| Hes looking for marriage one day ...the next day ,hes not looking for marriage etc
Posted: 5/4/2008 3:09:34 PM | Thank you every one!!!
I think this whole thing is over now. No need for any more fact finding missions. If things are right....it will all work out..
I give up....Things shouldn't be so hard.. It all should just flow.
I have to do whats best for my life. I know what I want in life and I am strong enough to wait or move on to fill my own personal needs..
The man is a wonderful man.....but I think he just doesn't know what he wants right now.
I am taking the advice of one of you and letting him go. He either will miss me...or not. Either way...I am sure we will remain good friends.. Meanwhile...I need to live my life too. Right? Right!!
God Bless you all and thank you very much!
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| Hes looking for marriage one day ...the next day ,hes not looking for marriage etc
Posted: 5/4/2008 3:28:57 PM | Maybe I'm wrong. but I dont think so...I think marriage no matter what is a way of "securing" a partner of which to live life...safe...and comfortably. Thus called SECURITY.
I never thought about what if he had no SS benefits. Most men have worked all their lives in "paying" jobs and the y usually have their SS benefits. These benefits go to no other than a spouse. Only the spouse. Not a live in partner. So what. If I care for him...why shouldnt I have that? If we'd been married 20 years I would receive the benefits . If we marry....we might be married for 20 years.
and the security he recieves? | |
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| Hes looking for marriage one day ...the next day ,hes not looking for marriage etc
Posted: 5/4/2008 5:19:25 PM | He receives security in that he will be loved...have devoted companionship...he will be cared for when he is sick or dying...he will be fed well, menial tasks done for him such as housecleaning and laundry o which he has voiced that he no longer wants to do as he would like more time to play with his "man toys". I would gladly do the junk work for him as when you love someone....you try to make them secure and happy. Or do people even know about that kind of love anymore. Many today are to self centered to do menial things for another. Do you put no value on these kinds of "gifts" that one can do for another? Each gives in his and her own way. This is what I have to offer him. I am not rich. So what do you suggest sir? Tell me what is your suggestion.
You really must have never been in love before with a giving loving woman. thats the problem today....alot of people are so arrogant about what they want...they forget to think about what they will give. I am not only thinking about what benefits are there for me.....but also about what I can add to his life. To be able to give him a love that he has never had before. Never. That is worth plenty too dontcha think sir? | |
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| Hes looking for marriage one day ...the next day ,hes not looking for marriage etc
Posted: 5/4/2008 5:27:29 PM | Oh yea PassionandSong...you mentioned marriage should be a committment and not a security blanket.
That whole statement makes absolutly no sense at all.
A commitment IS A FORM OF SECURITY. Thats why we COMMIT to each other. To SECURE a deal with each other.
GEEEEEEESSSSHHH!! People these days. I worried where our society is heading. Down the road to destruction. Liberalism has totally screwed up peoples thinking of why we commit...why we marry....all the good and decent things that my generation enjoyed and got to grow up with. I worry about the younger generation. They are going to implode and destruction will come if folks dont get it together what a marriage is compared to a frivility divilty living together, non commital relationship is. But again....that works well for the non-committed couples. I choose to live with as much security as I can have in my life. A lifelong committed MARRIAGE. Yes, some divorce, but it was never my way to do so. I married the wrong person. Thats why I am being very careful who I marry and their morals and values. The most important part of a relationship.
I rest my case. | |
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| Hes looking for marriage one day ...the next day ,hes not looking for marriage etc
Posted: 5/4/2008 8:41:58 PM | | i am very much married and in love.your right i have security in the love i have with my wife and the lord.we have not signed legal papers or had a family celibration yet,but i know and have put my faith in our love for one another.this i promised to god.as did she.the lord sent us to each other and forever that will be.that is marriage.if you have that with this fellow god bless and go forth. | |
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