| where to find decent men
Posted: 4/28/2008 4:54:29 PM | | You would be shocked to know what I really find attractive in a woman. | |
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 4/28/2008 7:08:44 PM | Yipes! Ok the men say the decent men are around and looking,,,,ummm point exactly for us girls who are not seeing you? I love being single but want a mate, a companion. I am a good hearted, decent, kind person but so far I am having men hit on me that want quick hit and run sex. Doesn't anyone want to build a friendship first so it can last?
Hugs to everyone. | |
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 4/28/2008 7:20:01 PM | Gee bratydream, I'd be sorta thrilled if I got that type of attention - unfortunately, I'm apparently invisible! 
Yes, CC Lapew, do tell us what you're attracted to?
Debbie
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 4/28/2008 9:06:55 PM | What's decent? Most decent men are the same place as decent women - with a significant other. What are you looking for?
Guy's guy
The gym & sporting events
Healthy guy
The gym & health food store
Financially stable
Golf & upscale charities
And, as been stated, just because you've not had luck in other places, doesn't mean they're not there. Quality men, who are single, straight, have a mutual attraction, and are actually a good fit - well, that's a lot of things to have in combination... be patient. | |
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 4/28/2008 9:19:05 PM | | I think when you're truly ready to date, you'll find that great men are everywhere. They are all around you. They always were, but maybe you never noticed them before. | |
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 4/28/2008 9:22:55 PM | I feel that activity based things like hiking clubs or whatever you are into are pretty good.
But, I have to agree with some of the other posts, most single girls go for the "smooth" guys with that risk of danger......that`s why they are single. | |
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 4/28/2008 9:24:31 PM | Actually its all in your profile,
Your attracted to free independant spirited men and normally at your age settling down and not being free is not their agenda, its not you and its probaly not them either
Free spirits on a mission are normally alone for sometime in life and apart from the odd ship in the night are alone untill the rare chance of meeting a fellow free spirit jsut happens to be on the same course in life as yourself.....
Its not you and its not the men either, it will happen eventually and will be well worth waiting for..... | |
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 4/28/2008 9:38:20 PM |
Doesn't anyone want to build a friendship first so it can last?
Yes, we do. But, as I said before, just because they are not hitting on you, does not mean they are not there. | |
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 4/29/2008 11:47:01 AM | | When I belonged to the Sierra Club I noticed that it was full of decent males - generally liberal, healthy, stable. Any woman could join the Sierra Club, and maybe go on hikes. No better way to get to know people than climbing a mountain with them. | |
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| where to find decent lady
Posted: 4/29/2008 12:27:35 PM | ok some one tell me why the ladys on here are such time wasters a never show up to a date ??
and why the ladys who do have some ODD personalaty problems ? | |
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Posted: 4/29/2008 12:45:28 PM | I read the title "Where to find a decent man" and I read through all the posts thinking that somebody actually KNEW where to find a decent man. 
It's sort of comforting to know that nobody else knows either.
On the other hand, it's not just a "decent" man we want, is it ladies? I know I personally expect a guy to read my mind, anticipate my every need, fill in all the holes left in my soul, love my rotten little dogs and .....let me see...what did I leave out? Oh yes, he has to be a great lover. Poor fellow has to go at it all night. Night after night. Then he has to get up and go to work in the morning. Work has to be a job where he can keep me in the style to which I'd like to be accustomed.
Why is it I can never find anybody like that?  | |
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 4/29/2008 12:55:35 PM | Where to find a decent man? A grave yard!
Gay bars aren't good, those men are already taken.
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Posted: 4/29/2008 1:11:38 PM | The unspoken qualifier is 'decent man who is also...'
Reading through the profiles of some women is a hoot. They have 'must have' lists like they are shopping for a house. It becomes even more amusing when you look at what they are offering back.
Time to bust out the Voltaire:
"The perfect is the enemy of the good."
Stop trying to get the same 20% of the population all your sisters are chasing after. Look at the other 30-40% thats not too bad to look at and would even be a good provider, but not necessarily a good 'playmate'.
And read this.
http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200803/single-marry | |
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 4/29/2008 1:16:21 PM | Umm excuse me....the only requirement that I have is that they are not emailing me from prison....they don't live with mommy ....and oh yeah....a pulse :) haha
Some of us really aren't that picky, we just want "good" guys, that's it :) | |
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Posted: 4/29/2008 2:08:00 PM | Truth is, they are everywhere - but if you don't look around you and make contact with men you have interest in, you probably won't meet them. You'll only keep meeting the more forward men who approach you but for the most part can turn out to be jerks.
Talking to men who approach you AND approaching men you like gives you a double advantage and ups your numbers. And the bar or club is just one of many places men are...the ones you talk to first are usually the nicer, quieter, more humble ones.
Next time you are anywhere men might go, take in your surroundings - they're usually right under your nose...
Women tend to blindly run errands, go to the gym, shop, get gas, etc without REALLY looking around. | |
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 4/29/2008 2:09:04 PM | Okay by decent I think she means....what most women I know and talk to really want:
Well Mannered
Educated
Employed
Nicely Groomed
Attractive (to whoever is doing the choosing)
and last but not least the Big One.....
SINGLE!
Not a lot to ask for really, think about it guys, is it?
The problem is most of these guys are already taken.
Especially once you hit 40.
However sometimes we just don't see you out there.
We both are too busy working and reading and biking or taking care of business to notice each other.
But we are here, all of us in this huge sea...two ships passing in the night unaware the other exists. | |
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 4/29/2008 2:36:12 PM | This is my first time posting on a forum ...So I hope I am doing this correctly, especially since I kind of have a spin off question to the existing forum ....
I agree with sexytanish..It is very hard to find a decent man....Especially if you are not into the bar/ club scene.... I very rarely go out to those scenes because ( I know it was mentioned before.... suprisingly by a man ...) Unfortuately the men that you do meet at the bar/club are just looking for one thing.....and most girls are not looking to just get laid..or be used .... deep down we all would like to find that deeper connection....Not be used ...
Now for the spin off.... I know that there are alot of Good Girls out there... Good Girls that have good morals and values, may even be Christians like myself ... (not that should necessarily determine what a Good Girl is or should be....) I consider myself to be strong independant woman, I am active in my community, I try to walk by my faith......But why don't men want the Good Girls? | |
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 4/29/2008 3:00:59 PM | | You just delete our messages and ignore us... You have probably came across alot of decent men, you just Ignored them and moved on. | |
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 4/29/2008 3:08:18 PM |
You have to live your life in vulnerability unless you want to live forever sheltered and hidden away from challenges in which case you may as well go into a convent.
I look like I could bench press a 1958 Chrysler. Nobody wants to run into ME in a dark alley. There's meeting challenges, and then there's being a dumbass with your own safety and wellbeing.
I don't DO vulnerable, and if finding a satisfying and longlasting romance means leaving myself open to being jerked around by gameplayers, sugarmamma hunters,con men, married men looking for a side dish, or men that are just generally WEINIES, then I'm going to be severely limited and IAM FINE with that.
Now, to the question posed..."where to find decent men"
First, understand that a large number of truly decent men are being held on to by smart wives. Ones that have wives but are still looking for girlfriends may not be decent men.( I'm going to stand by "MAY not" because there are decent married men in very extenuating circumstances...I don't recommend that course of action,but neither will I cast any stones)
Then, start thinking beyond the internet and the bars. Join interest clubs, get involved in your community,or a cause you care about. Do volunteer work. Take a class or learn a new hobby. check out Community Theater groups, music clubs/informal concerts/jam sessions.
I've recently met some very interesting/promising prospects through music interests and community involvement...more than that I don't want to say right now for fear of jinxing the thing!
Cindy O | |
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 4/29/2008 3:43:15 PM | U BETTY,
You are the first person that I know of that knows the 'Key'.
Next time you are anywhere men might go, take in your surroundings - they're usually right under your nose.
Women tend to blindly run errands, go to the gym, shop, get gas, etc without REALLY looking around.
Situational Awareness !!
When I am AnyWhere and there are ladies around, I am always giving smiles, and carefully checking them out and looking for a glance, or smile, or a looking me over, or anything that indicates interest of some type.
That happens so rarely, it's ridiculous. I don't mean just me, either. I notice women do not check out the men all around them. I study 'Human social psychology', so I do it just to learn, and then ponder, and ponder.
Ladies, Show a bit of awareness of the men and you will see him. | |
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 4/29/2008 3:51:12 PM | OP, any store that caters to Electronics and/or Home Improvement is a good start 
Seriously, what's your definition of decent?
Doesn't anyone want to build a friendship first so it can last?
Certainly. That seems to be tough to find though.
I consider myself to be strong independant woman, I am active in my community, I try to walk by my faith......But why don't men want the Good Girls?
As has been mentioned, a lot of the decent guys are being ignored by the individuals that they are trying to contact, who may or may not be decent girls. Well, if they were decent, they'd at least say they weren't interested.
But, no one on here is really looking to meet someone  | |
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 4/29/2008 4:27:30 PM |
Okay by decent I think she means....what most women I know and talk to really want:
Well Mannered
Educated
Employed
Nicely Groomed
Attractive (to whoever is doing the choosing)
and last but not least the Big One.....
SINGLE!
You forgot one thing, and it's a big one:
Interested in You
I'm not trying to be mean or anything, but isn't it true? Don't you women who are looking for Decent Men also want those men to be interested in you? Otherwise, what good are they, right?
And, I think that is the crux of the matter. I know I can find several terrific women, each of whom would be very appropriate for me. They just aren't interested in me. | |
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