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| Poll: How do you want your rejection guys? A.Just delete me B.Lie to me C.Be blunt D.Kill me softly?
Posted: 6/4/2005 10:12:09 PM | in my case I'd say A. "Just delete me because I really don't care." and/or C."Just tell me the truth "You're too hairy" for example. (Right!)"
be blunt... I've learned the hard way anything less can and usually does get construed into something other than the regection it is. The way I see it you can't hurt a guy's feelings with an upfront rejection... maybe deflate his ego a bit... but it shouldn't do any real damage at all.
after thinking about it for a minute... E. Just say "No thank you." and leave it at that.... isn't bad either, possibly the better route in general. | |
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Timken
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Joined: 4/15/2005
Msg: 30 | |
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| Poll: How do you want your rejection guys? A.Just delete me B.Lie to me C.Be blunt D.Kill me softly?
Posted: 6/4/2005 10:37:38 PM | ROFL pour the rejection on thick. if they are hurt because of a 2 inch by 2 inch pictures and a few dozen words of someone they never meet before... well they need the rejection poured on thick. get the stinging over with and grow up.
how much of a sucker so many people are to let rejection hurt. it's to their advantage when rejected. not disadvantage. omg learn from it!
Be happy that your are unique enough that you can't please everyone. When you aventually do. all the better for ya.
why is it only guy threads who can't handle rejection. I've rejected women many times. never heard a single complaint from them. | |
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b0unc3
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Joined: 2/13/2005
Msg: 35 | |
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| Poll: How do you want your rejection guys? A.Just delete me B.Lie to me C.Be blunt D.Kill me softly?
Posted: 6/5/2005 5:20:09 PM | | and if she found you ugly and you want her to be truthful? ouch more damage. no one is owed a reason. women don't like saying no to begin with, why should it be harder on them to be forced to lie and make up some silly excuse for the guy to feel better? then what happens the guy gets pissed off and calls her awful things when it was his own fault to begin with. giving a reason is a loose loose situation on her part. if she's not interested take it as is. no man deserves to know the reasoning, generally the reasoning isn't you anyhow. no one is owed anything. what would prevent you from seeing someone? she's a drunk, party to much, you don't find her attractive... why won't you see me? umm because your a drunk. lol don't ask :) | |
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| Poll: How do you want your rejection guys? A.Just delete me B.Lie to me C.Be blunt D.Kill me softly?
Posted: 6/6/2005 2:14:19 AM | C: -truth. Because that info will allow me to assess my desires and corrosponding options. Maybe it might even help change them. For example - "your beard is ugly" IF Iheard that enough times, I might either agree and shave it, or at least I'll be aware that my beard is warding off people that I am attracted to.
Another good example - say I only like blondes. Every blonde tells me that they don't like guys of my description (say it's not a feature I would ever change or ever could change). It saddens me, but maybe it might even help build some resentment for blondes. Boom - repeated conditioning makes it so I don't like blondes anymore. I stop hitting on them and don't care to date one. Everyone's happy.
Information is always good when it comes to stuff like this. Just nail us with it!!
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| Poll: How do you want your rejection guys? A.Just delete me B.Lie to me C.Be blunt D.Kill me softly?
Posted: 6/14/2005 12:09:55 AM | C. Just tell me the truth "You're too hairy" for example. (Right!)
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D. Say: "You sound like one hell of a nice guy, just like my dad, but no thanks."
Mainly be honest, kind if possible, but FIRM. If you are doing the female thing and wanting us to be persistant to "win you over" like we see happen so much, then be gentle.
If you are the uncommon woman that actually knows what you want and won't change your mind, then you need to tell us flat out and mean it so that we get it. Hints don't work. | |
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| Poll: How do you want your rejection guys? A.Just delete me B.Lie to me C.Be blunt D.Kill me softly?
Posted: 6/14/2005 2:01:52 AM | WHEN I get a relatively pleasant email, which is about half the time, I think it's polite to at least reciprocate the effort by replying. And I always say: 1. thanks for your effort (I appreciate it, I really do, anything else would be arrogance!), 2. but I don't feel we are a match (so the responsibility isn't all theirs for not being my perfect guy!), but good luck with your search (end on a positive!). If I think the reason is something easy to take (like distance) or something they could change ie they've not made an effort to say anything about themselves, or no photo then I'll give it. But if it's something I have, in my feminine irrationality, just taken an exception to then there's no point mentioning it and hurting a guy's feelings or making him paranoid. What is poison for me may be someone else's pleasure... some girls LOVE hairy guys! | |
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