| where to find decent men
Posted: 5/27/2008 2:13:44 AM | Well, there are alot of men around, its just most women are too picky.
Most of the time 'decent men' or 'sweet and nice men' roughly translates into 'hot and sexy men' 'hot and sexy men'
So, they might ask for nice men or sweet men or decent men, all they really want is someone to look good to show off.
Just going by past experience. | |
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 5/27/2008 2:17:14 AM | | When you found out let me know please! I haven't met one in years...:) | |
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 5/27/2008 4:25:23 AM | They are VERY easy to find........just look right next to the decent women.  | |
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 5/27/2008 6:07:48 AM |
Goodness only knows - men are so bitter and twisted these days three lines in a message will tell you enough to know that they dont want to even try to date.
Now sex - they will meet a woman for a sex session and keep coming back for as long as she offers.
Dating is dead.
From what I can work out:
She has to be the cutest woman walking the earth, she has to have a home and money and a good car, she has to be intelligent and funny and be available at the drop of a hat, and then maybe just maybe he might come over.
I laughed at that one, because LozHunter is obviously espousing *exactly* what she is complaining about in men. I mean, c'mon, "bitter and twisted" - sounds to me like it describes her post perfectly... and thats just what I want to date, a woman who thinks I'm evil incarnate before even meeting me! 
You reap what you sow. | |
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 5/27/2008 6:18:00 AM | I think we probably meet decent men all the time... but we don't get to know them for who they are. The guys that get our attention immediately are charming, witty and reel us in and very good at what they do -- because they've had practice... lots of it.
If the ones you've chosen have repeatedly disappointed you, maybe stop going after the same type. Look deeper than the first 20 minutes to decide if the person is worth getting to know. | |
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Posted: 5/27/2008 6:21:45 AM | | The simple fact is that women are not attracted to "decent" men. They aren't exciting enough. You can explain it using psychology or plain old science, but it has been proven time and again. Women will tell you different, but they are just lying to themselves. There is no shortage of decent men, just a shortage of women who are honestly interested in them. One lady author who is considered an expert in the field of relationships wrote "A nice guy is someone I would take home to meet my parents if I ever quit dating rock musicians". | |
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Posted: 5/27/2008 7:15:21 AM | Jamescnd
Thank for yet another excellent post. I read the two articles you posted in your previous post. Both are very interesting and eye opening.
I was pondering what it takes for two people to build a happy family. Again, I am observing from my family. i can sum it up in 1 words: Harmony. Without this basic element, I don’t think any relationship will last.
My definition of Harmony simply means two people compliment each other and when conflict arises the couple can compromise to find common ground.
You were right about the women who were dating the alpha males. If the alpha males were so good, then why didn’t the women seal the deal early? It very simple: their relationships didn’t have Harmony:
- he’s always out parties and she wants a normal life style but he can’t give it up,
- he is always drunk, she wants him to stop drink but he can’t give up drinking,
- he doesn’t have a job, she want him to support her, but he doesn’t compromise
- he abuses her, she is scared, but he wont stop.
- He cheats, she wants honesty/commitment, but he doesn’t compromise. | |
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 5/27/2008 7:21:44 AM | | I get honked at by old farmers with no teeth filling up their tractors at every gas station I go to. Maybe you should move to Missouri if you dont mind eatting deer and watching Nascar. | |
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 5/27/2008 7:40:01 AM | Try my workshop/home.
e-mail me for the directions
Nor is this long enough........
shame this message isnt as long as my manly bits! | |
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 5/27/2008 8:00:02 AM | have you heard the squeaky door gets the oil?
While everyone's attention is on the men who are making all the noise and making all the moves trying to look like someone they are not. There are plenty of men who simply couldn't do those things because it isn't in them. While women are looking for men to make the first move most men who would be considered nice simply couldn't make the first move. Perhaps they might appear to be a bit socially awkward or when you look at them they look away quickly but that doesn't mean they are incapable.
I bet given a chance and some time they will open up and be quite interactive. They may not have all the moves or be able to sweep you off your feet in the way you might be used to from the blokes who are trying to score and that is the point. You wouldn't want them to in the end. I couldn't be smooth if my life depended on it but then i haven't been practising that either.
You want to find a decent man you may have to just keep your eye's open because they are not conventional social types that go searching for someone. | |
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Posted: 5/27/2008 10:42:00 AM | Wal-Mart..??
SURE!!...'The Elves that fill the Shelves' are Great Guys..!! - ..and Gals!! - | |
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 5/27/2008 10:55:34 AM | They're all happily married, and are so decent that you can't even get them to cheat on their wives!
I always find it funny when someone has an affair with someone who then splits up with a long-term partner to be with them. Why would they want to be with someone who they know has no problem with cheating on his/her partner? Seems like genetic suicide to me. | |
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Posted: 5/27/2008 9:35:50 PM | "It takes a decent person to find a decent person, therein lies your problem." I read your comment here from 04-28-08 and my response to what you said here is that I am a decent woman, have NEVER cheated on a guy or on anything. I am faithful, sincere, hard-working, love life, have a variety of talents and am good at them. Plus I can cook, clean, sew, yes, sew, iron, repair things around the house, do minor car repairs, can handle my own finances and would love to find a man on whom I could lavish lots of love and attention. I hear all this talk on profiles here that men want to meet a good one man woman...and that's what my experiences here have been....men and all their "talk." I haven't met a good one woman man. The last guy lied about being divorced. I found out about him from his truck registration and a little searching.
So, explain to me why men I have contacted here, for example, have either been rude (not responding to introductory emails with any courtesy), OR have lied about themselves, and bamboozled me with their tall-tells to meet me and then turn out to be complete and total liars? That doesn't seem very decent to me. Even if I get emails from guys who I have nothing in common, I have the manners to respond with appreciation and good wishes. With you being a guy and you are here looking for whatever it is you are searching for, give me your opinion why I find the indecent guys while I search for decent ones? I would appreciate any constructive advice.
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 5/27/2008 9:39:36 PM | | (this question was directed to zerospazz, but I left off his profile name...sorry) | |
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 5/27/2008 9:50:42 PM | The men at Home Depot, workers as well as shoppers are usually "hot", and the workers always want to giving you that extra help | |
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Posted: 5/27/2008 11:25:48 PM | Ya know Msscarleto, It's been awhile since I posted here but it seems to me you have a lot of really good advice right here from a lot of other posters. Janet4ever from post 130, brilliant!! Whatsallthis, post 131, outstanding!!
Now if your actually going to take, "It takes a decent person to find a decent person" to heart then perhaps you need to look at what you have in common with those you don't like. Something that is hard for most of us to do, realize and change. As I said, what you do may not be so important as how you do it. | |
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Posted: 5/27/2008 11:29:28 PM |
Maybe you should move to Missouri if you dont mind eatting deer and watching Nascar.
Hey! I live in Missouri and I don't eat deer and watch Nascar. I just hit em with my Camaro...
Oh, so thats what happens to them....
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 5/28/2008 1:42:58 AM | | I have had good luck at sporting events like baseball games, but I do agree most of the guys Im attracted to are already married or they end up being gay lol. I dont have too much luck and most single guys my age just sleep with too many women or just want to party. So yea please tell me where to find a good one. If I had the money id move back to boston since apparently in fl they all marry at 18 lol. | |
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 5/28/2008 6:58:48 AM | In order to answer your question, I'll need to know what your definition of 'decent' is.
In some parts, a decent man is a man who will bring home some road kill so the kids won't starve, and in other places you can't be decent if you don't wear Hugo Boss. | |
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Posted: 5/28/2008 8:15:26 AM | | that guy below said walmart thats funny.look if you are a decent girl a decent man will find you just be patient. | |
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Posted: 5/28/2008 8:28:07 AM | | Decent men are all around. They may not stand out like the "bad boys" and they may not appear to be "hot". Many do have integrity, sincerity, community values, and the ability to love. Many decent women also don't stand out all that much, BTW. Decent men may not be bold and approach you - you may have to make the first move or at least give clear signals that you're interested. Many of both sexes do seem too good to be true (at first) - but many ARE true. And real. My SO calls them the "stealth hotties". She thought I was too good to be true, too, but she gave us a chance, and is still happily here more than 8 years later. Finding them may just take patience and a little more effort. | |
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 5/28/2008 8:34:54 AM | | HI I CAN BE FOUND ANYWHERE BUT ;; THE ONES I WANT ARE LOOKING AFTER MONEY - GOLD DIGGERS IT SEEMS EVERYONE SHOULD START BY REDOING CORRECT AGE PICTURES , MONLOGUE , WORKING ON THEMSELVES JOIN A HEALTH CLUB , THROW AWAY THE PACKAGED PROCESSED FOODS , AND THE LIST GOES ON N ON !! | |
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Posted: 5/28/2008 9:50:27 AM | I would say Best Buy lol geeks and nerds would decent guies i guess lol. I am only saying that cause I work there lol Whoot go Best Buy  | |
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Posted: 5/28/2008 10:22:23 AM | | I admit I used to just go by looks but clearly that doesnt make anyone decent. Usually it makes them more into themselves and an ass. Best buy seems a good idea. I love movies and music so that would work I guess. But like I said the good men my age in fl are married or gay so I guess im up shits creek hence why I online date. | |
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 5/28/2008 10:28:21 AM | Haven't you heard?
Men are pigs.
Therefore, it stands that there are no decent men. | |
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