| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 10/18/2009 9:13:58 AM | What I look for in a woman that I want to have a relationship with is simplistic with encompassing details that are still pretty basic,,,
Respect:
for others; meaning not looking down on others less fortunate or working in a service capacity
for herself; holds herself to certain standards that make her reliable, stable and humble
Tolerance:
for others; those who tend to trepass on others without regard
for herself; to have a limit where she will decide to put someone/something in their/its place
Consideration:
for others; how her actions will affect them
for us; how we will (she or I) be feeling down the road from an action today
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 10/18/2009 9:44:11 AM |
Fifth, how she decorates her house or apartment says worlds about her. I don't agree with this. I do think that some people are down on their luck and can't afford what they would like to use to decorate. I won't even comment on cleanliness unless I know they haven't been working and haven't done anything to throw away beer bottles etc.
On here, I used to look to see obvious lies, people that aren't truthful aren't worth knowing. Old photographs are one of the biggest lies. I don't like liars.
People that always are negative.
People that blame others or have excuses for all of their problems instead of taking responsibility for their own actions/reactions.
People that don't live their lives. Always have excuses for not living. You know the why should I bother doing this or that, instead of taking a chance. God forbid they find out they actually enjoy something.
People that judge others because they are so negative, they can't see that others are honest and truthful and truly try to help others. | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 10/18/2009 9:59:08 AM |
What I look for in a woman that I want to have a relationship with is simplistic with encompassing details that are still pretty basic,,,
Respect:
for others; meaning not looking down on others less fortunate or working in a service capacity
for herself; holds herself to certain standards that make her reliable, stable and humble
Tolerance:
for others; those who tend to trepass on others without regard
for herself; to have a limit where she will decide to put someone/something in their/its place
Consideration:
for others; how her actions will affect them
for us; how we will (she or I) be feeling down the road from an action today
So in other words, no sociopaths. | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 10/18/2009 12:09:28 PM | | What I would be looking for is stability. How do people in our age range deal with the uncertainly of a break up? Would you want to be lets say for example 57, be in an LTR for 6 years and then at 63 have it end and do what, start over again? This is Ok when in your 20's and 30's but 50's and 60's? Do people in our age ranges actually enter into LTR and make successes of them? It almost seems to me that time has run out. I see the men and women pushing 60 that are now single after 30 years of marriage. If I knew we were all going to live to be 150 I would not be writing this. Sometimes this whole thing seem surreal. | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 10/18/2009 12:25:14 PM |
What I would be looking for is stability. How do people in our age range deal with the uncertainly of a break up? Would you want to be lets say for example 57, be in an LTR for 6 years and then at 63 have it end and do what, start over again? This is Ok when in your 20's and 30's but 50's and 60's? Do people in our age ranges actually enter into LTR and make successes of them? It almost seems to me that time has run out. I see the men and women pushing 60 that are now single after 30 years of marriage. If I knew we were all going to live to be 150 I would not be writing this. Sometimes this whole thing seem surreal.
I understand what you are saying here PP, but what happens if for example someone of 57 enters into a LTR and it lasts for 6 years and then at the 6th year mark their partner passes on? That constitutes stability but that stability is ended due to death. Excuse the pun, but that's life. In order to grow, one needs to risk and when one risks, one grows. If one is not open to the risk of being open to a relationship that willl not last, then one simply stagnates in their own fear. As we approach the latter segment of our life, there are no guarantees of what life will bring us or how long we will actually have life. Enjoy what you can, while you can because if there is no tomorrow, then you may have missed out on the opportunity of a lifetime. | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 10/28/2009 4:52:16 PM |
Enjoy what you can, while you can because if there is no tomorrow, then you may have missed out on the opportunity of a lifetime.
Yes Tink.....this reminds me of the song " The Dance" by Garth Brooks.
One line of lyric that always hits home for me is...............
I could have missed the pain
But I'd of had to miss the dance
There are no guarantees in life. I drove my dhusband to work one morning and he never came home. He was only 45. For both of us, this was our second marriage and the 12 yrs. we shared together were the happiest either of us had ever had. I know this!.......He's been gone for almost 9......and it seems like an eternity ago. But, I'm willing to love again. Fear of the unknown is not going to hold me back. Even though, at 61, another partner and I may face having to bury the other one. I'm willing to take that chance. And, not let fear of losing another love control my happiness. Afterall, if I don't risk loving another man again...........I'll have missed The Dance. | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 10/29/2009 10:57:57 AM | Here we go: I want
Humor: she has to laugh at my stupid jokes and actually find them funny and in turn must be able to make me genuinely laugh.
Passion: passion about her convictions and mine; passion toward me and toward her where both of our hearts skip a beat just because we touched or talked or texted.
Intelligence: I want someone I can talk with ... not at.
Kindness: kind toward those less fortunate (not a bleeding heart though), kindess toward animals and kindness toward me when I've had a less than wonderful day.
Understanding: must be understanding of my flaws and accept and understand me wanting to be there on her less than wonderful days.
Sex: Pretty self-explanitory but would like her to be the instigator once in awhile, walking in naked with a glass of wine and a Viagra ... hell yeah!
Tolerance: must be tolerant of of life in general, of me and of herself.
Beauty(inside and out): must be attractive and attracted to me ( see "sex" above)
Adventurous: Must be willing to try new things, keep life exciting.
I'm sure I can think of more but these are the most important. | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 10/29/2009 3:11:23 PM | I can relate to what they said about missing the dance! Nothing in life is guaranteed. We all take a risk when we love someone. I always loved the quote by Kahlil Gibran about how your joy is your sorrow unmasked. The same thing that brought you joy is the same thing that can fill your heart with sorrow..........if you want the joy, you have to be willing to face the risk of sorrow, too........otherwise you are just empty..... His exact words were far more poetic but that's the general gist of what he said.
I've lost a son, my parents and my boyfriend to death.........lots of tears but lots of beautiful precious memories, too! Sure, I would have wanted it to turn out different but I wouldn't have missed one minute of the joy with any of the ones I've lost. It's what makes life matter....... | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 10/29/2009 6:38:10 PM | Ahh but Mister Pitt?
Who really knows? A man just may like the gentle voice of a mature woman reading Shakespeare at bedtime!
OT: I don't really spend much time thinking about what a man looks for after 45. Truly I don't. I am me, I am who I have been for the last 51 years. I am not going to change anytime soon! This man will either love me for me or not...pretty simple if you ask me? | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 10/29/2009 7:28:32 PM | These are favourable universal traits that apply to both genders. With the exception of the home decor, these are all traits I look for in a man.
I'll add;
Eighth ... how fiscally responsible he is in his own life; and if he has his priorities straight.
( When someone constantly slurges on "designer" items, and fancy cars simply because of the image he/she wants to portray and uphold and skimps on the small everyday necessities and pleasures, life becomes unbearable. ) Quality of my everyday life is important. | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 10/29/2009 7:42:30 PM | I want someone to yell coffee really loud every single morning.
That sings silly dirty ditty's........
They play one love song every Sunday over and over and over until we get out of bed.
They play with my hair until I fall asleep.
They call me for no reason.
They make me laugh until my ribs hurt.
They share secrets and keep mine.
They think I am perfect for them
They are perfect for me.......
They are honest with me to a fault....even when my butt looks big.
They write silly love poems.
They are proud of me and I of them.
Right now he is lost.......if you find him send him my way....... | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 10/29/2009 7:47:54 PM | I look for a girl who wants a car with cup holder arm rests.
I look for a girl who gets up early.
I look for a girl who uses a machette to cut through red tape.
I look for a girl who knows what's best.
I look for a girl .................................................................................................................................................................................. with a short skirt and a long, long jacket. | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 10/30/2009 10:14:53 AM | I came reading this thread hoping to find something useful. All I have really found is that everyone wants someone like them. I did find one post that is the most intelligent thing I have ever read on PoF...
What I look for in a woman that I want to have a relationship with is simplistic with encompassing details that are still pretty basic,,,
Respect:
for others; meaning not looking down on others less fortunate or working in a service capacity
for herself; holds herself to certain standards that make her reliable, stable and humble
Tolerance:
for others; those who tend to trepass on others without regard
for herself; to have a limit where she will decide to put someone/something in their/its place
Consideration:
for others; how her actions will affect them
for us; how we will (she or I) be feeling down the road from an action today
Now that makes perfect sense and is reasonable. Not only for a woman, but for a man, it is genderless.
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 10/30/2009 10:24:59 AM | | Fro me it's quite simple- I want a woman who puts as much effort into a relationship as I do. Experience has taught me that this obstacle, as minor as it seems, is impossible for most women, if not all. Laziness and a lack of drive seems to rule, and I just can't compensate for it anymore. | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 10/30/2009 11:31:42 AM |
Fro me it's quite simple- I want a woman who puts as much effort into a relationship as I do. Experience has taught me that this obstacle, as minor as it seems, is impossible for most women, if not all. Laziness and a lack of drive seems to rule, and I just can't compensate for it anymore.
One of the many reasons I am single. I get a few emails and they do not have anything to say. Just quick one liners and almost impossible to make any conversation so what the hell is the point? They can just move on form one guy to the next so what the hey. | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 10/30/2009 11:49:48 AM |
What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
short answer? a woman!
slightly longer answer? A woman willing to accept a man over 45 (WELL over 45) who no longer looks like he did way back then, or can do the things he did, but maybe still thinks like he did years ago. Guys don't grow up, we just grow older. In our minds, we're still 21 and bullet-proof, although those "bullets" hurt more than they used to, and so does the arthritis.
I see more profiles of ladies close to my age group who specify, in their email restrictions, age ranges much more on the younger side. Example; she is 58, but will only accept guys her age or ten years younger. Maybe a year or two older. I think most of us, men AND women, would ideally like someone younger, so maybe a man over 45 might be looking for, in a relationship, a woman under 45...but it goes both ways.
Ideally, the age hould not matter. Love, respect, honor, tolerance, all of what we normally consider the better traits of being human, is all we are looking for. Well, maybe a little "hot sauce" now and then, too. | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 10/30/2009 11:57:00 AM |
Guys don't grow up, we just grow older. In our minds, we're still 21 and bullet-proof,
Well I'm not21 anymore and glad not to be but I am still bullet proof and will be till I drop dead. | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 10/30/2009 12:02:51 PM | Stop complaining, guys. All these women who are rejecting you are doing you a big favour. Just imagine the consequences if they actually accepted you. You could very well end up married to them or living with them. By rejecting you out of hand they are saving you a lot of grief, as well as a lot of money.
There are plenty of women out there who would be quite delighted to have you. Stick with them and don't waste time and energy complaining about the ones that aren't interested. | |
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 10/30/2009 12:04:31 PM |
Would you want to be lets say for example 57, be in an LTR for 6 years and then at 63 have it end and do what, start over again?
I see you and I think alike here.. I know this will be it for me.. So if a man tells me that his 3 month relationships that he had were successful I start to get my sneakers on.
Yes I do know several people our ages that have had great success and years later still going strong. However they are not on this site..This is their last chapter and they both are well aware of it. They cherish one another know this is it.
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 10/30/2009 12:07:57 PM |
One of the many reasons I am single. I get a few emails and they do not have anything to say. Just quick one liners and almost impossible to make any conversation so what the hell is the point? They can just move on form one guy to the next so what the hey.
It sure beats the forwards? At least you get one line.. I think you really have to maintain a sense of humor to hang in there.. cause you never know when someone might just write an entire letter..
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| What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship.
Posted: 10/30/2009 12:12:59 PM |
Goodness! Is life over at 63? What a bummer!
Is it over at 63.. Gosh I hope the heck not.. but I highly doubt I will be dating by that age. But you never know I am kind of like molasses I move very slow.. We might well still be courting..
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