| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 7/12/2008 7:28:44 PM | Yes! However, I don't really have any expectation of meeting someone from this site. I have met others through the big pay site but even that is slow and painful. At least with the pay site you can assume that a single women that responds is at least making an effort to find a date and was willing to put up some cash for it. Here, I think its mostly the forums and those that could care less if they meet someone unless they happen to come accross their 6ft brick ****house and get some dinner out of it.
My last relationship lasted for almost 4 years and she contacted me first. I have never had a success from anyone I have ever contacted on any site though. It's generally only after I've been contacted that anything has occured. So, although it hasn't worked out so well in the end at least the chance of meeting someone looking for a relationship is a whole lot higher then meeting them on the street, store, bar, work, etc.
Besides, I have a child and although there are a ton of single mothers out there I don't run across them in traffic and I can't entertain a young hottie because I can not relate to them and they can not relate to me. I feel like their father giving advice. Women my age that have not had children or have been married are looking for children and can't tolerate me having a child. Women older then me don't think I'm mature enough. Whatever. She has to be out there somewhere. Now I'm depressed again... | |
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 7/13/2008 8:38:55 AM | | I know of a few couples who met online and they are doing just fine and dandy. I think it is possible but it hasnt happened for me yet. Saying that, I have made some nice friends along the way xxx | |
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 7/13/2008 4:29:30 PM | I agree with "Applegeek" it's just a way to be introduced to people and then you take it to the real world............sort of speak...........
There are wierdo's in the online dating world just as there are in a grocery store or walmart or even in church(Yes Im going to hell for saying that :) ) but you get my point.
Just chalk it up to another way of meeting people, all the rules apply in regards to how you screen who you date, etc.
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 7/17/2008 5:19:20 PM | | yes I do. I met someone on here that I really like that seems a perfect fit in every way. I have been warned he's a player so my guard is up. When we r together we r a perfect fit! I just have to be on my toes so I do not turn into a future booty call which is what anyone who dates a player must be on guard for. I am a very cautious person but its hard when u want to c that person more. Who the hell knows u just hope for the best, and see what goes. No one can predict the future but u hope it will be a happy one. Its just scary when ur falling 2 quick 4 ur own good. | |
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 7/17/2008 5:27:01 PM | yes..in my case it lead to a long term relationship ..it all depends on the mindset you go in it with..its 2008..technology has come a long way..and its great for ppl like me that are busy and sick of the bar scene..who meets their soul mate in a bar ? like really?! for some it takes time, for others the opportunities are endless..good luck to you! ; )
p.s b/c there is alot of opportunity to meet ppl online, be really picky. use a strategy to find things out about a person b4 you meet them.. | |
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 7/20/2008 3:53:25 AM | I've lost count how many women I've had "first meets" with from online over the past 8 years. It's somewhere around 30, I think.
The main difference between meeting someone online vs in a grocery store is that, if you meet in the real world, you already know that there's some real world physical attraction, but you often have no idea about anything else. Whereas, when you meet online, you know quite a bit about someone from the inside out, but can't predict if there will be real attraction in person.
Either way, first dates are a crap shoot. For me, about 1 in 3 first dates lead to a second, and it's rare to find someone with whom things fall in place well enough to find something that lasts a year or more. It has happened 3 times, though, from online, that I've had a serious relationship with someone I met online, and twice, post divorce, with someone I met for the first time in the real world (one a gas station, and one a grocery store). When I count the numbers, it's pretty close, in terms of ultimate "success", when I define success as being "good for a year or longer". Either way, a first date is not a big, cosmic event, and it's not a goal unto itself.
The big advantage to online is that you can have the impression that you're "doing something" about meeting someone, no matter the time of day or night. That can make it easier to get through the periods of time, when you're sleeping alone.  | |
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 7/20/2008 9:46:19 AM | For sure! In an average day I have maybe two encounters with a woman... coming here just makes sense. Besides, I think the whole stigma about online dating is quickly fading. Yes there are still the pervs and creeps but they also inhabit the 'real' world too...
I take the same approach here as I would out there. Talk, hangout, see where it goes... sure sometimes the destination is important but sometimes the journey to an unkown place can be pretty good too. | |
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 7/20/2008 1:02:19 PM | | I think so, may have to go through a lot of people to find someone however. One thing I find a bit odd is how some people will want to message for weeks on end before deciding to have a meeting. To me there is a point where too much messaging/chatting can take place because it influences the perception of the person. At some point need to move from online to face to face. | |
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 7/20/2008 1:08:53 PM | No!
If there was a list of the top 100 people on POF who haven't got a single date from the site. Or even a list of the top 100 people rarely messaged I'd have to be in the top 10 on both list...
I've come to the conclussion that the women in my region are hopeless.
(No, I'm not seeking pitty... I'm just making a point that some people have no luck at this sort of thing) | |
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 7/21/2008 3:34:59 AM |  yes i do i have few freinds on hear that are in very longterm realtionship a couple are in engaged so yes it very possible you got stay postive no matter how what you have heard,i meet cuople people on hear and its all fun but just wasnt the right one | |
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 8/6/2008 5:29:34 PM | | I've met several people online but find most the men i've met online are too obsessed with looks and are looking for someone with model looks or a bad girl that old saying good guys finish last that goes for woman too. JUst my opinion I've met alot of people but never had any real relationships. | |
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 8/11/2008 8:33:32 AM | I don't think it's all that difficult to meet someone from online, if you make the priority "having a date". You might have to compromise a lot of your "ideal" if you're in a hurry, but whether POF or another site, there are real people looking to meet in real life, who are hoping for real relationships. If anything, POF has worked faster than another site that I used to be on.
Part of it, really, is in recognizing those people, who aren't really dating. The ones who are extraordinarily negative or self-protective, probably aren't. The other ones I watch out for, although they will meet IRL, are the ones who view online dating as some sort of "speed dating" exercise. They'll meet for dinner, once, and then on to the next one. | |
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 8/11/2008 9:29:13 AM | I know you can meet someone online. I know several couples who met online and are happily married or living together long-term.
I don't know if I personally will ever meet my life partner either off or online. It doesn't happen for some people. I'm ok with that because I have a great life, but would be open to adding to it.
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 8/11/2008 9:59:16 AM | OP, I believe anything is possible.. It is really not much different than meeting men in person, but at least here you can 'screen' their minds a little BEFORE giving your number/proceeding/etc, unlike in person, when you have no idea WHAT they are thinking when they approach you lol.. And just like in everyday life you have your good, your bad and your ugly- and I am not talking physical appearances either. I also have not been on here long, but as a good friend told me: be CAREFUL, not paranoid..  | |
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 8/11/2008 1:41:11 PM | cotck - your profile must be the ugliest I have EVER read. I agree, you will never find a keeper! I'll grant you, your profile was sort of amusing it it's atrociousness! yuck, yuck, yuck! Do the world a favor and move to Europe, ASAP!!!
To answer the original post, I have had quite a few nice dates through the dating websites (I'm a good picker!) and ended up in one exclusive relationship as a result of internet dating. It is a great resource for a busy divorced mom, like myself. I really thought the one relationship would end in marriage. I guess it still could, we are not on bad terms...just no longer dating (heartbroken, had to cut em' loose).
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 8/11/2008 3:23:45 PM | | another way of meeting people, many meet online, however many think that it's the only way. by other ways I got much better results and have met more quality people. every site has type of people who get attracted to them. but to hope that by just coming online you will meet that one the same way you do online banking convinently will be naive. my problem has always been that women always have a hidden agenda here and make men as an object of selection. I have met many women whom in real life say if they were in my office wouldnt even pay attantion, but since they met me from online and their email is full of other messages, they show attitude. that's why this doesnt work that well with me, though am sure works quite well for some others. | |
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| Do you believe you can meet someone online?
Posted: 8/11/2008 3:34:28 PM |
cotck - your profile must be the ugliest I have EVER read
Thank you, wickedlovely, for pointing me to his profile. I'm sure it was exaggerated for effect, but it made me laugh more than anything I've read in a long time. | |
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