lorer
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 6/8/2008 3:23:14 PM | greetings everyone
im new to this and so far i have met one person on this site which was great and we are emailing now and then.the big question is yes i think you can find your soul mate online many people might not agree but its an experience that wont come often
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 6/9/2008 6:09:58 AM | If I didn't believe it, I wouldn't be here.
Many people meet online and have good relationships or bad relationships... just like meeting anyone from any sphere.
It will really depend on what you want and finding someone who is compatible. Some people may be just looking for fun.. but there are a lot who aren't.
Just have to keep your wits about you, but also keep an open mind. | |
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 6/12/2008 3:11:28 AM |
Do you honestly think you can meet someone online and have a solid serious relationship or is a let loose let's have fun thing?
In my heart I believe it 100% that it's possible, but in my head - not so much... It seems to take forever just to establish enough trust that you can even learn one another's full names. It's no wonder everyone is just jovial and unserious, you can't get anyone to take you seriously anyway so why take them seriously right? It all makes sense in it's own strange, weird way. | |
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 6/12/2008 5:14:48 AM | | No question about it....the only draw back I see is what people type in their profile, and what someone reads....is always from two different perspectives.... thus two different meanings. I think if you meet someone....throw out all you have read.... and go about learning who that person is just like if you met someone in you local YMCA, grocery store, etc. You have one point of commonality....and if there is any subtle interest...build upon it...slowly and carefully. | |
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 6/12/2008 7:56:48 AM | Yes, but...
I don't imagine many here are expecting (hoping maybe) to meet the person of their dreams online. I look to enrich my social life and have surely done that to some extent on here. I'm ok with being single but that doesn't mean I want to sit at home alone. It means I don't require my dateing interests to meet my hopes and expectations of a spouse.
In this sense, yes, I've had the pleasure of meeting some wonderful people online. None of them turned into love interests and thats ok. Some day one might and thats ok too. It's no different than going out dancing in my opinion. I don't select a lady to dance with by whether or not I would marry her, I choose a woman I'd like to dance with. Works out great that way.
Good luck OP, et al. | |
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 6/13/2008 8:46:13 AM | You know thats a good question. I'm still trying to answer that one. I think people put too much hope in these sites and not realistic enough. Sometimes people will think...with all of the choices on this site (meaning the number of members) that they will definately find someone and it won't take long....well thats not the case, at least for most of us. Unless of course you are this gorgeous model type person who has one hundred and something favorites and has lots and lots of choices in dates to choose from. They may or may not find someone quickly, but for the rest of us thats not always the case. So regardless of how many people are on this site it really doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things because you could be looking and looking for a long time and not find anyone. And if we look at the total number of members and then compare that to the number of people who have found someone according to the testimonials the comparisons don't even come close. Very few people actually find someone on these dating sites when comparing it to the total number of members per year.
I know this is pesimistic to some, but i look at it as realistic. | |
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 6/13/2008 10:51:36 PM | I dont think you can, I have been on and off this site for a while and the problem is people are not being real,
Take this for example, I contacted a women from on here about 6 months ago, and everytime we talk about meeting she always comes up with some sort of b/s excuse not to meet, and here is the kicker, she set up the last 3 times to meet and cancelled on all of them. Finaly I just gave up and left here alone,
Personaly I dont think that you can meet someone online b/c both men and women are not being honest from the start. | |
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 6/14/2008 11:49:07 AM | | I truly believe that you can. My two best friends have met their significant others online. Who's to say that I'm not going to get lucky as well? | |
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 6/16/2008 8:18:01 AM | Have you seen the club bearing neanderthal women who vocate my local town,its like asking a child to not believe in santa claus,
Could it be the most far reaching interactive medium in the world,
The search continues!!!! | |
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 6/16/2008 12:39:30 PM | | My friend Gina met her Hubby here at pof. they have been very happily arried for over a year.She's the one who told me to put a profile up.So far I haven't found "The One" Ofcourse Gina and I are two differant type people.She found her soulmate and I think it's wonderfull ! I still have hope. | |
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 6/16/2008 12:58:03 PM | Yes, I do ... I have met some really amazing women / people through this site ... and have especially enjoyed my time in the forums ... my only problem seems to be that those who I meet that really strike my fancy all seem to live hundreds ... or thousands ... of miles away.
I wouldn't say that I don't expect too meet someone that lives locally, but I don't really think I will as I'm traveling more often than not and that doesn't bode well for the local scene. But I'm certainly open too that possibility ...
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 6/16/2008 4:03:56 PM |
Do you honestly think you can meet someone online and have a solid serious relationship
I have an am doing.
Took about a year to find a good woman. She found me and happening to be online on the same site at the same time was sheer luck . But i had figured out a good profile by then.
I started off clueless and got better. Talked to loads of women, met a handful, dated 1, made some terrible decisions along the way.
first u gotta have faith. secondly u gotta learn from your mistakes thirdly if its not working how u want it to you're doing something wrong and there's no point thinking "I suck" and leaving it at that, ask for help or find a way to figure out where u're going wrong. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2008 2:12:18 PM | IVE MET LOTS OF LADIES ONLINE, MANY OF WHOM ARE STILL FRIENDS AND WILL CONTINUE TO BE FRIENDS. THERES NO SECRET TO LIVING YOUR LIFE PROPERLY, YOU JUST HAVE TO DO WAT COMES NATURAL TO U. U WILL ALWAYS CLICK WITH ABOUT 25% OF PPL YOU MEET.  | |
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 6/17/2008 5:57:20 PM | Everyone who's taken the effort to sign up for a POF account believes at "some" level that true love could be found.
However many may not realize the differences between online dating and good ole "face to face".
I find online dating to at least come with the pretense of logical thinking during the process which is fine but attraction is a
strange beast and online you're really missing the many nuance of a person (non verbal communication) that is so vital to fueling that attraction. But honestly...what do you have to lose? Online is just another avenue to explore and you only need one Mr./Mrs. Right. | |
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 6/17/2008 9:20:11 PM |
Do you honestly think you can meet someone online and have a solid serious relationship or is a let loose let's have fun thing? Yes, I honestly think so, provided both parties are serious and capable of having a solid, serious relationship!
I have a very good friend who met his wife of 7+ years via online dating in Seattle (and they now have two beautiful daughters together). They were both in their mid-thirties, with established careers and a few long-term relationships under their belts. Both are people with lots of integrity, strong families and friends, etc.
If you want to meet someone, you can do that anywhere - especially in a bar after a few drinks. Online dating increases your chances of meeting someone you're compatible with for the long term, provided you can write honestly about who you are and what you're looking for.
I've met in person nearly one woman/month (on average) in the past 18 months whom I considered interesting and datable. There are 18 different reasons why I'm still single today, but who's counting? :-) I feel I'm 18 steps closer to meeting someone (and knowing more about myself, my city and what others like to do for fun). Online dating is definitely a character-building activity, kind of like having a paper route (ok, that's a reference to a line from a Police Academy film I think.  )
No way could I meet that many interesting women in the real-world given my job, schedule, etc. For the record, I was using two other pay dating sites as well as POF, and I live in a populated area. | |
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 6/17/2008 10:02:27 PM | Yes, my last serious relationship lasted almost 4 years and was with a guy I met online but on another site. It was almost like love at first site or IM....we just clicked. I ended it because of distance.
I haven't met anyone from this site as I'm not looking to date right now. But online dating can work... | |
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 6/18/2008 11:26:52 AM | Agreed - no different to getting 'out and about' and meeting someone by chance. You can meet someone through media whether it's electronic or not, just that you'll end up filtering through more responses (which may give the bigger picture, but seem daunting and make choices harder).
Media though is an expressionless place, it's very easy to fall for 'fractional truths', or a picture someone has painted of themselves. False-interpretation of someone's feelings that you wouldn't get by facing them and talking to them. It's maybe this 'virtuality' that makes a lot say 'no, it doesn't happen'. Fast lifestyles force us to decide quickly and media's great at accelerating this, and the susceptable do get hurt all too easily in the heat of the moment - lovestruck easily is not good.
Some say you meet better people through paysites, I think all sites are potentially flawed in the ways I've just outlined (and more ways too probably), and that if you enter with a sober and realistic head on, you'll cut through the mush and find the one you truly do want, but don't rely on it as your sole means of meeting someone - there are cirumstances where there is no other choice for individuals.
Good fishing! 
A | |
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 6/18/2008 12:10:41 PM | There are a few serious problems with online dating.
1) Women are 'emotion oriented', what they describe as 'chemistry'. There is NO WAY for them to develop this over a computer unless they IMAGINE it. If they don't imagine it, they turn down all attempts to meet. If they randomly imagine it with various guys, and they meet and the actual 'chemistry' is different from their imagined chemistry, they blame 'men' or 'online dating' and withdraw.
2) Women simply will not date the person they describe. When they meet the 'honest, hardworking, reliable, funny' guy, they'll ditch him because he's 'boring'. They prefer someone that spurs emotion/adventure/danger. They can't logicly defending dating the guy with the criminal record that can't keep a job and has a history of beating women and having unsuppoted kids, but that's what they'll actually date and have sex with and kids with. They know they can't admit that or write it in a profile, or they'll be vilified by both genders, so they simply say 'online dating doesn't work' or 'there are no good men left'.
3) Getting hundreds of of emails of interest and date offers, is EGO BOOSTING. Women love it, and I don't blame them. But if they actually start DATING or worse yet enter a monogamous relationship, they have to take down the profile and stop the daily ego boost, which is like trying to stop heroin. Most women won't do that -- they would rather make excuses not to date, flake on dates made, and refuse monogamy. So as a result you see the same women on all the dating sites for YEARS, thinking they are totally hot stuff because they are 'refusing' all of the 'losers' who are here thinking they might actually find a person to date.
Using the internet for dating is 'the perfect world', we can all find people we are compatible with, very efficiently. Yet more people are single now than ever in human history - over 55% of adults are now single - for the reasons described above. | |
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 6/18/2008 1:21:53 PM | | Of course you can, i've met a few people (alright I am still single), but i've met some good friends as well. At the end of the day on line at least you can get to know someone first without having to meet them in the flesh. | |
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