| Would You Travel Hundreds Of Miles For A First Date?
Posted: 6/6/2005 6:27:42 PM | Ahhh Rapunzel just go for it! Life is too short! You are an intelligent, mature woman who can take care of herself no matter what. So at the very least you get a half decent vacation out of it!
Let 'er rip. You only live once! Good luck and be sure to let us know how it goes | |
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Joined: 7/1/2003
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| Would You Travel Hundreds Of Miles For A First Date?
Posted: 6/6/2005 10:05:14 PM | | Woah, after that girl got killed in Aruba going off alone I'm not sure I would be going to another country alone to be with a man you've never met. I gotta give you props, you got more balls than I ever would. Hell, I'm majorly disappointed when I drive an hour to meet someone and it doesn't work out LOL. Good luck is all I can say, and be really careful. | |
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| Would You Travel Hundreds Of Miles For A First Date?
Posted: 6/6/2005 10:16:37 PM | | I would go if time and work permited!! I have had two really good friends fly here so far......and they loved the country.....one even moved here. If you have talked long enough to gain trust......why not!! Be alone or just do it!!:) | |
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Joined: 6/7/2005
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| Would You Travel Hundreds Of Miles For A First Date?
Posted: 6/7/2005 8:22:08 AM | I used to. Not anymore. I figure if they are truly interested in meeting me then they can come to me first, then I'll be willing to travel if we hit it off. My experience has been that it's been nothing but games. Usually, players making it easier on themselves to have ladies from out of town. Or people just playing games online with no true intentions of ever meeting you when you ask them to come to you first.
My answer to you: Keep an open mind. It has worked for some and not for others. | |
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| Would You Travel Hundreds Of Miles For A First Date?
Posted: 6/8/2005 5:59:34 PM | My friend once had a guy fly all the way from California, to Memphis, TN to meet her.
When they met face to face, she wasn't attracted to him. Although she had seen photos, you never really know till you meet someone in person. You have to prepare yourself for that. She felt really guilty about all the time and money he spent just to meet her. He was very disappointed. | |
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| Would You Travel Hundreds Of Miles For A First Date?
Posted: 6/8/2005 6:07:53 PM | Yeah, Tigress, I hear that a lot. It's a total game of chance. It could happen either way with us, though I did make it a point to take a pic of myself at a party Saturday night so he could see what I look like right now, and he's sent me four pics of himself, all pretty recent (he says.) We've agreed to just have fun no matter what, and since I've made it clear I'm not looking for the romance of the century with someone thousands of miles away I think he's mature enough to deal with anything that happens. If it doesn't work out, hey, I've seen Long Beach and he's made a new friend. I think grave disappointment happens when you invest everything body and soul into someone you haven't even touched yet. That's not good. I'm too old and experienced for that. He's a little more wet behind the ears but he's a guy, they recover fast, lol.
Hopefully though it will be a lovely weekend of yum-yum and sight seeing. Certainly make it a nice vacation if that is the case.
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aynie
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Joined: 6/8/2005
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| Would You Travel Hundreds Of Miles For A First Date?
Posted: 1/7/2006 4:14:28 AM | | Maybe I would if I was really into the guy before meeting him and had a strong desire to meet him. Just don't know because I have not been in that situation to make that decision. I think I would prefer the guy come to me first time around. | |
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| Would You Travel Hundreds Of Miles For A First Date?
Posted: 1/7/2006 9:34:54 AM | Live life and life it to the fullest if and when possible. Just remember, to realize safety first. I agree with many of the responses to your post. One never knows until one tries it out. I do think the idea of agreeing to keep it friendly if it doesn't work out is smart.
Just rememeber, we older folk still have young hearts and young minds. We still have a zest for life and want to enjoy it to the fullest. I think there are many of us that don't really feel the age we are at. I hope you go for it rememebering to be safe and have plans for that, but I truly do wish you the best. I hope, after this occurs, you will write back and let us know how it worked out.
I truly wish you the best!!!
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Joined: 4/23/2005
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| Would You Travel Hundreds Of Miles For A First Date?
Posted: 1/7/2006 9:55:32 AM | I had a woman ask if I would go to Texas to meet her -- now we have barely talked, I still don't know her name, and well she is a lot older than me.
Now if she is older and more mature ( read her profile ), why is it she has to get me to go there ?? How come she can't come here lol
Each day I lose faith in women, with either something said or done. So travelling to Texas isn't gonna be helping me really lol
I can talk with anyone, and if they live a distance then so be it. If a good online friendship works out then maybe one day I will fly or drive to see her, but not after the 3rd message lol
Rushing -- for what ?? sex, relationship, love -- I have never known anyone who was able to do anything which lasted while in the rush. | |
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| Would You Travel Hundreds Of Miles For A First Date?
Posted: 1/7/2006 10:02:42 AM | Agreeing with shappy:
If someone is rushing it that fast, it would be a major yellow flag for certain. If they say they love you after the first 5 minutes or even 60 minutes ...okay, just too many tell you they love you way too quickly. I can't understand that for the life of me. How do people exclaim their undying love for you when they have no idea who you are? lol Ohhhh, that's right, that's how I meet so many scammers. (giggling here)
Anyway, I agree with shappy. If it is going that fast, please be super cautious. Also, for shappy, once you meet someone I hope maybe you can both meet halfway? I guess I always look for a fair compromise.
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| Would You Travel Hundreds Of Miles For A First Date?
Posted: 1/10/2006 7:11:18 PM | | I see that this is old, but I just stumbled on this thread...been there and done that...I'm from Alabama like you (WAR EAGLE!) and I hopped a plane for Syracuse NY a few years ago...we were engage for a couple of years...things didn't work out, but I don't regret it a bit...deep down, I still miss her... | |
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Joined: 12/19/2005
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| Would You Travel Hundreds Of Miles For A First Date?
Posted: 1/10/2006 10:03:05 PM | I have done it. It was SO worth it. We established that there would be NO expectations so that if the chemistry fizzled at first sight we could just enjoy the friendship.
Play it safe. Let people know where your going and who you'll be with...but go.
You'll enjoy the new experience. | |
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Joined: 6/2/2005
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| Would You Travel Hundreds Of Miles For A First Date?
Posted: 1/11/2006 9:53:45 AM | yes...in fact "he" did first...but i followed suit a short while later...
we had only known each other for a month before...it was intense...and we needed to meet...he came 2600 miles from another country for our first date...which commenced on Valentines Day and lasted the entire week he was here...i went to "his" place a month or so later for our next "date"...and that one lasted more than 3 weeks...
pure utopian bliss...wouldn't hesitate to do it again... | |
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| Would You Travel Hundreds Of Miles For A First Date?
Posted: 1/11/2006 10:15:48 AM | I've done it twice, once her coming here and once in a neutral city. But both times, we started with separate places to stay. Just think that makes the most sense to start, because chemistry is chemistry ... it happens or it doesn't, and I've known of countless people for whom it didn't happen, and it turned into the longest two or three days of their lives.
Kind of like that first encounter with someone who lives in the same city ... meeting somewhere just seems to make more sense. | |
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| Would You Travel Hundreds Of Miles For A First Date?
Posted: 1/11/2006 2:15:17 PM | I think I would try to convince him to come here first...since I hate to fly...
But otherwise if I felt the connection I would take a couple of xanax and have someone drag me onto the plane.  | |
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