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 john.duke12
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Fine with me, so long as you can still take out the trash and mow the lawn.


Only if you cook dinner and clean the toilets. lol
 MMORPGRTSFPS
Joined: 6/20/2008
Msg: 52
Why does everyone assume women have better orgasms than men?
Posted: 8/9/2008 7:02:51 PM
Some women do have better orgasms. I've seen it. It's insane. I'm jealous.
 LaMediaNaranja
Joined: 7/23/2008
Msg: 53
Why does everyone assume women have better orgasms than men?
Posted: 8/9/2008 7:31:57 PM
Why do we even have to have a "better" or even compare the level of orgasm both genders have? Hell, as long as they orgasm and enjoy the experience that should be all that matters (IMO).

 Alexander_86
Joined: 6/8/2008
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Why does everyone assume women have better orgasms than men?
Posted: 8/9/2008 8:10:05 PM
Key to good orgasm, plain an simple..

wait a good week before having sex..
Induce great amounts of foreplay that get both partners very close to orgasm then back it off to less but still sensual actions. and repeat the process, eventually your body will become so turned on that you both will have very strong and very exciting orgasm.. this works best with two usual partners..
 Rubytyr1
Joined: 6/15/2008
Msg: 55
Why does everyone assume women have better orgasms than men?
Posted: 8/9/2008 8:32:22 PM
Well, I dont think one is better then the other - not that I would ever know, lol - but I know when I orgasm, it feels like I just took a sleeping pill (well, at least for 10 - 15 minutes anyway) lol...where as msot women ive been with are almost always ready for more, despite having just had a multi-O.
 WarmBrandie
Joined: 7/12/2008
Msg: 56
Why does everyone assume women have better orgasms than men?
Posted: 8/10/2008 6:09:44 AM
I think there are different strengths of orgasims for both parties, so there really isn't anything to compare.. some are stronger than others for men and women!!
 platypus_man
Joined: 8/29/2007
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Why does everyone assume women have better orgasms than men?
Posted: 8/10/2008 6:48:25 AM
Who assumes that? My orgasms are wonderful, each and every one. I don't know what a 'female' orgasm feels like, nor will I ever know, so why should I care if hers are 'better' in some way? And how would she know either? All orgasms are great. I'll take one over having to eat steamed vegetables any time. In fact, give me a minute, I think I'll have one now.....aaaahhhHHHHHHHHH! YES! (reaches for tissues). Now, what were we talking about???
 sexyfunlover
Joined: 8/6/2008
Msg: 58
Why does everyone assume women have better orgasms than men?
Posted: 8/10/2008 7:32:32 AM
i have read most of the comments and replies answering, and everyone have a point.
this is why we look for a match, it is a body and soulmatch and this would makes you feel a high volate power in your body while having an orgasm.
i have been dating andintimitating alot till met girl that is extremly ecxited by the same actual excitments that gives me an orgasm.
i have never enjoyed an orgazm more then the time i really enjoyed it with that girl.
what excits us the most is the moment when your both bodies start to shiver just before you gets an orgasm. you can just feel the vibes and act with it.
this will drives you to a mutual orgasm (both at the ame time) for like 30 seconds, where you get your bodies blues to eachothers with a high magnet fiel that cross both bodies like when a thunder hits the ground.
 chemistrymajor8
Joined: 12/23/2006
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Posted: 8/10/2008 7:45:53 AM
I would say that the top percentile of women have more intense orgasms then the top percentile of men. They also have them more often. On the other hand I think men in general enjoy orgasms much more then women do. The reason....mainly hangups about being in touch with their sexual selves.
 john.duke12
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Posted: 8/10/2008 12:25:20 PM

I would say that the top percentile of women have more intense orgasms then the top percentile of men.


If you're comparing g spot stimulation to a man's traditional orgasm then yes.

But g spot stimulation compared to proper prostate stimulation , I think men would be having the more intense orgasms.
 ob1kanobee
Joined: 5/21/2008
Msg: 61
Why does everyone assume women have better orgasms than men?
Posted: 12/26/2008 5:52:17 PM
A husband and wife were arguing on whether males or females enjoy sex better. The husband says "of course it's us men, why else would we be so obsessed with it?". Then his wife says, "stick your finger in your ear and wriggle it around. What comes out feeling better, the finger or the hole?"
 whatever3321
Joined: 12/13/2008
Msg: 62
Why does everyone assume women have better orgasms than men?
Posted: 12/26/2008 8:03:20 PM
thats a large 13% of women that have multiple orgasms, because I have found that every woman is capable of having them and its just a matter of work involved. I will do what ever it take to please my woman and sometimes it gets out of hand and hurts but its worth it when she is speechless and bragging. Most women get off from clitoral stimulation so I guess the more the better and you can always ask and experiment till you get the result you desire.
 MsMicki
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Posted: 12/26/2008 9:02:20 PM
I strive to give my man an orgasm as intense as my own....
I can only hope I am succeeding.
I'm assuming when he's trembling and shaking and can no longer hold himself up any longer.....that his was as good as mine!
 jadore44
Joined: 2/17/2009
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Why does everyone assume women have better orgasms than men?
Posted: 3/13/2009 11:29:48 PM
I'm not sure...... Interestingly, a bunch of sex-change people came to a class I was in the other day. A guy in my class asked a man who got a sex-change to be a women, which orgasm was better, the one she had while being a man, or the one she had after undergoing the surgery. My whole 500 person class held their breaths... She said the female orgasm was more intense, and she could now have multiples. The girls in my class cheered. I thought it was funny, but I don't think there's any way to prove it. Anyway there are greater individual variations than a difference between gender.
 mandakay
Joined: 3/4/2009
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Posted: 3/13/2009 11:53:10 PM

thats a large 13% of women that have multiple orgasms, because I have found that every woman is capable of having them and its just a matter of work involved.


lucky people. *sigh*
 dilettante_84
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Posted: 3/14/2009 12:14:14 AM

If men want women to believe they have better orgasms than women, they need to be more expressive during their orgasms. I knw some men are vocal, but many arent or you get like a grunt when they cum. A woman knows how to call the cows home though.


Personally it's just not natural or comfrotable for me to be really vocal during sex, and I expect this is simply and extension of my fairly quiet nature in general.

I will say however that I find women who are really loud and vocalize like porn stars during sex to be pretty annoying.
 dilettante_84
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Posted: 3/14/2009 12:16:47 AM
I'm not sure...... Interestingly, a bunch of sex-change people came to a class I was in the other day. A guy in my class asked a man who got a sex-change to be a women, which orgasm was better, the one she had while being a man, or the one she had after undergoing the surgery. My whole 500 person class held their breaths... She said the female orgasm was more intense, and she could now have multiples. The girls in my class cheered. I thought it was funny, but I don't think there's any way to prove it. Anyway there are greater individual variations than a difference between gender.


I don't think that proves a damn thing. First of all, no matter what kind of surgery is done, *she* still doesn't have truly genuine female parts, only hacked male ones.

Secondly, as a transexual woman, she probably had some level of contempt for her male equipement when she had it, and therefore cognitive dissonance would kick in, she would say he orgasms were better as a woman, simply because she believes that being a woman is better in the first place.


But I think it's better to keep it a mystery...


Totally agree. It's bad enough that I am jealous that women can have five of them in a row, I don't need to go through life knowing that all five of them feel better than mine too.
 jadore44
Joined: 2/17/2009
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Posted: 3/14/2009 12:35:09 AM
dilettante84: I totally agree that it doesn't prove anything. I just thought it was interesting. The penis is essentially a large clit (as in, they are dimorphic sex structures), so if it was reshaped into a clit, I don't really know what difference there would be except for it being more/less sensitive?? I wondered why the surgery would lead to multiples or more intense ones if the same nerves/tissue were there...??

I'd also say she didn't think being a woman was necessarily better in general (she said she got ignored more). She just felt more natural in that role.

I guess the closest thing to knowing would be to ask, not a transsexual, but a hermaphrodite. lol. But I think it's better to keep it a mystery...
 Sarahrei
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Posted: 3/14/2009 4:49:35 AM
My fiancee would probably say that I have better ones, but I think it depends on the person not the sex. My buddy Ryan probably has the best orgasms in the world from what I've been told. Am I jealous? Hell no.
 lightening51
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Posted: 3/14/2009 5:41:59 AM
These are interesting statements and interesting responses.

And, I have one, too.

Let's call it the "Big Bang Theory."

"The Big Bang"...that's men. (One shot, one kill. If he's young, he'll have a shorter refractory period, and may be able to go again...later.)

Women are a little bit different.

No man ever pleased me by "delaying" my orgasm. (That's super non-productive for me.)

He may have pleased me by delaying HIS orgasm...but, certainly not the other way.

Women are "stackers."

To a point, one orgasm leads to another. (It is possible to reach exhaustion...but, it usually takes a while.)

Eventually, a woman (this woman) may experience the "Big Bang"...but, it is probably after a whole lot of little bangs.

All of the verbal and non-verbal that accompanies the little bangs serves a purpose...to encourage the man to keep up the good work...else we would simply have the black box...no feedback...and where's the fun in that?
 windloverr
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Posted: 3/14/2009 5:48:05 AM
I know what I've read, I know what I've been told, and I know what I've experienced; and I don't know how they can even be compared.

Read:
Master's and Johnson did a study and found that with masturbation men and women both experienced orgasm at about the 4 minute mark; and they both lasted about the same length of time (I forget how many seconds); and subjectively, they both described them using the same adjectives. I.E. their reasearch showed that, with masturbation, the orgasms were equivalent.

Experienced:
I've never orgasmed more than 4-5 times in a night; and that was many years ago, LOL. Now I'm usually good for one, occassionally two. I've had orgasms last possibly 30 seconds; but never anything approaching a minute. I've learned to have full body orgasms; but never "out of control" orgasms.

I've seen women have well over 40 orgasms in a night. I haven't seen data supporting the 13% figure regarding how many women have multiples; but my experience says this is bull$hit. I have NEVER been with a woman more than a couple of times who could not have at least two or three; and the vast majority can have a minimum of 5-8 with 10-12 not being uncommon; and a rare few 25 to as many as 50. I've also seen women orgasm for several minutes at a time. (Although, there is a phenomenon called an "orgasm cloud" where a womans orgasms come so close together that it feels like she is having one very long orgasm; so I'm not sure if these women were coming once for several minutes; or having many indistinguishable orgasms. Although, I am sure it REALLY doesn't matter as far as they are concerned, LOL. Women can also have multiple types of orgsms that vary in intensity, and tend to be full body. I've also seen women orgasm to the point they did lose complete contol; and were completely unable to move for an extended period afterwards.

While I have read, and been told, that men can learn to have longer, more intense orgasms; and multiple orgasms that don't involve ejaculation; I haven't personally experienced, or talked to anyone who has experienced anything that even remotely approximates the 0rgasms I know first hand (no pun intended) women are capable of. There's a book, for women, called "The 30 minute orgasm"; and I've got a buddy who has assured me it's accurate; and I believe him. If a man had 50 orgasms in a night, or one orgasm that lasted 30 minutes, he would either die. or be afraid he wouldn't die. One time, I almost had two orgasms back to back; and it literally felt so good it scared me; and I stopped before I had the second one. I haven't been able to repeat the experience.

From my personal experience, comparing a woman's orgasm, or orgasmic potential, to a man's would be like comparing a brand new Mercedes 500 SEL to a 1974 Pinto.
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
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Posted: 3/14/2009 7:08:30 AM

From my personal experience, comparing a woman's orgasm, or orgasmic potential, to a man's would be like comparing a brand new Mercedes 500 SEL to a 1974 Pinto


Hyperbole, probably, but I pretty much agree with Windlover. Women are endowed with certain special powers, maybe to offset some unique "natural" burdens. Only women bleed, but they also know stuff about mushrooms that I don't get, and I think they're better connected to some forces and currents that are otherworldly (to my half a brain) . Until some driven genius creates a quasi-seismograph to measure the neural/physical length, breadth and force of an orgasm, with some convincing way to calibrate it (I envision endless testing, hehehe), we're speculating mostly, confined by our own sensory detectors, but with imagination. I've always marveled at a woman's "O"; never with complaint, certainly not competitiveness, just intense curiousity, and, well, abiding pride to be in the vicinity whenever a seismic release happens. While I often wish, and want, to know what she feels, I'm okay living with the mystery, and magic, and things that have no other explanation.
 Caper143
Joined: 8/2/2007
Msg: 73
Why does everyone assume women have better orgasms than men?
Posted: 3/14/2009 7:10:57 AM
I guess the only person who is gonna fully know the answer to that question is a transsexual...someone who has experienced sex as both a man and a woman...but then again..if they were happy with the first performance then maybe they would not have wanted to switch. I'm really no help at all..lol

There really is no way of knowing which, male or female, have the better orgasm but for my own personal happiness...I am just gonna assume women and be happy with that.
 LakeCountyGal
Joined: 9/4/2008
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Posted: 3/14/2009 5:07:15 PM
I don't think most assume that. At least, I don't. I've always wondered what orgasms are like for men. I've always personally assumed that they too, can have very intense orgasms.

I am happy to hear that men have good ones too.


You go girl...er, boy.
 SouthernPatriot
Joined: 7/30/2008
Msg: 75
Why does everyone assume women have better orgasms than men?
Posted: 3/14/2009 5:31:32 PM

I guess the only person who is gonna fully know the answer to that question is a transsexual





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