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| Poll: How do you want your rejection guys? A.Just delete me B.Lie to me C.Be blunt D.Kill me softly?
Posted: 7/5/2005 1:40:28 PM | How about just telling the truth and letting them deal with it...there are competent therapists if they are really struggling with the concept...yuk! Mundo turn off...
I thank God every time a guy freaks about my rejection of his advance as a romantic prospect...because if he deals with it badly, just imagine what he is like when he doesn't get his way in your relationship...
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Joined: 8/23/2005
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| Poll: How do you want your rejection guys? A.Just delete me B.Lie to me C.Be blunt D.Kill me softly?
Posted: 9/8/2005 3:18:43 PM | | I have something related to add, what if you try each and everyone of those rejection lines and buddy still has no clue...I mean I practically told one guy that he was ugly. and he still kept telling me I was someone he wanted to meet arg..I don't want to be a mean person...why did he have to keep asking why!!!! Does he enjoy being put down...Or am I just too soft hearted should I have told him to f off, I mean he wasn't a bad guy persay, just really really unattractive to me! | |
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| Poll: How do you want your rejection guys? A.Just delete me B.Lie to me C.Be blunt D.Kill me softly?
Posted: 9/8/2005 3:59:16 PM | Even though it might hurt I'd rather a woman be blunt with me. Tell me the truth. That's all. Perhaps I can learn something from it, or it might make me aware of something I never realized. I'm sure there are some guys who would curse out a woman if she did tell that guy that he was ugly. And that's probably one reason most women wont say that. Another reason is that some women just don't want to hurt the guy's feelings. But for "kerrymh", it seemed like she had no other choice. And maybe that guy realy does enjoy being put down. I guess it was a self esteem issue for that guy.
But, again I would want to know the truth no matter how sad it makes me feel. It's ok to tell me that I'm ugly. I'm used to it. But I get over it and keep on trying. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2005 11:59:21 PM | What's rejection?
If someone doesn't like me, oh well. I get plenty of better offers. | |
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| Poll: How do you want your rejection guys? A.Just delete me B.Lie to me C.Be blunt D.Kill me softly?
Posted: 10/8/2006 3:33:40 PM | most people dont handle rejection well !
if you care about how this person feals it is a testomony to your soul ( you are a caring person ! )
if you want them to understand , and not feal like there is something " wrong " with them !
I reccomend a polite : I am sure we are not a good match !
It never hurts to point out what you did like !
thank you for being a kind and sincere person !
It is possable to cut the romantic thread ! and make it a possitive experiance !
It is the recievers choice how they take it !
If they are as caring as you are , they will appriciate the gesture !
If they are not : " Please " dont let it get under your skin !
To let someone go ; and bless them in their quest , is a true sign of respect !
sincerly
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Joined: 9/27/2006
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~Bob~
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Joined: 9/4/2006
Msg: 66 | |
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| Poll: How do you want your rejection guys? A.Just delete me B.Lie to me C.Be blunt D.Kill me softly?
Posted: 10/8/2006 4:00:05 PM | I would say "A" just delete the person. We will (or should) put 2 + 2 together and get the picture. The other options will just invite us to write back and ask "why?"....although I suppose just not responding will encourage some to write back and ask why you haven't responded. Don't hurt the persons feelings though with comments like you are too hairy, or short, or old, or oyung - whatever - I think there is enough rejection on this site so don't make it worse by adding insult to injury. However, I can't see any man being devastated or shocked because some woman he doesn't know didn't respond to his email. Forget about it - move on, and cast your reel again! | |
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| Poll: How do you want your rejection guys? A.Just delete me B.Lie to me C.Be blunt D.Kill me softly?
Posted: 10/8/2006 4:26:59 PM | It sort of seems odd seeing women hand wringing over this issue.
Women on average get way more responses than men do, and its tough for me to understand a man being upset if they don't get an answer. For myself, I'm really only interested in a response if it's positive. Maybe thats just me trying to be efficient or something. I think that goes hand in hand with the value of posting an accurate photo. It saves you the time and trouble of dealing with those that find you unattractive, for whatever reason.
If I'm not right for you that's fine, and I don't feel I need or am owed an explanation why. Obviously I'm not Miss Manners and maybe there is some protocol of etiquette that I'm missing here....
Come on folks, it's a web site. No need to get bent out of shape over rejection before you've even started dating someone, am i right? | |
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| Poll: How do you want your rejection guys? A.Just delete me B.Lie to me C.Be blunt D.Kill me softly?
Posted: 10/8/2006 4:53:55 PM | | I think women should be as honest as they feel they need to be. It's your life. You're here to hopefully find someone compatible. It's not your job to worry about how everyone is going to take their rejection. No one should ever put that stress on themselves. Rejection is no picnic. Trust me, I get rejected all the time yet I would never want someone to sugar coat things just to protect my feelings....so hmmm I would take my bad news honestly and to the point and then I would wish you good luck and hope you would find someone you could be happy with. | |
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| Poll: How do you want your rejection guys? A.Just delete me B.Lie to me C.Be blunt D.Kill me softly?
Posted: 10/8/2006 5:34:58 PM | I tend to be somewhere between C and D with my rejections, which seems to work for most guys, some can be a little testy sometimes but if they get stroppy I give them at least one barrel, or both if they deserve it. I find it amazing just how a very few guys can be so very rude and personal when you have tried to tell them nicely that you aren't interested. but thankfully they are few and I'v learnt that treat them as they treat u usually takes the wind out of their sails, or the last resort is the good old block option, if I really must . | |
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