario for dealing with things - so between you and your group you do your best to work out what u can do to over come the challenges.
There I have only gisted the game. The problem with it is it can be very indepth, and some people let themselves get far to sucked in to it.
For those that do - tell them theres an all new mmorpg out (massively multiplayer online role playing game) call IRL (in real life), that the graphics are completely life like, all objects are fully interactable and there are billions of other 'players' to interact with ..... one of which is you lmao. | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/11/2008 9:22:15 AM | LOL, great, as if reality tv wasn't bad enough, now we have reality gaming!
Today on IRL, the nerdies plot to take over the internet while the hotties strut their stuff and get drunk at the bar.
What will poor Poet do, stick with the nerdies...or continue his endless quest to convince the hotties that he's their type?
To help Poet achieve his goal and win today's IRL, you must copy his profile link and send it to all the single girls you know!
*Please refer to your POF strategy guide for detailed insight on how to score with Poet! | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/26/2008 11:41:14 AM | @silentman73: Well said, well said.
IMO, women like 1preciousrose are precisely why a lot of guys who are gamers have difficulty with women. Because they stereotype and are prejudiced with no real basis. By your reactions to gaming, I'm guessing the most in-depth game you've ever played is Solitaire or Sesame Street ABC/123. Games like Final Fantasy 4, the Legend of Zelda series, and many others can compete with any great novel in terms of storytelling, emotions, humor, sympathy, triumph, adventure, and much more. Games are essentially interactive books. You have a direct impact on how the tale unfolds. With books you get the tale, but usually how you would want it to go doesn't matter or come into the equation because the author has already written it out for you.
I will game til the day games no longer exist or I die, whichever comes first. Would I put it over my girlfriend/wife? No. If she won't accept my hobby, then she isn't right for me. I would never judge her hobbies/interests, so why should she judge mine? I have a life outside of gaming. I went to college & graduated, have a full-time job and run my own business on the side. There are days where I don't even play games. I think women who feel that way about gaming are assuming that anyone who plays games is addicted to them and would ignore them completely. Addictions are not healthy regardless of their form. | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/26/2008 1:16:48 PM | As a gamer myself, I don't like dating hardcore gamer guys because I don't put world of warcraft/halo/whatever in front of life... either should you...
But, a tip for all you ladies out... if you can beat them... join them and kick their ass at halo.  | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/26/2008 1:21:23 PM | | Yeah I agree with you there. I'd never put it ahead of them, unless they're the ultra-clingy must spend every second of every day with me type. I like lots of together time too, but that's a little too much. Go do stuff with your girlfriends or something. Each person should have their own lives and own interests, mine just so happens to be gaming. | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/26/2008 1:37:35 PM | Yeah definitely about moderation. Most guys (and shock of your life, a lot of girls) play games nowadays, that's pretty hard to dispute. It's just what we grew up with. What matters is how much time is spent on it and whether or not it's interfering with your life. Like I'm really good at Guitar Hero and I know a couple people who think I just sit in the basement playing it day in and day out when in reality, I get to play once or twice a week tops because of other stuff I have to take care of (work, school, friends, etc.)
There's definitely a difference between a hobby and an obsession, and to be honest, anyone who would view it as a black and white issue and see games as a deal breaker no matter what is more than likely very closed minded and oblivious to the world outside of their own little bubble and probably not really worth ANYONE's time, regardless of whether you play games or not. Even if I didn't play, I couldn't deal with someone so stubborn and myopic. | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/26/2008 3:37:36 PM | I'm a casual gamer myself (don't have a lot of time to play 'em nowadays usually). I'd agree with the moderation bit for sure. Most things are fine in moderation. It's the people who don't practice moderation that give us a bad name (just like people who party and drink too much give people who party and drink at all a bad name). Some girls think that us playing video games means we're hard-core geeks, which we're not (I admit to having nerdy/geeky tendencies, but it isn't my life in any way whatsoever).
Luckily I think that the prejudice against video games is on the wane as they become a mainstream thing more and more, there are quite a few girls who play video games now too. If a girl didn't like me playing video games, I wouldn't consider her. However, I would never choose video games over a girl. I have priorities, video games can wait another day. | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/26/2008 8:49:24 PM | | I like video games, it is when you have to play every moment of every day when we begin to not appreciate them. But the only person I know like that is my sister. | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/26/2008 10:17:45 PM | I think of something mindless and that drops someone's IQ, so it's a no go.
It is not mindless it takes strategy and hand eye cordination. If it is so mindless why does the Army use video games to train soilders? | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/27/2008 10:12:39 AM |
X-Box is not a date, sorry OP ~ not something I'm the least bit interested in. But that's just me!
THAT is exactly the point of this forum. What the OP is saying is that JUST BECAUSE a guy plays video games DOES NOT mean that it will be the core of the relationship. Of the girls I've dated, only 1 of them has been a gamer. She and I played a lot of video games together and had a blast. However, the rest of the girls I've dated were not so much into video games, so whenever I was with them, there was movies and dinners and a plethora of things to do together that were not video games!
The idea behind the post is that being a gamer does not mean being obsessed and playing 24/7. And any guy that IS worth a girl's time (and vice versa) will have the priorities to hold their companion in higher priority than the video games.
So, to verygreeneyez, if you would pass up a guy on the sole basis that he owned an xbox, then you could pass up on something very good! | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/27/2008 10:31:58 AM | | well i am a gamer I not only do video games but i go to LARPs, Table top RPGS, i have gone to a few boffing games and i love rennasance fairs. so for me personaly I love gamers so long as the game does not rule their lives. | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/27/2008 8:19:30 PM | Okay, I was following until you said "boffing". No idea what that is..but I've been involved with all the other past times you mentioned! :P
And I'm starting to see a pattern....the truckin', sportsin', campin', rough neck girls...are here in Texas. The fun, playful, gamer girls are all up north! Guess it's time to consider moving. :P | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/28/2008 12:40:29 AM | I am a gamer, but I spend more time at work or life (fishing, walking, my dog) than in front of a computer screen and will always take a day out in the sun or playing a board game with friends over a TV or PC screen any day. But when I play my games, I am very avid about it and no its not these dumb, mind numbing games that most people equate video games with, these are actually intellectually stimulating, combat simulators that EVEN THE US MILITARY NOW IS USING TO TRAIN THEIR OFFICERS ON HOW TO COMMAND TROOPS IN COMBAT!
I agree with many people on here, a 1st person shooter aside from Halo isnt all that fun and kinda pointless....
But it seems women here have made a moot point and are beating a dead horse saying that men who take games over them have a problem, with respect but tell us gamers something we didnt know? It sounds like from what I am reading women just dont find it attractive period and even if they didnt mind, it seems they have an very low tolerance for it if at all.
If you are dating a avid gamer or a gamer at all, you should lay down some boundaries for gaming. | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/28/2008 4:53:37 AM | I dont hate them, and will play with my son sometimes...
But when looking for a mate, I tend to gravitate to men who dont remind me of my son...therefor, not into gamers. | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/28/2008 5:52:10 AM | Video Games and people who do Text...are simply dropping being adults and being stupid kids again. They are taking what they evolved into as beoming an adult and dropping the intelligence so they can be simple and stupid.
Once we grow up as adults, those of us whom evolved without being mentally stunted, we simply know what things to choose as far as activity is concerned. I am not a religious fanatic, but see scriptures in the Bible which enforce my thought pattern such as
"As adults thouest should drop things they did as children"
Those are wise knowledges many of us such as myself knew long beofre we were even aware those scriptures existed, because it is natural aquired wisdom for ones not mentally stunted.
When supposed adults play their little video games and act silly doing text messages..The rest of us such as myself walk around you and live in another world i doubt you can even know.
I have never answered a text, if someone cannot call me, don't bother. Speaking of Text as an example..My personal wisdom allows me to see this as how once upon a time children in 1st grade, would scribble notes and pass around a classroom. That is actually how stupid people are when they do these things.
Video games..pure childrens level!!! At least in most cases when children play little video games with space ships and rockets..luckily a parent steps in and says, okay kiddies put away your toys and do your homework. | |
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| What's with the hatred of video games?
Posted: 6/28/2008 12:19:57 PM | Wow, IamKaren, reading over your profile...isn't joining a dating site a total waste of time and completely inefficient? Surely someone of your caliber could find a better means of locating a suitable mate to further your goals...
Your only hobby is listed as skydiving and your profile is written as if it were a technical analysis. Clearly someone as highly advanced and who takes things so seriously wouldn't understand this topic. 
All jokes aside, I would LOVE to have the chapter reference you took the bible quote from! I don't remember the word "thouest" being in there anywhere. 
There ARE references to putting away childish things, but I don't recall your "quote" being one of them. 
“When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things.” (I Cor. 13:11)
or in plain English
1 Corinthians 13:11 (New International Version)
11When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.
I must admit, though, that I agree 100% on the texting. I have a phone to talk, not chat! So if any of you ladies want my cell#, just ask! But don't you dare send me a text! ^_^ | |
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