| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 5/5/2008 3:57:26 PM | Ok, Here it is in a nutshell.
If HE doesn't want sex, it makes you want it more. Now, that can be a good thing, but not if he is really not interested. Maybe he has very little experience, or worse yet some BAD experiences. Women who belittled him, wounded him and dang it, he might just be afraid in that area.
He needs Patience, and TLC.
Nothing better than a LOVING, gentle, patient(and HORNY) teacher.
Sorry, I had to just use my imagination and say something positive!
If he does not respond, in time, well, you can decide if a sexless life is something you would choose to participate in.
As for me
No way Josea! | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 5/5/2008 4:36:22 PM | there is a problem here peoples.............go see the dick doctor ...
almost what ever the problem ......at 30?? hard to imagine but......its can be fixed ....
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 5/5/2008 4:41:13 PM |
i would say he is gay .................................
Not necessarily. People do exist who are neutral in terms of sexual attraction- they are not attracted to either males or females. They're called asexuals. | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 5/5/2008 9:56:49 PM | Has this option been explored by anyone? - If a guy SAYS he is not interested in having sex then perhaps, PERHAPS, he is latenetly homosexual....I'm just sayin...:)
I can't think of ANYTIME I didn't think about having sex with a woman I was out with...but that's just me. | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 5/6/2008 2:00:39 PM | So why the hell is it ok for women to not have any interest in sex but not a guy?
I'm just saying, everyone is so freaking sex-obsessed nowadays that the mere mention of not having sex gets you labeled gay, unless you're a women then you're labeled as just a prude or it's your right as a woman.
I NEVER SAID I WASN'T ATTRACTED TO WOMEN!!!!!
If you bothered to read the past 100 posts you'd see that..
Let me re-clarify what I've said for those who don't read previous posts:
I don't give a crap about having sex anymore. It's not because of being gay or having a lack of testosterone. It's because of women telling me I wasn't good enough to date in the past. It's because of women telling me they didn't want to have sex with me, but then they'd have sex with the next guy they met, or they'd screw my player friends instead.
One female I got set up with (by my cousin) screwed him in my uncle's garage while me and my uncle were inside the house talking. It's not like I really had time to get attached to her, it's the principal of the matter.
And before you jump on the defensive; I'm not the type of guy who chases a woman for sex. I actually respect women in that way which hasn't gotten me anything but grief.
Relationships are important. Not sex. Sex really has no significance now. | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 5/6/2008 2:27:39 PM | Keep fishing, dude.  If you tweak your attitude just a little bit, you ought to be able to find a suitable woman. Just don't tell a woman that sex isn't driving your relationship justifications. It's not worthy of discussion; don't bring sex up as a discussion topic. Do the things that you think are relevant in building a relationship. Let her bring up the topic of sex. I think you are less likely to get burned this way. You still might get burned, but that's life, nothing is a given. Keep fishing. | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 5/6/2008 5:59:02 PM |
So why the hell is it ok for women to not have any interest in sex but not a guy?
Actually, I think it is OK for a guy to not have much interest in sex. You are correct that our society is sex obsessed, but I do see a backlash developing where some people are accepting a life without much sex.
I'm just saying, everyone is so freaking sex-obsessed nowadays that the mere mention of not having sex gets you labeled gay, unless you're a women then you're labeled as just a prude or it's your right as a woman.
The best thing to do is not mention sex at all in your conversations. Women will rarely bring up the topic.
And one more thing: Rent the movie "The 40 year old virgin". It addresses the issue of a man who's been rejected sexually for many years. | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 5/11/2008 11:55:44 AM | | Man, I couldn't be with a guy that doesn't want sex. I mean I luv the stuff, and have a high sex drive, so that would be a problem for me to be with someone that doesn't want sex | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 5/11/2008 5:45:36 PM | I could not be in a relationship were making love was not present. There are many elements to a relationship and it's one of them.  | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 5/13/2008 7:37:36 AM | | I could not agree more!!!! They have no idea what they want. some of them on here con't even remember to show up for the date!!! I was early, expecting to open the door and pay for the date and she couldn't even show!!! | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 5/13/2008 7:47:39 AM | | its real easy for you to say. How often do you get rejected??? I mean come one, I doubt very much you get turned down often. For guys it can be a pain in the ass. the more nice we are the worse it gets. | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 5/14/2008 5:36:19 AM | i am a sex maniac, so for me it is very important. even medium level libido is a turn off for me. i had bfs before that complained that i never let them initiate sex or how i wanna have sex all the time. i swore myself back then to never date outside the range of sex freaks
but really, hun, it doesnt seem to be anything past a bad case of being jaded with romance. when you meet the right woman, all this will be history. we all had bad experiences. hell, i dated a guy that turned out to be gay, sent me straight into dating women... lolol... still, no matter how i b*tch and complain, deep inside i still know that for the right person i'd still move mountains | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 5/14/2008 8:37:09 AM | | Sex is great, don't get me wrong. A man or a woman could have sex pretty much any time they wanted too. It's about attitude. Looks fall into place, but it's all about the attitude. However, sometimes men and women alike are looking for more than just sex. They want a real relationship. Once found, sex is a big part of it. | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 5/15/2008 12:30:04 PM |
Wish all these women who say they want sex were around when I was younger.
You aren't alone. From the guys I've known and talked with over the years, getting sex was a difficult and problematic endeavor in their younger years (20's and 30's). In those age groups the ratio of single men to single women is pretty large (a lot more single men than single women).
Did you watch the movie "The 40 Year Old Virgin"? It addresses some of the problems of a man who was rejected sexually in his youth. | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 5/15/2008 8:17:14 PM | Oh, most definitely. And it makes matters worse when you're not a player or aren't one of the type A guys that every female wants. If you're the least bit insecure or shy females don't want anything to do with you.
I was always considered the "nice guy" and that's probably one of the worst labels a guy can ever get. I can readily admit that in my early twenties I'd let females use me. It was a flaw I inherited from my father. But that changed over the course of time. I'm not that way anymore. I'm just, well, not sure what I could be defined as in my jaded mind. Decent? Respectful? Jaded? For sure jaded.
In light of that "nice guy" thing, women might as well just say to a guy, "hey, you're alright and all but you'll never be what I want. I'll never date you and I'll for sure never have sex with you. But we can hang out and I'll look at you like my gay best friend or a puppy." Just tell the truth ladies. Stop with all the nonsense of telling guys on these boards that you're all looking for a nice guy.
The true definition of the word is getting all jumbled around. Guys hate being called "nice guys" and from the women I've talked to, you see the "nice guys" as weak and insecure. So when you use the word it can be taken in so many different ways.
That's all. | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 5/15/2008 8:19:38 PM | my sister is madly obsessed with you and wanted to say.. **** YOu Mother ****er.. how the **** can you be such an ass hole to such a sexii biitch liike me.. so iim psychotiic.. we all have iissues.. you konw you diidnt have to liive wiith a midget cuban and a fat mexiican for 16 years..so iif ii want to go krazii for a second then how about you slow your ass..take a damn chiill piill..and pass the weed..cuz ii reallii wanna get stoned riight now...and iim kiinda drunk.. all that damn tequilla.. well you know what... your not even taht cute.. except you have niice eyes and that smiile..and those biceps... oh babii.. damn you turn me on!! awwwwwwww okiies we can **** but thats about iit.. ii dont wanna hear you cryiing to me.. tha tyou want me back cuz you know what.. iits to late to apologiize!! iits to late!!! .. sorrii ii was on Hydro and ii kiinda am doiing iit riight now...so all thiis iis cuz iim mad cuz thiis guiii iis horriible iin bed...and yea.. so Biie <-- thiis green guii iis what iim doiing riight now!! | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 5/15/2008 9:34:57 PM | | I'm over 50 so I must be the exception to this discussion. I look forward to a good physical relation as long as there is some emotional connection. But my views have changed as I have grown older. In the beginning it was all about me and my satifaction, but now its all about the pleasure of the woman I'm with. I put her satifacton before mine and the sex has never been better. Most women think that after 40 the drive and performance is gone, but there are many more things you can give to a woman besides intercourse to make them happy and hanging on for dear life. Wish I come to this realization when I was in my 30's !!!!!!! | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 5/16/2008 2:56:09 PM |
I was always considered the "nice guy" and that's probably one of the worst labels a guy can ever get.
I hear your pain. I've experienced the same thing. Being considered a "nice guy" is about like being considered as a brother.
I've learned to hate the "nice guy" label because it means the woman is not attracted. Usually the next thing out of the woman's mouth is the speach about how "we can be friends". | |
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