| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/6/2008 8:15:41 AM | Sorry .. I'm about to be very negative but I am probably right in thinking that they never really loved you in the first place??
We all know most men are fickle and shallow so how can they be capable of REAL love?!?!
Just a thought .. waiting to be vilanised .. starting from ............. NOW!!  | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/6/2008 8:53:46 AM |
Quote: Just a thought .. waiting to be vilanised .. starting from ............. NOW!!
You villian...you intolerable villian.... LOL
For the most part 'Real Love' has not descended on this planet yet...(it's not totally a male/female thing although women are closer to their emotional bodies by the biological need to love and protect their young)...so how can we expect it?
It's a set-up for disappointment.
Not never..there is Jesus, Buddha, Osho, the Dalai Llama, and others,... but the population at large is still operating from the lower three chakras or centers of consciousness. Security, Sensation and Power...The leap is into the fourth...Love
The Opening of the Heart
but right now, most everyone is afraid...a few will find their way through the loophole, but for many it will remain elusive
That's why, in the meanwhile, we have to learn to love ourselves and our lives in spite of it all....it's the first step.. it's called healing.
When we are more healed, more whole, then the other kind, the kind of love we have all been dreaming about WILL fall right into place....
but we have to look soberly at the situation and not be the rat who continues to wear himself out eternally going down the tunnel with no cheese.
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/6/2008 1:29:16 PM | | How can men stop having feelings so quickly? lol you want the real reason why men tell you what you want to hear they will tell you they love you i heard it way to many times.alot of men are on here to play head games i fell for it to many times | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/7/2008 10:18:19 AM | | Ok sweet just asked a mans perspective on this question and this is his answer ok? Men are hunters by nature, they love the chase. Men are also incapable of wearing their hearts on their sleeves like woman do. We might not appear to feel bad, but we dont show it. Men also do not have the ability to dwell on things besides sex. Its not mocho to cry and we were raised that way. | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/7/2008 10:48:44 AM | If you havent known someone long and been with them for a goodly period of time, you cant count much as real, you just dont bond that quickly for anything really durable.
A man can be smitten with a woman and promise her the moon, all in a matter of weeks, and be gone the next day.
5-10 years with someone, its a different matter. Actually, its the woman who is able to free herself emotionally quicker and easier. | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/7/2008 1:59:09 PM | steven you are so right why do they do it then? why not just tell the truth why lie and hurt soneone if you don't love them don't let on you do.and as for men not crying i seen a few cry
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/7/2008 2:01:39 PM | How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
what a load of crap, sorry for my bluntness and if i seem rude, but women are very capable of losing feelings so quickly i know this as its happened to me once before, and i've seen it happen to several other people through the course of my travels.
your hurt, i do sympathize, really i do, no one deserves it, but don't paint every guy with the same brush. | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/7/2008 2:07:21 PM | | sarge your right to woman do the same thing i'm just saying it happened to me more then 3 times your young yet.i'm just glade i'm married would not want to be in the dateing world good luck | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/7/2008 3:47:58 PM |
I am not sure if this has been posted before but I am wondering something. How can a man tell you one day he cares for you or loves you and then the next day you have an argument, break up and they completely lose all feelings they had? Or is it they just do not show them. Are break ups really that easy for men? How is it so easy for them to forget you and move on?
Some People come into our Lives for a Reason , Some for a Season & Some for a Lifetime, Wisdom is knowing the difference!!
There are Many Many Attraction Factors in Regard to Sharing a Loving Relationship Re: Physical Attraction, Sexual Attraction, Personality, Intelligence, Mindset, Beliefs, Culures, & on & on. Some people are Very Perceptive in Seeing & Knowing what they Need & Want, others are not & some are Good at assessing whether another person Compliments their Life or not & still for some it takes longer to make these assessments. Some people also have Very Defined "Deal Breakers" & thats it, the End! While Love seems to start out Logical at some point it often takes an Illogical turn. Some people change their Mind & Forget to tell us! There are so Many Variables so it's hard to answer Your Question O P. WHY? WHY? WHYYYYYYY?
Both Genders are Guilty & I'm Sorry this happened to You & while it may be of little comfort I Believe people Reap what they Sow sooner or later!
Considering with Time the Loss would be Greater, I Hope You can find Healing by facing the Reality that for Whatever Reason it was not meant to be.
As for Me... When it's Over it's Over, Done, The End!! 
So the question Really should Be Why do You continue to Hurt & Waste Energy & Time over Someone that for whatever reason choice to not be a part of Your Life? We can Learn Much Wisdom from Lifes experiences & Yes even the Painful ones.
He was Just ONE MAN in Your life but not the ONLY MAN! NEXT 
Shape You Future by Knowing, Understanding & Recognizing the Love You have to Offer & the Kind of Love You Desire & then go after it. And IF You are confused as to the Love You Desire, decide what You Don't Want & Won't Accept, Stand Firmly on it then Make them "Walk their Talk"!! Happy  | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/7/2008 4:30:37 PM | | I am living this right now. How can he have just stopped all feelings. Be so cool? I am so hurt. It feels like my world is falling apart and he is just living as if we never knew each other!!!!! | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/7/2008 5:02:57 PM | Women live on a emotional plain, our hearts do most the thinking for us. We give all that we are to the man we come to love,often enough we give that love too freely and quickly, thus giving men the impression we are too needy.
Men live on the plain of logic, they have learned to surpress thier emotions. Outward demonstrations of such would display weakness. Truer than not, I would venture to say; at some point in this man's life he trusted and loved a woman that broke his heart.
Now any woman that crosses his path will pay for that one time he let his defenses down. My advice to you is; reserve more of yourself til you really get to know the man of interest. Why do we as women trust first,then are shattered when they break that trust? Not just women but people in general need to reserve and protect thier heart until that trust is developed between you and the person of interest.
Men seem to already know this, time we caught on wouldn't you say!! | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/7/2008 5:09:35 PM | Sweetbordercop,
I understand, even being a man, I really do. I think that its not just "men" but many people are perhaps not very vested in the relationship and are not very good at expressing their feelings. I experienced this with my ex, so its not just a "man thing", it can be anyone. Broke my heart when it happened to me, so if you experienced this I deeply sympathize with you. It totally sucks. :(
All my best ... | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/7/2008 8:18:34 PM |
Some say that when you receive a man's semen it's energy stays with you for seven years... Yeah, and some people are idiots.
Otherwise, I have donated about 77 years over the past five.
This man can stop easily because I realize that women are humans, and are flawed and prone to mistakes. Not gods, not goddesses, just people...lost, lonely, afflicted from without and within. Easy to walk when you're looking at a female reflection of myself in the rear-view mirror. | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/8/2008 1:36:38 PM | | all i can say is that he could not have loved you,i have been hurt so many times and i am still in love after being dumped over 1 year ago,i will love agin and as always i give my all | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/8/2008 1:48:07 PM | Dear Sweetbordercop
When a man can tell you one day that he loves and cares for you and then the next day behave completely indifferently, it usually means that either you have played one game too many or he is a sociopath who is incapable of any feeling and was just using you. I hope that you have moved on from him and wish you success in finding the right guy for you. Debra1122 | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/8/2008 1:59:16 PM | | i see its all about man here what the woman why cant they be honest with what there feeling in side of them instead of thinking what we are thinking about. to me this is all bull shit i think the woman on here ask for to much also what do you want from us guy he we are doing are best to talk to all of you and all we get back is nothing all we hear is man are this and that well i have to say is get off your bad roads and come on to are road and see what you can come up with and as well think be for you talk not all man are the same and we all have feelings to and yes we can push them aside kinda fast but it dos not mean we are still hurting time to time. you poor poor woman who cant seem to understand the man road but dont feel so bad we cant understand your woman ether so its a long road ahead face it and suck it up. | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/8/2008 6:41:40 PM |
Some say that when you receive a man's semen it's energy stays with you for seven years...A hormone is released so that you will bond to him in order to protect the young that may be the result of your union....Some things are programmed into the matrix of our cells no matter how much we wish they weren't.
Men say I love you to get into the bed room and forget as soon as they walk out.
if you do as they say all the time, on time, they will keep loving you
but get it wrong once - and you are out of the water with no fishing rod
men just play mind games and pychological torture you too, who needs them, i dont know stuff them, i have peace of mind on my own
its easy for men because they have no feeling any way, i get the impression they want one thing, and when they get that there off, so lets not give them what they want
I often go through these forums just to see what people are thinking. I never add anything but I have to say that after reading this thread I'm just so insulted. I've been burned in the past but I would never blame all women for the way she acted. In my opinion, the type of person who would make comments like the ones above are the same women that treat men like garbage and make them bitter. I hurt, I cry and I bleed just like you. I may process it differently but I hurt just the same. If I tell a women I love her, it's because I love her. Not to sleep with her or get her to do something for me. The same can't be said of all men, but I know it can't be said of all women either. | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/8/2008 6:52:01 PM | | Valinteno, dude...you REALLY need to discover the joy of commas and periods. I had a tough time knowing where one sentence began and the other ended. | |
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| How can men stop having feelings so quickly?
Posted: 5/8/2008 9:36:36 PM | After a breakup you have three basic options.
- Walk away and Move on
- Try to get her back
- Sit around dwelling in your misery
I don't like option #3, so I don't do it. If the relationship wasn't working, and there is far more negative than positive about it, #1 is the best choice. #2 doesn't tend to work.
You can be assured though that unless we fell out of love with you long before the breakup, we're probably as miserable as you are. Going back to the options above, option #1 is the easiest way to get past this event. As to why some of us may not show the feelings or emotions, we were probably taught to not show them, and it's far easier to move on when you try to forget about them.
Yes, if you dump us and are feeling spiteful, you probably want to see that we are completely miserable, so that you'll feel better about yourself. The longer we appear to be miserable, the better for you. To ensure that you'll feel as miserable as we likely feel inside, we want you to think that we've moved on quickly so that you would appear to be less important than you might otherwise have been to us.
If we dumped you, we've probably had time to get over the relationship.
Nope, it doesn't seem nice, but some breakups aren't.
Note: We in the above message is not intended to speak for all guys on this subject, but for those who have the same view as I do. | |
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