| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 11/6/2009 2:59:57 PM | We ar not talking about guys who are honest about motives or concern themselves with the damage they leave behind. They appear to be exactly what you are looking for as they are very practiced at it. The guys you "see through" are those not practiced at such deception. Their approach is competing with a well polished approach and the honest one looses. In a simple demonstration, the player will profess to find something wonderful about you even though he doesn't know squat about you. Already, he has your interest and the guy who might like you, if he got to know you, is in second place.
Your own confidence that you can see through deception is working against you. The player quickly finds the tell-tale things you are looking for and plays them. He is practiced at finding such weak spots. Its a game to him. He knows what he wants and knows how to get it. This line in so many profiles is a dead giveaway for an easy mark. The other guy didn't get to meet you and you likely consider him a looser if you even remember him. Now the player appears to sacrifice something for you as he is so "enamored" with you. He seems to place his heart in you hands. You're done, time to serve up the turkey. At this point, you are the one under his control even though you think it's the other way around. His "mistakes" are ignored and he can do no wrong. The other guy is forgotten by now and is invisible. The player is already working another target but will put up with you as long as he gets something for the hassle. The honest guys have two choices. 1 Become a player but suffer the learning curve. 2. Stay honest and suffer the "unread delete".
The most successful player I ever met was an old college room mate. He played so many girls, he had to keep notes of the lies. I didn't believe him when he bragged he could get any woman but he proved it. They bought his meals, did his laundry and homework, and kept the room clean, at least his side of it. He did not bother with average or lower girls. The various posts in various threads saying men do this or that prove to me that the behavior of his type is alive and well even at our age. They have lots of practice by now. | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 11/6/2009 5:22:17 PM | I think a man looks for various things in a relationship;
A woman who doesn't mind cooking
A woman who does some housework
A woman who is great in the sack
A woman who holds down a decent job
A woman who respects his free time
and the wherewithall to keep these five women from finding out about each other.
Just paraphrasing an old groaner here. | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 11/6/2009 5:58:59 PM |
I think a man looks for various things in a relationship;
A woman who doesn't mind cooking
A woman who does some housework
A woman who is great in the sack
A woman who holds down a decent job
A woman who respects his free time
...Oh dear....I'm doomed. Number three....ummm, ahhh....Ok, I do have a decent job.
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 11/6/2009 6:28:37 PM | I totally agree with you aaamm
however i was interested as i have now read and agreeded with your responses to a few of these threads i looked at your profile i read you were looking for friends
cant have enough like minded friends i thought! i continued to read on and was saddened to read you had to have a photo to contact you although you have not got one posted!?? hmmmm thought you were not judgemental????? | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 11/6/2009 9:16:25 PM | A woman who doesn't mind cooking
I don't mind it, am rather good at it, but only when I want to.
A woman who does some housework
I clean my own house, and expect him to take care of his. However, if we cohabitate, I expect that there will be outside help. This is not a bad thing for it frees me up to be the upstairs maid.
A woman who is great in the sack
I'm not bad, especially when I have the downstairs maid issues covered and he picks up after himself.
A woman who holds down a decent job
I am steadily employed.
A woman who respects his free time
As I want mine respected.
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 11/6/2009 11:25:01 PM |
In a simple demonstration, the player will profess to find something wonderful about you even though he doesn't know squat about you. Already, he has your interest and the guy who might like you, if he got to know you, is in second place.
How naive do you think I am?
For the record I can smell BS a mile off  | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 11/7/2009 5:14:15 AM |
A woman who doesn't mind cooking
A woman who does some housework
A woman who is great in the sack
A woman who holds down a decent job
A woman who respects his free time I like cooking - but what I want, when I want it, not necessarily 3 times/day. If he wants 3 hots and a cot, there's the local jail. I do housework - when it reaches the point where I can't stand it anymore. I've always had at least one job, usually more, now I have a decent retirement. For me. He'd best have his own. His free time is his own, as long as my free time is MY own as well.
Eek! I forgot one!
I've never had any complaints.... | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 11/7/2009 9:53:37 AM |
My free time has never been spent on meeting an ugly one ...LOL!
I never quite understand if your comments should be taken at face value, or if there are some obscure meanings to them. | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 11/8/2009 7:14:55 PM | OK, i'm a man. What am I looking for? Love. A partner, and probably a wife.
This stuff is in my profiles, and I would expand on it all here, but I gotta get up from here and change my laundry! see, I finally decided to read this forum, and there's lots of interesting discussion here. I had no idea! | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 11/9/2009 4:32:43 PM |
cant have enough like minded friends i thought! i continued to read on and was saddened to read you had to have a photo to contact you although you have not got one posted!?? hmmmm thought you were not judgemental????? It is pretty easy to make a photo public and send an email and make it private again. I have had stalkers and I know you can put up a fake photo, but I would rather be safe than sorry. What was it you wanted to say? You could have asked me to contact you. I forgot to check to see how long you have been on the forums, but that is something that does happen, you are too old, too young etc. to contact someone and you ask them to email you. Problem solved.
I thankfully am not worried about a man over 45 for another 6 years anyway... | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 11/9/2009 4:41:37 PM | ( I DON'T LIKE BIG TITS)
I am looking for one not many..in fact? I'm not really interested in dating more than one woman at a time I never have been into doing that.
I'm pretty easy going about all of this, so, what do I want? a woman who isn't on some sort of midlife party animal crisis
why do I attract those types?
Oh! HWP never hurts either extremely rare round these parts!. | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 11/9/2009 5:57:41 PM |
Well the older gals are gonna have gravity working against them - they don't stay perky forever.
speak for yourself!
having NOT had children, mine are still pretty darn perky - even at 40DD!
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 11/9/2009 10:20:46 PM | | I find the older I get the less women have to offer both in spiritual and emotional beauty. The physical side of things doesnt matter to me either way. I am very much inclined to stay single as most people's die has been cast. Those who are divorced after the age of lets say 45 are romatically disfunctional and have some issues with interaction romantically or mental issues. I find every person except widows are properly divorced and needs to keep that way. They had decades to find the love of their life and if they havent it isnt gonna start now. Wishful thinking doesnt make the impossible happen. Widows have been and are faithful people . . . I am not interested in them becasue they deserve someone better than me. | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 11/9/2009 10:26:34 PM | Someone to have an affair with..................LOL
I'm talking about the number of married men that try to get my attention!
The actual single ones well I think they have been single for so long they have the ideal woman etched in their brain..................yep it's a 45 year old version of Barbie (well preserved of course with perfect breasts and everything............. ) | |
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