| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 5/29/2008 7:34:43 PM | If I ever figure out how to put it in words, I'll let you know. In all honesty, what we think we want is not always what we would like.
So far, all I can think of is:
1. I must love her
2. She must love me | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 5/30/2008 7:32:15 AM | | Wow, wonderfully said Gary......for me open communication can be accomplished only when you truly listen to the other person. It is sad when we do not 'see' the person standing beside us....you've enlightened the 'whole' picture...! | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 5/30/2008 8:32:27 AM | Not in any particular order, for now...just listing...
Physical Attraction{looks} .. Chemistry .. Healthy .. Dancing .. Athleticism .. Playfulness .. Affection .. Sharing .. Honesty .. Trust .. Romance .. Sex .. Outdoorsy ..
Creativity .. Artistic .. Manners .. Class
..shall I continue..?? | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 5/30/2008 11:38:04 AM | I agree with rearguard2.
I think there are many people I could be in a relationship with and yes I have a list of qualities that I would like to have in a partner. But when it comes down to it I want to be happy being with that person.
looks fade
sometimes I am grumpy at the grocery store
and impatient with my brothers and children
tastes in decorating change etc.
I believe it is my responsibility to be the kind of partner my man will be happy being with this does not mean I should make him happy because that is his to do.
A good companion friend and lover is what I am looking for understanding that I will not get these qualities all of the time because life has a habit of throwing curve balls and being that we are all human we have our good days and our not so good days. | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 5/30/2008 7:31:55 PM |
I agree with rearguard2.
I think there are many people I could be in a relationship with and yes I have a list of qualities that I would like to have in a partner. But when it comes down to it I want to be happy being with that person.
looks fade
sometimes I am grumpy at the grocery store
and impatient with my brothers and children
tastes in decorating change etc.
I believe it is my responsibility to be the kind of partner my man will be happy being with this does not mean I should make him happy because that is his to do.
A good companion friend and lover is what I am looking for understanding that I will not get these qualities all of the time because life has a habit of throwing curve balls and being that we are all human we have our good days and our not so good days
...And you forgot to add, smeone that will love us no matter how we look first thing in the morning.
...maeflowers | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 5/30/2008 7:50:01 PM |
...And you forgot to add, smeone that will love us no matter how we look first thing in the morning
Maybe I am a bit strange. In my opinion, the mornings are the times I think a woman is her sexiest and most vulnerable. She has woken with her hair messed and the scent of her skin fragrances the underside of the bed sheets. I am guilty of enjoying watching a woman walk naked from the bed to the bathroom (or elsewhere). I find a woman to be the most sensual and appealing "the morning after".
Usually, I become very interested (ok - aroused) for a nice, slow romp in the sheets in the morning. | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 5/31/2008 8:50:53 AM | | The thing is that if someone wants a relationship with me they have to be good with my cats. My cats are like my children! They are babies and they trust whomever comes in the house. If I get a Sweetie off here, I want him to hang around the house w/me and my cats too yaknowwhatImean? | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 5/31/2008 3:19:40 PM |
I would move #4 to #2 space. Pets can sense a nice person real quick.
Then again -- some pets are as psycho as their owners. So I guess that kind of measure can swing both ways. People seem to be attracted to animals that have the same kind of anti-social tendencies they do. Odd that.
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 5/31/2008 6:55:33 PM | I was lookin for luv in all the wrong places...
I read the forums and discover that I should be looking in grocery stores and walmart..lol
Now this maturing dragonfly knows exactly what he does NOT want..
I now look for a friendly smile..an open heart and a good perfume she wears can be just the ticket!..
To chat endlessly, to smile until your jaws hurt..when 1 hour seems like a minute when she is around..then I'll know..until then I like kissin' frogettes..:)
Dusty | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 5/31/2008 6:59:21 PM |
was lookin for luv in all the wrong places...
I read the forums and discover that I should be looking in grocery stores and walmart..lol
I was told to hang out at Home Depot on this forum and it didn't work either. I just got tired wandering around all the screws, nuts and bolts..
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:18:47 PM | ""People seem to be attracted to animals that have the same kind of anti-social tendencies they do. Odd that.""
Okay, I have a small fluffy Pekingese dog. What does that say about my anti-social tendancies? | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:41:42 PM | | At this stage of our lives (I'm heading towards 60), I know that I look for a man who knows that having fun and being happy with your partner is more important then looks. Neither men or women look like they did at 30 or 40 and love starts with liking someone a LOT, and affection and love being turned on by personality more then looks. Sex is great but it's just one little part of the overall picture and the overall picture is what is more important as we grow old together.........The ability to make each other laugh even during the tough times..........to be there for each other through illnesses and family problems..........JMO | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 5/31/2008 8:02:31 PM |
At this stage of our lives (I'm heading towards 60), I know that I look for a man who knows that having fun and being happy with your partner is more important then looks. Neither men or women look like they did at 30 or 40 and love starts with liking someone a LOT, and affection and love being turned on by personality more then looks. Sex is great but it's just one little part of the overall picture and the overall picture is what is more important as we grow old together.........The ability to make each other laugh even during the tough times..........to be there for each other through illnesses and family problems..........JMO
...Well I for one would have never believed you were even close to 60, you look damn good lady. And I so agree with you, I want all the stuff everyone else does, I just want someone to love, who will love me back, and accept me with all my faults. I know I am not perfect, but I'm a work in progress....
...maeflowers
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 6/1/2008 2:02:37 AM |
""People seem to be attracted to animals that have the same kind of anti-social tendencies they do. Odd that.""
Okay, I have a small fluffy Pekingese dog. What does that say about my anti-social tendancies?
You may like your dog because you prefer very old men (the Peking Man); you like to eat franfurters covered in dog hair; you were a born servant to a species ranking below us (picking after your 'ese dog.) You like fluff (mental or emotional or physical), you like to be the alpha female ("small" dog). | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 6/1/2008 4:24:59 AM | | Maeflowers, you had complimented Friendlylydy about her looks, but you yourself are lookin pretty beautiful for an older woman too....I would like all the qualities both of you women have described in a man, (relationship) however I find sometimes that 'knowing' makes it a little harder to find, and remain optimistic. As all of us know 'time' does not wait for the next bus...lol | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 6/1/2008 4:26:44 AM | | I've got 2 dogs so why aren't women bashing down my doors to get in? Life gets in the way, work , looking after kids, out on the town one or twice a month if I'm lucky. I find it hard to get time to chase after women , getting old and grumpy, I can't stand my own company in the mornings so god knows what I be like living with a woman again. Through my previous job ex forces, managed to put up living in crappy conditions with loads of guys, found living with one woman more of a challenge ,so maybe I can't cope with normal domesticity anymore , so looks like , as in the tv program 2 and a half men, its , shaking the mango tree for me . boo hoo. | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 6/1/2008 12:27:49 PM | "You may like your dog because you prefer very old men (the Peking Man); you like to eat franfurters covered in dog hair; you were a born servant to a species ranking below us (picking after your 'ese dog.) You like fluff (mental or emotional or physical), you like to be the alpha female ("small" dog)."
LOL, too funny. None of that is the case (well, except maybe the alpha female part), but funny. | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 6/1/2008 12:52:21 PM | LOL, many people who have small pampered dogs are NOT the alpha... it is the dog who is the alpha, ruling the family/pack.
(Not intended, gingersnap, to mean it is you who I am talking about.. I don't know you, smile).
I don't know the answer to the OP... "what a man over 45 looks for in a relationship".
I do know that I would love to meet one, (but over 50), who just wants to be content and at peace with not only me as a companion/love/friend but with the world around him and the world inside himself, too. | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 6/1/2008 1:50:22 PM | Its hard to believe you are over 45 with a response like that!! Had any successful dates!
this answer you would expect from and 18 year old. I really hope that was meant as a joke,
as it is very insulting to woman. | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 6/1/2008 2:29:31 PM |
Well, I can only speak for myself but I have a list in my head of what I look for in a woman
Good for you OP, that you admit to having a list. Some men deny that they even have a list when you ask them what they're looking for, in a woman and relationship.In some cases, a man's list of criteria is usually kept from the woman, until she finds out she doesn't meet one of his requirements or until she is tossed into his reject pile. She has no choice but to pick herself up, brush herself off , shake her head and wonder what the hell just happened. | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 6/1/2008 2:52:16 PM | | It happens both ways. I find that woman have a declared list more often than men. But more than half the time I find out that the list is made up of what they would like people to think that it is what they want. When they actually have a different list. More about appearances. | |
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