| Divorced mom at son's wedding
Posted: 5/10/2008 5:34:38 AM | | Just go ahead and hire an escort..be done with it..that way you will apparantly feel alot more comfortable. | |
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| Divorced mom at son's wedding
Posted: 5/10/2008 3:46:48 PM | Not that I've been in your situation, but here is my thinking.
The most important thing for everyone involved is to keep in mind is whose day it is. It belongs to your son and his bride. This isn't about you, your ex husband and his partner, or anyone else. It's about your son and his bride. Do nothing to detract from that. It seems you're competing here and that's not good.
Even if your ex-hubby brings his LTR, since she's apparently been part of your sons world for some time, it is appropriate that she be there, provided your son is comfortable with that. Same goes for your ex-bf. If he and your son are on good terms. My suggestion is not as your date.
Your best bet is what you supposed. Be a grown up; cowgril up and go alone to the wedding and the reception. Have a great time seeing the attention focused on your son and his bride and ENJOY it. REVEL in it, even. Because if you were to sit in a corner and mope about not having someones arm to hold, it would take away from everything and that's the last thing you want to do. | |
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| Divorced mom at son's wedding
Posted: 5/10/2008 9:47:51 PM | All this drama makes me soooooo glad that I never narried, nor divorced, nor had children.
I'm just happy as a clam that I didn't. | |
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| Divorced mom at son's wedding
Posted: 5/18/2008 6:42:15 AM | We all gave you our opinions based on the information given to us , in the original post.
Based on that, the posters thought you were just talking about someone to accompany you, not that you may need assistance. Understandable, really.
I still say I would not want someone at my son's wedding, that was not important to me.
If I am not in a relationship at the time of my children's weddings, I will go alone.
But in light of the more recent post I understand your concern on doing that.
I would invite a friend, male or female, to help you , and to also keep you company and enjoy the festivities with. While the others are on the dance floor , and you are forced to be a spectator because of your disability, you will not be sitting alone.
Whatever you decide to do, enjoy the day.
I do not think anyone meant to be hurtful, but tried to give you sound advice.
If you want an informative opinion from forum posters, it is best to give all the information.
Such as I might be in a wheelchair, due to a recent surgery.
Good luck with the surgery as well. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 6:59:27 AM | | Thank you, summerbout. There's a new wrinkle on the story - my aged father, with heart disease, wants to come to the wedding. The trip would be quite difficult for him in his condition, but if a relative accompanies him, I think he will be okay, and it would be nice to have him give my son his blessing. Anyway, I think I will have more of my family there than originally anticipated, so I am less freaked. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 6:12:15 PM | ditto what Phoebe said.. it isn't about you or the ex or his LTR.. it is about your son..
I would like to make a suggestion.. will there be dancing at the wedding?? You need to learn how so you can dance with your son!!! Be sure and dance with him ok? | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 8:26:23 PM | | I need to be able to walk before I can dance, but thanks for the suggestion, Tx. If I'm not in a wheelchair, I'll at least give him a standing bear hug. Anything more active than that may result in damage to self and others. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 8:47:52 PM | | Maybe the wedding is over now, but if not, here's what a friend of mine did when she found herself in your situation. She brought a female friend, a woman she has known for years and who is an outgoing, fun-loving, and very kind person. My friend had someone to keep the conversation going and they had a good time along with others at their table. My friend is a quiet person and her ex was bringing his new wife to the wedding. Here's one thing that happened: The wedding photos were being taken and the ex's new wife barged in and stood beside my friend's daughter - the bride. Well, the photographer was alert and aware and had probably seen this type of soap opera before. He turned to my friend, who was standing further down the line of people in the photo. He said, "Aren't you the mother of the bride?" "Yes" " Well, then your place is here." And he placed my friend next to her daughter/the bride. How embarassing for the pushy new wife but her type doesn't embarass much. But, how wonderful for my friend to have two wonderful people there rooting for her - her good friend - and the photographer. Her friend was a neighbour who knew the whole family which worked out really well re: the bride and other children of my friend. I suggest you consider having a good female friend accompany you. Someone who knows how to party and keep it classy! | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 6:33:43 PM | | It is sad that you base your happiness at your son's wedding on whether or not you have a man on your arm. | |
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| Divorced mom at son's wedding
Posted: 5/19/2008 7:12:42 PM |
How embarassing for the pushy new wife but her type doesn't embarass much.
I KNOW THE TYPE! | |
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Posted: 5/20/2008 5:30:25 AM | A more likely scenario, since I expect I may have surgery this summer, is an attendant... someone to push my wheelchair. That could work. After all, I don't dance. A scenario - just another bs for everyone. What does your surgery have to do with this? It is a MAYBE and after the wedding.......... Who usually pushes your wheelchair around? Wouldn't that person still be pushing your wheelchair around? Usually the mother's of the bride and groom get escorted down the isle by groomsmen, which will probably be the case at this wedding. Do you even talk to your son or should I say listen to your son? You should know about the arrangements of their special day if you are close to your son. Maybe your son should be worried about what pranks you are going to pull at his wedding just to get your own jollies. How about your soon to be daughter-in-law - have you even spoken with her yet?
OP, no one can believe anything you type on this Thread. Your jokes are just lies! Pitty Pitty, Drama Drama | |
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| Divorced mom at son's wedding
Posted: 5/20/2008 6:14:59 AM |
OP, no one can believe anything you type on this Thread. Your jokes are just lies! Pitty Pitty, Drama Drama
I submit to you, that it's foolish to believe very much of anything you read on the Internet, even if it's on the New York Times website. | |
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| Divorced mom at son's wedding
Posted: 5/20/2008 6:21:49 AM | | OP take your submits and your foolishness and grow up and wheel yourself to another planet. | |
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Posted: 5/20/2008 12:08:02 PM | When my oldest daughter got married I went alone.
I felt a little self conscious for her father brought his new wife.
But that lasted for just for a second.
I simply decided to concentrate on my daughter and doing everything I could to make her wedding day wonderful and as stress fee as possible.
I understand your situation is different and it would have been nice of you to explain your unique cicumstances when posting this from the start. You would have gotten very different replies from some I am sure.
If you are in a wheelchair and need assistance and a driver, of course you will have an escort to the wedding.
Reply to the invitation that you will have an escort.
Then ask a good friend to be your back up if you don't find anyone else.
The very worst case scenario is you end up going alone by cab or limo with no escort.
If that is the case tell your son you will be more than happy to pay for the dinner your escort would have eaten.
No loss and no worries either.
I hope you have a great time regardless of whether you have an escort or not. | |
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Posted: 5/21/2008 7:58:39 PM | OP take your submits and your foolishness and grow up and wheel yourself to another planet.
Angry much? I read some of your other posts. When you're planning a camping trip, you're nice. When you are commenting on another person's forum posts, the claws come out. I'll "consider the source." | |
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| Divorced mom at son's wedding
Posted: 5/21/2008 8:03:58 PM |
I hope you have a great time regardless of whether you have an escort or not.
Thanks, SapphirePoet! A cab or limo is out of the question as this is in rural Wisconsin, way in the very back of beyond. I'm going to have to schedule my surgery around this event so that I'm either fully recovered before it or don't even go into surgery until after it. And I think I better refrain from drinking, and drive home early. I'm likely to be exhausted before the dancing even starts. My son knows of my limitations and won't be offended if I leave when I must. | |
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| Divorced mom at son's wedding
Posted: 5/22/2008 3:43:58 AM |
When you're planning a camping trip, you're nice. When you are commenting on another person's forum posts, the claws come out My very own stalker from WI - how special you make me feel! | |
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