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Posted: 10/12/2008 3:16:04 AM | I dont consider any age to be OLD, old is a state of mind. When you start looking and acting old...you are old and that can happen at any age.
Maturity has nothing to do with age.
However I dont think the term "Young at heart" is a bad one, I would think it means that you are more open to things, not as headstrong or set in your ways, willing to risk falling in love ..vs being old and bitter cause love skipped ya by. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2008 4:03:13 AM | You have a very good point there Luv2Ski; however for me, (and I have it in my profile) it's more a matter of differentiating myself from stereotypical views; i.e., my being 61.
Now; to me age is a number. My dad lived til he was 92 years old and could still do Marine Corp pushups; walked 3 miles a day and was up on every piece of current events around. He lived with us; shared his wisdom and was sought out to do so. He was part of every social gathering we had; whether it was parties that my high school/college aged kids had, or anything else we did as a family. Never once did anyone think anything of his age - because that man was *young at heart*!!!
That being said; while I am physically fit, can ski, swim, dance and rock out with the best of them, enrich my mind and blah blah blah...I can tell you that I have friends who are are 61 or younger who psychologically and physiologically look and act much older.
I AM young at heart! I don't feel whatever many people who thinks a 61 year old, should feel like and I WON"T until the day I die! You can laugh, think it's immature and hokey and pass me over....it's stayin in there!  | |
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Posted: 10/12/2008 4:33:57 AM | To me Young at Heart merely means that you didn't reach a certain point in time and say this is the photo of life I want to preserve. Immaturity and striving to stay young (the same thing really) is not at the core of the person. There is nothing worse than mutton dressed as a 19 year old, male or female, and those that chase the young are just plain sad.
It is about acknowledging the worth that has gone before, but enjoying what life has to offer now, it is looking after yourself health wise, and dressing to suit the fact that you aren't a kid anymore, and that flouro tee shirt with the beer gut looks naff.
Funny thing the other day - a young guy apologised about the noise he and his friends were making. We were at the Prince Bandroom in St Kilda to see the record launch of a rock band - people just enjoying the music. Age was irrelevant. The generation gap belonging to 'other' people. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2008 4:54:25 AM | I think I am the only one who gets what the OP is saying.....
What's the point of even saying you are young at heart unless you think of yourself as old....what is old? Are you old at 40? 50? 60? Who is to say? By seeming to want to assure yourself and/or others that you are still youthful by saying you are young at heart, you are also indirectly saying you consider yourself old. Why not just 'be.' Be alive, be the person you are? Why does age come into it unless you put it there? Do 20 or 30 year olds say they are young at heart? Do they feel the need to? If not, then why does someone who is 40 or 50 or 60 feel the need to? I don't. I wouldn't say it. I am simply me, and think and behave and live the way I always have as an adult...not acting like a kid, not mutton dressed as lamb, not having to prove anything to anyone... | |
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Posted: 10/12/2008 5:07:06 AM | Like most things you see on a profile, I don't think you can slap a single label on this phrase and cover all the bases. Raading through a profile I've taken it to mean they think people their own age can't keep up with them, or as it's been stated, the rest of them has fallen apart. 
To the OP's point, in many ways I'm more active now than I was 20 years ago when raising kids meant the few free moments were reserved for beer. So this mid 50 yr old doesn't feel that stating the's "young at heart" says anything because I sure as heck don't think I'm old. ........ Athough I do admit to hurting longer these days .......but that's why God gave us hot tubs. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2008 5:49:42 AM |
Anyone who feels the NEED to tell people that he/she looks or acts younger is insecure and afraid of aging. I pretty much agree with that statement!
By seeming to want to assure yourself and/or others that you are still youthful by saying you are young at heart, you are also indirectly saying you consider yourself old. Another variation of the same statement. I agree, again.
I am simply me, and think and behave and live the way I always have as an adult...not acting like a kid, not mutton dressed as lamb, not having to prove anything to anyone... YEP! Ditto. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2008 5:57:16 AM | Breath: you are always a breath of fresh air....'specially when you agree with me, lol... | |
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Posted: 10/12/2008 8:40:14 AM | Young at heart to me means I'm not to the "rocking chair" chapter in my life just yet. It means I am still willing to get out and do things, and not be a couch potato. That I have an open mind on learning new things (withen reason), and still willing to try.
It means I still have space in my life and in my heart to allow someone in, and share my life with ..........  | |
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Posted: 10/12/2008 8:54:28 AM | The old ( seasoned ,,,as once you stop living to the fullest ,,,not old ) quote
"Do not stop playing because you get older,,because you stop playing for good,your dead,,"
Have a great day,,,Dave:) | |
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Posted: 10/12/2008 9:27:36 AM | Age is perception.
Wherever you are, old age, is somewhere down the road.
I remember thinking my parents were "getting old"
I am now the age they were then, and I do not feel I am getting old.
Though my heart may feel young when it is happy,
my body always reminds me how many birthdays I have had. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2008 9:41:54 AM | | I do not think the phrase "young at heart" has anything to do with age. I think it means they want someone who is active, seeks adventure, and loves to do fun things. At least if I put that phrase in my profile, that is what it would mean to me. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2008 1:46:01 PM | I think people say "young at heart" because some people seem to think human beings loses value as they age. It is an effort perhaps on their part to say, even though my body has aged, my heart has not. It still holds joy, love, and laughter, and I , as a person, have value. I do not dismiss people for saying this. - Celticmist
I think that is partly true, but I think it is also a matter of perception, both of ourselves & those around us. I know that I
certainly didn't expect to feel & look the way I do, at this age.
Also, it can be difficult to see ourselves aa others do. There are at least 3 women I see regularly here in the forums (often
in these types of threads), who to me look AT LEAST 10 - 2 years younger than they actually are. And they don't see it, at
all. I think it's difficult for us to be objective about ourselves, because we KNOW exactly how old we are. That's my take
on it, anyway.
When I see these phrases in a guys profile (wen I am single & looking)it may put me off, but for a very different reason.
I am disabled (crippled) & not as active as many people my age, are. Therefore, it might be a problem, in terms of life-
style, shared interests/activities & compatibility.
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When I see "Young At Heart" on someones profile, I consider it a positive thing.
To me, they are saying that they haven't grown bitter over some of the dissappointments we all encounter along the way. - Levi501s
That's a very good way to look at it, Levi501s. Thanks for pointing that out! | |
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Posted: 10/12/2008 2:03:56 PM | Young at heart means not bitter, not jaded, capable of having fun like a kid can, etc
People may expect 40 -60 + people to have become a bit boring due to responsbilities, etc
Thus, it indicates you can still act young.
I knew a guy who was in his 70's and said: it's not our age anymore than to go to restaurants every week, etc.
His lady friend wasn't amused | |
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Posted: 10/12/2008 2:28:14 PM | To read “Young at Heart” in a profile is not an instant negative for me. It actually gives me hope that the person may enjoy Frankie! Ring-a-ding-ding!
Although it’s a remarkable feat for a 91 year old to ski a double-back diamond run, that is just one example of “young at heart”. To be “Young at Heart” one needn’t scale a mountain peak, forge the Amazon, or kayak the rapids. You merely need to possess a youthful spirit; that positive “anything is possible” outlook toward life that inspires one to undertake and pursue any endeavor or dream they’d like, regardless of age.
I know of no one who is in a hurry to get to the “end of the line”. To me, “Young at Heart” is just an expression, like “age is just a number” or “you’re only as old as you feel”. I wouldn’t prejudge or assume a complete stranger to be insecurely clinging to youth or circuitously stating they are old, simply because they used a three word cliché on a dating profile.
Fairy tales can come true, it can happen to you
If you’re young at heart
For it’s hard, you will find, to be narrow of mind
If you’re young at heart
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Posted: 10/12/2008 3:06:48 PM |
I don't need to feel young "again".
I never got old.
I just need something to make my heart sing.
ok, but are old farts the same as y0ung farts? | |
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Posted: 10/12/2008 4:07:36 PM | If you are young at heart...you have your own music(song...whatever).You don't need pilot to start your"music".You still have millions of desires.Just in your heart.And one brilliant desire for joy.
You don't have to tell me that you are young in your heart.
I can recognize it ...simply...by your wrinkles on your face! | |
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Posted: 10/12/2008 5:21:49 PM | I think it is too bad some might interpret that as an instant negative. For most I don't think it has anything to do with attracting a younger person.
In reality we have reached a point in life where some have grown too comfortable in the lazy-boy with the remote at side. Also we are at an age where some might have physical problems with leading as active a lifestyle.
I prefer to be with someone my one age, and not be expected to create a lifestyle of being sedate. I'm the type of person that is still exploring life and the great ourdoors, I still like to play and I hope I'm able to until the day I die. I may die by losing my footing and falling off a mountain, but what a way to go. Then someone can say why that silly old woman should have known better than to be climbing around like that at her age.. At least they'll have something to talk about at my memorial service. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2008 5:48:47 PM | I used to say quite often "I never want to be as old as my mother!"....................
I am now 'older' in years than she was when I began saying that........
I was talking about an 'older' mindset....a manner in which one looks at 'life'.....
I am absolutely young at heart....I still have to remind myself of my age in struggling with physical things once easy now not so......
But, I feel like 'a kid' yet in many ways....easily thrilled in the smallest of ways in judging a "good day" ! Adventurous, free spirited, spontaneous.... Love to play, have fun be light hearted and 'child like', giggle, laugh...just be silly.....at times.
Sometimes telling my children that I am waiting to grow up to do certain things or make certain decisions they may be asking about......Nah, far from an 'elderly' mindset or view of life....and definitely YOUNG AT HEART! | |
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Posted: 10/12/2008 10:45:13 PM | Age is a state of mind, and an attitude. If you believe you are old, then you are.
Young at heart is just that, a belief that the person believes they are young.
I am over 50, dont look or act my age - some people say "you go girl!" while others say "why dont you act your age!" Rubbish! I am who I am and I like to live each moment of life, like its my last.
I know people who are younger than me, who look and act much older than me. I also know people who are older than me and who, like me dont act or look their age.
I think its all about lifestyle, taking care of ones self and deciding to live or die. I try and learn new things all the time and I live for adventures.
You are only as old as you act and feel. In my minds eye - I'm 12 and damn proud of it. | |
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Posted: 10/13/2008 7:16:27 PM | I think when people say they are "young at heart" or "look younger", "act younger than their age"
it just means they are hoping for someone at least a decade younger than them.
Because the ladies (or men) their age remind them of who they actually are and they just can't stand the reality of it. | |
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Posted: 10/13/2008 7:37:17 PM | It seems this thread has turned into either "the glass is half full" or "it's half empty."
If I ever get stuck in a Lifeboat, I hope it's with people that consider the statement "young at heart" to be a positive thing! | |
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Posted: 10/14/2008 4:49:07 PM |
I know people who are younger than me, who look and act much older than me. I also know people who are older than me and who, like me dont act or look their age.
Herein lies the problem of claiming to be "young at heart" or to act/look younger than one's age--there is no book on how one should act at any age. In the 21st century, who defined how 60 or 30 should act? Can a 30 year old person really "act" 60? If a 25 year old sits on the couch and watches TV, getting fat, that isn't acting older; that's merely sitting on the couch watching TV and getting fat. If 90 year old runs a marathon, that person is merely be him or herself, not acting younger.
In the good old says, age roles, like gender roles, were more striated, but that has changed drastically. I have read in many places where the "new 60 is the old 40," but as my friend put it, "No, the new 60 is just the new 60."
According to POF, half the women and men over 50 look ten years younger! But if that is true, then they don't look ten years younger: they look their ages. It would take one person to stand out among MANY to make that true.
I am often told I look younger than I am, and I take it with not a grain of salt, but a boulder salt. I say, "No, I don't look younger; this is what 55 looks like"
The rest of you look 55, as well. | |
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Posted: 10/14/2008 5:02:24 PM | Now I am on a soapbox. I am going to discuss women because I am a woman--a man will have to speak for a man.
When I was young, I used to look at my mother and other women her age and think, I won't act or look like that when I am 45, 50, 55--and I don't. Those women were locked into social expectations that they fulfilled as well as they could. Women who didn't adhere to social traditions were called uncomplimentary names.
Women cut and permed their hair at 40; they wore decorous clothes, sensible shoes, and padded bras.
Times have evolved; women are freer to dress as they like and society's expectations have slowly changed. We have voices; we can work. Along with social evolution, health care also advanced and generations successively have lived longer.
In the world of just two hundred years ago, life expectancy was around 30, so if you lived to be 28, you were old. As life expectancy continues to increase and social mores and expectations change, we "act" and we look younger. A 55 year old person isn't staring death in the face, so how that person responds to the world is different from even the times of our parents.
We aren't special because we don't act the way our mothers did; we are not special because we look younger: it is largely a result of physical and societal changes.
Our hearts are the same ages as we are, and if anyone has a heart that acts younger, it is because he/she had a heart transplant. If you are 50 and are more active than some younger people, you are not acting younger than your age--you are being yourself. | |
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Posted: 10/14/2008 6:09:30 PM | "Young at heart," always seems like a protest to me, a denial. We are, as Gwen so cogently pointed out, simply who we are. "I'm really young at heart no matter what my age, looks, health say. . . ." is the statement of someone who's afraid. . . .
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