| Guilty For Dating ?
Posted: 5/5/2008 9:10:27 AM | Well I could feel guilty for not dating who my daughter wants me to date. But I don't. | |
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| Guilty For Dating ?
Posted: 5/5/2008 7:39:17 PM | | I completely have this same issue! Even when I was with my X Fiance I wouldn't go out to movies or anything without my daughter. I got this horrible feeling that I was a party mom or something and that I was neglecting my child. Its something that needs to be worked on I know, but don't feel bad cause I'm there with ya. | |
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| Guilty For Dating ?
Posted: 5/6/2008 6:24:36 PM | If anything, I feel resentment for not having a life of my own sooner. I didn't start dating until my son was about 7. I was in a long distance relationship (you could say) where he was the only person I was seeing 3 times a year. It was nice because I got to travel for 2-3 day getaways and I needed that freedom. I entertained that relationship for 3 years although we were not 'official'. I do feel guilty for not taking a greater interested in a relationship that suited both my son and I and not just me but I've found a balance to make up for that now.
It's even interesting the way the relationship began-- he pursued me online for almost 4 months. I wasn't interested because honestly I didn't want to solicit myself and my child to a man-- even though we are a package. When he got frustrated and gave up trying to get me out on a date, I agreed to meet him. I showed up in mom-jeans, a dingy tee-shirt with dam near house shoes on and had my kid in tow... and had the BEST date ever (at that time).
I learned and took advantage of the refuge from parenting but didn't let it go any farther than 'me time'. I've survived compartmentalizing my life until more recently. I do care how he interacts with people I am interested in. It never mattered before but I hope to meet someone who sees the same potential I see in my kid but knows how to show him how to capitalize on it. Raising a macho son -- for a woman alone-- warrants a well-rounded guy we can both enjoy being around. | |
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| Guilty For Dating ?
Posted: 5/18/2008 9:35:52 PM |
In Ontario if (in your case) a man were to marry you or live common-law with you and your child they could well end up paying child support for your child if the relationship did not work out. Lots of people may date single parents but to marry them..many will reconsider it.
What the HELL does this answer have to do with my question ? | |
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| Guilty For Dating ?
Posted: 5/19/2008 7:35:18 AM | It has a few things to do with the question:
You asked if others feel guilty while on dates that they are taking time away from their child. Well because of such laws and legal issues some people will not get seriously involved with single parents because they do not wish to pay child suport for someone else's child. So should you feel guilty for going out on a date that may not lead to anything serious? I do not think you should feel guilty at all but if you are going to be that ober sensative about taking time away from your child then why date at all? Especially with such reprocussions for the other person you are dating. | |
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| Guilty For Dating ?
Posted: 5/19/2008 10:09:50 AM |
You asked if others feel guilty while on dates that they are taking time away from their child. Well because of such laws and legal issues some people will not get seriously involved with single parents because they do not wish to pay child suport for someone else's child. .
Oh for Gods sake John! Give it a rest already! Dont you bore yourself silly by posting the same crap all the time!? | |
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| Guilty For Dating ?
Posted: 5/19/2008 4:45:44 PM | Well, I do feel guilty when I do get to go out.
If it's not bad enough my kids tend to play on the whole guilt thing as well.
I just hope that someday they will understand that I, as well as them, need time away from home and them to feel somewhat human. | |
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| Guilty For Dating ?
Posted: 5/19/2008 5:21:10 PM |
Any single parents out there feel guilty for wanting to date ?
No, because I know I am a better mom when I have some of my needs met as well..
Anyone feel guilty while being on a date, thinking you should be with your child ?
Not usually, because I usually only date when my child is on regular time with other parent.
Especially with such reprocussions for the other person you are dating.
That has nothing to do with this question, Johne..and you know it. | |
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| Guilty For Dating ?
Posted: 5/20/2008 1:06:24 PM | Um yeah I do. Shoot I havent even dated in a year because that fear.
Last year I was engaged and broke up with him, and i some how need to move on. | |
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| Guilty For Dating ?
Posted: 5/24/2008 9:19:33 AM | | yes i did feel bad when he was younger, but as he gets older it gets easier , maybe fine a guy or woman who enjoys the children to, like me for instance. I know they are a important part of our lifes, so include them sometimes you will have time for being alone with the other person ,a good date will understand this. | |
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| Guilty For Dating ?
Posted: 5/24/2008 5:47:19 PM | | I sometyimes feel guilty, but not for the time. I date when they aren't at my house. Usually, I have to make sure that all their needs are meet monetarily. I always try to make sure I have enough money to date, and pay for juniors camp this summer ( insert a million other things here). | |
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| Guilty For Dating ?
Posted: 5/30/2008 5:04:45 PM | | I do have some guilt, but like many others here, also realize that I need to be a happy person to be a good mom. That means I get to see friends and date. I would love to be able to say that I have "every other weekend" arrangements, but I have full-time custody. That makes it even more complicated and guilt-ridden. But, I believe that things work out when we don't try to over-analyze them. Find a balance and have fun! | |
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