| Squirting...can this be learned?
Posted: 11/16/2008 10:13:57 AM | I'm 43 y/o and only began to squirt over the last 2 years. Never did before ever. I contribute this pleasant discovery with being more confident and comfortable in my body along with having a caring, patient and encouraging lover who loved it. Also, exercing the pc muscle is no joke.  | |
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| Squirting...can this be learned?
Posted: 11/16/2008 10:28:50 AM | A womans ability to squirt has nothing to do with age, experience, or being with the correct partner. Most women don't discover this ability till they're between 25 and 40 years old; and others like myself discovered it in their early teens. I have often said, it's simply allowing yourself to let go.
Our bodies naturally produce "cum" from our Bartholins glands, but squirting or "female ejaculation" comes from our kidneys of all places. Often, the sensation of having to urinate happens, but really you're not going to. Squirting typically only occurs from penetration and stimulation to the G-Spot (it's about 2to 4 inches into the vagina on the upper wall; it feels like a thick smooth surface of skin), it doesn't have to be during sex, but can be during foreplay. For some women this is all it takes is stimulation to the g-spot, and then other women have to have dual stimulation to their clit at the same time (it can vary per woman from a light stimulation to a heavy stimulation).
Today we now know that the difference between women who squirt and those that don't is in the number and size of their pariurethral glands, which are very similar to the males prostate glands. It has been said in the past that the ability to squirt is a genetic function. Typically if your mother can do it, so can you. This fluid comes from your urethra JUST like a man's. Often some women who have bladder disorders or take medications like Lasix, find small amounts of urine still in the female ejaculate: but typically it doesn't happen, because just like in men, the valves have been switched.
I would recommend if you want to have a g-spot orgasm which is basically what squirting is; during oral, have your boyfriend or partner finger you with one to two fingers (whatever works best for you). Make sure they stroke the upper wall of your vagina, while doing this. It shouldn't take very long between 10 and 20 minutes for your to have a g-spot orgasm. If you want to further the process, use your fingers or a small vibrator to stimulate your clit; as this will enhance the g-spot orgasm...
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| Squirting...can this be learned?
Posted: 11/16/2008 12:58:43 PM |
Typically if your mother can do it, so can you
Ahhh Jaysus, dont be saying things like that...... i dont even wanna think of me Ma kissing a man, let alone squirting!!
I can just imagine the conversation........."Ma.......do you know when you have sex.......and when your man is licking your ****......am i peeing on him"??
No darling i do it all the time.....its just squirting!!
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| Squirting...can this be learned?
Posted: 11/16/2008 1:04:51 PM | HAHAH
To each their own... me and my mother talk about everything from sex to recipes... She knows 90 percent of my sex life, some parts I've kept out just so itdoesn't worry her, but I know her entire sex life... Sadly some things, I wish I didn't know... Yet it is true, it's a genetic trait... | |
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| Squirting...can this be learned?
Posted: 11/16/2008 2:28:59 PM | i don't know if i can be learned....it is definately an art....i've been doing it for awhile....guys go crazy | |
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| Squirting...can this be learned?
Posted: 11/16/2008 4:23:10 PM | | It's an orgasm... It's NOT urine. Since we obviously don't have the same glands or parts men do, it goes through our bladder (but like through a sep. valve almost). It is definitely not pee. Everyone knows what pee smells like. Female ejaculation should have a clover smell to it, if you "collected" it in a cup or something, it would have a milky color to it versus a yellowish tint like urine... Squirting is NOT pee! The urge to have a "g-spot" orgasm does feel similar to the urge to urinate, but it isn't. I think that's why it's so hard for some women to do it, because they fear they're going to pee on the guy. Also, some men think it's pee at first, especially if they're not used to it... | |
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| Squirting...can this be learned?
Posted: 11/18/2008 12:23:02 AM | I agree but if a mom told her daughter that all is ok I might have enjoyed a free from inhibition squirter by now | |
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| Squirting...can this be learned?
Posted: 11/19/2008 12:03:21 AM | One of the great things about a site like this and LITEROTICA is that BOTH men and women can read about stuff they mamma neva toll d'em 'bout. Point being that few ever perfect a good series of GSpot techniques because there is really so little good info out there. Some people will argue against and cut up those who are posting testimonials or sharing techniques simply because there doesn't seem to be any documented "proof" published by Phd and known sex researchers. Fine. Ignorance is ... ignorance.
Couples - men AND women who come here and read can not only learn how (and why) but they can also be forewarned of possibilities of the SQUIRT. It CAN be a tad intimidating for a guy who is doing a fine job and all of a sudden there is a gush of fluid. If he doesn't know any better most guys will assume the wurst ( ) but if they've read these threads then they'll know it is an often natural end to a long buildup (foreplay) and PROPER GSpot stimulation. Believe me there is no end of tragic tales of woe where a guys has been doing "something" to a woman and she finally squirts, he gets grossed out assuming it's urine and walks out of an otherwise blossoming relationship because he thinks she can't control her bladder.
As one poster above described, there seems to be a a very strong correlation between the length of time spent of foreplay and stimulation of the GSpot area AND the possibility / probability of squirting. If you enjoy some quick to arrive G-Gasms the chances of squirting are reduced. Keep her squirming for an hour and watch out - make sure the rubber sheets and the beach towels are positioned properly. One interview with the famous Cytheria (Squirt "Queeen" ) confirms that too. She says that for one of her famous "fire hose" scenes (Southern California NEEEDS her now - where is she when we need her???) she plays with herself for 6 or 8 HOURS and even though many of her movies show her doing this over and over and over again, she says it takes her a loooong time to get back to that pressure level again.
So live and learn and mainly don't be shocked at some of the really NEAT things we can teach our bodies to do. Be AMAZED. Do your own "research" and SHARE the knowledge. It's a blast.
http://forum.literotica.com:81/showthread.php?t=70892 | |
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| Squirting...can this be learned?
Posted: 11/26/2008 9:00:31 PM | This is not a genetic trait people. Every woman has the same glands in the same spots and every woman can....let me repeat ..CAN have a vaginal ejaculation. What keeps a female from EVER experiencing it is not being told the truth about what your body is capable of feeling. Natural squirters are below 10% of the total female population. WHY??? One is no one will tell you these things can be done, then your friends(because most all parents will not tell their daughter very much about sex) don't know what is possible, so how can you ever learn what your body can feel. The next problem is most males do not look at sex as a gift from both parties involved. Yes pu**y is good(never had bad sex) but the gift a female has to offer is as important as the gift of a man that knows how to pleasure her ,not just please her, but to take her to a level she has never known before. Not only that but also the man must enjoy making her have orgasms one right behind the other. Now this is for all guys to read this one thought.
### A man MUST give MORE to receive MORE. ####
Read that until it clicks inside the mind then you will understand. NOW for you women here is a secret from the guys mind that no one has ever told you.
#### WE men want you to LOOK good for US! Keep your weight under control not be starved but nice shape, wear some make up to bed once in a while(its for US) but again it is the males fault of a lot of failed marriages.
This is for all of you.
Women have thoughts and fantasies that most men would blush over(and you thought we were the only ones that had some kinky sex thoughts) a woman wants to feel these things....she wants to feel like a queen, a princess, a woman, a lady, a slut, a whore, role playing sex fantasies. So guys every thing I have written is to be used with respect. Respect yourself but respect your woman a lot so she can unless that animal she keeps hidden from YOU. She is scared of the name calling most guys do to the female...it is called becoming a selfless lover (unselfish lover...duh)...masterful lover....a MAN!!! | |
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| Squirting...can this be learned?
Posted: 11/27/2008 12:19:13 AM | Dunno about learned but I thought it as a Playboy letters bulldust ting until I experienced it at 38 with a 43 year old woman. I have had several impromptu showers with older women since then and no it is not urine. It is slightly salty and milky looking and a real turn on.
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| Squirting...can this be learned?
Posted: 11/27/2008 4:34:15 AM | There is no reason in the world you should be forced to learn it...but, it should be obvious to you that not EVERYONE else feels the same way you do about it.
You're even entitled to believe it's disgusting. However, I suggest you be sure to know whether a woman with whom you may become intimate sometime, is or is not a squirter, because there are times it cannot be controlled and it would be a shame if such a phenomenon were wasted on you.
Just my thoughts,
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Posted: 11/30/2008 11:56:08 AM | I so agree...........while the G spot orgasm is incredible....and he can keep you there by holding back when u are almost ready.
But to get you there in the first few minutes...well yes.......you do miss out on all the other good spots that can get you much more ready and exicted for that "O" spot experience........
Which by the way girls..can indeed be achieved by all women since we are all equipped the same way....
Couple things..a man who knows what he is doing....and the know how of what to do when your body is ready to release this wonderful liquid..
you can email me girls if you want to know how.
If you have had a child it is easier to understand how to let it all go and when the time is right to
But you have to have your man know what he is doing and looking for....
Every woman needs to experience it at least one...
Not all men like I don't think.but.ya know takes all kinds...
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Posted: 11/30/2008 3:23:56 PM | DAMN, some posts just attract nutbars like bugs to brown stuff....
but squirting or "female ejaculation" comes from our kidneys of all places.
WHERE did you get that info??
a g-spot orgasm which is basically what squirting is....
Again, complete CRAP. Some women can G-Gasm 100 times a night and never drown the cat, soak the drapes or flood the basement. Some (some) women squirt or gush and NEVER orgasm. Together, they are "unique" but one is NOT the other or vice versa.
It shouldn't take very long between 10 and 20 minutes for your to have a g-spot orgasm.
A woman who has NEVER had a GSPOT orgasm may take a few minutes to get there if her partner knows where it is and WHAT TO DO. A woman who has been having GSpot orgasms or G-Gasms for awhile will typically take 2 MINUTES from a cold start and a LOT less if she is really turned on.
.... it goes through our bladder (but like through a sep. valve almost). It is definitely not pee.
NO NO NO - it doesn't come out through the bladder andf there is NO SEPARATE VALVE !!! The Skeene glands are along the urethra BELOW the bladder. THE most modern research indicates that as a woman is turned on the Skeene glands begin to fill. During some types of orgasms they empty. Depending on the woman, physiology, the length of time being turned on - a whole bunch of factors - SOME women will gush or even squirt. Krissi, WHAT the hellareyour sources for this nonsense??
IMHO it is IDIOTIC to be obsessed with this though. If the woman is experiencing good orgasms WHY try so hard to make a huge mess at the same time?? If it happens fine but once started it is very hard to stop doing it. It's not disgusting but it IS messy. Why try and achieve something that will severely limit your spontaneous sex forever??
you can email me girls if you want to know how.
WTF is it with this "email and I'll tell you how." What's wrong with friikkin SHARING on a site like this. "'Email me"' sounds so "" Want a jelly bean little boy?"" from some dude in the park wearing a trench coat. CREEPY!!
SHARE ... http://forum.literotica.com:81/showthread.php?t=70892
Every woman needs to experience it at least one
Did you mean ONCE or one squirt? Whatever. What a FEW of us posting in this thread and my thread on Literotica are TRYING to do is inform those who have never discovered this for themselves. It is an AWESOME addition to you regular lovemaking. It works for almost all women. It sometimes involves squirting and sometimes it does not. MY point in this is it isn't a hit or miss "let's try this once" kind of thing. It is SO good it should be incorporated nightly. You won't want to do a marathon (20, 50, 100+ G-gasms in an evening - just WAAAY too exhausting for a normal week night) with this nightly but that type of orgasm should be as much a part of your love lives as clitoral orgasms. READ the Technique and LEARN from the other posts what needs to be done to get there. 2 minutes and she's firing like the canons on the 4th of July!!! This should NOT be a big mystery. Obviously from all the BS and false statements and info it is a mystery still to most (?) on here. Point is it shouldn't be. | |
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Posted: 12/11/2008 4:30:42 PM | Recently with practise I've been going for longer periods of time before cumming. The longest so far is around 2 hours. I feel like my body is in a hot tub with the jets on when he's rubbing on my clit and g-spot in perfect unison. It's amazing what he can do with a little warm KY and latex gloves. After I've ejaculated and started to come down from the high feelings that are pulsating through my thighs he takes the washcloth and lovingly removes the excess KY from the bottom of my lips up to the top of my kitty. Sometimes I have an orgasm just from the slow and sensual wipe.
I did have to put a plastic liner over my mattress from the excessive cumming that I've been gloriously happy to let go of. no cumplaints here... :-)
Usually I'll ask him to take care of me before bed at night so I can get a deeper sleep. He says that I purr like a cat afterwards when I either pass out from the pleasure or during my actual sleep.
What's nice about him is that he lives close by.
I live in the Lamorinda area and he lives near the Chronicle Pavillion.
and finally his name on pof used to be Sunergy but now he's named after a Greek God....
happy fishing for him....he's so fuccking phenomenal with his hands. mmm goood
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Posted: 12/13/2008 7:53:58 PM | WHERE you live is relevant to this thread ... how? and besides there are people reading this from Toronto to Christchurch, from Berlin to Macau - I'm sure they all know where lamorinda is BUT I DON'T!!!
I live in the Lamorinda area and he lives near the Chronicle Pavillion.
Back on topic .... does the amount you expel depend on the build-up as in foreplay or the number of times you orgasm? Or does it vary?
So HOW FAR is lamorinda from this pavillion place? Would his hands be dry by the time he gets home?
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Posted: 12/14/2008 2:43:19 AM | WoW to this thread,!!!
IM kind of a goodie two shoes, Ive never posted on the forums, and never entered this area lol. Guess i was feeling a bit curious tonight. Anyways .. thx for the posters on the first page who gave details on reaching this point lol.
I had to go try this for myself.. umm.. by myself of course lol and Low and behold! IT fooking worked. IM one happy female heheheheheh
YAY FOR POF forums who just brought new life to my little world of sex hahhahahah | |
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| Squirting...can this be learned?
Posted: 12/14/2008 6:32:42 PM | | Why would you want to learn something that's going to create a mess like that? If it comes naturally then so be it, but forcing something like that (if that's even possible) won't make you feel any better sexually. | |
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| Squirting...can this be learned?
Posted: 12/14/2008 8:12:17 PM | holeinthewall said :
thats disgusting. why would you want to learn that
cw35 said:
Why would you want to learn something that's going to create a mess like that? If it comes naturally then so be it, but forcing something like that (if that's even possible) won't make you feel any better sexually.
WTF?.......When a man ejaculates...isn't that a pretty big mess? I don't get it! ....Its ok for the men..but not us women....If men were not allowed to cum because their partner thought it was too messy - would you still want to have sex? To me, I'd consider the man to be a selfish lover if he's allowed to cum but I'm not. Where the levels fluctuate (just like a man), its not always a HUGE mess. Sometimes its even a gush and not a squirt...sometimes its a small puddle and sometimes its a pond. I think the body's hydration level plays a part...as I've notice that during the summer when I'm sweating a lot mowing the lawn, that the levels can be less than during other times. Of course, I could be wrong on that too...but that's how it is for me. It depends on the man, the connection with said man & if there's an awesome sexual attraction, it doesn't take as long. A lot of it is mental...as in my story down below.
It is an incredible feeling - as I've posted several times. To deny a woman the ability of another form of orgasm because its messy is just selfish-IMHO.
The ex bf kind of freaked the first time....and didn't really care to experience it. It led me to 'milking' myself before we'd get together...just to decrease the amount of fluid and frequency....I mean...what kind of fun is that--that I have to take of my needs before being intimate with him...when I should have been doing it with him?
Then there were times it caught us by surprise. He dealt with it....The funny thing is, I still talk with him and he said he actually misses that. He had never experienced it before, nor has he since (he's 50)...but then he's a selfish lover....so its no surprise he had never been with someone else that could do it.
There was one time where I hadn't seen him for a few weeks due to a business trip. He walked in the door-we started kissing--2 mins later I'm naked, bent over the table and with the first stroke of his fingers, it was all over the floor. It surprised both of us....because I had 'taken care of myself' several times while he'd been away.
Typically if your mother can do it, so can you
My mother & I talk about a lot of things...but to my knowledge, she had never experienced this......but then...she didn't believe in oral sex either...so I'm not sure how adverturous she was. I know I've talked to lots of my gfs when it started with me, and only one of them knew what I was talking aobut-kind of sad because my two nurse friends still haven't experienced it - neither had my female OB-GYN-as I had asked her about it and she had NO clue what I was talking about. My younger sister keeps trying with her husband...but no luck so far....I think more people hear about it now because back in my parent's day, nobody would talk about stuff like that or pass on that knowledge to their children. Kind of like asking advise about giving bj's from your Mom...not going to happen
It does seem to happen for the first time to women who are in their late 30's or even 40's (as with me) or so it seems with all of the women writing in about their first time when they were in their 40's. I had wondered if it had to do with a thinning of the vaginal wall (due to hormone levels) and it being easier to stimulate it. I'm probably way off base because I do know that younger women experience it but it seems its mostly reserved for more 'mature' women.
Its not impossible to find on your own and its definitely worth finding! It does help if your partner knows where it is so he can show you. But once its found, its easy to replicate by one's self. Just wish this thread had been around 20 yrs ago! I find the toys with the bent tips work the best - for me. It may take a while for a woman to find on her own for the first time but its certainly possible.
I've only experienced it twice during intercourse. Had my bf been more accepting of it, it might have happened more often.
### A man MUST give MORE to receive MORE. ####
dang totemspirit.........I couldn't agree more!
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| Squirting...can this be learned?
Posted: 12/14/2008 8:27:27 PM | | Absolutely it can be learned..........its learning what spots do it for you. I have not done it with a man YET, but because I have had to explore and pleasure myself in the last two years I have learned a ton of things about myself. | |
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| Squirting...can this be learned?
Posted: 12/14/2008 8:31:16 PM | Maybe not quite so vehement as you on the subject but I tend to agree with the premise.
Why would you want to learn something that's going to create a mess like that? If it comes naturally then so be it, but forcing something like that (if that's even possible) won't make you feel any better sexually.
From almost ALL the feedback on the TRY THIS thread on Lit and many posts here it seems that the vast majority of women do NOT find that squirting before during or after ANY type of orgasm does ANYTHING to enhance the orgasm. It produces a unique feeling of release but it does NOT produce the ultimate orgasm by any means.
As you said, if it comes (cums) naturally hey , enjoy. Learn to live with it and take all necessary precautions (scuba tanks at the ready etc) but if she doesn't do this it might be a GOOD idea to know what you're wishing for before perfecting it. Don't say I didn't warn you.
The MYTH that to CUM "properly" a woman has to ejaculate persists and many can't wait to try try try again until it happens for them. Sadly most of my emails these days are asking ""HOW DO I STOP?"" Once a woman does this a few times it is very hard to hold it off and it effectively terminates any kind of spontaneous sex outside a venue where you can cover furniture, carpeting, drapes, pets etc etc with large towels and rubber sheets.
My "research" indicates that G-Gasms that happen fast and keep going do NOT produce a lot of fluid usually. The more turned on a woman is to start and the longer foreplay lasts the more the Skeene glands fill with fluid. If you have the muscle contractions of multiple orgasmic events before they fill then she may be able to cum 30 or 50 times and NOT drown most of the neighborhood cats. SPend a lot of time in the buildup and she becomes an "ambulatory water resource." | |
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| Squirting...can this be learned?
Posted: 12/14/2008 9:07:14 PM | I've been most honored to know two women in their 50's who've taught themselves and been proud to show off their new gift.
Years ago in grad school human sexuality class female ejaculation was documented at a medical level.
It happens to many women naturally...they used to call it "gushing."
Liberator.com has a line of fancy waterproof sheets, and some demonstration videos.
Its a beautiful thing to watch, a joy to behold. The ladies who taught themselves report intense pleasure and great pride.
Happy, happy, happy. | |
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