Chalks
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| money how important is it
Posted: 4/24/2008 8:36:51 AM | I think moneys as important as you make it I do my job because I enjoy it the pay being good is a plus I wouldn't stay with a job I disliked just to earn more. I think it makes things easier for me I can go out when I want and get to buy things I like. When I was growing up money was very tight and I'm glad of it made me quite sensible.
I think it's the same as wants and needs. I can think of tonnes of things I want but there isn't anything I actually need. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2008 8:37:36 AM |
I knew it you have been down Castlefields, was it the ex white hanky that went in the wash with your red Man Ure shirt?
There's a line you know. I don't mind you suggesting that I may have homosexual tendencies.
But, if you imply that I'm a Rag again I'm afraid that I may have to kick your head in. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2008 8:40:00 AM | Money is not the most important thing in life.
But it does give you more options and although not a guarantee of a happier life , it increases your chances ! | |
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Posted: 4/24/2008 8:44:22 AM | | Ive had lots of money an now ive got none. I know which i prefer lol. You find stengths and means you didnt know you had when your backs against the wall, having said that im pulling myself out the mire and want someone willing to do the same if hes in my position or who is as someone already said not sitting on their arse claiming benefits. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2008 8:51:20 AM | well I am kinda ok for money so the other bloke dont need a pot to piddle in with me lol.
Nah it really does not bother me at all, just want someone I can be happy with and thats all I need. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2008 9:09:36 AM | Ah - the optimum has to be when you've had no money, learned to cope, and then got money!
I earn fairly well now but, because I know how to spend wisely and stick to a budget (from my previous experiences), I also make the absolute best of what I have.
I couldn't form a spiritual relationship with a man who refused to earn his own money, but neither could I form a relationship with one who wasted it. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2008 9:22:58 AM | | Money IS important. The amount you have isn't, but the attitude you both have towards it IS important, because arguments about money are in the top five reasons for divorce. | |
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Posted: 4/25/2008 4:55:48 AM | | well clearly money is more important than somones heart, it seems to be that you dont need a lot, but if you haven't got any then you cant have a good relationship, personally i find this sad, surely it would be nice for 2 people to have nothing build up there love for each other and then end up with something, wouldn't that be better. | |
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Posted: 4/25/2008 5:09:49 AM | is it really the lack of money that kills relationships though, or the fact that one half of the couple is generally doing something stupid with the money they do have?
i remember when i got together with the kids dad...we have naff all!
we moved into a bedsit together with nothing more than our clothes, and had to save really hard for a year to get a deposit for a house...it was probably the best year we had out of all eleven!
i think if, as a couple, you're in love, then lack of money does nothing to diminish that...it's when one partner starts taking the piss..whether that's because they are squandering what they do have, or whether they do nothing to improve the situation and the other partner is left feeling like they're trying to hold it all together with little help...it's more an incompatibility in priorities to my mind. | |
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Posted: 4/25/2008 5:34:08 AM | I don't think it's the money that is important but ones attitude towards it.....
I've had money.... didnt buy me happiness or love infact it killed my relationship when i refused to spend more.... I get by now and i'm happy.....
You love with your heart not purse/wallet..... | |
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Posted: 4/25/2008 7:46:50 AM | Leannie summed it up for me best I think.
If you can pull together with your meagre resources to build something over time it's a fantastic experience, however if one partner is crying over the gas bill while the other's in the pub ........... | |
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Posted: 4/25/2008 7:52:18 AM |
however if one partner is crying over the gas bill while the other's in the pub ...........
Too darn right I'd be in the pub, too bloody cold to stop in the house.
Good to see so many of you who are not into the materialistic side of life, money should be used to enjoy the pleasures and experiences of life, getting out and about, travelling, eating, drinking and merriment etc etc not on a fancy new motor, 42" plasma tv and the rest of the carp. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2008 4:16:37 AM | | I do agree with people who say that when your with someone and you haven't got much, and your partner is just squandering the money down the pub, bying things that aren't essential. things like that, will definately ruin any relationship, and put a lot of people off, because to honest there just being selfish, and thinking of just themselves, but as for the unemplyed there could be a reason they are out of work, and you would soon know if there making any effort to get work, but i dont think you should shut the door on them straight away. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2008 6:11:14 AM | | Well a caravan or tent would possibly exclude you from Council Tax, but just try and live without it these days. Money is so important people borrow and sacrifice their futures for it. Do you have a mortgage? If you do then your premise is a contradiction. If you lived in a tent you might find it hard to keep a relationship going as not many females like slopping out in the morning. If you are suggesting that women are after money that would be an over-generalisation, like men beat up women. The people that want tons of money are obviously insecure and their values are built on economic security to a larger degree than most. Money can buy good health, you are obviously out of touch there, in the food and fitness as well as medical department. The definition of TRUE love suggests a truth, but love as seen through the media is predicated on lust, a trait shared with out primate cousins. Love in its modern sense is around 900 years old, humans in their modern physiological form have been around for 150,000 years, and up to 7 million years in their development. I am concerned upon reading your statement you wish to be loved in a caravan or tent, and am sure an appropriate medication is more the solution that outdoor lustful pursuits. Wake up and smell the coffee one needs money to live, pay the taxes and bills, the days of living on free love are over, whoever she is it will cost, as it costs just to stay at home and do nothing. Anyway rich or poor, big or small, tall or short all human females have the same physiology all the same organs and so on, its just their insecurity index that is the issue, and with child molestation, the cult of the individual, competition and so on as well as continuous brainwashing through the media its more of what damaged personality you can live with that an economic issue surely! | |
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Posted: 4/26/2008 7:16:00 AM | This strikes close to home for me.
Growing up we were very well off, even seen as rich. But as children my brother and I weren't spoilt, didn't have holidays abroad or have expensive clothes. We were taught the value of money and the value of family.
Twice I've been married to powerful and wealthy men. I've had everything, from expensive houses, cars, holidays, shoes, handbags and jewellery.
Twice it went wrong. I wasn't happy, I was beaten, cheated on and treated like a possession.
I've just married for the third time to a man who doesn't have alot. We have a small house, older cars, not had a holiday yet and I've stopped buying shoes by the crate load.
But I will tell you what I do have......... a man that loves me for me and he loves me unconditionally. We do everything together, we go out if we want but no where expensive, we have clothes if we need them and we, very occassionally, have 'luxuries' but every single bill is paid and up to date, we have a roof over our head and we are warm. What more do we need?
We don't need anything else. Together we get have everything we need because we have each other.
Good god that was mushy but if money matters to a person then it needs to matter to their partner. Happiness comes from within, its a feeling, a state of mind. It's NOT something you can buy. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2008 8:12:32 AM | I'm of the beleif that a relationship can only truly work with your socioeconomic equal, or close to.
Also, whilst money does not produce happiness of itself, in most cases, it doesn't make anyone LESS happy.
You are who you are, if you're happy without money, chances are you'll be happy with it too (but with more life choices available) | |
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Posted: 4/26/2008 9:05:37 AM | I think work is more important! My ex was out of work for some time and it wasnt the money that was an issue for me, it was sitting on his arnse all day!!
Its the man I want to be able to depend on, not his pay packet!!
Some men I know have said they are put off by a financially secure woman whos estate is significantly more profitable than their own!
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Posted: 4/26/2008 11:12:01 AM | | All money does is give you more choices. Having lots of choices isn't a bad thing at all. Is just a means to an end. Is what i instill into my daughter in order to highlight the importance of education. It is not noble to be poor, and by the same token, it is not the be- all-and-end-all being rich. Whether people have a lot or not a lot, it is wrong to judge them either way. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2008 12:03:52 PM | Money is not as important if you have it .... but very important if you dont have any...
Money - its a gas : I'm all right Jack, keep yer hands off of my stash ..
I dont have any therefore its clearly important ... | |
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Posted: 4/26/2008 12:13:01 PM | If you enter a relationship on an equal footing financially,be it both comfortable or both with very little then i cant see problems.
Its when one is either reliant on the other financially or one uses money as power over the other that real problems can occur.
I know that i would rather be emotionally happy in a relationship than financially stable but at odds | |
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Posted: 4/28/2008 3:20:29 AM | | MADCHICK what you have said is exactly what i'm on about, its nice to here that true love is still out there. | |
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Posted: 4/30/2008 7:13:00 AM | I have a flat... a mortgage... a £500 car, a thankless underpaid job and not a lot in the bank.... Cant afford to drink or smoke, my only vice is my motorbike.....form an orderley queue ladies  | |
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Posted: 4/30/2008 7:18:28 AM | | as long as i can pay the bills buy food money isnt important as a few have said a full heart is much nicer than a full bank account. | |
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Posted: 4/30/2008 7:24:00 AM | Money to a degree is important, for the things you have to buy, the neccessities at least. The amount you have as opposed to someone else, doesn't matter (or shouldn't). As long as somone is happy (i am grateful for what i have, rather than what i don't have), and i know i'm rich in love for my kids, friends and family. That's all i want and need.
I'd rather have someone who is on the same league as me, for money than someone who is loaded.
When you're loaded there is different trust issues to deal with there. All of sudden you have many friends!  | |
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Posted: 4/30/2008 8:24:12 AM | Like some others on here this strikes close to me. When bringing my kids up on my own I had little money and so am very used to that lifestyle. Years later i earn a very good salary and whilst I would love to say money doesn't matter it really does.
I have had several dates with men on this site who have got an inkling that I earn substantially more than them and this has been a real issue for them - esp as i often know more about football as well!! Talk about threatening their masculinity!!
I agree with others - its best if your income is fairly equal when starting a relationship. I don't think if this changes later on it would matter so much but at the beg I think it does. | |
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