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Posted: 4/27/2008 6:50:14 AM | Hey Scott!
Did you ask her out as in, "Wanna go out?" or did you take my advice and just ask if she wanted to hang out while you did such and such??
If you've asked her "out" like I think you have. It's time to back off and show her you're less interested for a bit. Give her some time to "miss" you and she'll jump back on and offer a time to meet up... just watch. You'll see... | |
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Posted: 4/27/2008 7:06:15 AM | Yeah i didnt mean for it to sound like that but i think she took it that way . . i was thinking that man . . just back off and let her chase me a little!! . . Was talking to her this morning and then she said she was wrecked from last night ( she was at 21st came came home at 8 LOL ) anyway she said she would text me later so . . i think was i should do is make her text first . . You mean it in that way man??
...... I can still change it man we didnt decide on what we are doing i can say i need to get a few t-shirts for my holidays which i do and just ask her to come with??? | |
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Posted: 4/27/2008 7:15:48 AM | Yea, just back off. Wait longer to respond to her texts, or whatever. Treat it like you're not interested so much... she'll catch the vibe. It's not "game" play, alright. This is what you should naturally be doing anyway... give her the space she's non-verbally asking for, ya know?
Just stop pushing. Bounce back a bit. And be prepared that she may walk away... no biggie. Be a man about it. That's about all you can do. And always play to her signals that way... give her *more* slack when she slacks towards you.
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I can still change it man we didnt decide on what we are doing i can say i need to get a few t-shirts for my holidays which i do and just ask her to come with???
No. Don't attempt to change it. If she rolls back to you, and makes the offer herself, then you can ask her to hang out and get those t-shirts. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2008 7:29:21 AM | | I will ive had girls walk away before no big deal lol just gotta move on take it on the chin . . . but yeah i get ya man ill do that take a lil longer on the replying and all see how that pans out thanks man . . HOPEFULLY she wont bounce . . cause shes awesome lol | |
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Posted: 4/27/2008 7:39:47 AM | Yeah... I can tell she's awesome. She's important to you... hope it works out for ya both.
And come back here and let us know how it goes, bud... good luck! | |
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Posted: 4/27/2008 7:40:55 AM | She actually met a guy on this site . . but he was just after sex so she got rid of him . . but i was trying to get info on how long he was talking to her before he asked her out . . she said she falls for ppl easy so i hope she falls for me cause shes deadly to talk to and all
And i will ill update you on it man ya can bank on that . . since ya gave me some good advice | |
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Posted: 4/27/2008 7:53:07 AM |
She actually met a guy on this site . . but he was just after sex so she got rid of him . . but i was trying to get info on how long he was talking to her before he asked her out . . she said she falls for ppl easy so i hope she falls for me cause shes deadly to talk to and all
Eh OP... two different things here.... If you want to meet her, just ask her to meet with you. Something innocent like a coffee. You could say something like. Its great txting/talking to you on the phone. Would you like to meet for a coffee? Or something on these lines. It would be cool somewhere in public where she feels safe.
If you just want sex, forget her. She is saying that she wants to take her time. Go with the flow and take cues about this from her. Do not even mention sex on the first... second... date, as she will probably run..... Enjoy her company at first, she will let you know when you can broach the subject... but you will need to understand the signs.
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Posted: 4/27/2008 8:20:42 AM |
But refer back to my question above this Comment please ^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Am i just reading too much into this whole thing . . should i just go with the flow since ive already asked her out?? . . should i just sit back and let her come to me now???
OK, at the risk of sounding like an idiot.... YES, just relax and allow things to happen.
Girls like to be chased, but they also like a confident guy that they think they can't have.
So you chased, she backed away, now cut it out.
Play it kewl and allow her to think she can't have you. *gawd, I can't believe I'm typing this
shit....
To keep up the annoyance of "I'm here! Pick me!" would be a complete turn off. Act as if
you don't care.
*lightning is gonna strike me dead, I just know it..... | |
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Posted: 4/27/2008 9:41:32 AM | haha ok im doing all that has been said above ^^ haha and i shall keep ya's posted . . thanks for all the input . .
Ill just go with the flow and hopefully its goes the way i want it to go
And im not after sex . . i dont think about that when i think of her . . im not just goin to bed her then leave . . i not that type of guy | |
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Posted: 4/27/2008 7:57:38 PM | My 2 cents:
If some girl equivocates on a date -- like what appears to have happened here, or she says "I can't confirm until later in the week", whatever -- just respond "okay, forget about it -- call me when you know you can commit to something" or something to that effect. I like to say this because it puts the ball in her court and cuts out the BS:
The next time she texts/calls you ignore her unless she proposes something -- 'cos if she doesn't then you know she's just stringing you along.
If you do want to respond, then you can tell her "why are you still talking to me?".. because you've already laid the groundwork. If she's not into you, she'll feel stupid for wasting your time. If she's into you, she'll make something happen.
But the way you've handled it, you don't know where anything sits and you can go through this whole routine next month when she comes calling. Don't let this happen. I would take what she says with a mound of salt -- action is the only thing you care about.
Personally, I'd dump her. I think she's wasting your time wholesale. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2008 8:26:10 PM | | I think you need to ask her out already. It's just coffee or lunch or dinner, what's the harm in that? If she has issues with that one then I would move on. | |
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Posted: 4/28/2008 11:13:28 AM | I have asked her out lol . . and didnt get a 100% yes or a no for that a matter . .
I have started not to think about her and its working but The thing thats throwin me off is last night she said im always here for you no matter what and i really mean it i do . . those are her exact words then when we stopped talking to sleep lol i noticed i had an Email from about an hour before i came online . . all the email consisted of was . . x x x x x x . . like i guessed that means something good right lol if im wrong then i dont know anything lol | |
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Posted: 4/28/2008 12:39:37 PM | | Sounds like she thinks of you as a friend. I wouldn't talk to her again unless a) she asks you out or b) you want her only as a friend. | |
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Posted: 4/28/2008 12:48:09 PM | OK thanks guys . . . .
Bit of a Bummer alright but the majority of you think i should say goodbye  er
but what can i do if she dont like me i cant changer her mind thanks guy  | |
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Posted: 4/28/2008 3:12:53 PM | ALL IS WELL THANKS GUYS BUT ALL IS GOOD LOL  | |
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Posted: 4/29/2008 9:08:07 AM | ^^^Try to settle down dude. You know better than to act like the "YaY" Guy ( ) right?
Be cool... like a big, laid back, calm dog. Relax - you've got it together.. and big, cool, calm dogs are playful.
If you mess this up, I'm gonna come visit Dublin and put a *thump* to your head! Got it? | |
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Posted: 4/29/2008 9:25:34 AM | Hmmm if she has a profile on this site, do you think that she might be reading this forum as we speak?
Man, if she is, the fallout could be deadly DOH...... | |
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Posted: 4/29/2008 1:37:26 PM | NO i know man i dont wanna lose this girl i have had long relationships before so i am calm . . shes no way in hell a fling man dont worry im not the yeah guy . . im calm and cool man you dont have to pound me lol . . .
No we met on this then she deleted her account so its ok . . ( hows my grammar  )
Right well i guess theres no need in this conversation continuing . . Thanks for all ya help tty's in other threads. | |
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