| is a long distance relationship just lust?
Posted: 4/29/2008 5:28:38 PM | | I pretty much think anything over about 35 miles is too far. Don't understand the mentality of getting "involved" with someone (if phoning and emailing is being involved) you can't see more than once a year, if that. Kind of absurd. | |
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| is a long distance relationship just lust?
Posted: 4/29/2008 7:16:42 PM | I'm sure it could be. It's like so many question on here,
there are just so many variables!
I live in the boonies, and don't want a LD relationship,
however, if there was very special chemistry, I have
no doubt that I would do it, but lust wouldn't do it alone! | |
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| is a long distance relationship just lust?
Posted: 4/30/2008 12:30:20 AM | | Oi been there done that on long distance relationships! Never again I tell you never...and yes I do say they are just lust and belive you me they just leave you high and dry and horny most of the time. Don't get me wrong i'm not saying the arn't good i've met a few where online long distance relationships ended up working out for them. Heck I met one woman who lives in australia (I live in michigan lol) a few years ago and I have to say she was one of the greatest women i've ever known and it would of worked out well if it wasn't for one thing. THE DISTANCE! *shakes his head* I can't see myself doing another long distance relationship i'm at that point that when I want a relationship I want to know that I can call her up and go out and have a good time not go "hey i'm gonna go home and get on my computer to talk with her all night." because that or calling gets boring after awhile lol. Skin to skin and face to face yes please :D | |
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| is a long distance relationship just lust?
Posted: 4/30/2008 9:24:55 AM |
Chemistry over the phone/email often has very little to do with chemistry in person. Sometimes it works, very often it doesn't.
I have to say I actually agree with bigjohn on this. How can you ever know if you have actual chemistry with someone until you actually have a chance to look someone in the eyes and touch their hands and communicate in person.
And just because you live close to someone doesnt mean you have to meet immediately. You can still take the time to get to know one another first. | |
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| is a long distance relationship just lust?
Posted: 4/30/2008 1:48:19 PM |
I pretty much think anything over about 35 miles is too far. Don't understand the mentality of getting "involved" with someone (if phoning and emailing is being involved) you can't see more than once a year, if that. Kind of absurd.
And why would one not to be able to see someone that is living 35+ miles away more than once a year? I am dating someone living 1,000+ miles away, and we manage to see each other for a week every other week (which, according to you, is not possible...). And I doubt that many couples are able to spend as much quality time with each other as we do. I can't find long-distance relationships absurd. Not the least bit. | |
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| is a long distance relationship just lust?
Posted: 4/30/2008 7:07:52 PM | | Unless one party is going to move to the others country, and one has enough money for the travel to get to know eachother, I think its pointless. It has worked before but it is very hard I'm sure. | |
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| is a long distance relationship just lust?
Posted: 5/1/2008 2:48:57 PM | I tried the long distant thing twice with no success. Both times she was just too lonely and found someone close by. These both happened to be local long term relationships that turned into LDR because of me relocating. Both of them were OK with it and were planning on relocating with me in the near future but that never happened. So I personally don’t think it can work.
Urbanessa:
1000 miles? Your profile is pretty demanding but considering where you live I can’t imagine that you had to stretch your search to that size of an area, or did he or you relocate? Can you give us an idea of what this guy has that you have not been able to find locally? Is he also on this site? | |
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dj6366
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| is a long distance relationship just lust?
Posted: 5/5/2008 7:46:40 AM | Wow! Some of the reply's are interesting...
Ya know, it's nice to hear other people's stories and it's nice to hear how things work or not work for others, especially if we are seeking advice or just wanting to collect information so to help us make an educated or practical decision...
Really though, glean what you can from other's experiences, hear them out, then only keep what you want and what will actually APPLY to YOUR life and your personality.
I've seen long distant relationships work out beautifully...yet I've also seen seen them not work out...
I all comes back to the individuals in the relationship...everyone is unique and different. What works for one couple may not work for another. When you find and fall in love with a woman and she with you...AND if it is meant to be...then it will all come together, one way or another. If distance is part of the equation, then you should be able to talk and find a solution.
This is just my opinion...nothing more, nothing less. | |
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| is a long distance relationship just lust?
Posted: 5/5/2008 8:52:28 AM | Let me assure you miss this is not always the case. Why would a guy travel that far that often for something he can go to a bar in his home town for.
I just came out of a 2 1/2, long distance relationship. Althought ehsexual chemistrty was intense, it was far more than lust. this woman was my soul mate. Very few of us are ever lucky enough to meet our soul mates, fate doesn't always put them right next door to us. | |
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dj6366
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Joined: 1/29/2008
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| is a long distance relationship just lust?
Posted: 5/5/2008 12:48:13 PM | Strait Up msg. #14: "Only a complete idiot would bother to get involved with a long distance romance."
Well, though I respect your right to voice your opinion, I must inform you that you are full crap. I don't consider myself an idiot. And my LDR was about 630 miles, 9 hours drive time. But thanks again for voicing your well thought out and succinct point of view.
~ds~
BTW, I married her! | |
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| is a long distance relationship just lust?
Posted: 5/28/2008 2:37:11 AM | I agree with Danger Zone to a great degree; I met a great fella on POF; went out for 2 months; he must have met someone else; but originally he had a quarter of a century long marriage that ended; he next met someone on POF three quarter of the way across the country; they must have been rebounding, hence my agreement with DZ that it must have been desperation; after their one year, monthly travel and meetings; he asked her to marry; the engagement went on for 3 months then she broke it off; he didn't hook up with anyone after that for 2 years or so when we met; but I believe he still travels the globe in search of p***y; maybe that's why we did not last...oh, well; but for some it works and  for yous guys!! | |
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