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MrRobA
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Joined: 5/11/2008
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 6/1/2008 9:23:17 AM | The same reason woman stop having feelings for men.. I just had a woman break up with me after telling me how much she cared about me, how glad she was to have me in her life( she even sent me a card saying so) and how sensitive she was. I found out she has been talking to a man about dating for three years and as soon as she ended it she started dating him and acts as if I don't exist...
I figured out that she never really care about me because feeling don't stop just because you aren't compatable. These sensitive feelings she had we for herself, all she cared about was not being lonely it was all about her. She's a very self centered and cold hearted woman. It's not just men........... | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 6/1/2008 12:43:35 PM | | Well have to totally dissagree with you, my g/f broke up with me over the phone (yeah i know really classy) coming up to 3 months ago because she found someone else, this is after a 6 year relationship and shed been going with someone else for the past year and i had no clue, anyway back on track when she broke up with me i was an emotional train wreck, infact i still am, so it isnt all men or all women that are cruel and undeciding it just depends on who you end up with. | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 6/1/2008 5:32:36 PM | | First i just got out of a two year old relationship in which i was hurt so many times by the woman i cared about but one thing i never did was show it even though it was killing me inside and the only thing that come out of me is anger cause i am hurt. A lot of women think they understand a man because that is the general believe men are the problem cause we hide our emotions but the truth is we hide and it hurt us more cause we don't share it not like the way women share the emotions with friends. | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 6/1/2008 9:38:14 PM | Some men play games and tell you exactly what you want t hear.
It's hard when you really like someone and have nothing to hide.
The best thing any woman can do is really get to know someone without being intimate and you will see them for who they are a lot quicker and will be stronger in the long run.
Let them talk about themselves and don't be too inclined to tell them a lot about yourself in the beginning.
I agree what Hail1 was is writing (above msg).....It's sad but it is sooooo true. Women just can't get emotionally involved and have to learn to be patient if they don't want to be the ones getting hurt in the end. Less emotions involved less pain in the end. | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 7/1/2008 4:17:38 PM | some men..i call these the "undecided" dont really know what they want so its hard for them to attach themselves to someone. your feelings may be stronger because your looking for something more....ive learn that you just have to live...take everything one day at a time and dont expect the unexpected. things will work out and theres never any right or wrong answers. u cant rush things all you can do is just live your life and be happy with what you have...find out who u are and what u want.  stop living everyone elses life...its not urs! take care | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 7/1/2008 4:29:17 PM | Men are more logical and woman think more with their hearts!
Good Book is : Men are from Mars and Woman are from Venus!
They just dont think the way we do at all! | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 7/1/2008 5:20:16 PM | Just to offer a differing view than whats been talked about (at least in the last page or two...Ive not read all 16 pages of this)...
It isnt only men who can shut off the feelings. Women have that capability and do use it from time to time. Ive been broken-up with twice in my life where it came out of left-field. Everything seemed to be going great and then "BOOM"...she tells me she doesnt think we're compatible anymore or some BS like that. So, while men do it more, it happens to both genders and women are capable of doing this too.
Believe it or not, there are some men out there who do have feelings, emotions, and get attached easily. You just gotta find us as we're not always easy to spot (and seem to scare off a lot of people with this emotional ability). | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 7/1/2008 5:42:05 PM | | I would say nobody disparts without feeling something. I know a person who hides emotionally and cries everywhere during funerals which is a given sign of keeping things inside. Some ppl store their feelings inside bottles. | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 7/1/2008 7:08:12 PM | | Listen. From my experience. Men tend to run from their problems. Im sure they do feel hurt but they keep it private. Havent you heard that alot of mothers tell their sons not to cry those are the guys that hide their feelings. If a guy tells you one day he loves you and the next he doesnt he's an idiot. You are abeautiful girl and could get anyone. They may have just used you. You should move on like he did. Women are just made up differently. They are emotional creatures whereas men are physical and think mostly about sex. They dont think with their brains. I have had guys do that to me and I just keep on stepping. Id rather be single than be with someone who is unsure of their feelings and you certainly deserve better. | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 7/1/2008 7:09:52 PM | | That is because you ignored the signs. No one just drops a boom. Think back and I am sure you will think of some things she was telling u that lead up to that. I had the same thing happen to me and thinking about it there were several warning signs that I ignored. And yes, 99 percent of men do not show their feelings. | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 7/1/2008 11:13:34 PM | It's not just men.
One day the lady I'd been with for over six years was saying she loved me and cuddling up naked in bed with me. Two days later she was gone, and acts like our relationship never happened, while I'm heart broken by her leaving me.
So some men might be like that, but I know that some women are too.
Baz. | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 7/2/2008 2:41:42 AM | | There was a percentage based on how many men actually show feelings mentioned well 99% is incorrect though I'm sure it's still pretty close but just like men I've known a lot of women who can stop having feelings just as fast if not faster so this topic isn't just one side of the coin but yes guys tend to be the bigger minority that will tend to stop having feelings just as fast and in my opinion a lot of men just have a much harder time settling down and getting married and yeah I think men shouldn't be so scared of commitment because in the long run it can be fun in soooo many ways so guys step up don't be so wimpy I say it's better then living with your sister(s) | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 7/2/2008 3:21:07 AM | | Because their feelings are not real in the first place. Of course some women can be like this too ... they are shallow people. I had one like that too. Mine also thought he was always right [he had more issues than just being shallow, but I guess that is true of most of them]. It's a blessing in disguise .... I hope you are able to get over him quickly and move on to someone who is good for you!! | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 7/2/2008 4:22:16 AM | Folks,
I would love to stop having feelings so quickly!
Maybe I show my heart on my sleeve, and am affectionate and passionate. But that seems to be what lets me down ( trust me, I aint no wimp, emergency services and military background ). Lets face it, most ladies say they want romance, nice guy, to be treated right. Not in my experience! Act like that and you can't see them for dust :)
Maybe most men stop having feeling quickly, but not all. | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 7/2/2008 4:33:35 AM | | I think it's especially easy for a man to move on when there is another woman around to put his attentions to. I would guess that in many of the "disappearing act" cases that they have found someone else, made a choice, and are too embarassed to tell the first woman, and don't want to go through that confrontation. | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 7/2/2008 4:43:48 AM | Men and women are wired differently. What is happening is that man's natural tendency is to 'be' with as many women as possible. I am sorry if this is coming as a shock to some people. Women are 'wired' to be caring and to worry not about 'being' with as many men as possible, but rather to be sure that the man they are with will 'stick around' long enough. In evolutionary terms, this 'long enough' is till the offspring is old enough to fend for itself.
I am sorry if this seems harsh and heartless, but as soon as both men and women know how they are built and how their evolutionary psychology works, the better are their chances for a long lasting relationship.
That is my $0.02 anyways. | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 7/2/2008 5:01:36 AM | i have to say after reading this forum that a lot of women are the same. women can hide their feelings very well, they can be manipulative in getting what they want and they too can say harsh words.
i know that both men and women alike 'feel' . it all depends on the kind of person they are at the end of the day.
as for the bloke wantin just to sleep with a woman...isnt that sometimes what a woman wants?
i have been to social meets and seen what some people wear....to me, that is attracting the wrong kind of person even of the lady feels womanly in her outfit.
i have known both men and women hit the bottle to drown their sorrows so its not just the men.
chin up to everyone who reads this...time passes and hurts heal. and we have plenty of time for that.
michelle | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 7/2/2008 8:32:07 AM | I think we need a permanent ban on threads with "men" in the title.
There is no bad thing that some men do that some women do not also do. (I have been mistreated by women, so I know this firsthand.) | |
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