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| Dinner then a HOTEL? Does this happen a lot?
Posted: 6/8/2008 10:14:23 PM |
if its SEX they want, why dont they just go pay for it...
they did....
they bought you dinner and
listened your boring life story, acted like they're interested...
what else you want?
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| Dinner then a HOTEL? Does this happen a lot?
Posted: 6/9/2008 9:37:18 AM | | Interesting. All my years of internet dating and this has never happened to me. The closest that I got to this was some weirdo talking about porn all night. That's about it. | |
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| Dinner then a HOTEL? Does this happen a lot?
Posted: 6/9/2008 10:47:51 AM | | Yes, this has happened to me, but it was a coffee date and sex! It was quite weird, because I did not expect it. It was we had a great time with coffee let's have sex! I was flattered and insulted at the same time. | |
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| Dinner then a HOTEL? Does this happen a lot?
Posted: 6/9/2008 12:14:48 PM | If you dont like this then dont accept dinner on a first date !
A meal for sex sounds like a good swap to me...........
Perhaps you will think twice about taking a mans money on dinner next time !!!! | |
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| Dinner then a HOTEL? Does this happen a lot?
Posted: 6/9/2008 12:36:51 PM | If you dont like this then dont accept dinner on a first date !
A meal for sex sounds like a good swap to me...........
Perhaps you will think twice about taking a mans money on dinner next time !!!!
I guess this happened to you a lot. Women see you only for dinner, then you expect sex. I would stop blaming the women because my guess is the problem is your arrogance and lack of manner.
Oh and I doubt you get laid either. You are not exactly easy to look at. | |
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| Dinner then a HOTEL? Does this happen a lot?
Posted: 6/9/2008 12:56:26 PM | Yes it's happened to me too, only I usually don't even get to the date before the Red Flags because now I hold out for a Meeting of The Minds first via E-mail or Phone, which usually turns to a request for X-rated phone or E and that's where I exit.
See Ya wouldn't want to meet ya!
I was a Go Go Dancer in the late 60's early 70' s and have been single off and on longer than married so this is not my first Hay Ride however I am new to the Cyber Dating.
It's my conclusion that it's no different than the Meat Market Clubs You just don't get a chance to SEE the Jerks before you decide to dance with them.
Sadly a lot (not all) but a lot of the males and females on these sites are misfits, shutins or worse , predetors' .....who can't funtion in normal social scenes so those of us who are capable of that, assume they are like us , looking for a new avenue to meet people.
Conclusion..............New Game New Rules and requires New Tools.
Good Luck My Sister's
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Posted: 6/9/2008 2:32:50 PM | | Yo! Where did your buddy with the hilarious thread go? Did He get deleted as well??? I gotta know man! That guy was a trip! | |
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| Dinner then a HOTEL? Does this happen a lot?
Posted: 6/9/2008 4:57:43 PM |
All men cant be crazy and this off the wall, can they?
No. Not all men have that kind of money to spend on trying but most men will try especially if they think they can get it. Not only is it disrespectful it's a waste of your time.
This has happened to me on so many dates that I've gotten to the point where I mention it before we meet. I always ask that they not waste my time or theirs if all they are looking for is casual sex.
Funny...now that I think about it...I haven't had many dates lately.
It just really p*sses me off when I take the time to get ready and meet someone who just wants to get laid. I don't care if he buys me dinner in the most expensive place around and buys me two dozen roses...I have better things to do.......
"Keep your drink just give me the money...it's just you and your hand tonight."
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| Dinner then a HOTEL? Does this happen a lot?
Posted: 6/10/2008 12:13:18 PM | Men are Exercise
They should come with Warning Lables...............Like a Pool Floater
WARNING: Cannot support more than their own weight, should not be used for life support. | |
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| Dinner then a HOTEL? Does this happen a lot?
Posted: 6/10/2008 12:26:54 PM |
But I guess after experiencing it twice, I just became curious to what I was doing that made either one of these men to think "I WANTED SEX" with them!
So, it goes back to no communication. Did you bother to ask them WHY they thought you would do this? You would have your answer in about 60 seconds if you would just COMMUNICATE.
I don't know why people insist on guessing and trying to read each others minds. | |
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| Dinner then a HOTEL? Does this happen a lot?
Posted: 6/10/2008 1:37:28 PM | It has certainly happened to me, though, I am so relieved to say, not recently. In fact, only once did we get as far as dinner! One woman, an attorney and marathon runner, insisted on picking me up and "surprising" me. Well! She was hardly in my door before she tripped me, peeled me, and had her enthusiastic way with me. I was still lying on the floor in a pool of my own tears when she, at the open door, turned back, wiped her mouth on her cuff, and said, "Call me." Why would a beautiful and talented woman do that?
Another, a horrid creature who lived in the apartment below me, asked me to help her move some furniture. I had no interest in this person, but I wanted to be a good neighbor. Little did I know! She got out two glass . . . tankards, huge drinking mugs, dropped a few cubes of ice into them, and filled them to the brim with vodka. When she handed me one, I declined, with thanks, because of the hour. (It was about 10:00 am. On a Sunday!)
She shrugged that off and took long pulls at her mug while she directed my furniture moving. A bracket came loose under a heavy table, and I got under it to see what I could do. In the next moment, she was straddling my thighs, her wide, heavy bulk pressing my knees backwards. Her cheap sundress, I realized with a nauseated wince, was all she was wearing.
"Do you mind? That's not comfortable," I said, hoping to put stop to this, whatever it was.
She sneered down at me and said, "I could fvck you right now and there's not a goddam thing you can do about it!"
"Sure there is," I said, "but I don't want to hurt you. Please don't make me." She didn't answer but, her piggy little eyes on mine, she started pulling at my belt. I hooked her first two fingers in an Eagle Talon and twisted her off of me pretty easily. (That kung fu shit is the shnizzle!) She hit the floor like a sack of prison potatoes and made to climb back on. I was already up, though, and headed for the door.
"What about my furniture?" she hollered after me. A few weeks later, she told me she had a daughter (!) who was screwing up her chances to get into Harvard by having a boyfriend. The daughter was with her father in the East, but coming to stay for the summer. This mom o' the year said to me (It was after noon, so I'm sure she was shnockered, though I couldn't tell.) "She's just curious about sex, and she's ruining her life. When she gets here, will you do me a favor and fvck her? She's got to get it out of her system somehow."
No, I didn't, though I did let the kid hide in my place from time to time. She took my advice and enrolled someplace far from Mom's support systems, so that she'd be free of her constant presence. I've no idea how that turned out.
BTW, Mom was trying to break into the fiction game. Before she assaulted me, she had shown me the author's guide she had received from Harlequin Romances. She said it was easy and fun, but she had trouble with the love scenes and wanted my help. I declined, innocent of her designs on my fragile person.
Oh! Then there was the time way back in scout camp! There was a church camp across the lake, and legends of girls canoing across to get some uniformed meat, but I was geeky clueless then, and it only made me nervous to hear about it. (Well. Nervous and compulsively masturbatory.)
Anyway, they did, and somehow I was at the shore, watching them come across. We were breaking rules being out of our tents so late, and that had me in a panic. (I was so obedient then.) They landed and scattered with the other guys into the woods. I thought I was alone for a moment, but then there was a girl. She looked nice, not so scary as I had imagined, even a little shy. Boy was I wrong! After some awkward greeting and talk about camp and the other kids and all, she took a breath and whispered, "Take off your clothes, OK?" Well, then I was panicked!
"Why?" I said. I think I meant to say 'no.' I wonder why it didn't come out?
She said, "OK, if I take something off, will you?" That didn't seem fair to me, one article of clothing in exchange for my pink boyhood. But she made herself clear; she meant a fair exchange. So we peeled, slowly, under a halfmoon and the streetlight by the pier. I remember I was sneaking peeks as if I wasn't supposed to look, until I realized she felt no such restraint. We got all the way down to our tennies and briefs, and mine were about to rip out the front. She hooked her thumbs into her waistband, and I mine into mine. We pulled together, slowly, straining for first peek, when she suddenly squealed, grabbed up her clothes, and ran into the woods.
I thought some terrible prank had been played on me, until I heard a twig snap behind me. It was one of our counselors, come to check a report of canoes on the lake. He took pity on me, thank dawg, and told me to get back to my tent.
There were others, but yeah, these things happen. I'm with you, Sistah!
Cheers!
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| Dinner then a HOTEL? Does this happen a lot?
Posted: 6/10/2008 2:18:22 PM | Oh Vulf! You poor abused soul... it ain't easy being a man, I can see that!
... now why don't you come over and help me hook up my stereo... 11am? Bloody Mary's and cheap sundress are free... | |
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| Dinner then a HOTEL? Does this happen a lot?
Posted: 6/10/2008 2:35:21 PM | Dammit Janet! Have to twist the knife in a painful memory, don't you? I tell you what: I'll skip the kung fu if you'll skip the sundress. Then maybe I can bear it.
And I like my Marys spicy!
C!
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| Dinner then a HOTEL? Does this happen a lot?
Posted: 6/10/2008 3:17:45 PM | | well it wouldnt happen to me because id never get in to a car on with someone i dont know to me thats really taking a chance id meet somewhere in a public place and make my own way to and from. | |
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| Dinner then a HOTEL? Does this happen a lot?
Posted: 6/10/2008 3:26:17 PM | hi; try not taking advantage ! try instead asking to meet for a drink casual , if you dress the part ,,, you will be treated as such ,
all the independent woman ? why are you allowing this ? talk to the other woman tell them this is not 1950 any more , split the check or do not do it , thats easy enough , but most feel they deserve a free meal , to be treated like ----- a what ?? | |
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| Dinner then a HOTEL? Does this happen a lot?
Posted: 6/10/2008 3:38:48 PM | Note to self;
If I ever date theblueeyes, wear birkah and veil OVER plate armor. Borrow friend's car so he can't trace me down by license plate#( no kidding, a male platonic friend who has only media info on internet dating, thought that might be a fairly frequent occurence) and bring cash and or CC to pay for own dinner. Be eternally grateful that a 2nd date doesn't happen...
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| Dinner then a HOTEL? Does this happen a lot?
Posted: 7/13/2008 1:34:07 PM | A lot of times when I go out on a date, I get that shit too. Not always a hotel, but the same shit....lol. I think guys confuse, flirtation with sexual advances. If you are pretty and confident, guys take that as sexually ready to go. That isnt always the truth. Why do some guys think girls should be meak, mild and submissive. That blows me away. I like to be noticed, just like any other girl, but that doesnt mean I wanna go have random sex with a stranger either. Try to read the guy better the next time. If he makes any sexual statements that are off the wall, cut him off right then, that is , unless you want the same thing. Its not your fault that happened to you, but just try to be real observant of any off the wall sexual advances he puts out there. They may be innocent, but then again they may not.
Take care and good luck,
God knows we all need a little luck
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| Dinner then a HOTEL? Does this happen a lot?
Posted: 7/13/2008 3:06:32 PM | You are a nice person with common sense but there are thousands; yes thousands of internet daters that screw the person they meet online the first time they date. Happens all the time. Look at the posts.
Society is very loose; the girls gone wild generation is here. Guys are sleazy in general but now women are too, and many expect it.
Just be yourself and do whats right for you. | |
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| Dinner then a HOTEL? Does this happen a lot?
Posted: 7/13/2008 3:52:23 PM | | It seems like some of you are criticizing these men for even trying this. Is it such a bad thing to have sex on a first date? Is a woman a moron if she meets a charming fellow and decides to engage in intercourse with him? You never know. You women could really be missing out on something quite enjoyable by refusing to accompany these men to their rooms. I understand the need for caution. A woman's world is different and there are men out there that would attempt to harm females, but this kind of screening should take place long before the one-on-one meeting if you ask me. I've never invited a woman back to my hotel room after a date, but are these men so evil for trying to create an enjoyable evening? | |
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| Dinner then a HOTEL? Does this happen a lot?
Posted: 7/13/2008 4:11:04 PM | that is a pretty pathetic call, these guys are obviously just loosers with no idea. Please dont make up your own assumptions and rules about getting in peoples cars because that is very very stereotypical and I never heard of anyone that thinks that anyone who gets in ur car is keen for sex, how delusional. There are a lot of loosers around and if women insist on guessing who is decent or not then because of the odds chances are they will pick another looser. Until people stop making asumptions and guess then what do they expect. The decent guys are out there but they are generally quickly overlooked.
I think you need get a grip as well. It does work both ways. I am sure that some gentleman has writen and been ignored instead for some pathetic guy who operates like this to be given a chance. | |
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| Dinner then a HOTEL? Does this happen a lot?
Posted: 7/13/2008 4:52:35 PM | | I have dated guys , but that never happen to me. I stimulate their mind on intellectual conversation, most guys favorite topics sport games like football,travel places and get to know each other background. No one ever propose a Hotel/ Motel ,they are very courteous when they take me to my car. I only date educated men. I don't think my feminine worth is best food ,best wine and flowers I am more than that and guys read that in me... Men like women that are charitable when it comes to sex. and I know that. | |
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| Dinner then a HOTEL? Does this happen a lot?
Posted: 7/13/2008 4:58:13 PM | A meal for sex sounds like a good swap to me...........
I prefer a meal after sex. Builds up your appetite.
Borrow friend's car so he can't trace me down by license plate#( no kidding, a male platonic friend who has only media info on internet dating, thought that might be a fairly frequent occurence)
I don't know how frequent it is, but it's very easy to do. In Ohio, I don't know if you can still do this, but you used to be able to walk into the BMV, lay down $10, sit at a computer, and get names and addresses based on license plate numbers. Some states offer that service online for a fee. | |
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| Dinner then a HOTEL? Does this happen a lot?
Posted: 7/13/2008 5:23:46 PM | Wow so let me get this straight.... Teh man takes you out and pays for everything. You hit it off and get along well. then he takes you to a hotel and its not a cheapo place but somewhere it csots $250+ for a rooma nd you wont; even ahve sex witht he guy? I have a few questions.
1. Why a hotel and not his or your place or even in the car?
2. Its weird that you did not talk about this and he springs this on you. but then agian sex is best when you don;t expect it and its spontaneous.
3. Why don't you have sex with this guy if he's so great and you like him? What's the big deal?
4. Hookers are dirty and you would nto typically take a hooker out to dinner unless it were a high priced-call girl/prostitute. And even then you cn get a disease from a hooker.
5. I think you have a negative oppion of sex or that its dirty in some way. i have ahd sex on first dates. usually in my car or my or her place. And once even got a cheap motel room for $40 when it was a long disntance relationship.
Sex is best when you start making out and then your hands or lips get lower. Spontanaity (Spontaneous-ness) Cant; spell it... it sexy! And to be blunt if someone bought me or cooked me a ncie meal and I liked her I would definately ahve sex with her in a heart beat. But that's me I'm pretty easy. have a good conversation and Feed me and have sex with me and I am happy.
Really what else is there in this world as far as realtionships go. There is trust, feeling comfortable with someone, loving them, enjoying the tiem you spend together, conversations, then eating and having sex. You don;t ahve to like all of the same things or both like bungie jumping ort he same music or bands. And you don;t have to date for 3-6 months before you touch his  dancing plantain. I read an article Either in GQ or men's health I forget which that most women on average ahve sex on the 8th date. In my personal experience its usually on the 3rd date. but cna happen sooner or later.
I think you should be more open minded but if you don't feel comfortable you should not do anything. The real question si did you get offended/ angry when the guy told you he had a hotel room? Did you end your date or did you jsut say no to the hotel rooma nd continue the date. Thsi guy may have a little bit of wishful thinking or may be tring too hard. there is a not of pressure on us guys too. and considering it was a nice hotel room and not a seedy one I don't see what the big deal is. | |
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