| Why am I single?
Posted: 4/30/2008 4:47:13 PM | i have no idea why you are single.
you are attractive and have a great smile.
if it wasnt for the fact that you are in philadalphia pa and im in akron ohio i would totally ask you out. | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 4/30/2008 5:12:07 PM | | I feel the same way of nobody wants to date me.I've been on this site since August of 07 and I haven't had any luck on here so I feel you there. | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 4/30/2008 5:13:23 PM | phillylilmermaid:
If your results continue to be the same, then something needs to change. Perhaps it's something in your personality, your approach, the type of guys you're interested, etc. Something somewhere in the equation needs to change in order to get a different result.
I mean this in a constructive way, but I noticed quite a few "I"s and "Me"s in both your post and your profile. My PERCEPTION from reading your post and profile suggests a degree of vanity, which many would find a turn off. | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 4/30/2008 7:56:35 PM | Well in my opinion I think you look like a an atrractive lady and I would love to get to know you and I would diffintently go out with you if you were closer. | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 4/30/2008 8:06:52 PM | Always start with the common denominator.
Perhaps it is you and not the rest of the world that has an issue. Maybe you are shooting for the moon when what you should be aiming at is something more down to Earth.
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 4/30/2008 8:10:48 PM | I can't say for sure being as I don't really know you, but as others have suggested you may be thinking of yourself as better than guys who have shown interest in you. This of course would lead to lack of relationships. EX: Well he does this I don't like that, he said this I don't like that. You can't always find the perfect match and who would want to it kind of takes the fun out of relationships if its the same thing over and over day in and day out. Like I say the whole point of this site is really supposed to be dating. You really can't get to know a person unless you go on, at the very least, one date with them.
Now if it is just a lack of responses then I would suggest looking into what you like and what a man might like. Football for instance, most men like football, if you like it somewhat add it to the profile. When I'm looking at profiles things like that are what I look for. I don't look for an exact match, but I would like a girl who would go to the game with me and cheer along even if they weren't completely interested. It is like asking a guy to go shopping and asking how these shoes look on you. Not trying to be sexist or anything there just using it as an example. | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 4/30/2008 8:25:30 PM | | im single too..and i dont want to be some days! im thinking mabye you come on way to strong? do you like throw youself at men? try being a little more sublte mabye. | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 4/30/2008 8:59:05 PM | I live with my parents but am otherwise completely financially independent,
Huh ? Say wha ?
Have you considered being a politician ? You have an uncanny ability the way you can put a spin on things, lol That even puts Bill Clintons did not inhale comment to shame.....
Jus teasing .................. 
Peace | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 4/30/2008 9:18:22 PM | You need to look up "humble" in the dictionary
^^ yeah, I was wondering about that too! | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 4/30/2008 9:19:14 PM | I have my personal beliefs. I believe everything happens for a reason. For some reason you are meant to be single right now. You need to have faith someone that you are meant to be with will come along. If you start thinking this way...that something is wrong with you or you will never find someone ... you will act in a way that could be considered needy and you will make bad decisions....that is the last thing you want to do when you are dating.
You need to develop confidence and if you do find yourself in a relationship and it isn't working you need to be willing to be single again. So, try to enjoy being single. It isn't ideal, I know it...but, it is better than being in a bad relationship. I made the mistake once of staying in a bad relationship. I should have just walked on it years before but, I didn't and it had a direct very negative impact on my life. Just have faith in yourself and that the right person will come along. You really do have to develop a love for yourself...because you are the only one that will do what is in your best interest. You can not just let someone into your life because you don't think someone will ever come along. And by second guessing why you are single...you could be setting yourself up for that. So, take the time to learn about yourself and what it is you want. | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 4/30/2008 9:26:46 PM | It is impossible to tell from your post and your profile. But it's a great question to ask yourself. I have been single for several years. All my friends could not understand it because they think I'm great. All I can say is that I never met many men that got my attention or vice versa during this time. However, I am one who is constantly working on herself. I meditate and do whatever I can to release old patterns and hurts. It seems like once I dealt with some early childhood issues with my father, suddenly I am finding and attracting all kinds of great guys. They were always there all around me before but I could never see them. If you feel the outer parts of your life are in tact, start looking inward on your beliefs about yourself, about men, and about relationships, and especially on what you feel you deserve. If you do some intensive self-examination, you may uncover some self-limiting beliefs. That's all I got this time of night.
Peace out,
Snakewhisperer | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 4/30/2008 9:30:15 PM | From looking4u:
You need to develop confidence
I am already dying here, laughing so hard my sides hurt and you say she needs to develop confidence??? Her cup runneth over with confidence. 
If she needs to "develop" anything...it is humility.
Edit: vvv My apologies for misunderstanding how you meant it. | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 4/30/2008 9:40:46 PM | | ^^^ well...by confidence, I did not mean just self confidence...but, the confidence that someone will come along. I am sure he will...somethings just take time and finding the right person is one of those things. You don't meet the ideal person every day... it happens just once in a great while. All singles go through this sort of thing. Also, I don't think she meant to come across as being overly confident...I think she was just trying to say she knows she has certain attributes yet doesn't know why she is still single. | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 4/30/2008 10:00:32 PM | | Yes I think it's because you are trying too hard and you want it SO bad. Just go with the flow, live your life & don't hold your breath (kidding). When the right one comes along you'll know it. Until then, just have fun ;) | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 4/30/2008 10:14:14 PM | Here's a simple program to get the answers you need:
1. Make some male friends
2. Ask them these questions
3. Don't get mad at them when they tell you the truth
How are we supposed to know why you're single? Someone who actually knows you in real life is much more able to give a helpful answer. If you don't have any male friends...well, that 'splains a lot, doesn't it? | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 4/30/2008 10:26:29 PM | I have no clue y ur single..in ur profile u only have head shots n i have to say ur a very pretty girl n mm FYI size doesn't matter these days..i've seen super big girls wit fine ass dudes n im like damn..how she get him?? U seem to have a coo personality..i think ur just trying to hard..just relax n let him come to u..
n to the ***hole who said living wit ur parents it not independent...**** off..u dnt kno the situtation... | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 4/30/2008 11:17:26 PM | what can I say - - - I read your profile to check you out and could not manage to read it all - - -
what can I say - - - Oh I like this - - or take a trip anywhere fun - - - oh wow, oh wow - - -
comes off as to much of an air head - - not knowing anything - - - and rambling - - -
So you come off as someone that a person can not sit down and have a talk with - - - to simply hang out and get to know - - - - -
Jim P. | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 4/30/2008 11:17:27 PM | Wow...After readin most of the posts in here You guys aren't too kind are you...some of what she said was said from her point of view with confidence that most of us lack...I have been single for over 5yrs now and get the same comments that ppl can't understand how I'm single, give it time, (the best one I have heard is) if you stop lookin it will turn up...Your advice in some areas is soooo contradictory. "Your too confident so stop looking"...BUT "have you noticed guys smilin at you and smiled back"...relationships are a factor of who when and where...match the three of them and you have one. As I said I don't have a relationship BUT I do have a LIFE. I maybe lackin in that department but I plan to achieve in other areas to keep my self confidence up and to feel good about me. I don't need someone to do that for me. I need someone to compliment my life and give me another reason to smile...not be the only reason I smile. Yummy take each day as it comes and find a reason to feel good, if it's goin to happen it will. You have a lot goin for you...Take it easy on YOU ok | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 4/30/2008 11:34:31 PM |
After readin most of the posts in here You guys aren't too kind are you
You want kindness, go talk to your clergyman. I'm all about honesty, myself. Some people claim to like honesty, you know. You want me to lie to you, txttie? You s'pose that's why you've "been single for over 5 years"? | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 4/30/2008 11:34:52 PM | | I thought the same thing (horny). Glad I'm not the only one! | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 4/30/2008 11:51:13 PM | I live with my parents but am otherwise completely financially independent,
That was the big one come on your in 20's sounds like you don't want to grow up and you are hiding under your parents roof. What guy in his 20's want to go out with a girl that doesn't have apartment. You can't be worldly living at home. Move out into the world struggle pay your bills then you will meet people. I talked with a lady last year 45 a nurse making plenty of money still living at home with Mom and Dad. Why? Because she didn't make enough to move out 45 grand year is not enough. Don't be like her in her 40's single get your own place. | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 4/30/2008 11:55:53 PM | [I could really use some advice because I honestly don't understand why no one wants to date me]
It's not you, it's them. You are single because you are not a ****. You are too nice. I have the same problem. Men will always say they want a nice, sweet , no drama woman, that has themselves together. Then they get one, and they still aren't satisfied. Suddenly, things are too perfect, there's no drama, no passion, it's boring. Things aren't clicking between you , they feel uncomfortable being someone that WANTS them but doesn't NEED them. They are off chasing behind a woman that treats them like crap, and doesn't have herself together. It's truly dysfunctional. These guys have what I call the "sir save a ho" syndrome. It is hard to find someone that can give and receive love, is emotionally mature. It's even harder to find one confident enough in himself not to have to find a woman to save to feel worthwhile.
Sad to say, you might have to play dumb, lose some of your class, develop a drinking problem, and throw in a dose of borderline personality disorder, to attract some guys! lol But of course you want to steer clear of these dysfunctional type of men anyway.
Seriously though, it takes time to find quality. Hang in there. I have yet to believe that nice guys and girls finish last. | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 5/1/2008 12:23:42 AM | kay... I would suggest that you take a look at this from a different point of view. You gave a great list of positive attributes that sound fantastic. Those are certainly not reasons that a decent man would not be interested in dating you. I would suggest that you take an honest and comprehesive look at your NEGATIVE qualities. Make a list as long as your positive one. Ask a few trusted male friends and don't get mad or defensive when they are honest. Once you have done that you may findt the answers as to why you are single. You will never find them when loking only at your positive qualities!
Best of luck. | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 5/1/2008 1:05:19 AM | | LOL OhhhJim and ur excuse is???.....don't make this about me...it's not...and she was honest and asked an honest question...I think she's got more balls to put herself out there like that than ppl who put up lil one liners tryin to bring other's down...nice try...didn't work...I'm happy with me and who I am...NEXT!!!! | |
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