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Posted: 5/3/2008 10:03:59 PM | windsoront2 you seem to be really entertained and impressed with yourself. What your saying is nothing to do with what I posted.I did read some of your history on other threads in other forum posts.I notice you basically make fun of people and run them down. I hope it makes you feel better about yourself. I'm sure your the only one thats impressed.Nothing you said in refering to my earlier post makes any sence. I think you possibly have a problem with interpeting the english language. An who said anything about taking their kids to a bar?
An yes I've seen dozens of women posting pictures with their kids in their profiles. An what are you doing checking out womens profiles considering your a woman too. I'm sure I've viewed more womens profiles than you have. I'm sure most every guy posting in this threads viewed more womens profiles than you have considering your a woman. An you said it's only younger women that posts pictures of their kids? It's all ages of women . And if they want to post pictures of their kids then more power to them. I haven't taken a pole on how many women post pictures of their kids but I would guess a great percentage do.It's their choice.
But anyways you go ahead an come back with your silly responce to this. I have no plans of responding to your non-sense again. I don't need too. There's plenty of men posting in this forum that has seen many profiles with womens kids in the pictures. I notice you don't even have a picture.An it says you have no privite images either. I figure you think the "boogie mans going to get you lol. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 3:16:54 AM | I think windsoront2 has a personal vendetta agains "guy4the forums". I also, read your former posts and you do a bit of judging,,, why are we so perfect? In all of my psychology classes it states that those who are casting the first stone, perhaps have a self-esteem issue going on.
I am going to go out on a limb and agree with "guy4the forums",, this young woman was given two blessings,her children, to raise at a young age and she will still be relatively young when her children are grown..
Perhaps,, windoront2,, you should come forward as bravely as the OP has and
post some personal information and search for reassurance from those of us here on POF,,, then we could have the opportunity to judge you as harshly as you do others,,,,, I'm sorry for going off subject but you have hit a very LARGE nerve with me...
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Posted: 5/4/2008 3:20:50 AM | If you haven't known, the military refers to children as MSA's, or Man Snaring Apparatus. Majority of men are perplexed by the idea of an instant family, or merely being a replacement daddy. Many men feel inadequate when it comes to being a male role model for children that aren't their's. Many men feel threatened, pressured, and lead themselves into a dark room just to hump a kindergarten-grade pencil sharpener.
MSAs are simple, much like other deadly weapons that third world countries use to fend off political uprisings. Assess the target, grab child, throw at ankles. This will cause the man to fall off a cliff, and into a pit of jagged rocks and skeletons. By their efficiency and low cost, many countries are resorting to MSA's to gain intel on rival countries(see "war wives"), and to also cripple the enemy's ambition to complete priorities necessary to have what most would deem a fulfilling life. Even young children are bombarding political radicals with babies. See: http://farm2.static.flickr.com/1341/663578443_b27116617a.jpg?v=0
But all in all, when you're young, you've got things to do. Relationships come second at best to most men younger than 25, and it's understandable by all means.
AMan, bringing comedy since 1935. | |
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| why is it guys shy away from a girl that has kids?
Posted: 5/4/2008 4:05:05 AM | Nothing wrong with a girl that has kids, the only problem is the age at which the kids were born.(like someone posted )
You are quite young to start raising kids, as it would definitely affect your other areas of life, such as acquiring proper education, socialising and making good money for yourself.
Now to answer your question..."why is it guys shy away from a girl that has kids?"
The answer is this...
(1)some guys would see it as a burden to have any relationship with you
(2) there would definitely be divided attention which brings about spending limited time with any guy you date, and the guys that would be willing to have any kind of affair with you would not take it seriously, they would be there for one thing...SEX, SEX, SEX!
It sounds harsh, but that's just the gospel truth!
You still never know, there could be just someone out there for you (it can't be all that bad)
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Posted: 5/4/2008 4:47:09 AM | It all comes down to this, men can have standards to. There are a lot of things in a relationship to consider when some one has kids. Why should I put up with the hassles of kids who are not even mine? When they are my own, its a different story.
It's okay for women to have standards such as be on these sites for months and years while getting approached by countless men who are not offering any less than the women. But the women on this site still remain single because they have standards. Why isn't it okay for men to have a standard (a woman with kids) which may affect a relationship more than the other stuff women judge men on? | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 5:27:34 AM | | I have been known to deal with women with kids, but only under the right circumstances. I tend to believe that the more children a woman already has, the less likely it will be that she will want more. If I find otherwise, then she could be game. I've also had women who were out more to find a daddy and provider for their kids. I've had a couple women flat out tell me they child needs a father and they are traditionally homemakers! Not going to get a man that way! | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 6:00:34 AM |
and i for some reason i never find a guy so be it. its their loss not mine.
ok, then stop calling single guys jerks just because they don't want the hassle.
i still get to experience the same things as i would if i didnt have them. college,ect.
Good luck at that. I sincerely doubt you will. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 8:28:42 AM | | I don't understand the mentality of today at all. Is it cool to have 2 kids out of wedlock by 25 or something? Is this the new fad? If it is, a lot of women need to rethink the whole sex thing and start using contraceptives or better yet, just abstain. Obviously the loser men that they are having sex with don't care about pregnancy or diseases. And yes ladies, you are giving the rest of your life away to be with losers momentarily. At least use some common sense and think about your futures. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 9:12:34 AM |
What your saying is nothing to do with what I posted.
I was answering you--and quoting you....???
I did read some of your history on other threads in other forum posts.I notice you basically make fun of people and run them down.
I was answering to your name calling...not that I should be--after I saw your age you can bet I was shocked...but it all made more sense when I read your profile and a few of your posts.
I posted you shouldn't have pics of children posted like a million other people have posted....you must really hate all the people that have that posted right on their profile.
.Nothing you said in refering to my earlier post makes any sence. I think you possibly have a problem with interpeting the english language.
Look before you throw stones learn how to spell--see now I am more at your level.
An who said anything about taking their kids to a bar?
I don't like kid's pics posted and you said a bar parking lot was more dangerous....???...I believe I did put it in quotes...
. An what are you doing checking out womens profiles considering your a woman too.
I've read so many threads wrote on kids in pics that I've seen many---and other threads also.....but I did read you thread where you were telling women to stop acting like a bunch of lesbos--so for the record that is not the case...
I haven't taken a pole on how many women post pictures of their kids but I would guess a great percentage do.It's their choice.
Please don't take a 'pole' to them....and YOU'RE insulting my knowledge of the english language--incredible.
But if you wanted to take a poll I don't think you could because that thread is redundant--there is just way too many of them--that is why people started posting 'no kids pics' on their personal profiles.
But anyways you go ahead an come back with your silly responce to this.
You spelling is really bad--I normally wouldn't mention this but since you thought you'd attack me
And silly responses.....do you not see yourself?? I'm only answering to your stupidity...like this:
I notice you don't even have a picture.An it says you have no privite images either. I figure you think the "boogie mans going to get you lol.
amongst a lot of other things you wrote...obviously you didn't appreciate me answering to your comments....then don't write them.
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Posted: 5/4/2008 9:18:28 AM |
I think windsoront2 has a personal vendetta agains "guy4the forums".
There's a lot of discussion about kids being posted on here...and if it wasn't me that said it he'd be attacking whoever did...so no it is not personal--although I shouldn't have answering to his comments calling me stupid and I'm afraid of the boogeyman...if it wasn't said by him I guess I wouldn't be answering. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 10:36:11 AM |
Nothing wrong with a girl that has kids, the only problem is the age at which the kids were born.(like someone posted )
You are quite young to start raising kids, as it would definitely affect your other areas of life, such as acquiring proper education, socialising and making good money for yourself.
my kids are the greatest blessing that god has given me. as for my kids effecting the othe aspects of my life they havent. i finished high school with great grades,im going to college. ya i dont get to go out and party like most people my age. but thats not even a interest of mine. i have better thing to do with my time and money. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 10:43:46 AM | | i just wanna say thanks to all of those people that are defending me on here. why argue about pictures? honestly its stupid and people are acting like they are back in high school. and yet you think that you can come on he and think i am a bad person for so called throwing my life away. think before you speak. i came on here just looking for advice. not to be attacked because i have pictures of my kids on my profile. my kids are my life and they always will be. as i said before i have not ruined my life by having kids. im just more mature than some of the girls my age. but yet i am finishing my schooling to be a vet assistant so that i can give my kids a good life. why should that be a bad thing? i just have my priorities strait. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 11:12:23 AM | I have to agree with you about being attacked. Think some of the people here are getting a little to carried away. And getting way off topic. Being the original question is why guys shy away from a girl with kids?
As for the answer I think you kind of answered it yourself. When you said your kids are your life. I'm pretty sure that is what most guys think when they see a girl has kids. It isn't to say that I or other guys wouldn't date a girl with kids. But vs. focusing on the relationship there is going to be this focus on the kids. Like me I want to find someone to go out and do things with and a girl with kids is probably going to be less interested in things like that since they have kids. I think to really find a guy when you have a kid you have to work the kids into the mix slowly yet still be able to leave them and have a good time.
PS by leave them. I meant like cut the cord type thing there like emotionally let go so you can have a good time. Although if you do go out be sure to find someone suitable to supervise them. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 11:30:28 AM | Okay. I just KNOW I'm going to get my balls busted for posting this, but I gotta do it.
What the OP failed to mention in this thread to all of you is that one of her kids is only 4 months old.
What do you guys think? Do you think that MIGHT just POSSIBLY have something to do with why she's having a little dating trouble? Maybe? Just maybe?
For example, I will date a woman with children--at my age, I prefer it, actually. I would not, however, date a woman with an INFANT.
And I'm 101% sure that I am not the only guy who feels that way out there. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 11:39:08 AM | | I would think that a man would be willing to date anyone with the same interests and compatibilities markers as himself.. the fact that she has an infant would be a plus, IMO,, because you would be able to get to watch the infant grow and delight in the bright mind of a toddler... unless you don't connect,, or perhaps you a a serial dater and are not into the total package,, of a woman,ie., mind, body, soul, and family .Go ahead OP, you are doing the right thing by thinking of your children and working towards obtaining a goal.. You are brave and strong ... stay focused.... and if you can,, enjoy this wondrful time in your children's life...Reece | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 11:42:45 AM | the fact that she has an infant would be a plus, IMO
Please, God, tell me I'm not the only reading this thread whose jaw hit the floor when they read that.
What planet are some of you people from? | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 11:50:49 AM | | hi how are you i was just writing whta you had said and sometime i would like to know that as well some of the guys i have chated to over the net or have meet don't won't to know me because i have kids but as i say and see it as if they like you that much it dosen't matter if you have a kid or kids you come as a pack now so why let some little like that get in the way. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 11:57:52 AM | hi how are you i was just writing whta you had said and sometime i would like to know that as well some of the guys i have chated to over the net or have meet don't won't to know me because i have kids but as i say and see it as if they like you that much it dosen't matter if you have a kid or kids you come as a pack now so why let some little like that get in the way.
hey some of the guys around where i am from and i know likes meetin a women with a kid or kids because they said a girl who has a baby or kids are alot of fun if you no whta i mean so to all the girls who are waiting to fine someone but can't because they so no because you have a kid or kids just tell them it is they loss and someone will come along who will take you and your kidor kidsand so what if you are young so was i when i had my first. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 12:19:14 PM | | ok. why did the conversation turn. why should i not be able to date when i have a infant? am i supposed to stop living because i have a infant? i dont think so. i do get to go out one or two times a month. but thats only if i know that there is someone that i trust to watch my kids. so i have not stopped living. but my life has slowed down a bit. which is very nice. i like it. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 12:30:51 PM | ok. why did the conversation turn. why should i not be able to date when i have a infant?
Just for the record, I didn't say boo about that (and I'm not going to, after getting dogpiled for saying it before).
All I meant was this: You asked why guys were shying away from you for having kids. Well, I don't think it's just the fact that you have kids (or not completely that). I think a lot of it is that you have a 4-month old infant. You didn't mention this in the thread, though, and I think you should have. It's completely relevant and pertinent to your question, because I believe that's the real reason you're having such a hard time.
Because, as I said, a lot of guys will date someone with kids but won't date someone with an infant. Babies are just a much bigger deal. And they should be, frankly. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 12:38:10 PM |
Because, as I said, a lot of guys will date someone with kids but won't date someone with an infant. Babies are just a much bigger deal. And they should be, frankly.
why should a guy shy away from babies? its not like they are any worse than a 2 year old. honestly a 2 year old is harder to handle than a infant. all babies do is eat sleep and poop. so why should that freak a guy out? ya they cant tell ya what they want but its really easy to figure out what they need. its not rocket science now is it? | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 12:46:45 PM |
why should a guy shy away from babies? its not like they are any worse than a 2 year old. honestly a 2 year old is harder to handle than a infant. all babies do is eat sleep and poop. so why should that freak a guy out? ya they cant tell ya what they want but its really easy to figure out what they need. its not rocket science now is it?
Because it's not the amount of work that's scaring guys off (or not totally anyway). I mean, let's face it--a rowdy teenager can easily be more work than a toddler, but I think guys are still more scared of the toddler.
The reason guys are more scared of babies is basically what everyone's been saying. Even most guys who will date women with children (like myself), aren't necessarily interested in being parents to those children--they just want to be friends with them, maybe a role model even.
So, the younger a kid is, the more of a blank slate they are and the more they feel like they're getting pulled into that parent role.
And be honest about it. How could any guy seriously date someone with an infant and NOT end up feeling like a bit of a parent to that kid? It doesn't matter how many times you might tell them they won't be, they're basically going to be if they're seriously involved with you.
And that's what freaks them out. These guys are looking for a girlfriend. Not a girlfriend and a child that they're going to help raise almost from birth. That's way more than most guys are bargaining for.
Don't get pissed, all right? I'm just telling you the truth here.
It's not that you have kids (or mostly not). It's that you have an infant. That's your stumbling block. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 2:10:47 PM |
MSG#60:windsoront2 wrote:Look before you throw stones learn how to spell--see now I am more at your level./You spelling is really bad/I'm only answering to your stupidity.
Since when did the forums become a spelling contest? An another thing,if your going to run my spelling down don't screw up in the same sentence your making mention of my bad spelling or grammar.
An no body is calling anyone "stupid" or saying that someone made "stupid decisions" excepting you(windsor) Go back and read my posts. You really should consider becoming a lawyer with your natural ability to turn peoples words around.
MSG#60:Windoront2:Wrote:.....but I did read you thread where you were telling women to stop acting like a bunch of lesbos--so for the record that is not the case...
Windsor? if your going to quote me atleast quote me from the same thread. What your quoting about me mentioning lesbo's, is in a totally different thread.Infact it's even in a totally different "Catagory" (Kansas)in another forum. In that forum I've got 3 good friends posting in that very thread and I even know one in person,they all know I'm joking so please lighten up and get your panties out of a bunch . It was all in good and fun taist so stay on topic and atleast in the same catagory.
Gosh and please quit telling everyone they are stupid or that their posts shows their stupidity,or their decisions in life shows their stupidity.
Each to their own.If the ~OP~ wanted to have kids at a young age thats her choice. She had no clue her husband was going to defect.An if she's proud of her kids and wants people to see how good looking her kids are then more power to her.Its her choice.
If you simply just want to fuss with me then take it to a personal email because not everyone wants to watch people fuss.Especially when "your" getting off the topic and making it personal. How do you like me know? | |
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