| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 4/25/2008 11:17:36 AM |
My not being interested in sex hasn't changed how women see me. They weren't interested in me before, and they're not any more interested in me now. But you're right that the mention of sex does turn lots of women off.
It's funny how women complain that all guys want is sex; yet a guy who isn't interested in sex is a turnoff. Or a guy who doesn't pursue and go after the sex is a turnoff and a wimp. None of it makes sense.
Yes, it's very confusing for men. Women complain about guys who "only want one thing", but then, if a guy comes along who doesn't "only want one thing", they aren't interested in him either. | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 4/25/2008 12:28:55 PM | | The trick is simply to not care either way. It drives them nuts and they will keep bothering you for sex. Go Figure! | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 4/25/2008 12:48:41 PM |
The trick is simply to not care either way. It drives them nuts and they will keep bothering you for sex.
This never worked for me. When I acted like I didn't care, the woman didn't care either. | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 4/25/2008 2:33:27 PM | | I didn't say to act like you didn't care. I said to simply not care either way. Seriously, women are annoying like that. The moment you really don't care about it, they'll get on your case and rub it in day and night till you give them what they way. Reminds me of the house cat. | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 4/25/2008 2:34:15 PM |
Yes, it's very confusing for men. Women complain about guys who "only want one thing", but then, if a guy comes along who doesn't "only want one thing", they aren't interested in him either.
This never worked for me. When I acted like I didn't care, the woman didn't care either.
I agree with you 1000% on this one. With our society being so sex-obsessed though, not wanting sex is seen as wrong. Men aren't supposed to NOT want sex. Women complain about men only wanting sex, but aren't the guys who only want sex that one's who get the most women????
It only makes me hate sex more. | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 4/25/2008 2:45:31 PM | No, maybe he just doesn't want it? Or care to have it.
Depends on the situation, I could be offended.
But probably not. | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 4/25/2008 2:45:33 PM | i have a question, is it the sex you hate or the women you hate cos they wont give you sex? do you like your right hand? or is that a no go too? | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 4/25/2008 2:52:09 PM | | I don't have a desire for sex. It's not important to me. Although I love women, most women don't see me as good enough to date. So I don't. | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 4/25/2008 3:13:23 PM |
Wow. And to think that I spent 35 of my 38 years having women NOT want to have sex with me; now that I've said I won't do it, it's wrong..
Who would have thought.
Accept it, you're male. You're dealing with females. You can't win.
But I do agree that "no interest in sex" is kind of odd. I'm more of the "Waiting for the right time and right person". I enjoy it. I would like to find someone I can enjoy it with, but to say I'm not interested would be a lie. | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 4/25/2008 3:32:59 PM | | If sex isn't your thing and you just want companionship , hook up with a much older lady that is done w/ that part of their life. It's all about being positive when you discuss sex w/ someone new ... like telling them how much fun it will be when you get to that point in a friendship to do all the neat stuff you read about ..;) | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 4/25/2008 3:37:32 PM | | All it means is that over time---you--as a man--have evolved. You now want more out of a relationship other than just sex---yeah--and good for you. I am sick to death of being made to feel I have to have sex to maintain a relationship and then When I do have feelings for a guy and we have sex--I often realize that the guy is just there for the sex and nothing more---As for me--from now on---no love--no sex--ever | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 4/25/2008 4:35:35 PM | | If you state that you are not good enough to date may be they want to date someone else and have sex with them? Pardon I expect when I am dating men in your age group to want me and yes to know how to perform in a bedroom. | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 4/25/2008 7:08:22 PM | | I could care less about sexual intercourse myself. It's too much of a bother for me and I can't finish up merely by the act itself. My brain does appreciate the feminine form although I prefer doing other things, besides sex. Hey, I'm human so I am already ****ed up at birth, like everyone else. | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 4/25/2008 8:18:09 PM |
Do you think you're good enough to date?
That's kind of a trick question isn't it?
Actually, women have helped me to not see myself as good enough. Not enough money, not successful enough, not good looking enough, not a big enough d**k. I've heard all the reasons.
I had a woman tell me I was too old for her not too long after breaking up with the ex-girlfriend, and they were the same age..It's not like she was 12, she was 29. And that was on this site.
I'm just so tired of all the stupid games. | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 4/25/2008 8:53:09 PM | | Do YOU think you're good enough, rich enough, .. in other words, do you like yourself? If you're put down often enough by women, you'll start believing what they say. Don't give up on all women.. there are some good ones around who can make a big difference in how you feel. | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 4/25/2008 11:23:05 PM | I think most of it is in your head. If you have no sex drive you need to see your doctor. That is really odd. I mean, seriously. Might be a chemical imbalance. Never met(or heard of) a man who didnt have a sex drive.
If you dont want sex, why would you want to date women? Get a dog. Unless your gay, then get a dude. Dinner by yourself all the time stinks.
Sex is very important to most women. All the ones i know anyway.
And why do you let women tell you that your not worthy of them? Get real. Somebody wants you. | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 4/25/2008 11:29:16 PM | you've got to get out of america to start a fresh life. there is too much BS here.
let's go to mexico and scam on chicks!
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 4/25/2008 11:49:31 PM | OP, it sounds like you've given up on women because of your bad experiences with them. And perhaps to avoid getting hurt anymore your mind has somehow translated that into your having no more interest in sex. It's just a thought. I really don't know. I just couldn't imagine not wanting to have sex.
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 4/26/2008 7:20:10 AM |
you've got to get out of america to start a fresh life. there is too much BS here.
let's go to mexico and scam on chicks!
Sounds like a plan.
To answer the question of why I'd want to date if I'm not interested in sex: Well, I really don't want to date anymore, but as you said, sometimes eating alone sucks. | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 4/26/2008 9:28:52 AM | I think at the start its cool, but in marriage sex is a key to intimacy. Most marriage counselors say that a big sign a relationship has a chance to succeed or fail is if they are intimate with eachother still.
Sex is an important part of intimacy. At the start it shouldnt' be a big deal, but eventually it can be. Lack of intimate sex can be a very bad sign, especially in a marriage; some people cheat over it. | |
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