| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 5/16/2008 2:56:09 PM |
I was always considered the "nice guy" and that's probably one of the worst labels a guy can ever get.
I hear your pain. I've experienced the same thing. Being considered a "nice guy" is about like being considered as a brother.
I've learned to hate the "nice guy" label because it means the woman is not attracted. Usually the next thing out of the woman's mouth is the speach about how "we can be friends". | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 5/18/2008 8:05:15 PM |
Is it an instant turnoff if a guy isn't interested in having sex?
Not if I am not attracted to him, or he's a friend, no.
I mean, women always complain about guys wanting sex too soon or all the time.
I am pretty sure those two arguments are being made by different women.
I have complained that some men want sex too soon - most women like sex, but actually like to know, have interest in, and feel comfortable with the man she sleeps with. I have NEVER complained about a man wanting sex too much. I've complained plenty that a man doesn't want enough.
What do you think about someone who doesn't care about sex?
I think he'd make a great friend to a woman who's into sex - what else can she do with him? He'd make a great partner for a woman who doesn't care about sex either. If there's no interest, naturally, it won't matter anyway.
To me, getting involved is something I'd only agree to do if guaranteed I'd get regular sex, so if I wasn't going to - there wouldn't be much reason to bother staying in a relationship that had none included. | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 5/19/2008 12:29:31 AM | my ex was like that.. he was jsut so stressed and having sex once a month was a 'wow factor'
it isn't a major deal.. but it kind of was off putting for me. i'm a very sexual person.. i love sex.. and it was like 'am i doing something wrong' why doesn't he want to have sex with me... it was the basis of many  | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 5/19/2008 8:39:38 AM | | Like I said before, where were all of you sex hungry women when I was younger? All I ever found were the so called "virgins" or the one's who wanted to wait until being married. Or so they told me. | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 5/19/2008 9:16:28 AM | | Sexual intimacy is one of the greatest ways to connect with another human being and a natural progression into deepening the relationship. I could see no other way to make a relationship completely fulfilling. I would have no interest in a man that does not want to share of himself in a sexual way! | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 5/19/2008 5:09:40 PM |
... where were all of you sex hungry women when I was younger? All I ever found were the so called "virgins" or the one's who wanted to wait until being married.
I don't think any of the women are saying they are "sex hungry". What I see them saying is that IF they are attracted to a man and IF they are in a relationship, then, and only then, are they interested in sex. | |
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 5/20/2008 6:09:10 AM | your dammed if you do , your dammed if you don't ...
I if I am to be honest (a rare thing on dating sites ) have noticed my sex drive drop , its a part of getting older ,it was ridiculously high in my youth and like a lot of guys all I ever got was charity sex .
I Think men fancy women, but women fancy being adored ,so if a guys desire has dropped could be a problem .
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| A guy over 30 who doesn't want sex
Posted: 5/20/2008 6:33:42 AM | Like I said before, where were all of you sex hungry women when I was younger?
I've been this way from a fairly young age, but I got worse as I got older. When I was younger it was the other way around, I was fighting a bunch of men off, because I wasn't as into it and they were in high gear.
So the answer is the women (in your age group) when you were younger were there but didn't develop a higher libido until later on in time (when yours leveled off, pretty much).
Men peak somewhere in their late teens-mid 20s. Women peak in their mid 30s-early 40s. So there ya go. It's nature's cruel joke...or it can be if you can't get around it.
I also think attitudes change as you get older, and in my case, society was way different when I was younger too - so when I was in my teens, it was not only unacceptable to like sex as that's how we were raised, but society frowned on it too. Over time the world changed, and as women age they also stop caring as much what people think and do what they want. | |
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