| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/2/2008 3:37:10 PM | But I really haven't been dating her very long so I'm still entertaining the idea.
"Yo! Honey yoooou STANK" <<<<...wont work.
If you hope to love her for any length of time...
Learn some tact and how to be a gentleman about little things like this. 
*thinks bout squirting the OP too*...teaches cats real quick | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/2/2008 3:43:35 PM | Yah, lol. I've always had a problem with tact. And it seems I'm constantly working on it.
But I think that I'm going to build it up as if I've been sleeping with ten women at the same time or something so that a measly perfume looks pale in comparison. I'm hoping to get a "dear god, is that all?" response.
But you might be right, I'll have to feel this one out. I've had a tendency to live on the dangerous side of life. So if she can come out of this understanding where I'm coming from then kudos to her and she might actually be a keeper. | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/2/2008 3:46:20 PM | I'm going to build it up as if I've been sleeping with ten women at the same time or something so that a measly perfume looks pale in comparison. I'm hoping to get a "dear god, is that all?" response.
.....Dear.....
.....God.....
*turns a fricken firehose on the OP*
Thats all. | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/2/2008 4:27:17 PM | Does she wear the perfume constantly? If so, tell her you'd like to smell her WITHOUT the perfume sometime. Tell her you're curious as to what she smells like au naturel. She'll probably agree to this. When she shows up without the perfume and you're hugging, inhale deeply and tell her "Mmmmmm. You smell even better this way."
If she occasionally shows up without perfume for your dates, just go to that last step. Tell her you like the way SHE smells. That it's much, much sexier than any perfume. | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/2/2008 7:13:05 PM | You definitely don't want to buy her perfume without taking her with. There have been scents that have smelled nice on the tester strip and smelled terrible on me. When I was living with roommates, one of them tried a favorite perfume of mine, and it smelled like paint thinner on her. Individual body chemistry has a lot to do with it.
There's nothing wrong with telling her you're not fond of that particular perfume. If I were her, I'd rather know that you didn't like it. I know I had one that one of my exes hated and I loved. I just didn't wear it when I was around him. In fact, I remember buying a newer bottle after we broke up. | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/2/2008 7:24:29 PM | Be honest with her and please use some tact. Most of us wear more than one scent, she might have been wearing that one because she thought you liked it.
I once wore the nastiest, candy smelling crap just because a guy liked it, I gagged every time I put it on, but he just loved it.
Find a way to suggest something else to her, you might be surprised. | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/2/2008 7:30:55 PM | I once made the mistake of telling a guy I was seeing that I liked the smell of a certain cologne... He practically bathed in it. It still makes me cringe every time I smell even the faintest hint of it.
Anyway, I agree with what the first poster said: get her something you do like and tell her how sexy it smells. Hopefully she won't insist on wearing it only on special occasions.. | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/2/2008 7:32:19 PM | im pretty sure shes lying. even chanel is only $100 a bottle (a BIG bottle), the only stuff thats $300 a bottle she must have been raised a vanderbilt or something to be used to wearing because it comes in a solid gold bottle, OR shes lying.
Be honest with her. It will save you any future embarassment about lying, and as long as you try not to be offensive but simply honest then im sure she will appreciate that. it might take her a minute or two to calm down and not be mad but if she cares she will think of you as well. My dad hates my mothers favourite perfume so she only wears it out on speial occasions. Maybe suggest a compromise like that.
Perfume is a very personal thing. Before you go buying her something i suggest you find out what she likes about that one. There are pretty much 3 categories, citrus, musk, and spicy. If shes a citrusy kind of person its unlikely she will wear either of the other two. So before you go wasting your money on something you like but she doesnt perhaps have a little shopping trip together. | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/2/2008 11:52:21 PM | then just tell her! you don't like it, then you don't.
my bf always tells me i stink..i don't know why. i swear, he's like the only guy who's ever told me that. i don't know if he's just saying that to tease me, but it's like he never liked any scent on me. he thinks baby phat smells like pot potpourri, and the rest (victoria secret spray) smells like crap. one time, he visited me and i just came from the shower a few minutes before that. my hair was still a bit damp, and when we were cuddling, he goes up to me and whispers, "hmmmm...you stink". like he wasn't trying to be sexy or anything...he just says that. he says it in the same tone when i know i actually stink (aka sweating)...so...i can't tell if he's joking or not.
anywho...i stopped caring about his opinion on my scent, and actually stopped putting on any scent when i know i'll see him.
why can't you just tell her? spare her feelings? do you think you actually make her happy 24/7, and this is the ONLY thing that'll really hurt her? lol... | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/3/2008 12:42:23 AM |
Drop the bottle and break it. Replace it with what you like and tell her how much better it suits her It amazes me how some people want to be treated. Sorry to pick on you out of all the posters who have suggested basically lying, but why on earth do so many women ask for an honest man and then advise them to lie? Makes no sense. If you respect someone doesn't part of that respect entail being honest with them and not imagining that the can't handle being told that some trivial thing that the can easily change is causing a problem. If she was naturally smell and couldn't do anything about it, it'd be rather mean to bring it up, but when it's just a perfume. Destroying something that she has chosen that cost her $300 just because you'd rather she didn't wear it when she was with you would seem to be a childish invasion. | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/3/2008 6:59:38 AM | A woman who uses a bar of soap and baby powder is good enough for me. Keep it simple.
OP go buy her a nice soap set and some Johnsons baby powder.
Many workplaces are now banning the wearing of perfumes and colognes. The public transit system I used growing up has asked customers to NOT wear perfumes and colognes on their sytem.
One day people who wear this stuff will be treated like smokers. | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/3/2008 8:33:27 AM |
It amazes me how some people want to be treated. Sorry to pick on you out of all the posters who have suggested basically lying, but why on earth do so many women ask for an honest man and then advise them to lie? Makes no sense. If you respect someone doesn't part of that respect entail being honest with them and not imagining that the can't handle being told that some trivial thing that the can easily change is causing a problem. If she was naturally smell and couldn't do anything about it, it'd be rather mean to bring it up, but when it's just a perfume. Destroying something that she has chosen that cost her $300 just because you'd rather she didn't wear it when she was with you would seem to be a childish invasion.
How the hell is that lying????????????? Im sure he could admit he had broken it lol | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/3/2008 8:45:17 AM | OP - tell her straight up how you feel.
Me personally? Before even meeting her, i'd have told her "No perfume". Perfume could kill me. Really. I have asthma. Used to be set off by things like pollen, etc. Now it's only set off by perfumes/musks.
Ladies that love hand lotions? Can't have it around me, or my bronchial tubes shut off and i kinda need help getting that oxygen in my lungs which makes living so much easier. Perfumes? Deoderants? Even certain detergents on your clothes? Yeah... if a gal is gonna meet me, I tell her ahead of time. | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/3/2008 10:55:58 AM | I'd say 'So, you paid how much for that perfume?' When she replies '$300' your reply should be 'Damn....it smells EXACTLY like that stuff I caught a whiff of in the dollar store the other day'.
Or you COULD just go buy her a new bottle of perfume. Most girls like gifts. ;)
~Welder's Girl~ | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/3/2008 11:02:28 AM | RED LOTUS: I do not agree that she has to be lying. A bottle of Donna Karan Chaos sells for about $500.00 and that is on DISCOUNT!! Clive Christian #1 for women retails for $895 a bottle, but you can find it for $600 in some places.
~Welder's Girl~ | |
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| How do you tell her that her $300 perfume is smells terrible.
Posted: 5/3/2008 11:17:09 AM |
What do I do without hurting her feelings to let her know I can't bear the odor any longer?
Where I live we have heavy, heavy local perfumes that smell of our tropical flowers. Some of them are sooooooo strong, they give me headaches after being around them for more than ten minutes. Gardenia, Tubarose, and the list goes on. Nothing is more irritating to my senses. I have empathy for you.
Now, try this....go out and buy a small bottle of perfume that you really like (try something like Chanel's Chance, Estee Lauder's Beautiful, Clarion' Oui, some of the MAC ones are nice and less expensive). You can give her this as a gift and just say that you know how much she likes perfume...and that you love the scent of this one; picked it out especially for her. That might do it. I'm not sure what you'd consider expensive but smaller bottles of Chanel run around $40.
Just a suggestion..........if you feel comfortable enough, you can just be upfront and honest and tell her that the perfume she's wearing isn't one that you like. The same perfume can smell differently on women. It depends on the body/skin chemistry. Same goes for the person who's around smelling it. You either like it or you don't.
I don't think she'd be offended, really. If she cares, she'll change her perfume when she's with you or better yet, keep with the soapy sqeeky clean fresh out of the shower scent. Ah, they make a scent like that one too...by Philosophy (has great lotions; go to Sephora on line if there's not one close by and you can order...Grace is nice.)
If all else fails, buy a nose clip (the kind that swimmers use.) Good luck. | |
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