| where to find decent men
Posted: 5/29/2008 5:52:04 PM |
I have a question ? where exactly are women supposed to meet decent men if not in
bars,clubs,internet,street or lounges......
I have no luck when it come to these places so im just wondering where is next place i should try. lol
Hahahaha... Oh gee, OP, if you find out, please, do tell! :-) | |
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zeeba
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Joined: 3/27/2008
Msg: 173 | |
| where to find decent men
Posted: 5/29/2008 7:39:13 PM |
How about your neighborhood home improvement store. Guys love to help women in need.
I know I do.
I'm always happy to pull up on a horse , sweep you off your feet, & rescue you. As we ride off into the sunset & live happily ever after. Isn't that how it works?
And you are a cutie! Wish I were a few years younger...oh, well!
I must agree with others' postings that perhaps we are not using all the opportunities surrounding us. For me, anyway, I tend to have those awful blinders on when I'm out and about shopping, doing errands, etc. I can be so focused upon what I have to get done, and don't look too approachable as a result.
So, decent men out there, I'll do my best to be much more friendly...and I know you are out there! | |
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Posted: 5/29/2008 8:52:33 PM | Public Library/Bookstore, Sports Stores, Hobby Shops, Electronics Stores... In the mall food court, at the golf course/driving range, at the movie theatre...
Just look for the guy that is there all alone...
Thats me.  | |
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 5/31/2008 6:54:51 PM | Zeeba,
You are a very beautiful woman. I may need to do my shopping where you shop. Only a few hundred miles away. 
What do you mean younger? I think you mean live closer. We are close enough in age.
Sean | |
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Posted: 5/31/2008 7:08:24 PM | try your local chess club. libraries are also very good.
look at the guys who shop for food by themselves and have no ring and and are not scoping out chicks (much). make an efort and introduce yourself. women are drawn to view men who are with women and so it may take some adjusting to try to focus on the guys who are by themselves - just because they are alone doesn't mean they are worthy any more than a woman haning onto a guy in a relationship waiting for the next better guy to come along.
introduce yourself to a guy who does not wear trendy clothes, does not have the trendy hair or bears styles (like those chin beards), does not have the type of car women fall overthemselves for. there may be a guy with some character and isn't a player, for a player does what women are prone to be suckers for. | |
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zeeba
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Joined: 3/27/2008
Msg: 177 | |
| where to find decent men
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:23:58 PM | Genxer39 (Sean),
Well, there you go and I'm blushing! Many thanks for the compliments and I am most appreciative. Whew!
Back to the subject...I am finding more and more that "decent" men (however we define that one, and I would like to broaden it to decent women) are all around wherever we go. At this time in our lives, maybe our experiences have taught us to look for things beyond the initial attraction -- you need that physical attraction for sure, but personality and being a genuinely good person are so important.
The thing is for all of us "fishers" to be open and approachable no matter what we are doing. In my professional life, I need to be this way so that patrons feel like they can ask me what they might think of as silly questions -- but they aren't. Same goes for the personal life. Don't ever hesitate to strike up a conversation with the person in line; smile; make eye contact. At the least, you might make a nice casual acquaintance. At the most...hey, who knows?  | |
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Posted: 5/31/2008 10:45:37 PM | Agreed, he is on the right path.
Problem is most women don't understand that and keep going after and falling for the "Bad Boy" types you know the players and they keep getting hurt. Meanwhile the nice guys are setting over in the corner wondering when the women will ever see them.
BTW, there are some Nice Guys here of POF. You just have to open you eyes, thats all.
In Christ
Billy | |
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jonnyk
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Joined: 5/21/2008
Msg: 180 | |
| where to find decent men
Posted: 6/1/2008 7:39:20 AM | lol this is so funny ... woman seem to be attracted to the guys that r trouble , in trouble , or treat them like crap ... the BAD boy appearance ... and then they whine and cry when they get dumped and cheated on and wonder why ... seriously woman smarting up u cant not change any man .. and that seems to be what "almost" all woman wanna try to do ... turn that bad boy into the "perfect man" .. dont u think ur gonna find a more meaningfull relationship if the guy isnt tring to bang u off the first night ?? seriously ur "good guys" r the ones that r a little shy ones that r workin to build something in there lives and not out drinkin everynite tring to drill anything that will listen to there lies and dumb enough to fall for the same i wanna shag u lines...the "good guy " may not be the most exciting guy ever or be the most sexiest guy ever .. but why dont u try something new .. try to bring some life into that "good guy" take a chance ... ur never gonna really gain something worth while if u never take a change "on the shy alittle nervous good guy that would bring u flowers and not a 12 pack of beer" and to comment on that post of "Those quiet types, in my experience, are dealing with more issues, have more to hide and can be quiet for a reason.... STFU ur retarded... honestly thats the dumbes S$%t i have ever heard ... they probly have been broken down and stomped on by someone they truely loved and r affraid to put them selfs back out there in fear that all woman r the same ... and good luck to everyone in there searches for that someone special ... never give up they maybe be closer thn u think.. | |
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Posted: 6/1/2008 8:14:25 PM | Funny that none of these posts (above) mention travel.
I think you can hardly avoid being approached by decent and attractive men if you place yourself in a position to be seen and approached - and hopefully you are not afraid to approach them.
This usually means away from home, and you must be alone. Women who are with a companion, male or female, are perceived as less approachable.
London has a wealth of cool things to do and places to go where there are all kinds of interesting people to meet. Dublin, too. Pubs and the theatre are great (not cinema). There are also wine bars. Nothing so tacky and depressing as an American bar. British pubs are cheerful happy places, some with fireplaces and carpets and pictures on the wall. People go to pubs to enjoy life, not to forget problems.
Go to Europe, where places north of the Alps are very safe for a lone female. Don't ever go to Naples, the worst place in the world for you unless you like getting your rear patted and pinched. Stay away from Muslim countries where Islam teaches them to treat you like dirt. In Switzerland there is almost no crime at all although drug traffic is spoiling that in some places. Sweden us full of handsome men but don't take your prim proper Puritan ways; they are very liberated and not guilt-driven like many Americans. Norwegians are incredibly friendly and almost all speak English.
Never go in airplanes within Europe. Always travel by train. That's where you meet people. Those little compartments for six or eight people create a cozy group environment, and those narrow corridors put you near lots of people to smile at. Cool males are always around.
Never stay in classy hotels where you will only meet retired American couples.
Never stay in Youth Hostels, where they usually have a 10 p.m. curfew so you miss out on the evening life that is so much fun.
Eat and drink at sidewalk cafes where you will be visible to passing males. Paris us famed for them.
Try camping out. Every town has a beautiful campground and often free. That is where it is easy to meet fellow-campers, generally some of the most agreeable and decent of people.
If you must stay in a hotel, it's the right place if you have to go down the hall to find the bathroom. Sensible travelers don't waste their money. In expensive hotels you may meet only salesmen and elderly Americans.
Never go on a cruise ship if you are female; there is always a surplus of women on them.
Visit countries where American women are most welcomed. Australia and Ireland come to mind. Australia is said to have a surplus of men. They are sports-crazy down there, so if you can play tennis you are on your way. In New Zealand, hiking is a big thing - take the famous tour walking several days along the hiking trail called the Milford Track.
Japan has some of the most polite people in the world and they are said to have beautiful national parks in the north to go camping in. | |
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 6/2/2008 6:58:41 PM | lol. i have no idea. its like finding a needle in a haystack. everyone has different perceptions on what a nice guy is.
personally its better to meet potential mates through friends and family where they know their entire background.
of course, that is not always the case. its better to meet people through your common interests and hobbies.
or better yet, ask for the Higher power for divine intervention.
The best advice - STOP LOOKING. The more you look, the more you won't find it anywhere else in the world better go on with your life. I pretty much given up on finding love. I will make friends with people instead.
I wont bang my head for not finding a partner. | |
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| where to find decent men
Posted: 6/2/2008 7:12:22 PM | dear OP.
where to find decent men ? ....ever try a prison?
some woman.. that where they go to find their baby's dady.. | |
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