| What's with the shallow women here?
Posted: 3/29/2009 10:42:17 PM | I think a lot of women these days have seen men being shallow for so long, now they are stepping up to the plate.
My sister and I were talking last night that it is interesting how looks play a big part in people you meet. She has an awesome male friend that she would have never talked to or had any interest in but he bought a car from her for his son. A couple years later she ran into him and they have been great friends since! He is like part of the family now she says. He came out yesterday to meet us all, she is right, he is easy to talk to and has a great sense of humor. I am slowly talking him into the POF pond!   | |
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| What's with the shallow women here?
Posted: 3/31/2009 9:01:12 PM | | I am sorry if I don't respond to a message. Sometimes I like to think on it before replying and don't get back to it. Some are so far fetched that I don't know what to say. If you say thanks, but no, then you get slammed and yelled at. I generally like all people, until they do something hurtful to me or my family. Then you better listen up and realize your error. Then I am done. You fall back into the general public and can rebuild a freindship status. I am almost 50 with a grandchild. If I don't want to pursue a relationship it might be... you are too young, too old, too short, too far a way, too different in ideas, or I am just not feeling it. Right now, I have no interest in starting any type of relationship, but that doesn't mean I quit. I want to keep enjoying meeting different people via electronic mail or at parties. (PLEASE don't be offended because I said too short... I have dated and met many men shorter than me and it just does not work for me, I do not like being noticed much, so being a few inches taller than the man I am hand in hand with kind of draws attention, good or bad, I don't do well with it. Then when the guy meets my family...they make me look like a dwarf) There are too many choices to dwell on the ones that might be shallow or seem to be shallow. | |
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| What's with the shallow women here?
Posted: 4/28/2009 8:35:21 AM | Shallow, fat, ugly, lazy, nosey, clingy, aloof, stuck up, dimished mental capacity, obese, narrow minded, resentful....................
If only we could all hit the reset button on our emotions, long enough to get to know one another.
Ladies, men like sex.
Men, do not let the ladies fool you they like it too.
If not for the good lord putting these drives, needs, wants, and desires in to each of us, we would never take the time to get to know one another.
That said, I find it almost humorous when I chat with a woman on here (yes, I did not say lady), and the conversation goes one or two ways:
1) With in 20 to 30 minutes sexual inuendos start flying at me. I am flattered, but if the conversation continues any further, nothing will happen (according to them) for a minimum of 2 months, maybe 3, as they are doing an imitation of Mother Theresa, to show they are not all about sex). While I am good with the relationship not being all about sex. I am not going to carve a date in the stone callendar on my cave. I lost my hammer and chisel when I moved out of the cave. Take the time to get to know each other and remember: No means NO, and Not ready, does mean Not READY!
If you say you want to be friends first, remember how to grow a friendship, and do not expect it to flourish on its own just because you "will" it to be.
2) Finally get a conversation going where the inuendos do not start flying at me, but the next day when I do not respond immediately to either a yahoo message or an e-mail, because I have a life outside of work and am not looking just for sex, then I hear the honey, I miss you! WTF is up with that?
Okay, I am off my pedestal now.
Snipers shoot away. | |
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| What's with the shallow women here?
Posted: 4/29/2009 8:47:32 AM | Here is my 3 cents worth:
Shallow to me indicates a person is only looking at the surface, so looks, money, title, car, etc. I can honestly tell you that this is not the case for me, and not for most of my female friends. I have dated all kinds of guys in the past 2 years, I don't have a type. I have dated tall/short, thin/thick, long hair/bald, struggling/well off, kids/no kids, white collar/blue collar. Granted there must be some type of attraction, but looks and money and other surface issues are not what I seek. I am more interested in the depth, the type of person they are. I typically reply to most emails too, but I know what kind of person I am looking for, and when I see something that appears to go against my core values, it is better to walk away from it earlier. The longer it lingers, the more people get hurt. Maybe some women are shallow, but do not mistake those of us who have defined what we are looking for as being shallow......we are all here to find the right person for each of us........obviously this is not often a short process..... Laurie | |
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| What's with the shallow women here?
Posted: 5/12/2009 9:00:52 PM | Wow - I think I've seen this before... I have to say, in general you sound fairly intelligent so take a moment to think about what you're writing.
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–noun - hatred, dislike, or mistrust of women.
Maybe some food for thought - what you put out there is what you get back.
Let it roll off - girls are cool. | |
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| What's with the shallow women here?
Posted: 7/14/2009 4:25:48 AM | | If you messaged me first then you would have to get me a nurse! Not only would I have fallen off my chair and struck my head...but I would've had to of responded to you from my hospital bed by pressing the button for NURSE! | |
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| What's with the shallow women here?
Posted: 7/14/2009 6:12:22 AM | | I have messaged several guys first, and never got a response. Doesn't hurt my feelings, after ready my profile figured I was not their cup of tea.......Laurie | |
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| What's with the shallow women here?
Posted: 7/21/2009 8:09:53 AM | I agree with this guy totally!!The women on here,think they are so much better than what they are worth.NOBODY,and I mean NOBODY,is better than someone else!!!PERIOD!!!I have found out that the women one here seem like they got some sort of agenda,hang up.Then they complain they cant find nothing. Well,they set there standards way too high.Nobody,is going to put up with that!Futhermore,I dont feel sorry,for those who have got no luck on here! | |
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| What's with the shallow women here?
Posted: 8/2/2009 3:43:30 PM | Most people are a mile wide and an inch deep, until you actually get to know them. I'm new to this online dating crap, but I've noticed that it takes a bull dozer and a ton of shovels to get past/over/through the wall the gals on here have up.
I think you can trump it up to over kill on here. We all just get so many messages, it's just easy to instantly dismiss folks.
So I think it's just all about patience and persistence. ? | |
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| What's with the shallow women here?
Posted: 8/2/2009 8:33:47 PM | | To the poster....Sounds like you have met the wrong women. As for me I am not Barbie and never plan to be. I dislike women like that because it gives us real women a bad name. I work every day and take care of my family. I would never ask a man to support me as I would not support him. I believe it is a 2 way street | |
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| What's with the shallow women here?
Posted: 8/4/2009 11:23:24 AM | | Eh,if they flake out I move on. It takes a while to get to know how a person truely is,thats why I aim to start as friends 1st & go from there. As a friend,you get to see how they are & act before you decide to date em.Which is good for both sides really. Just my 2 cents :D | |
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| What's with the shallow women here?
Posted: 8/4/2009 11:30:03 AM | | AND 1 other thing :D.Some women have dealt w/game playing mens crap so long,they've learned to think the same way those men have.Which isn't good to have or to deal with.Here's a double middle finger salute to the men doing it. Anyone have change for a nickle,that is my 4cents;) | |
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| What's with the shallow women here?
Posted: 10/5/2009 10:20:35 AM | | Yes, shallowness does go both ways. And I completely agree about the older men wanting to date younger women, as in 20 years younger than them. The thing is. . if you're not willing to date someone that much older than yourself, you shouldn't expect for someone that much younger to be interested in someone like yourself. (Basically, a 50 something man shouldn't expect a 30 something to be interested in him if he's not willing to date a 70 year old woman) | |
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| What's with the shallow women here?
Posted: 10/5/2009 5:07:17 PM | Women will do whatever it takes to get those gucci shoes, sister. That's why guys like me can dangle them in front of your kind and get whatever we want.
Now, which one of you is ready for a new LV bag? | |
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| What's with the shallow women here?
Posted: 10/5/2009 8:53:46 PM | I want to know something...why is it so hard to date other ethnicities? Not so much shallow women because there are just as many shallow men as women (and honestly, don't all of us care a little about appearance?)
But, I find it hard trying to date someone other than your ethnicity. It seems that people have this view of you because of what little they know about your culture and then judge you by that instead of getting to know you first. | |
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| What's with the shallow women here?
Posted: 10/5/2009 10:32:15 PM | Victor, there's this timeless study in sociology that evaluates universal "appearance" ratings of people by their peers, and blindly incorporates their life-mates as well.
In the end, 9's tend to partner with 9's, 5's with 5's, and so on. In the social arena, we all learn to be attracted to the people who most resemble our place on the ladder. And those also tend to make the longest lasting couples.
Of course, women will date below their social ranking for the obvious reasons like money or power, but those couples tend to not last. Women will consistently trade up as much as possible until they reach a point where either: age no longer permits trading up, or they lose self-confidence in their ability to do so.
Unfortunately for the males who lack good looks and money, it sucks. But brute****ness will certainly suffice for my brothers who are trying to land a quick and dirty bird. Whether you're trying to find an easy lay, or a life partner, there's a method and a demographic to doing so--and for the most part, it's spelled out in scientific studies. | |
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| What's with the shallow women here?
Posted: 10/5/2009 11:26:21 PM | | Some of us women could care less about those labels. .as long as it works, and the person is happy with it, it shouldn't matter if it came from Ross, TJ Maxx, or wherever. Was happy driving a '89 Jeep Comanche a few years back. The paint was peeling, but it sounded cool because the previous owner dismantled the catalytic converter. (Obviously was in another state) All some women, and most women should care about is how men treat them. .not talking about buying them things. .but treating them with respect, doing little things to show they're thinking of them. | |
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| What's with the shallow women here?
Posted: 10/11/2009 5:56:42 PM | [Quote]In the end, 9's tend to partner with 9's, 5's with 5's, and so on. In the social arena, we all learn to be attracted to the people who most resemble our place on the ladder. And those also tend to make the longest lasting couples.
Of course, women will date below their social ranking for the obvious reasons like money or power, but those couples tend to not last. Women will consistently trade up as much as possible until they reach a point where either: age no longer permits trading up, or they lose self-confidence in their ability to do so.
You are spot on with the "matching" hypothesis. As long as you are honest with yourself as far as a self evaluation goes, you will tend to go after members of the opposite sex who have a similar "ranking" on the social hierarchy. As a result, you will be more likely to find yourself in satisfying, successful relationships.
The internet throws off the social hierarchy, in some repect, since women in their 20s are very much in high demand. They can be extremely fickle since they are targeted by men of just about any age group.
If you're going to use the internet to try and meet women, that is a fact that you must accept. I personally have only had success with women in real life, as I have a chance to let the girl get to know me. It's not two-dimensional in real life, and you can read somebody much easier in person than you can on the internet. The internet is pretty much a waste of time as far as cold approaching, but thankfully this site is free, and the only thing that is wasted is time. | |
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| What's with the shallow women here?
Posted: 10/11/2009 7:27:38 PM | ZHDavid:
You are dead wrong on the labels, I have no gicci, no LV, nor do I care to have any. Some women might be like that for sure, but I am not, and the majority of the women I know are not. As far as looking for the number match to myself, I could show you pics of the last 5 guys I seriously dated, and they are every end of the spectrum. It means more to me who they are on the inside, than what they look like on the outside. Of course, you have to have some attraction, but sometimes that develops the more you get to know someone.
Victor:
I dated a Haitian guy for 5 months. A lot of women are not afraid to date outside our race. I personally think most black men very attractive. In the end, I guess it comes down to meeting. A lot of guys go to the dances, but seem too shy to talk to anyone. If you guys ask.......you never know????  Laurie | |
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| What's with the shallow women here?
Posted: 11/18/2009 10:15:56 PM | Ouch..... maybe you guys are somehow attracted to these evil chicks??? Maybe start changing what you are looking for, and you might find a good one? Doesn't matter if you were the perfect gentleman, there will always be women like that. Just like there will always be men that are a$$holes! it's preference!
I don't think it's shallow to think someone should make over X amount of money a year.. I kind of look at it as they are goal oriented. hard to explain. But realistically, it's really a matter of that. Plus, I personally don't want to take care of a guy. What if I got pregnant. I would like someone to be financially secure. Not understanding why that is so hard to stomach. | |
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| What's with the shallow women here?
Posted: 11/19/2009 1:34:26 AM | | Heh, Maybe there are too many women out there stuck in a damsel in distress complex? They literaly want the perfectly chisled, successful, funny, knight in shining armor. Lol it's never going to happen, and if it was it would of happend by now or already has to someother lucky girl. The real question is why the hell do i have to set my standards so low to find anyone? | |
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| What's with the shallow women here?
Posted: 11/19/2009 11:03:46 AM | chisled....
at your age, they probably are out for looks more than anything else because they don't look far down the line. Like most guys your age.
You guys gotta start understanding the darn competition we got out there. You guys drooling over victoria secret models on tv... you guys get EVERYTHING visually on tv/media. What do we get? And when you do gaulk at that stuff in front of female friends, or your girlfriends, you are putting BAD things in our heads for you or for future guys!! I'm telling you it's a terrible thing! All guys wonder why chicks are always so hard on themselves THAT's WHY! | |
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