| WTH Breakup by text???
Posted: 5/31/2008 11:06:55 AM | | oh and i forgot IMMATURE!! my coworker is also 56 and she could not believe someone the same age would behave in such a manner. | |
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| WTH Breakup by text???
Posted: 6/15/2008 4:28:27 PM | I have no idea, but my ex did that as well and even brought up the fact he couldn’t handle not having sex. I’m not a drama princess either and I’m sure a call would have took less time than the multiple messages. Needless to say, my reply was “Ok”. The psycho called me and accused me of cheating. He had some major issues, sounds like her guy may also. Nothing she can do about it, move on. Be thankful she didnt get caught up in anything to serious with him.
~A~ | |
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| WTH Breakup by text???
Posted: 6/15/2008 4:32:34 PM | | I believe people should communicate face to face on this one, because you can look them in the eye when they do it. | |
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| WTH Breakup by text???
Posted: 6/15/2008 5:46:52 PM | Surely it is very hard to be dumped in anyway(especially if you don't have previous hints that something is going wrong).For me,it should be done personally, but not matter how it is done, the result is always the same: You are ALONE AGAIN !.So the best thing to do is to try to get all the pieces of your heart again .In the end, the "dumper" may have done you a great favour.Nobody knows where happiness is.
love from Argentina
mariacba | |
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| WTH Breakup by text???
Posted: 6/15/2008 5:59:44 PM | | I've had that done to me before. "I don't think we should see each other" or some such nonsense. The message was delivered, received and understood. It was very cowardly, even leaving a voice message would have been better. The end result is I thought less of them than before. I'd say it's fairly routine with some people. | |
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| WTH Breakup by text???
Posted: 6/15/2008 6:06:42 PM | | that is a coward way of breaking up. Lose that man's phone number and move on. | |
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| WTH Breakup by text???
Posted: 6/15/2008 6:10:58 PM | I had something similiar just happen to me too. I had been out on several dates with this guy, he even spoke in casual reference like if I continue to date him, etc. We went out the other night, had a great night, and he left and went home. I checked my emails the next day and here is what I get from him:
Hey, how are you? I had a great time last night, however there is something that I need to tell you. I will not be coming down there anymore. I am a very hard person to get close too. I have scars and wounds that are so deep that they may never heal, I may have nothing left to give. I thought that I was ready to start dating again but I guess I am not.
You are a very beautiful woman and I enjoyed your company very much. I do not want to drag you into this, you deserve so much more than what I may be able to give.
I am truely sorry.
go figure he seems to contradict himself, tell me what you think? Don't get me wrong at least he didn't drag it along, but I am reasonable, and certainly deserved the respect of being told that, that night at the end of the date. Or better yet why bother to even go on the date? Just a thought | |
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| WTH Breakup by text???
Posted: 6/22/2008 12:01:46 AM | Maybe he hadn't yet made the decision. He may have slept on it, made his decision the next morning, and decided to let you know. And did so in the most weinerly manner possible.
You deserve more respect than you got, but you got more respect than I got. Two weeks ago I rec'd my first text breakup. It looked like it was written by a chimp.
Your guy's reasonable writing style conveys a modicum of respect. His complete sentences lend the document a bit of dignity. His sentences are complete, and he made them by using real words.
I, on the other hand, was graced with a text I could barely read. I no longer have it but as I recall:
im sorry this girl likes me 2 much don't wanna hurt her u r sexy tho n2deep good luck w/ new man stay cool cricket its been fun
Rather than "cricket" he wrote my real name, and mispelled it. | |
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| WTH Breakup by text???
Posted: 6/22/2008 12:59:39 PM |
...about 4 months texted her that he didn't want to see her anymore
Sorry to hear that. Texting hookup and breakup seems to be becoming a trend. It is good to be honest but a face-to-face discussion is probably suitable. Even if the other one had a solid punch, one could still wear an armor or some protection but be brave enough to say it as it stands - eye to eye, with respect and ability to hear and answer questions. | |
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| WTH Breakup by text???
Posted: 6/22/2008 1:07:20 PM |
But text? It's so insulting.
I wouldn't personally do that, but what does it really matter? Is she going to feel better about the breakup if it's done face to face? What it boils down to is that the relationship is over.
Maybe what's REALLY bothering your friend is that she didn't have the chance to say anything back. If it were done face to face, she could have at least spoken her mind, tried to talk him out of it, or whatever. This way, he took that away from her. | |
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| WTH Breakup by text???
Posted: 6/22/2008 2:11:45 PM | The internet has created a self absorbed society that flat out doesnt step up to the plate and be responsible. Communication is non existent.
Anyone thta does this is a scumbag in my opinion. They arent' man or woman enough to take responsibility. Like a little kid.
She needs to blow him off and never talk to him. Thats disrespectful; good riddens.
I had someone I know be broken up by phone and I thought that was pretty low. by text its worse.
Verizon is actually starting a text service that if you want to break up with someone they will block their call and when they call give a message that you dont want to talk to them anymore. to leave them alone and to move on. Pretty pathetic. | |
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| WTH Breakup by text???
Posted: 6/22/2008 2:13:40 PM | he forgot to use :) and :( . without those vital components the text message is much more harsh.
ex.... "Hi BABE, :)
I DONT KNOW WTF IS WRONG WIT ME BUT WE SHOULD SEE
OTHER PEOPLEZ LOL. :( I WILL MISS YOU. GOODBYE <3 | |
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| WTH Breakup by text???
Posted: 6/22/2008 2:25:43 PM | | my husband finished our 25 year marriage by text - now someone try telling me that's ok! | |
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| WTH Breakup by text???
Posted: 6/23/2008 9:06:21 AM | I have never been broken up with through a text, nor would I ever do it.
I prefer to see the pain on their face. HAhahahahaha. | |
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| WTH Breakup by text???
Posted: 6/23/2008 5:44:24 PM |
ex.... "Hi BABE, :)
I DONT KNOW WTF IS WRONG WIT ME BUT WE SHOULD SEE
OTHER PEOPLEZ LOL. :( I WILL MISS YOU. GOODBYE <3
She actually stuck "LOL" in there, too?
You should have replied:
I ALREADY BEEN SEEIN OTHER PEOPLEZ, LMAO.
IM WIT HER NOW. SHE SAYS HI, ROFL! | |
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| WTH Breakup by text???
Posted: 6/23/2008 5:57:07 PM | | hi well i just had same thing happen to me but after 6 months of goin together etc after i built her a patio repaired most of her house etc then i get this im done sorry we dotn match very well crap never has said anything by phone or to my face before or after for reasons why just after 6 months she felt we werent a good match because i wanted to spend time with her grant | |
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| WTH Breakup by text???
Posted: 6/23/2008 9:44:49 PM |
Is this the norm today in the dating world?
I would think it's the norm for today's dating world. Given the fact that most women love the text-messaging craze gripping the nation, what so bad about being dumped by text?? It's a quick and convenient tool for the guy who wants to weasel his way out without the (often) awkward face-to-face "dear jane" speech.  | |
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| WTH Breakup by text???
Posted: 6/24/2008 6:53:29 AM | Unless you have reason to believe someone will physically harm you, the proper thing to do is to break up with someone in person, especially if you have been intimate. If you've only been on a few dates, phone is ok.
If you are doing it by text, email or Myspace (yes, my friend was dumped through myspace), you are a coward. It's awkward? You don't want to see them cry? Grow a pair and get over yourself. Who the heck wants to be with someone who doesn't appreciate them? If you don't have the nerve to break up correctly, you shouldn't even be in a relationship in the first place. | |
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| WTH Breakup by text???
Posted: 6/25/2008 4:07:35 PM | I feel it ( text break ups) is appropriate for 14 year olds but if you are an adult involved in an adult relationship you should at the very least be capable of ending it in an adult and mature manner.......
And as the poster above me ( curlyboop) said and I couldn`t agree more is: If you don't have the nerve to break up correctly, you shouldn't even be in a relationship in the first place.
Peace | |
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| WTH Breakup by text???
Posted: 6/26/2008 12:19:23 AM | For those of us who've been so honored, am I the only one who texted back? It seems most accept the message without "discussion." Is that right?
I responded by texting a few choice words. Then I got a grip, and though still seething, let it go. | |
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| WTH Breakup by text???
Posted: 6/26/2008 3:27:42 AM | No matter how it happens, over is over. Text is better than just disappearing. There's a lot of guys who don't say anything at all and you never even realize you broke up until you see him out with someone new. | |
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| WTH Breakup by text???
Posted: 6/27/2008 10:03:13 AM | | a break up text? that really is bull$hit. i hate to male bash here, but come on, where are your balls? | |
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| WTH Breakup by text???
Posted: 6/27/2008 10:44:28 AM | Heh.
Anyone familiar with Tripod, the Australian musical-comedy trio? Search YouTube, "Tripod Txt Msg" and they've got a song specifically on this topic. I'd post the link, but that's against the TOS.
"It was great (GR8) to be (2B) with you (WITHU)... but now, honey (H1E), we're through (THRU)." | |
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| WTH Breakup by text???
Posted: 6/27/2008 10:54:04 AM | 720:
I had something similar happen to me. Lots of mixed messages, but in his case he never came right out and said "I don't want to see you again" (at least you got that...in so many words). In any case, those kinds of messages leave a lot of confusion. It's just best to tell people, "You're a nice person, but the more I think about it, I don't think we're a match" and leave it at that with no ambiguity.
I think the "contradiction" stems from his guilt in having gone out with you several times. He feels badly about it and doesn't want to hurt you so he's trying to soften the blow with flattery, niceties, and also by laying the blame on himself. As I said, bad move because all it seems to have accomplished is to leave you wondering. You would have at least known in your own mind had he left it more simple and blunt. In this guy's case, at least he's not dragging you on trying to play you for sex while he's waiting for something "better" to come along. He's basically told you he's not interested. BTW, the excuses along the lines of "you deserve better," etc. are pretty classic. They mean he's not interested. They are excuses, nothing more.
Why did he go out that night? Probably still wavering and gave it one last shot.
OP: yeah, a text is cowardly. More cowardly yet is the "disappearing act." | |
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