| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/25/2008 2:49:01 PM |
If I see "communication" mentioned more than once in a profile, I skip it.
Excuse me...be right back...going to go write the word "communication" about 100 times in my profile.
They have retractable claws.
Mine don't retract. What you see is what you get( I know how to not USE those claws if their use would be unwarranted or counterproductive)
 Nonetheless, I get approached by men from 22 to 72. The ones that really have something going for them( here's a hint, they walk it like they talk it) I spend time with. But it's hard to carve out a long lasting quality relationship...and that's not something that's anybody's fault( but we'll blame you,shimbo if you like, I don't want you to feel left out!) it's just the way things are playing out in my life right now.
Hey, if it was dirt easy to go meet a good guy or gal for whatever purpose you have in mind at the local church social, or Joe's Bar and Grill and Bar... general dating websites would all go broke.
But I have to say that I've noticed sort of a pattern recently...most of the over 40 men who do approach(in real life) are NOT involved in online dating sites per se. And lately the majority of my approaches/interested men are from real life venues. Possibly it's just a local phenomena...parts of northcentral MI have only just gotten acquainted with electricity and telephones LOL.
So I'm afraid my assessment of the tpic might not be totally accurate.
Cindy O | |
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/25/2008 3:08:16 PM | Personally I have found things much easier now I am older, but mainly because I am an ugly git!
As both men and women get older we tend to think about the things that really matter, honesty, trust, good conversation, companionship, shared interests etc rather than a strong sexual attraction so it makes things far easier for those of us not blessed with great bodies and good looks.
Strangely enough I have also found that what used to be a drawback, having a slim build, is now an asset as I still don't carry any excess weight or have a beer belly and a lot of ladies actually like that. | |
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/25/2008 6:38:38 PM | | Maybe the men are not responding because they are seeking much younger women. I think men have trouble dealing with the aging process and they think by having a younger woman they will be young again. Did you ever notice the ages of the men and the ages of the women they seek. Many want a woman 28 to 35 and they are 50+( i.e). I think they are relieved when women make the first move. Woman and men both need to fear being a victim of a financial predatory- not just men. There are just as many men who look for established women to take care of them in their retirement , when they have failed to prepare. What's your thoughts? | |
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/25/2008 7:59:39 PM | | At first, I thought the men were looking to have children again, but you will notice the majority of the time, they state they do not want to have more children. Guess they are just trying to relieve their youth. | |
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shimbo
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Joined: 6/15/2008
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/25/2008 10:20:35 PM | Have you seen the size of the flame throwers most woman carry in the handbag? A lot of them don't have chance. First question out of toom many woman i know
Where do you work?
Where do you live ?
Who do you know ?
What do you drive?
Give the guy a break he only wanted to know where the men's room was!
You know what gets me on here ?? When some guy writes: I looked at your profile a long time before I decided to write. WHY??? Don't sing it ! Bring it !
Stop by say hello! | |
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/26/2008 3:49:42 AM |
At first, I thought the men were looking to have children again, but you will notice the majority of the time, they state they do not want to have more children. Guess they are just trying to relieve their youth.
someone hasn't been following this forum!!!!
Many of us over forty men are attracted to younger women because........aw, forget it.
I follow the forums and I know exactly why some of the over forty men are attracted to younger women:
1. They haven't looked in the mirror lately to see that just like the women their age, they have gotten older.
2.Some of the younger women are easier to manipulate. Notice, I said some before anyone gets their panties in a wad.
3.They are still living in the eightys and have more in common with the younger women.
4. They can be balding, sagging, have man boobs, a beer gut and the IQ of a grape; they and some bimbo will still think they are a sex god and God's gift to womankind.
5.Those same men don't know how to appreciate the charm, grace, wit and intelligence of a woman who is ageing gracefully.
6. Some of the younger women are easier for you, whereas the older woman is more decerning (you will occassionally find an older woman not so selective).
The list could go on. Give me a man who understands me, uses intelligence easily (but does not have to think about it), appreciates the arts and understands the difference between a chablis and a chardonay and I will show you a man who probably prefers women around his own age. I am confident that most men would not turn down the attention from a much younger women. He is flattered. I get attention from 20-30 men all the time who are darn good looking. But I can read them, no challenge with the matching of the minds, same for some older men, I would be bored. I need someone who can discuss more than cars going in a circle and who buys the next beer. Give me someone who can think outside the box, someone who understand the brain is the biggest sex organ--play to that--not the libido with 'u r sexy' or 'your pic is sexy'. Trust me, if the picture posted elicits that type of response, she is getting a 100 of your kind of emails a day and can have her pick of the litter. | |
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/26/2008 8:38:22 AM | You have to make strong eye contact with a guy. You have to show some interest.
Age wise, I'm in the middle.
I look at younger women and older women.
I've noticed older women are afraid to make strong eye contact with a guy. They appear timid and weak. This is not attractive. It's too risky. It's too much effort.
Young women with stare at you like a tiger if they're interested. You feel obligated to approach. If you don't you look like a wimp.
It wouldn't hurt to dress for "success" either. | |
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/26/2008 9:09:35 AM | Gee Chrome? Why don't you step out and take the lead on #5. We would all simply love to hear your logic on that one??? More time should be spent working with the opposite sex as opposed to knocking it around here! | |
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/26/2008 9:34:48 AM | | I certainly dont believe I am an exception to this topic.When I am out for whatever reason,playing music or just grocery shopping I never pass up a chance to engage in conversation with Ladies.I have been told I have a nice voice and mayhaps that helps dont think so.Self awareness maybe,or confidence in one's ability to engage a mature woman.The conversation topics possibly that Ladies of a mature nature tend to prefer?Endless reasons can be listed as to why some Men seem to have hesitancy in their desire to approach Women their age.Do women think there is a difference in conversational topics between the younger croud and the mature croud,possibly a different thread sorry. | |
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/26/2008 12:31:29 PM | I was not when I was in my 40's. I actually had the best time then.
It is in my 50's that I have problems. The women are too demanding when they reach their late 40's and 50's. They are unrealistic and bitter.
Many have been married too many times.
And they want perfection where younger women are more flexible.
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/26/2008 12:33:47 PM | | There in lies the problem Moon! It seems that women over 40 would rather piss and moan about what men are doing or not doing than getting off their asses and doing something for themselves. I know, I know, I will hear all about how its all mens fault and we don't respect women, we're not there for them, we are not in tune with their needs. Bullsh*t. Fact is they are bitter and most will end up alone. Me bashing the opposite sex? You won't have to look too far in this forum to see how men are being bashed. I don't even consider this post bashing, more telling you of my observation. And reply posts from women are all going to scream NOT ME! | |
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/26/2008 1:45:25 PM | Chrome is doing a fine job :)
I get some flack from people my age at times about dating younger women, I just respond with "can you name even ONE dateable woman in San Diego"? They never can. Sometimes they rattle through a few names, but all are immediately disqualified by one of the usual problems (in order of how often this is an issue):
1) not single/available
2) too busy to date (had too many kids, has taken on too many jobs)
3) too obese to do normal things (kayaking, cycling etc)
4) gold digger / prostitute (expects men to pay because she is an entitled female)
5) will only date extremely tall men (because wearing high heels is more important that finding the right partner)
6) will only date black men or Jewish men some very specific ethnic group
7) religious wackjob (or other absurd obsession)
8) currently in a financial or medical catastrophe
9) not attractive to me (note how low this is on the list)
10) Needing permission from parents to date (at age 40+! I've seen this 3 times - CREEPY!)
It should be noted here I live in San Diego (Man Diego), where men far FAR outnumber women. I travel a lot and you guys on the US East coast and Europe have no idea how good you have it! | |
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/26/2008 3:14:38 PM | | I don't know any women like to ones you described in your 1-10 criteria, and we rarely date, since men tell us we are not good enough for them and they seem to love women who are like numbers 4, 7, 8, etc. | |
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/26/2008 5:28:41 PM | I dont think we ever get past that ol rejection thing and for me the more beautiful I find her the more my tongue dont wanta work. And when the first thing ya say is: Hi ba ba da I I I gaba gee wa wa. Well then they just think ur retarded and any chance ya may have had is long gone. Hahaaaa That is tho kinda the way it works with my silly self but ya gotta keep ur sense of humor, its all good.
...No one likes rejection, it can sting like he11...and speaking of getting tongue tied, its happened to me on more than one ocassion.
Not that long ago a co-worker of mine came to get me to speak with a guy that was interested in what our company was all about....so I said, "why couldn't you talk to him, you know more about this company than I do?" After meeting him, I now know why. He was amazingly good looking and had these disarmingly blue, blue eyes..... I was momentarily lost for words.....and to this day I still don't remember what I said to him haha
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/26/2008 8:24:12 PM | A couple of my experiences.....I've been single about 5yrs. Gone on a couple "coffee dates" but mostly have gone out with friends from work. Work in a hospital so most of my friends are female nurses. Most of them are 10-17yrs younger than me. So I get a lot of female company I like but not what I want....One day a female nurse came in with a patient, I couldn't keep my eyes off of her. So I made small talk and we seem to hit it off pretty good. We emailed back and forth , and when she would return my calls we would talk on the phone. We would make plans to go out and she would break them with a multitude of excuses( way to long to list). We finally did go out and had a great time. All the time she was telling me she couldn't wait to go out again and wanting to start a relationship she still was giving excuses and not returning calls. Finally found out she was spending weekends with some other guy.....ouch!..... Strike One!!
Not one to give up. I met a young lady in the parking lot at work . We would run in to each other and talk as we walked in. She has a great personality and again we hit it off really good. She seemed very interested and would sometimes hold on to my arm as we walked in. This went on for 2-3 weeks. I noticed she didn't have a ring on and she had mentioned she lived alone. So I decided to go for it. As we're walking in I set up the question by asking what she was dong for the weekend. She said she was going camping........with her Boyfriend!!...DUHOO!!...Strike Two!!
So I guess I'm going to be a little gun shy for awhile........the three strikes law you know..... | |
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/26/2008 9:36:48 PM | | Ya know....I wonder if part of it could be our society? We've become so "sue" happy that a guy could be scared to death to even smile & say "hello" for fear of a sexual harrassment suit! | |
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shimbo
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Joined: 6/15/2008
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/26/2008 10:57:43 PM |
Shimbo, Fin, Would you guys like to respond to #5. Or shall I
Sorry, I had work and a date tonight and a sex date for most of tomorrow evening and Sunday.
Take the lead, knock yourself out! | |
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shimbo
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Joined: 6/15/2008
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/26/2008 10:59:46 PM |
we rarely date, since men tell us we are not good enough for them and they seem to love women who are like numbers 4, 7, 8
When I assign numbers, I also issue a matching t-shirt so I can keep the face and # together. It's good customer service and the smart women appreciate it. | |
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/27/2008 4:13:30 AM | ^^^How totally kind and considerate of you Shimbo! To think that you would otherwise confuse the women you boink would be simply catastrophic! I was just wondering? Do you type things here whilst sleeping? Perhaps having one of those "dreams" that seem to continously plague you? | |
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/27/2008 5:57:22 AM | | I dont think so------ I tend not to approach women my age who look like my grandmother--- so I usually end up approaching the 30 yr old women and sometimes a 40ish woman ---if I am lucky | |
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| Are men over 40 more afraid to approach women?
Posted: 6/27/2008 6:37:36 AM | "I tend not to approach women my age who look like my grandmother"
Did you get the notice that 50 is the new 30 yet?
Put your glasses on and take a good look at some of the woman on this site that are over 50
Believe me we have a lot more going on than some silly 30 year old looking for a new piggy bank they can clean out | |
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