| Why am I single?
Posted: 5/16/2008 5:21:19 AM | | Go out, leave the computer behind. Find something people like to do together. I think there's something to be said for meeting people the old fashioned way. | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 5/18/2008 2:30:24 PM | | I believe that if you continue to find the things in life that make you happy, whatever those things may be (even posting on internet forums) you will become more magnetic. Then you will attract men into your life who want to be around a fun, magnetic woman. However, focusing on why you don't have one is a catch 22; it makes you unhappy and does not get you closer to getting what you want. If you feel happy and that your life is already lots of fun, then get out there and just being around more people! | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 5/18/2008 5:33:29 PM | | op god do i feel your pain...lol only been single again for about 2 months but lets just say my dating history before that left alot to be desired. i don't know what it is. i have mates who are alot more shall we say asthetically challenged than me with men swarming all over then..maybe it's a confidence thing or something...or we want too it much | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 5/19/2008 12:57:02 AM | You know sometimes we're so busy looking at other peoples lives and comparing ourselves to them, why do they always pull in the pub, she's bigger than me how does she do it.... You need to be happy with yourself, stop looking at all your good points, because your good points are what you have given yourself. Your justifying to yourself why you deserve a boyfriend. How can you be enjoying a night out with friends if your worried that your projecting the right image to attract this guy you would love to date, and are you missing out on those signals from potential boyfriends with this worry.
What do you talk about to a guy you meet and like. You can't point out all those good points, and in short conversation he's not going to GET who and what you are.
I'd say relax, enjoy your friends and the experiences you can get out of life. Your only young, It will happen when it happens.
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| domestic violence
Posted: 5/25/2008 10:39:24 PM | domestic violence does anyone under stand the cycle:
it happens to men and women out in the world
well this is why i left home it was hard going through with him i couldn't go anywhere without him ringing me to see were i was accusing me of being with other men i could have friends all i could do is go to work and come home that was it all you have is them it was really hard i had a little girl wed go to bed i talk to her about her day he d come in and yell at me for talking to he thought i was talking about him
it use to be scary when i sore my little girl scared and looking up at her dad scared that when i started talking to people at the school my little girl went to they gave me numbers to ring it took me 3 months to make my decision on witch was the best thing for us to do, it witch was the best thing for me but when i did i was scared to were i was going i had nowhere a child in a car all packed up i rang the numb the school gave me they gave us accommodation and look after us he tried to ring i just didn't answer the phone :we stayed there for three months until we got our place were i am now would never look back never go there again as life's to short to live i with misery anyone going through it my have experienced different thing like the
bashing
verbal
inflation
the put downs iv been there and done it so
so put your thoughts here about it thankyou...shaz its just good making new friends | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 5/26/2008 6:20:57 AM | | I am single cause all the men i met at my age and older all look like my dad and that is the truth the men pictures are so bad on this site compare to some other sites the attitudes they have when u meet them is strange ...most men say they dont want any past but have plenty of fears,, to many to names that is y we are all single | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 5/26/2008 8:26:55 PM | | Well one thing's right here, you have to love yourself before someone else will love you. You certainly do love yourself. I think maybe you're seeming too eager. Know in your heart that you're a catch and someone will recognize that I'm sure. It's easy to become discouraged, especially on dating sites. | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 5/27/2008 12:01:42 PM | | You should be thankful that the good lord has saved you from the heartbreak and heartbreak of unintelligent, insensitive losers available in the dating pool. You are a special one-percenter. It will take a guy who is a one-percenter to find you. Hanging around POF websites is not the place. You need to consider doing some military training with your college education. As an officer, you can attract the cream of the crop. Go to the nearest recruiter. Maybe don't do Army or Marines. They will kick your a$$. Do something easier. The Air Force, Coast Guard or Marines. You will love it. | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 5/27/2008 12:15:06 PM |
You are not alone in that department! I, myself, am thinking the same as I have been single for nearly 10 months now, the main problem is to stop looking!! If you don't look, more than likely, a guy will start to pay attention. It's just the way the world works unfortunately!
bravo....i couldn't have said that any better. i stopped looking a long time ago, just randomly click on profiles for those that viewed mine and drop them a line or 2...nothing has become of anything other than friendship and i'm cool with that.
I can't say for sure being as I don't really know you, but as others have suggested you may be thinking of yourself as better than guys who have shown interest in you.
ummm, pretty much that's what some guys might be reading.
Am I wrong to say that I have a lot more to offer then the men I've been talking to when all they want to offer is sex.
yeppers....forget about everything that you mentioned in your opening post, lower your standards just a tad bit. you're not going to find anyone your own age in here (unless you went to school with them) that are identical to you. and with regards to them offering you sex....ummm, wake up, that's the way some guys are today.
Plentyoffish is not where I'm meeting these people. I gave up on this site a really long time ago for finding anyone. That profile was written in 2005 when I was 21.It's actually a copy and paste from my myspace which also hasn't been changed this then.
suggestion....change the profile to an updated version.
one thing you are not is financially independent. Independent means you are paying pg and e, rent or house payments, cable bill, phone bill. It's kind of like people from family money saying how hard they work. Come on.
awww, come on, didn't you see that she has a student loan that she's paying for as well as her own bills. she's only at her parents' house for a room and a roof....maybe she should just move in the basement of a friend's house and still have her bills to pay and own food to buy and prepare...lol.
First.. you know that your too heavy so do something about it.. Lose the weight and keep it off.
ummm, that's not cool because she has a weight issue, there are other women in here as well that are bbw and proud of it, they're just not under 30 and crying about being single.
ummm, can someone please show me where the yellow brick road is so i can get to oz? | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 5/27/2008 12:27:08 PM | OP... Have you gained a lot of weight??
If so , this could very well be the reason you are still single..
Are you stingy when it comes to giving affection?? another thing to look at.
Men don't want a cold fish.!! WE want a kind, intelligent and caring woman.
No sex,,= No MAN.!!!
I think a lot of women should call themselves, NOMEN for the simple reality that they will not put out and will never have a man..
It takes TWO to tangle..
If you are a cold fish then change your ways or get used to being alone because you will be alone for the rest of your life.. | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 5/27/2008 6:09:01 PM | No sex,,= No MAN.!!!
wow, with that comment now i know i'm never going to have another man in my life.
I think a lot of women should call themselves, NOMEN for the simple reality that they will not put out and will never have a man..
wow, now that's really pushing it. i guess darla should stop hanging around with alfalfa and have her own club "she lady man haters club". i would never give any man something that they don't deserve......i'm sorry, i'm not a virgin anymore but i will never abuse my body by giving it out freely to any man.......and i'm hoping that the op doesn't stoop to that level either. she should just back down on what kind of men she's interested in.....ummm, if she's coming from philly then she's got really slim pickings there.
edit: yeppers, just checked her name again...she's from philly and to find a man there that she's interested in is like 1 in a million. trust me, i know what i'm talking about being born and raised there. her best interest would be to start looking around in the burbs as well where there's money....she's never gonna find that in the city. | |
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| domestic violence
Posted: 5/28/2008 4:43:45 AM | | Tell me about it I am a Man that was in a abusive relationship for 6 years yes 6 years but it is very hard for people to understand when it happens to a man domestic violence in a whole is wrong and when it came time to leave I got slashed with a knife, so I proceded to go to the police and have her charged I basically got laughed at and ran out of the detachment.I am about 220 in good shape and was tols suck it up you are a man.So there if you or anyone would like to chat with me for I dont seem to have any luck on here and noone responds when I IM them maybee it is my computer settings??? my name is greg I live in Kamloops bc canada and have been single for 4 years and dont know if I should cancell my account so imput by you or anyone for that matter would be great. | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 5/28/2008 4:46:37 AM | | so so true so many phony people have to be very cautioious im pullin the pin here onto greener pastures good bye all and good riddance. | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 5/28/2008 8:00:28 AM | | hi i dont nkow you but i hear alot of i this i that thats a turn off for a guy,because he will think your about you.also you should be dating i think you are a cuttie.some advice get rid of that lipstick you have nice lips show them.get rid of that makeup you dont need that or that eye liner you have pretty eyes show them.take differant pics like the one i think second from the right.were something casual and something dressey orin between.when you dress up no make up at all.just try it and it will work.but be careful of what you wish for there are some nuts out there. | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 5/28/2008 9:36:27 AM | I ain't intimidated by a womans success... not in the least.
Usually they're the ones that, when they do let their hair down... are mad **stards! love it!  | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 5/29/2008 7:34:38 AM | FOR STARTERS
Change your profile settings and get rid of the age restriction. Have you ever considered the possibility of dating down in age? I might only be 21 but I'm actually almost where you're at as far as schooling is and will be past it soon -- with that I'm sure there are some 22-23 year old guys past me and achieving more success in school than you already have and ever will.
Just because you'll ALLOW 18-23 year old guys to contact you doesn't mean you have to reply.
I send out sometimes upwards of 7 emails a day and 0 come back with replies, so obviously this is common knowledge you didn't pick up on.
You seem like the stuck-up type that wouldn't reply to me anyway, by the way.
Can't believe I bothered to help you this much. Oh well, going to sleep would be more fun right now than writing this message.. So I'm going. Peace out. | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 5/29/2008 9:32:30 AM | There is nothing wrong with you.. I am in your very same position.... I think a lot of us are...
I don't have the answer, but hang in there!
There will be someone who will see you for the great person you are. Don't change for anyone, and don't expect them to change for you...
Keep being you, enjoy life and he will come along!
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 5/29/2008 10:55:26 AM | only my opinion here but I noticed your mail filter is set to like 24 to 29 an you also have a 75 mile filter as well. You could change or add a few words to your profile info. Let me help you and give you some idea's. I'll put my changes (inside here in your info)
I am a nice girl (with naughty thoughts)looking for a nice guy. I graduated last year from Rutgers University, and am currently working in a daycare center(but would rather become some lucky guys striper). I enjoy my job because there is never a dull moment. In my free time I usually go out with my friends dancing or do karaoke. I also love going to concerts and plays. What I would really like is to find some one like me (who wants to be your bad girl)who is college educated, responsible, and serious about a relationship(an have naughty sex all the time). At the moment I have great friends, a descent job, a wonderful family, and an active social life. The only thing missing for me is a (guy to share my desires and bring out the bad girl in me.)relationship. Lose the nice girl act and let your hair down and draw some attention. Remove the age filters or atleast widen them to a broader range and remove the 75 mile range. There's a big would out there. Why limit it to 75 miles? | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 5/29/2008 12:16:47 PM |
Does one ever think that the people ( that would be us) you see on dating sites are the left overs because They (or we) are the ones that do not do well in relationships ? The ones that make bad decisions in choosing a mate ? The ones that just do not do well when involved with another, be it marriage, LTR or whatever ? Now sure...some will say it was my wife or husbands fault but you chose them. Could it be that we are here simply because we are just plain ol f*cked up when it comes to relationships in general and we are all in denial ? The ones that are still married or together are truly the successful ones because for whatever reasons they do well in relations....... or are they just simply lucky ? If we are all top notch mate material with regards to relations............... would we not still be involved ?
Ahhhh the damaged goods theory.. Dave I would tend to agree with you where the over thirty crowd is concerned, but as for the younger folks, they haven't had the chance yet to become damaged goods. Give them a chance, they will in time. OP don't be in such a hurry to find your perfect man, no one is perfect. As for everyone hassling you about being less than humble? Good for you!! If someone doesn't like you for that, it's their loss, not yours. Concentrate more on the rest of your life and less on the dating/mating game. The right one will come along in time.
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 5/29/2008 1:10:38 PM | Less talk, more do.
Agree with many posts here about humility and not being overbearing or clingy. Just BE those wonderful things you are - but be them AROUND guys. Take classes, work out, stay out-and-about, etc. People have an intuition (whether correct or not) that the more you talk about something, the less likely you are actually doing it (sex being a primary example). And online dating (which is a lot of talk, and no do) should be just one tool in your diverse dating toolbox.
When you do your activities, do it with OTHER people - preferrably guys, but your girlfriends are fine too. It has to do with "social proofing". Few like someone who is intrusive, clingy, etc., at least not when you have just met. Initial social contact is subtle, sophisticated, and often visual and from "afar". And the more "proof" you can offer that you are socially stable from afar, the better you will fare.
Also, I think there is an ever-increasing grey-scale as to what actually constitutes a "date". And you can make a conscious, if not verbal, choice to "date" at whatever level you (and some guy) feel confortable with. Everyone is different, and so has different boundaries - especially across cultures.
Good luck! | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 5/29/2008 1:18:58 PM | join the club honey!
i've been on my own for 2 years. i'm 36 next month though so guys i like these days are either married or in relationships (and i wouldnt go there!) or don't fancy me! :(
xxxx | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 5/29/2008 9:34:29 PM | | Hey, at your age, find the local USO and do volunteer work for the active military personel. Get a part-time job as a bartender in a nice place. | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 5/30/2008 10:46:15 AM | You have got to learn to flirt. Women who get men are good at flirting.
Give them the eye but dont come on too strong and see the response men need to know you are interested they wont bover if they think their is a chance of rejection. | |
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| Why am I single?
Posted: 5/30/2008 11:12:48 AM | Hmmmm, i think you may have omitted the word MODEST in your description OP!!! Or, without appearing rude, your lack of it.....
If I met a guy who had half as much going for them as I do
modesty go's a long way, chill out - it would be a shame to miss out on a great relationship simply because you can't bend down to kiss a guy because the pedastal you placed yourself upon is way up in the clouds!!
mm x | |
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