Chalks
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Joined: 1/21/2008
Msg: 25 | |
| knowing someone is cheating?
Posted: 5/2/2008 4:34:05 PM | | I think after they both give you abuse forget it they deserve each other. Personally I have never cheated on anyone I figure may aswell be single if I want that? People who do deserve anything that happens. | |
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| knowing someone is cheating?
Posted: 5/2/2008 5:32:31 PM | Sorry but i think you should have kept your nose out of their business. Its sod all to do with you.
As you said, you havent met either of them.
You have been the victim of vicious rumours yourself, surely that should have taught you that no one likes an interfering gossip??? | |
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| knowing someone is cheating?
Posted: 5/3/2008 1:57:00 AM | Can I say all credit to the other involved parties, I dont know who they are but I dont think they have posted and fair play to them for maintaining a dignified silence and keeping the complexities of their private life exactly that, Private!!
Theres a lesson in there somewhere im sure!
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| knowing someone is cheating?
Posted: 5/3/2008 2:23:03 AM | The quote.....I could have had him 18months ago,i dont fancy him and never will.....speaks volumes as if this quote is entirely accurate i doubt it would matter that the poor man has chosen to move on.
The man in question is still ringing,declaring his love because the OP allows him to,enjoys the attention it brings yet has no intention of wanting to form a relationship.
To interfere in somebody elses business is not always in the best interest of all parties but sometimes done for self gratification. | |
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| knowing someone is cheating?
Posted: 5/3/2008 2:23:30 AM | Relationships are complicated anyway,and with the nature of having contacts in a dating site getting involved intrusively is allways going to be a minefield.
Even if there once was a spark between you and the person who is sounding you out while they have started a relationship with someone you dont know,you run the risk of being accused of interfering,amongst other things.
If you never had feelings for him why complicate your life for someone who is of little interest to you?
Personally i would not get involved.
just sit back and watch how they develope.
If the women was a close friend however i may think very differently.
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| knowing someone is cheating?
Posted: 5/3/2008 2:27:13 AM |
ok... you know (never met) two people on here... one has been after you for a long time... you have no interest in them.. all of a sudden they have a interest in someone the other side of the world... they meet.. they think they are in love over one meeting.. but in the mean time that person is still ringing you and declaring their love for you.. stating they don't care for this other person ... what do you do... I choose to tell this other person... yes you two know who you are... but now she hates me and say's I am jealous.... lol.. I could have had him 18 months ago... I don't fancy him and never will... I thought I was doing her a favour and telling her the truth that he doesn't love her as I believe she does him... I got abuse from both of them because of this... do you just shut up and let them get on with it or do you feel the need to let one person know that they are being played with? I will never do it again.. but saying that.. if someone told me I was being being played with I would want to know why and think hard about it....
Oh the DRAMA!!!!
The intrigue...! who is this about...i have a feeling its not about the "couple" but more about the poster....
If there is a crisis i imagine you would want to be part of it... lets shine the spotlight! | |
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| knowing someone is cheating?
Posted: 5/3/2008 5:53:30 AM |
yes you two know who you are... Owww not nice .... This is a scenario that could have presented without the holier than thou attitude ... Not a reflection on you personally OP just the manner in which you chose to present your Q ...
It could have been made a far better topic by keeping the Q general ... If the lady in question reads that post she might (rightly or not) believe there are sour grapes in your accusations... The comment about you having him all but dangling on a piece of string is not too attractive either ... He obviously feels you keep him there as entertainment value for when you have no more deserving gentlemen on the horizon ... If he keeps declaring his undying love and you have no intention of reciprocating, stop communicating then..
Best thing to do? Neither are your friend so leave them to it... There is no question of loyalty to either side, so just leave well alone. As you can see by the responses, it's you who comes out looking slightly bitter and off kilter. Whether or not that is truly the case, they're adults and need no protection ... | |
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che37
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Joined: 4/12/2008
Msg: 33 | |
| knowing someone is cheating?
Posted: 5/10/2008 2:49:58 AM | | My ex is on this site, and although i was friends with her until a few weeks ago. This is slightly different take on cheating. She claimed she had real feelings for someone and generally boasted how life with him was when they were together, saying he is the one etc etc, but she is still here with a profile asking for dating. Now if i met someone i'd either leave this site or amend the profile to say in a relationship, what do you others think about people who claim to be in the so called perfect relationship but still want to date. In my eyes it can't be that perfect can it? | |
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che37
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Joined: 4/12/2008
Msg: 35 | |
| knowing someone is cheating?
Posted: 5/10/2008 3:05:33 AM | | dishonesty, more like some people think it's very funny to mess around with other peoples emotions. Maybe this should become a paid for site maybe then people would think long and hard at why they are actually here in the first place. | |
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ali243
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Joined: 3/19/2008
Msg: 36 | |
| knowing someone is cheating?
Posted: 5/10/2008 3:16:33 AM |
Fairy G-You should set up an annoymous email account and just send the profile they have on here to her Hubby to be so he can see what She's upto and it wont be anything to do with you?
Have to agree totally... More so if he's about to marry this girly.
Personally - I would want to know if I was on the receiving end - might cause all sorts of problems & hassle at the time, but GOD what a nightmare if you'd gone through with the wedding & THEN found out?
I've actually been put in this position a few years back: when I was with my x, we were good friends with his boss & his partner (who had 2 kids) - my X knew full well that his boss was over the side - I took the decision at the time NOT to say anything as figured it was none of my business... then just before the bit on side got married (!) - she found out she was pg & had no idea if it was her future hubbys or down to my X's boss..... She app decided to pass it off as her future hubbys - but somehow it got back to the boss's partner & she was (understandabley) LIVID.
They sorted that one out & tried to make a go of it.... 6 months later the boss was seeing someone else again. I couldn't hold my tongue & made a phone call to his partner. Worst & most awkward call I've ever had to make. BUT: they've been apart now for about 4 years & she is now living happily with someone else & says the call was the best thing that could've ever happened to her...... | |
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