| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/29/2008 2:24:52 PM | | To Nosey Neighbor, perfect is not my requirement and your comments are untasteful, shouldn't you be brushing your's right now instead of heckling me?....In your pic you are not smiling how come?....hiding something? | |
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| Molar decay leads to Moral decay
Posted: 4/29/2008 2:27:31 PM | Maybe if you add things like "good teeth," "dental hygiene," "toothpaste," and "flossing" to your interests list here, you will have more luck with meeting compatible men? Or, if men tend to bring you flowers at your first meetings, you can start to bring along gift-wrapped toothbrushes! It's considerate and classy.
Honestly, I wonder how many men you've met with these horror-story teeth; I've got to believe it's more than one or two (which would only really constitute an unpleasant coincidence). If there have been, like, ten of these guys...well...I'm just going to suggest you move, because there's got to be some Chernobyl-like disaster buried beneath your toothless city. | |
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/29/2008 2:29:05 PM | ...A very typical response from a very superficial person who overgeneralizes.
Advice: Try dating quality men instead of soup kitchen men. Perhaps you can find a good set of teeth. | |
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Posted: 4/29/2008 3:36:18 PM | loxxy
I'll answer your question from what my best guess is.
Most people in general don't like, or nearly hate going to the dentist, men and women included. My opinion is that many people do put off going to the dentist because most dentist are just really strange. It's a very awkward situation and it's on the same level as how many people actually look forward to going to a doctor.
I take care of my teeth, but not to the level that I should. I put off going to the dentist because a can't stand most dentists period! However I will go to a dentist because to me it's just a must have thing. As for a doctor visit, that’s another story. The ONLY time I will ever and I mean ever visit a doctor is if I'm in extreme and I do mean extreme pain. Reason, the few doctors that I ever went to were just total jerks.
My guess is most men and women would agree with the above. If not, well ok, but that’s as honest as I can be. | |
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/29/2008 3:48:08 PM | missing teeth is not always caused by neglet...a lot of times, such as my case, a missing tooth (or teeth in other cases) are caused by accidents (as children or adults). And why buy a new boat/car/toy instead of get it fixed? Why not, there are lots of people who can look past someone missing a tooth or two.
Yellow or stained teeth may be caused by neglect or it could be caused from previous neglect that has been improved on, despite the possibility of actually paying to have them whitened...again there are a lot of people who can look past some stained teeth.
Visible decay...some people just don't care about their teeth...why is it your problem? No one is forcing you to kiss them, if you don't like it, just tell them straight-up, and yes tell them it's because of their teeth (if there is no other reasons). Some may think of you as a shallow b!tch. But if that's a deal breaker from you, than there's no sense hiding it. | |
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/29/2008 3:53:59 PM | I would personally get my teeth fixed before buying a new car or a boat...
Women are far more anal about teeth than men are though...I remember girls in high school tooth brushes with them and flossing in class...and in later years having worked with women in various environments...that habit seemed to be repeated.
I have never met a guy (even one with perfect teeth) bring a toothbrush or floss to work. | |
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/29/2008 4:10:22 PM |
elaborate?
OP, I agree. But you know what. I do believe suggesting to a guy a nice smile is important to you is less like vinegar and would attract more guys unless you are trying to repel.  | |
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/29/2008 4:10:36 PM | | @nocatchyname: I fall under the 'yellow or stained' group of people and it is from my youth (single-figure ages) which has failed to be improved. My dentist has tried in the past to whiten them and gotten nowhere and thankfully decided to wave the cost since the improvement was essentially non-existant. And to be honest about it, I have always been told I have a nice smile... when I actually smile. The fact my teeth are stained doesn't even seem to register with anyone. | |
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/29/2008 4:19:24 PM | | Your weight is more likely to kill you than your teeth, so I think these men have the right idea. If you want to only date guys with a beautiful smile, then put it on your profile. But don't be surprised if guys with beautiful smiles don't message you, the same way thin women don't reply to guys with "only thin girls need apply" on their profile. If you want to meet a man for a FWB, look at the teeth first, and the man second. If you want to meet a man for a LTR, look at the man first, and the teeth second. | |
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/29/2008 5:16:39 PM | Bad teeth (decayed, discolored, missing, etc) getting fixed vs a new car // bike // etc? I get the point and I agree with you. Makes no sense. But, to some apparently it does...or they don't think the problem is as bad as it really is...or dental health just isn't a big deal to them.
Either way OP, I'm with you on this one.
Put it in your profile. The only people who are going to be offended are those you're probably referring to anyway. Ignore the bashing in this thread. Nothing wrong with wanting someone who takes care of their teeth // mouth. It's called good hygiene. | |
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/29/2008 5:22:53 PM |
I fall under the 'yellow or stained' group of people and it is from my youth (single-figure ages) which has failed to be improved. My dentist has tried in the past to whiten them and gotten nowhere and thankfully decided to wave the cost since the improvement was essentially non-existant. And to be honest about it, I have always been told I have a nice smile... when I actually smile. The fact my teeth are stained doesn't even seem to register with anyone.
That is exactly what I meant :) Bad wording on my part, by improved, I meant your oral hygiene habits, not the actual whiteness. | |
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/29/2008 5:35:18 PM |
bad teeth, visible decay, yellow and missing teeth
We don't all have bad teeth. I have all but one of my chompers, and visit the dentist regular like.... As for the one that went MIA, it was an impacted wisdom.
As for yellow, teeth naturally go yellow with age... just in case you were wondering. | |
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/29/2008 7:47:18 PM |
It's hard to say you can't notice missing teeth but seriously. Not everyone pays attention to it.
Um, wouldnt pain and sensitivity be a dead give away??? That and the *i wanna hurl* type glances at a gross, dirty, plaque blackened set of teeth. | |
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/29/2008 9:21:36 PM | As someone who needs dental work, all you have to do is care. I only care as far as it will get me.
Just say "I'll **** someone with nice teeth" as a collective gender, and you shall have your wish. | |
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/29/2008 10:54:17 PM | I am with you on this OP.
I have met a lot of men online from several different dating sites. If you look at them and are grossed out, there is no hope. There was a thread on the over 45 forum and people got
really defensive. But you are right in the fact that if they can afford all their toys, they can afford to have good dental hygiene. We aren't talking about people who couldn't afford braces when they were younger. We are talking about rotten teeth. | |
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/29/2008 11:31:01 PM | not every guy has a bunch of toys or boats, etc, or $10-20K to make their teeth look like a celebrities. granted there are guys that do and i see your point...
unless his breath is just nasty and makes you gag, have you ever considered that he can fix his teeth after you two get together? if everything about him is quality except for his teeth, why not give him a chance since they can be fixed? it'd be one thing if it was something that weren't a matter of a bit of time and money to fix... you'd be surprised what a guy will do for the one he loves :) i don't see a problem with making that clear up front either (you're a great guy, but i have a personal issue with teeth and if we stay together you gotta fix'em becaue it's a priority to me). | |
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/30/2008 12:00:27 AM | Hold it hold it from what i'm hearing you see a guy with bad teeth and assume he spends it on "toys" instead? I'm sorry but that of course isn't always the case for there are some people out there like me who just very recently GOT dental for the first time again in years (haven't had time to make it in yet since then though) and spent out of my pocket nearly 2 grand JUST to get SOME of the cavities taken care of before I got dental again, and i'll tell you what my teeth are bad just because I was unforunate in the genes of that department i've got friends whom have great teeth and no cavities, hardly brush at all and haven't seen a dentist in years where I even look at a pop and bam 2 cavities....don't get me wrong I use mouth wash, brush twice a day and floss I just have weak teeth but what really gets me going is how everyone these days expects everyone to have pearly white, perfect, straight teeth. I'm just happy that I got my two front teeth that unforunatly had facial cavities fixed and when I smile i'm happy even if my teeth are a bit yellowish I know I got another huge facial cavity on my second to last tooth in the back which I hope isn't to late to fix without a root canal.
*sighs* sorry i'm getting to into this but i've just been hearing a lot about teeth over and over lately some of us just don't got the money to be taking care of things like teeth bills and staying alive take over before my teeth becoming perfect white pearls that make people squint when I smile at them lol. As for myself however I will first get that one bad cavity I mentioned before fixed and get my teeth cleaned but thats the BEST I can do I can't afford all the special whitener crap people buy these days lol. Ok i'm done with my ranting. | |
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/30/2008 12:38:52 AM | "It's not to say your priority if right, wrong or indifferent, it's just that it's yours and you are the one that has to own the consequences. Similarly, a lot of men I know exclude all women with a BMI over 20, needless to say they are still alone. I would venture to say that everyone reading this post, if they are honest can say they have criteria though not the same as yours, but are deal breakers none the less."
This post makes perfect sense. Everyone has their preferences and priorities. Personally it grosses me out and turns me off if a man does not have good oral hygiene and healthy clean looking teeth. Bad oral hygiene can eventually affect the overall well being of your entire body, and cause infection. There are many products out there to clean and whiten teeth, and they should be used. Whiter teeth make you look younger. There is nothing worse than teeth that look like petrified pieces of wood.
It amazes me that these same men that exclude women with a BMI over 20 will have a picture posted that looks like they rolled out of bed without combing their hair, wear wrinkled clothes, and have nasty teeth. These same men will expect that they should have a woman that looks like a barbie. Trust me. After she has gone through all the pain, suffering, expense and starvation she had to go through, to look like a barbie, the only way she is going to be with this type of man is if he pays her! Women are getting just as picky about whether a man takes care of himself, as the men are about women, so stop being whimps, and get those teeth cleaned and whitened men!
Footnote: I'm slightly bias because my dad is a dentist!  | |
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/30/2008 2:58:21 AM | I like guys with good teeth.
A friend of mine many many years ago had a boyfriend who was okay until he opened his mouth.............OMG his teeth were green, definately a not brush your teeth everyday kind of guy. I wanted to vomit everytime I saw her kiss him. I couldnt think of anything worse than kissing someone who doesnt look after their teeth well.
Im fortunate enough to be born with good teeth so I guess I grew up thinking that a smile was important. I dont mind if guys have crooked teeth (not too bad though) but if they are unhygienic that is a totally differnet thing.
One thing I dont get is when you are with a guy and they get up in the morning and go hours and hours without brushing their teeth. Its one of the first things I do, nice fresh mouth is a great feeling | |
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| Why do so many men neglect their dental health
Posted: 4/30/2008 5:23:45 AM | I agree with what OP is saying.
I have met men who were very nice. But, yellow (some black even) teeth.
Not talking crooked..uneven.. or decayed... just looking really bad ... yellow and black teeth.
Total turn off.
This isn't man bashing. I am sure that in that same situation most men would find it unappealing in a woman too.
I cannot bring myself to kiss such a mouth.
This is about a person's priorities. This is about the things people can change. So, the question is why don't they? Maybe because they don't know what a total turn off it is? OK, then how to you tell them in a way that isn't rude? | |
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