| ladies who are `happily divorced`
Posted: 4/30/2008 4:24:34 PM | I'm happily divorced but I do not go 'advertising' it. There was certainly nothing happy about the whole process, but I am glad to no longer be with the same man and was certainly open to meeting someone new after the fact.
Company? I can get that from a cat or a dog. The EX? Oh, hell no. | |
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| ladies who are `happily divorced`
Posted: 4/30/2008 4:50:48 PM |
i have lost count of how many profiles i have read where ladies say they are now happily dicorced and how wonderful it is to be `free again` and the joys of being`footloose and fancy free`
so heres my question,if this is really true why are they starting dating again if they have never been so happy to be free?
is the reality that now they are divorced they find their ex wasnt so bad after all-at least he was company!
Maybe they mean they are happy to be free from the previous relationship.
Maybe the previous relationship was suppressing them and didn't allow them to be who they used to be once and now they are looking for a fairer relationship.
I am not happy to be divorced simply because I love family life and feel not so good for my child. But I am very happy and comfortable doing most things myself and make the big decisions without any conflict.
and I am not looking but that doesn't mean I am not going to reject a good relationship if it ever comes my way. | |
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| ladies who are `happily divorced`
Posted: 4/30/2008 5:35:17 PM | | The two didnt come together as one, and one side or other drove the other one bonkers. Too much emphasis on the "oh yeah that was a good movie" conversation instead of reading between the lines to how often and when he/she sends you out in the movie to get her/him something, that mean this relationship isnt gonna work. The little personal habits that tend to add up and maybe grind on another. Of course there are two sides to each one and you never know how much is correct till you live it with that person yourself. | |
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| ladies who are `happily divorced`
Posted: 4/30/2008 5:42:16 PM | | Believe it or not, there are a lot of people in the world who like to enjoy the company of the opposite sex without having to be owned by someone. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being and remaining free and single and dating as many people as you want. I have never been able to understand why so many people are in such a rush to lose all their freedom as quickly as possible and enter into marriages that have a fifty percent chance of failure and costing a fortune in the process. | |
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| ladies who are `happily divorced`
Posted: 4/30/2008 6:09:58 PM | While I don't have it in my profile...I am almost in this category...but definitely emotionally divorced...paperwork part will be done shortly.
For me, it means I can breathe. My ex was a suffocating, selfish child. It is so nice to come home now, and not have to constantly know that someone is going to tell me "you don't love me enough".
I don't have to listen to someone rehash ad nauseum, his percieved hurts.
I am happy, and because of that .... I am a good date. I go out with no expectations. I won't hold you up to an impossible list of "rules or must-haves". I go just to meet someone new. If we click, great ...if we don't, oh well still nice to meet new people. | |
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| ladies who are `happily divorced`
Posted: 4/30/2008 6:15:20 PM | | In my circle of friends, being "happily divorced" means that we left. We were not left. We are not grieving the end of the relationship. We made an err in judgement and instead of living in misery, we gathered the strength and courage to leave an unhealthy relationship. We are not men haters and do not hold all men accountable for everything that has happened to us. We know that there are wonderful intelligent mature secure evolved men out there and we are glad to be free to meet them. We just want to be happy; with or without someone. We are looking forward to being held; not held back. But that's just us. | |
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| ladies who are `happily divorced`
Posted: 4/30/2008 6:47:33 PM | As much as I hate being single, and even if I were going to live for 10 million years, I had rather be single for the rest of my life than go back to an ex.
I am not happy I am divorced but am happy that I am not married to who I was married to.
I don't have anything like that in my profile, but if I did, it would be more like: Being single sucks, looking for man to one day marry and together we can find true freedom in being with just each other. | |
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| ladies who are `happily divorced`
Posted: 4/30/2008 6:52:05 PM |
so heres my question,if this is really true why are they starting dating again if they have never been so happy to be free?
Cuz sometimes the pressure of society gets to me, and I think I SHOULD be dating...but as soon as I meet someone new, I am reminded of how much I like being SINGLE! | |
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