| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/23/2008 7:37:16 PM | I have been approached by men from 26 to 76. The younger men and much older men are more persistant. The over 40 men will give me consideration but are keeping the younger women options open. Of course, several have outright stated they were looking for a sugarmama or an appreciative woman. oh, please.................
I would rather get a thanks but no thanks than to be ignored. I have had a man to appear to agree to meet and fail to show. Be clear, failure to declare can be assumed to be an agreement.
I think we go back to the thought that if a woman won't put out immediately or on the first date, agree to it at a later (but not too much later) date, it is assumed she is not sexual enough for some men. Just because I don't spread my goods in photos on here or want to talk sex talk in the first contact, don't assume I will be a dud in the bedroom or that I won't beat you there on most occasions. I think the majority of women on here can deliver shivers................but we just don't care to billboard it and we are selective.
I reply to all emails even the jerks. They rarely write back. | |
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zeeba
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Joined: 3/27/2008
Msg: 228 | |
| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/23/2008 7:49:00 PM | I'm surprised I even got that! (The e-mail, that is.)
I don't know, guys. I am feeling the same way as you...I'm not having any luck either with men of my generation and I really am a pretty good gal! I wish that we all could give one another a chance. | |
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/23/2008 7:52:33 PM | | Moon, I can only speak for myself but the women I am speaking of are the ones that do not have the decency to return an email even if it is to say no thank you. I really don't follow your thinking that we expect sex the first date, it is not mentioned that much in this forum to even be a concern. Could be that you may have repressed issues from one of your own dating experiences. | |
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/23/2008 9:07:48 PM |
...Wow, that barely gives one time to finish a cup of coffee....better get it in a to go cup in case it doesn't go well.
I thought it went exceedingly well. We progressed to home base within that time, in fact.
She did ask me for $100 at the end, though | |
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/23/2008 9:37:47 PM | oh well you live and learn,,,i would love to meet a great girl for life or as along as possible,,lol 49 now and getting tired of being alone . Matter of fact good night im tired,,lol bye  | |
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/23/2008 10:38:38 PM |
I thought it went exceedingly well. We progressed to home base within that time, in fact.
She did ask me for $100 at the end, though
...Oh no, ....if thats the case and you paid, maybe its something you could claim back on your taxes next year under..... "contributions"
...In the future, I would be cautious of "the approach"
...maeflowers | |
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shimbo
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Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 235 | |
| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/24/2008 1:12:33 AM |
don't assume I will be a dud in the bedroom or that I won't beat you there on most occasions
I'd love for you to beat me in the bedroom but I doubt if you own the right tools.
Sorry, I gotta play the long odds here and pass. | |
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/24/2008 2:59:08 AM | Sorry, I gotta play the long odds here and pass. For the right man not the 'ubitquous man'.......... it was not an open ended invitation. For some men, it would be to shut the door before they entered.
It was to address the asumption that women are all not sexual enough. We could be having sex with you while balancing the check book, planning dinner, thinking about a project at work, sketching the flowerbed--all in our head--while making some of you think you were the hottest thing going. The right man could make us think about nothing but him. And so it goes................
You are a man and I don't have the right tools, hmmmmmmmmmmm? We won't get into that discussion. Weren't you looking for a large pet?
Read your profile, I was not enticed, so no problem. | |
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/24/2008 3:44:15 AM | | I dont think we ever get past that ol rejection thing and for me the more beautiful I find her the more my tongue dont wanta work. And when the first thing ya say is: Hi ba ba da I I I gaba gee wa wa. Well then they just think ur retarded and any chance ya may have had is long gone. Hahaaaa That is tho kinda the way it works with my silly self but ya gotta keep ur sense of humor, its all good. | |
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/24/2008 7:27:01 AM | No..!!
I was the consummate 'Wall-Flower' in school...
'Mr. Shy'...
'Blush-Master'...
'Career Virgin'...
But...after 2 marriages, and 10 years Alone...
..having gained a tremendous education from my 2nd wife, on 'How to please a Lady'....
I'm merely Out-of-Practice..!!
No need for *Snappy Lines*...
...Just be polite, well-mannered, pay attention to the conversation...
...and Dance well..!!! | |
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zeeba
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Joined: 3/27/2008
Msg: 239 | |
| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/24/2008 12:03:13 PM | Thanks, chromeh1! I appreciate it. Oh, I think that this particular guy didn't know what he wanted. I'm slowly learning to pay attention to those red flags, and since he didn't act that eager to meet halfway for lunch in the first place, I should have known better. Live and learn.
It continues to bother me that so many men my age have had bad experiences. Women, too. I hate to think that we are all going to wind up bitter and lonely...doesn't have to be that way. | |
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/24/2008 2:37:44 PM | | In my experience guys aren't the least bit afraid to approach women online, but many don't follow through. I've talked to some guys for years and I was willing to meet them but they kept postponing. I rarely agree to meet anyone now because I'm a little tired of being disappointed when it doesn't happen. I think guys would rather fantasize about someone than actually meet and see what happens. My response to all of this is that I've become less and less likely to even talk online to anyone other than to acknowledge their email and I don't always do that. I'm supposed to meet someone very soon who I've been talking to for a while, but I will be very surprised if it actually happens. When I say I'll do something, I do it and I don't make plans I don't intend to keep, but it seems that many men just like to talk. | |
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/24/2008 4:00:29 PM | I don't see any point.
In terms of observed cause and effect, ....
my conclusion is a man must attract a woman - not chase her.
clubbing and dragging back to the cave is no longer permitted  | |
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/24/2008 4:17:40 PM | They may be gun shy from a negative partner in a previous relationship and just may not be ready to add one more rejection to their resume. I personally require a man to make the first move because I like a strong, aggresive man who goes after what he wants. If he doesn't then I have to assume he is not interested. I'll send signals, such as smiling at him, but if he doesn't take the hint, it may be his loss. | |
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shimbo
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Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 243 | |
| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/24/2008 4:26:04 PM | "Read your profile, I was not enticed"
I don't care. The women here are non-performers, I'm here because I get a chuckle out of it and occasionally learn something. The moment a woman mentions "communication", it means sex is going to suck, a big red flag, talking instead of doing. | |
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/24/2008 5:41:47 PM |
The moment a woman mentions "communication", it means sex is going to suck, a big red flag, talking instead of doing.
I rather thought men liked women to communicate what they want.
Your fat paintbrush
alll the women here are non-performer is very wrong. Just how many of the bedrooms have you been in, or more likely, shut out of.............. | |
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shimbo
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Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 245 | |
| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/24/2008 7:27:52 PM |
I rather thought men liked women to communicate what they want
Men do.
But when a woman mentions "communication", it's going to be a talking relationship, not a doing relationship. If I see "communication" mentioned more than once in a profile, I skip it. So many of the profiles here (and on other sites) are generic, fru-fru, white-picket-fence templates demanding this and that. There's no fun there, just a lot of work for someone else's ego. | |
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/25/2008 5:19:19 AM | You know, some women are extremely approachable. They smile at people they don't know and usually have a network of friends and families that enjoy their approachability. They are married.... and single and divorced that are all easy to approach. I don't know if they are on medications or something because they are pleasant to be around. When they want an intimate relationship, they don't have to look very long before finding something compatible and complimentary and no,they are not 'settling', they are engaging. They don't have to boast about themselves and brag about what some man might be missing, they truly offer an engaging personality.
Men have no trouble approaching women like this, it's the other kind of women that are scary.
You know, every relationship starts out with a degree of paranoia. At least a H.S. degree but when they have come to a PhD in Paranoia, they are down right scary! They look at you like you're prince charming and hope you take them from their life of toils and tribulations but you know later you will get blamed for sending them home in a pumpkin. Or, they don't look at you at all because you're the 78th 'prince charming' they met this month.
If you are unlucky enough to get involved with a paranoid, you now your going to have to have arguments with the figments of their imaginations and real issues will be ignored. Practical reasonings will be a thing of the past and you'll always feel like there's a huge thumb over you.
Men are more learned over 40 | |
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shimbo
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Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 248 | |
| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/25/2008 5:31:01 AM |
Men have no trouble approaching women like this, it's the other kind of women that are scary
The scary women are easy to spot, though.
They have retractable claws.
The key to meeting them is to wear a heavy leather jacket or carry a fencing foil.
Both, if possible. | |
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/25/2008 5:43:48 AM | | It just seems that men do not want the approachable women, they love the women who use and abuse them and have claws and we get tired of hearing about how many of these women they have known. Makes me wonder why a man does not find approachable women attractive and if he does not like approachable women he needs to leave me alone, and his past of dating scary women with claws makes me avoid him. | |
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shimbo
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Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 250 | |
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