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Posted: 5/10/2008 1:07:06 AM | I don't see what the big deal is personally. The guys didn't 'insert anything' into anyone, right? I'll assume they just watched and there was no cheating or lying going on... so what's it matter? She has every right to be upset about it if she wants, no one can tell you how to feel or if it's 'ok' for you to feel that way but I see no real reason to be. I'd be more pissed I wasn't invited but that's just me.
I know there are a lot of women that would have a problem with it, (and I'm sure several of them are going to want to burn me at the stake for saying this ) but these are most likely the same women who have the 'if he wants to look at a naked woman he can look at me / he should only want to look at me' mentality but I'm sorry ladies, it's just not realistic.
You can love someone with everything you have and would never think of cheating on or hurting them but that doesn't automatically mean that they are going to stop being attracted to other people, wonder what they look like and or possibly even want to see them without their clothes. It's human nature. Human beings in general like to look at other humans they find attractive - especially naked. Everyone likes to look. It doesn't make them any less committed to their partners than anyone else in an honest, trusting, relationship. I think it has more to do with the fear that their guy will do something he shouldn't, which is a whole other issue entirely.
If you trust the guy you're about to marry, are secure in your relationship and know he will keeps his hands to himself... you've nothing to worry or be angry about. It's all in good fun and it doesn't mean anything... unless you make it about something. | |
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| bucks nights and strippers
Posted: 5/10/2008 6:31:51 AM |
i would have had to call my future wife and ask her to come join the party
The above post should pretty much end this thread. There is nothing more to discuss!! LMAO!!  | |
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| bucks nights and strippers
Posted: 5/10/2008 9:37:56 AM | Argh, I sometimes feel I am living in the wrong timezone.
I wouldnt like a future husband or a current husband or a boyfriend attending such a party and would hope that the person I picked to be in my life wouldnt like this sort of behaviour either.
My post wedding fun was brilliant, no alcohol involved, a bunch of girls came to my home at lunch time, blindfolded me and dressed me up in a funny fake wedding gown, drove me left right left left then right, I had no idea then we ended up at a popular park where a bunch of my friends had arranged a picnic and games. I was not allowed to take off the silly fake bridal wear and to cut a long story short had a fabulous and respectable time with great memories. My future husband wanted a more blokey thing and he went paintballing, no alcohol involved. My only concern was he might hurt himself before the wedding. The men had a great time with great memories. Nothing for anyone to worry about.
Good clean fun is so under rated. | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 2:55:34 PM | If you as a man do that stuff before you get married, you really don't love your fiancee, and the same thing goes for the women. It's so brain-dead obvious and yet so many people run around thinking that it's harmless. If it's so harmless, why do you want to do it? That's because you like it, because it excites you, no? And if you follow through on your desire, you might as well not get married, because you've already cheated.
Wonder why so many marriages end in divorce? Could it have something to do with a lack of devotion, maybe? | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 6:49:47 PM | Playr~ Yes he slept with two of the girls..and I saw how he acted when I was not around. He was doing the chasing...I saw a very different guy than the one I fell for. I felt stupid and broke it off with him. Was 5 months from getting married to him. I hung onto the tape to remind me what a slug he is in case he tried to come back and thought I forgot. I understand Mr charming did that a lot of other times as well. That whole fraternity forgot they weren't in college any longer and paid the price for bad choices. It was a great move on my part to get rid of him, as I had the heads up ( no pun intended). The ones that were married already weren't so lucky. | |
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| bucks nights and strippers
Posted: 5/10/2008 7:01:04 PM | Guys, booze and dolls it's going to happen you can bet on that. Any red blooded male will be "up" for it!
Sorry girls but this is the truth.................don't let anyone tell you different. Any guy that says "no not me I would not do that" is just trying to give a false impression to get it to your panties on line!  | |
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| bucks nights and strippers
Posted: 5/10/2008 7:25:18 PM | Anybody who chooses to stay partakes in the activity. I think if that is what you choose for in your life then, so be it. Personally, I would dump the pig. | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 7:31:19 PM | | I have never been to a bachelor party and if I were to get married I would not want one thrown in my honor. I would especially not like it if my wife to be insisted I had one or if she wished to have a bachelorette party. As some one said earlier if you are in real love the desire for others simply doesn't exist...at least that is how it felt when I was in Love. | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 2:41:58 AM | | The way I feel about it is that I will have seen more than enough poon by the time I am getting married to need to appreciate any but the woman whom I'll marry. I don't understand the tradition but have organized a few parties like this in the thought that it would be a bit of a spoof to make the groom to be blush. I think that was the whole point back in the day, but it's gone well too far in this day and age. That's my opinion. Of course if my fiance decided she wanted to go all out I'd bite my tongue and stick to the mantra that ignorance is bliss~ | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 6:44:52 AM | | Every man has a batchlor party the last night of being single. So do the woman. However, a three night binge seems a little excessive. I wonder what these guys were like back in college? Ask yourself. Did he cheat on you? Did he have sex? Do you love him? Will this be an ongoing thing? (Guys night out?) Then decide if you're going to dump him. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 11:10:50 AM | | strippers is ok... id be ok with it as long as there was NO touching!! i wouldnt want the man i was about to marry, touching up some other girl! disrespectfull. | |
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| bucks nights and strippers
Posted: 5/12/2008 11:46:36 AM |
strippers is ok... id be ok with it as long as there was NO touching!! i wouldnt want the man i was about to marry, touching up some other girl! disrespectfull.
LOL; you are talking about respect and strippers in the same sentence? lol;
Anyone that believes there is going to be no touching, when there are strippers, and booze is beyond naive. LOL; come on. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 11:55:48 AM | Is this a serious question? It's a bachelor party, most likely he had nothing to do with the actual planning. I also fail to see why having a live show at a hotel room is somehow more degrading to the marriage than going to a strip club or watching porn?
I've been to my fair share of bachelor parties and planned a few, and hiring strippers is par for the course, up to and including them playing with each other. I will say no one engaged in sex with the performers at any bachelor party, and none of the current wives were upset by them other than to shake their collective heads at how much their hubby drank. The whole point of it is to have one last blowout with your best guy friends and create memories you can look back on and say "YES, that was AWESOME".
And the weekend thing is really common, most people I know go away to Vegas for the weekend, generally the weekend before the wedding. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 2:13:23 PM | There is another bad side to strippers and bachelor parties.
I have been to strip clubs before and seen the cheeseball DJ call the bachelor in a bachelor party up on stage where two strippers tied him up to the pole, then tore his clothes, marked all over his face with a permanent marker and then whipped him very hard with his own belt, while the DJ made condescending remarks and everybody else laughed.
It was very disturbing to watch as they humiliated and assaulted the guy up on stage. It seemed criminal. It was like these strippers were getting revenge for who ever abused her and the crowd was lusting off some poor shmuck being thrown to the lions.
I would hate to see that happen to a friend or anybody. | |
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| bucks nights and strippers
Posted: 5/12/2008 2:42:56 PM | That's sure a creepy story, sard, though I'd guess the groom's friends planned his torture. The guy's getting married, after all, and a strip club wouldn't want to alienate a potential regular.
Anyway, you forgot to tell us why you were there. The salad bar?
Cheers!
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| bucks nights and strippers
Posted: 5/12/2008 2:50:15 PM | | Wow sardonis; that's pretty crazy; I think some of my friends would like a bachelor party every weekend! | |
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| bucks nights and strippers
Posted: 6/15/2008 11:49:05 PM | | Im not really inteo there being stripers at bux partys, but if there is one i just skip that bit of it, im not into girls having to do that for money even if they like it. If they were related to me, i wouldnt be into them having that job, so why should it be different if they arent. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2008 11:55:20 PM | | I've always held the otion that those things and stags/bachelor/bachelorrette pary are a total waste of time and everything else, and serves NO purpose whatsoever....i dont even know why people still indugle in those idiotic events..pff | |
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| bucks nights and strippers
Posted: 6/15/2008 11:59:44 PM |
All this crap should have been out of his system the day he proposed to her.
EXACTLY!! Why cant the person who is getting married to the groom/bride realise that if someone they are about to get married to does something like that..it means they dont give a shit about them?..obviously if they feel the need to still indulge in "escapades" then it obviously means that they dont care about the person they are getting married to.. | |
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| bucks nights and strippers
Posted: 6/16/2008 12:01:10 AM | WEEEELLLL, I would trust my fiance. I mean, hes going to be staring at my body the rest of his life...
Why not give him one last go at looking at others. I'd pay for his strippers, cause I know I would be the one reeping the benifits of the excitment he saw.
I however wouldnt be cool with a three day party. Seems a lil excessive to me. | |
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| bucks nights and strippers
Posted: 6/16/2008 12:03:07 AM |
I've never understood that stuff...Why would anyone want to engage in that kind of thing as part of getting married to someone they are suppose to be in love with,men or women?
yup..same here..i'm really trying my best to understand it, and why people who claim they love their wife/husband to be, still engage in those activities..baffles me really
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| bucks nights and strippers
Posted: 6/16/2008 12:07:07 AM |
She is very stupid to stay with this guy
exactly..i dont even know why when stuff like this happens or if someone even brings up the idea, the other person still stays with that person, or still get married to them..personally if i was about to get married and my wife to be said she wanted to engage in a "bachelorette party" or have "one last escapade" or some silly sh*t like that..there is a 99% change i'd call off the wedding and break up with her.. | |
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| bucks nights and strippers
Posted: 6/16/2008 12:25:38 AM |
If a grown man succumbs to peer pressure after having found the love of his life, to me, he's the same man who will step out on his wife when the going gets rough and, therefore, I would have been saved the trouble.
what makes you so sure you would have been able to save the trouble?..in case you didnt now, you cant always find out what went on at one of those parties..i agree with what you said, that if he is that type of person he will do it anyway, even if after they get married, but i'm just saying you can't always know what goes on at those events.. | |
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