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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/3/2008 2:38:33 AM | How come women decide they want a divorce after a new house is built?............................and not when the concrete is being poured?
Who are they listening to?
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/3/2008 5:12:00 AM | Some say that when you receive a man's semen it's energy stays with you for seven years...
Give me a break !!!!!!!!!!!!!
Whoever believes this has some serious issues ..............
How come women decide they want a divorce after a new house is built?............................and not when the concrete is being poured? have you tried living on a slap of concrete???....just kidding :) who knows why some people do what they do .It`s men and women . | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/3/2008 5:14:20 AM | Well said I quite agree with you, it is the person not the sex of the person that determines how they handle a break up of a relationship. I have know both men and woman that can get very attached to someone before they even know them all that well, and at the end of the realtionship they are heart broken. My advice would be for people to slow down and really get to know someone before you get emotional attached. This way your feeling will then be in tune with each others. | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/3/2008 5:34:08 AM | This isn't a gender thing - it's a people show feelings differently thing. Just because someone shows them differently than you doesn't mean those feelings aren't as deep as yours.
Sheesh...my ex used to be mean to me just to try to get me to cry or be angry. Including staging breakups and then posting himself on personals sites to try to get me upset. I'm of stoic stock and so usually just get quieter and quieter when I'm upset. I accepted that he was more outwardly emotional than me. His inablity to accept the way I showed my feelings was part of what why the relationship ended.
Don't be so bitter and don't be so judgemental. You can lose out on a lot of good things that way.
Of course if someone is with a person just to be involved (or for a lifestyle) and not because they really care about the person, or if someone just finally gets fed up, it's not so hard to walk away. | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/3/2008 5:48:34 AM | | The older I get the more I realize that it is not what men say that is important, but how they ACT. Many will say anything to achieve immediate goals (such as getting you in the sack) but their actions are the true test. Do they call when they say they will? Do they treat you with respect? If a man says he loves you but then disappears....then...he doesn't | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/3/2008 6:16:22 AM | circe 1
The older I get the more I realize that it is not what men say that is important, but how they ACT. Many will say anything to achieve immediate goals (such as getting you in the sack) but their actions are the true test. Do they call when they say they will? Do they treat you with respect? If a man says he loves you but then disappears....then...he doesn't And they say that wisdom mostly comes with age, unfortunately for those who already know better. Good for you - you're learning, now care to impart this knowledge unto gals my age? The consensus amongst them is that if a guy says he loves them, that they need to make him disappear, esp. if he doesn't.
Oh - men have feelings too.
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/3/2008 6:17:22 AM | | Often when a man actually says one thing, asserts his love, then does something so racically oppossed to that assertion as you describe, if it his own effort to determine if indeed he really does feel that way. Its hell, I know, and it can drive you crazy, but often it is true. Unfortunately, not many men understand that the heart knows what it knows, that its revelations are not always convinient, but it never lies. Many men are afraid to be vulnerable, for reasons that rarely concern anyone else, though no one around them would agree. His automatic response to uncertainty in himself is to transfere it outside himself, often infusing it into a relationship. Once convinced his issue isn't with himself (often an erroneous determination) instead of deal with the percieved difficulty head-on, he will often seal it off from the rest of him, avoiding the need to deal with himself, his own arch-nemesis. | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/3/2008 6:25:46 AM | | excogitator......I haven't a clue what you just said. Are you saying that women your age don't want to have men in love with them? Of course men have feelings...who said they didn't? My point is....their behaviour should be the acid test. | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/3/2008 6:36:02 AM | | thewasek...I completely agree with you and every woman here should read your post. Often men will withdraw after a first date to sort feelings out. This drives a lot of women crazy and often causes them to panic...why didn't he call? Is there something wrong with me? etc., etc. Many women will then be the pursuer and frighten men off when they should back off and wait. | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/3/2008 6:55:01 AM | | Tell me about it...I met someone on here and we were going out for over 3 months and we got along great. Talked everyday on the phone with texts messages, emails ..etc. Spent alot of time together. We were making plans for the future he was telling me how happy he was to have finally found someone. I felt it in my heart that we were soulmates and he told me he wanted to be with me forever. Then the next day he wasn't sure about anything when he woke up and was picking an argument with me. Walked out of my home and I have not heard from him since. I have tried to text him and he has not responded. So you see it isn't only you but I am sure that there are alot of people that go through this. | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/3/2008 6:58:25 AM | | I'm sorry you are going through this, OP. My only words of comfort is that in time it will go away. One day you will wake up and not be thinking about him any more. I've been there. I've also been on the other side of the story where my feelings for someone I really liked suddenly changed. There is usually a reason for this, like something they said or I just realized while talking to them that they were not the right person for me. You cannot argue with your or someone else's feelings. They are what they are. There is nothing to do but accept it and move on. Anyway, you are not alone; we've all been there, and the pain will go away. | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/3/2008 8:29:30 AM | circe 1
excogitator......I haven't a clue what you just said. Are you saying that women your age don't want to have men in love with them? Of course men have feelings...who said they didn't? My point is....their behaviour should be the acid test. Not demotic enough? Yes, indeed I am saying that women my age do NOT want to have men fall in love with them. Many have told me themselves, after feeling comfortable enough with me to open up with honesty. I've had a gal tell me she can't be with anyone unless she is SURE that HE has more feelings for her than she does for him.
I typed that men have feelings too, to stay on topic - it had little to do with your post.
To further clarify, I was agreeing with you that behavior and actions should be the "acid test" as you say. My actions say everything, but girls turn a blind eye (or get scared), because apparently, they may not be as wise as you, so I'm left to suffer a lonesome single life (waiting for women to smarten up), while users tell them what they want to hear, and get something for their lies and game-playing. (I've also had girls tell me that they want people to play them like a fool, as if it wasn't painfully obvious from THEIR actions. )
Getit?
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/3/2008 8:46:23 AM | Yes I get it! You must have put some water in that drink...you make sense now! How does that gal figure out if HE has more feelings than her???? Shouldn't those feelings be equal? Does that mean he will jump off a cliff for her but she won't? It looks like you have been meeting some strange women....when I was your age I was eager to fall in love! As for leading a 'lonesome single life'....DON'T!!!! I haven't met the right one yet but I refuse to be lonesome so I took on a 36 year old lover who treats me like a goddess (and he'd better). He is concerned over the age difference but seems less concerned as time goes on. He says younger women bore him and we see each other regularly. I have told him I want long term...period, and he may realize soon that the age difference means nothing (thank you Demi Moore)...if it isn't too late and I haven't met someone else. So my advice is....get yourself a lover and say NO to lonely! Until, as they say, 'the real thing comes along'! Oh and I must disagree with you that players get something out of playing....they just wind up being kicked to the curb eventually by women who become tired of the game.. | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/3/2008 10:18:16 AM | the only time she crosses my mind is when I think of the bad things she has done.
1. attacked me on many occasions.
2. had me falsely arrested.
3. barred from my own home
4. got rid of my truck and dog( bad country song)
5. steal my money and credit card.
6. tried to burn my house down.
HMMMMMMMM do I ever think of her? do my best not to.
would you think of someone like that ? I think not!!!
I have moved on with my life, and am enjoying it to0 the fullest!!!!
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/3/2008 10:23:17 AM | hi, its easy for men because they have no feeling any way, i get the impression they want one thing, and when they get that there off, so lets not give them what they want, i bet there still be off they get bored......... | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/3/2008 10:38:26 AM | Why is it that men show anger instead of hurt? It makes the situation worse.
because we get mad when we are hurt - - - -
and many times feel that the hurt was intentional - - - by her actions
or her lack of listening - - - or her demands - - and nothing that we say matters.
So we get hurt and mad at the same time
Jim P. | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/3/2008 10:40:21 AM | How come women decide they want a divorce after a new house is built?............................and not when the concrete is being poured?
Who are they listening to?
Mind did - - got what she wanted and then tried to drive me away - - -
then found out it did not work the way she wanted - - she still got stuck with the house payment - - she forgot that - - and did not get my whole paycheck to live on and have me take second jobs to earn money for me to live on - - - - - then got mad at me over all of this.
Jim P | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/3/2008 10:48:43 AM | | hey can somone explain this one to me please, i was nearly scammed. he told me he loved me and would die for me, that hed never leave me, and hey i new it was all crap you just know these things especially at my age, we got engaged after four weeks, his idea, and then he did just dissappeared and he only lived up the road, so i let him go i had the last laugh, mind i didnt tell him about mums insurance money, i met him a week before my mum suddenly died, and he kept dropping hints about my shares at work, and what did i earn, my bank account,none of his business, hints about a new car, or where could he get a car from, and how skint he was, i found out he was just coming out of bancruptsy, i bought myself a brand new car, but concerning the insurance money i said there was none, and i said i had nothing, i was poor i lied, im a good lier, but for all the right reasons, he was a good lier, but for all the wrong reasons and he just dissapeared, his loss not mine, i lost nothing, but i had a gut feeling what he was after, and it certainly wasnt me he wanted, you dont feel comfortable with someone, you no when its not right, but i let it linger on, i wanted to see what was going to happen especially when i was parting with no money, i just drifted along with him, i was grieving for my mum remember, but my mind was still half with me as to what was going on thank goodness, im good at reading people so id say im came out the winner, what do you think, ps and so a message to my ex im just booking next years holiday to disneyland florida, ha ha.......has anyone else been scammed before, please let me no...... | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/3/2008 10:57:57 AM | | for a man its just overall different. It does kill em inside and there are still people i think about every day... its been 4 years and i still think about em. Best thing you can do is look for some reason in ur/his actions and reactions to certan questions. Moste men do just edgy and a little mad... Personally i have been known to snap on my closest of friends due to an ended relations ship. | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/3/2008 11:02:54 AM | hey can somone explain this one to me please, i was nearly scammed. he told me he loved me and would die for me, that hed never leave me, and hey i new it was all crap you just know these things especially at my age, we got engaged after four weeks, his idea, and then he did just dissappeared and he only lived up the road, so i let him go i had the last laugh, mind i didnt tell him about mums insurance money, i met him a week before my mum suddenly died, and he kept dropping hints about my shares at work, and what did i earn, my bank account,none of his business, hints about a new car, or where could he get a car from, and how skint he was, i found out he was just coming out of bancruptsy, i bought myself a brand new car, but concerning the insurance money i said there was none, and i said i had nothing, i was poor i lied, im a good lier, but for all the right reasons, he was a good lier, but for all the wrong reasons and he just dissapeared, his loss not mine, i lost nothing, but i had a gut feeling what he was after, and it certainly wasnt me he wanted, you dont feel comfortable with someone, you no when its not right, but i let it linger on, i wanted to see what was going to happen especially when i was parting with no money, i just drifted along with him, i was grieving for my mum remember, but my mind was still half with me as to what was going on thank goodness, im good at reading people so id say im came out the winner, what do you think, ps and so a message to my ex im just booking next years holiday to disneyland florida, ha ha.......has anyone else been scammed before, please let me no......
Bloody hell woman have you never heard of FULLSTOPS And who gets engaged after only 4 weeks | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/3/2008 11:20:50 AM | He didn't really care to begin with, love just doesn't just stop,and you don't have to go looking for love when it's where you come from,love does not begin and end the way we seem to think, love is a battle, love is a war, love is a growing up and I hope you never have the same regret as I --that too often when I loved, I did not say so
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/3/2008 12:21:54 PM | | I'm a big believer that when people hold back they get left behind. My point is that all too often people become hard hearted and they wind up letting the one they should have kept get away. I've been told by several good friends that they've never really been in love. Sure, they have had long term marriages and relationships but it's odd to say they've never been in love. It's, in my mind, because they held back and never took a chance on being hurt. When you're too guarded the world passes you by. | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/3/2008 12:25:55 PM | | I'm a big believer that when people hold back they get left behind. My point is that all too often people become hard hearted and they wind up letting the one they should have kept get away. I've been told by several good friends that they've never really been in love. Sure, they have had long term marriages and relationships but it's odd to say they've never been in love. It's, in my mind, because they held back and never took a chance on being hurt. When you're too guarded the world passes you by. | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/3/2008 5:48:08 PM | | Hell, it goes both ways. I was dating a girl for ten months and we were telling each other that we loved one another. Had plans to go visit her hometown and everything. Then she refuses to return my calls and emails, and finally sends me something that said "we are not right for each other". A mutual friend said she saw her out with another guy. So it DOES go both ways. Women are just as bad as men, these days. | |
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