| How long can I date two women?
Posted: 5/3/2008 11:36:30 PM | I agree with Ugly Betty on this one ....
You don't really know them well enough yet to decide if they are for you, or if one is a better match. Everyone puts their best "face" on during the first meet/date.
Do not sleep with either one though, because that would be bad.
Just relax, spend time getting to know them, and see what happens. You may find that one of them has a terrible habit that is a deal breaker. | |
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| How long can I date two women?
Posted: 5/4/2008 2:20:30 AM | What you are doing is called "dating".
1. not unless they ask if you are dating others
2. no don't make a choice now, its way too soo
3. why make a choice
4. when you start sleeping with both of them. | |
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| How long can I date two women?
Posted: 5/4/2008 2:26:55 AM | Hey OP......possibly these women can see right through and are dating other men at the same time
When you all find out about each other....don't get upset.
It's time to partaay | |
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| How long can I date two women?
Posted: 5/4/2008 7:23:46 AM | #1) I think honesty is the best policy. Let them both know you like them but that your also seeing other people.
#2) I agree with most of the women here...DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH EITHER 1... until you decide which 1 you really want to be with. FYI: Most women feel sex means that your exclusive!
But this is just another fishy's opinion! Best of luck! | |
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| How long can I date two women?
Posted: 5/4/2008 7:46:55 AM | OP has stated
I met two great women the same week on a site. .....He didn't specifically say it is POF....Just had to clear that up.
1) Should I tell them?.....Yes honesty is the best policy. You are obviously feeling 'guilty' otherwise you wouldn't be asking.
2) Should I make a choice now on which one I may like more?.....No as you really don't know either of them.
3) Should I go out with each one a few more times before deciding?.....Yes
4) At what point do I start being the bad guy?.....When you start sleeping with both of them without their knowledge of each other or you sleep with one then dump her for the other.
I have made up my mind not to do anything sexual with either until I am only going out with one of them. .....You need to write this down (3 copies please)have a lawyer sign it, and then you sign it in blood.....otherwise we won't believe you.
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| How long can I date two women?
Posted: 5/4/2008 9:12:55 AM | I agree with Juliet! 3 copies, signed by a lawyer, signed by you in blood and notarized! lol
Good 1 Juliet!  | |
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| How long can I date two women?
Posted: 5/4/2008 9:35:52 AM | >>>>>justify some version of cheating later on down the line--and I don't say that because you're of your situation, or because you're a guy--it's just human nature <<<<
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I don't know the type of people you go out with but cheating is not in my nature. I'm 35 and have never cheated on a girl. No plans to cross tha moral divide in this lifetime. | |
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| How long can I date two women?
Posted: 5/4/2008 1:02:40 PM | A: until you have told one of them that you want to be exclusive.
At that point, you cut personal attachments off with the other(s) except that one, telling them so. | |
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| How long can I date two women?
Posted: 5/5/2008 7:46:37 PM | It is true....I am overwhelmed!! I admit it!
I did not meet them on this site.
I couldn't handle the pressure. So, I told "Lady A" of the predicament and that I truly thought she is the most incredible woman I have met in some time (I know, big mistake)....by the way, this was after two more dates in two days......and that there was someone else who came along at the very same time but I really can't think of even dating someone else.
She said (get ready) that I should also date Lady B. I answered that I didn't want to.
She INSISTED that I date the other woman also. In fact she made me PROMISE to date Lady B. (yes, I know what this means)
Seriously, I can not date Lady B! It just feels wrong.
Honest to God, I am normally not this retarded. What is it about when you like someone that gets you to act so stupid? | |
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| How long can I date two women?
Posted: 5/5/2008 8:42:32 PM | | Well for starters, posting that here was probably a dumb idea because now it's on your profile. I'd say just go for whichever one appeals to you more. Obviously you're going to be getting to know both of them a little more in depth and surely one of them will have some kind of stand out quality that will make you want to choose them over the other. Don't push your luck with this though or you'll end up empty handed, which I'm pretty sure is not what you want since you said they're both great. | |
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| How long can I date two women?
Posted: 5/6/2008 8:49:50 AM | | As long as you want to, until physical intimacy comes into the picture. Look, you owe neither woman an explanation and vice versa. You become the bad guy when you sack both of them. | |
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| How long can I date two women?
Posted: 5/6/2008 7:30:52 PM | Most men can't handle ONE woman, let alone two.
Dating two women won't last long. Why? Because women are far more intelligent and cunning than you think. We have female intuition. You will get busted and dumped. Especially if you think you are slick. [which obviously isn't the case by the title of this post.] If you are having sex with both of them, you increase the odds of being caught by 1000 percent.
Now let me stop telling secrets of the sisterhood and give you a real answer. You ready?
How long can I date two women?
Till you run out of loot or excuses. Which ever comes first. | |
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Joined: 2/15/2008
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| How long can I date two women?
Posted: 5/9/2008 6:04:14 AM | How long can I date two women?
Umm...would this question or the dilema never exist if you didnt date two women at the same time in the first place?
Yeah yeah yeah...I know...waaaay too logical.
Now the million virtual dollar question is...is the winner of ye olde grande prize gonna be the dummy who's stupid enough to hang around the longest while you continue to do it? Assuming you tell em ofcourse.
Yup...sarcasm...cos I think this kinda situation is stupid, unneccessary and will never ever make any sense to me. | |
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| How long can I date two women?
Posted: 5/9/2008 7:24:17 PM | Hi
I have been in that situation and I just told each of them I was seeing others. None of the others had any objections. It happened that I only went out with each of them once, as there were no "sparks". Then a month later I met a lady and we went out for about 2 years and now it is off and on. Just tell them and if they don't like it -move on. I don't think you are the "bad guy" as long as you are honest with them.
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| How long can I date two women?
Posted: 5/9/2008 7:34:30 PM | | Just keep keepin on and when you figure out which one you want to bang, let the other one know. If she's as good as you claim, she will want a 3some and you won't have to bother with silly threads anymore hu? hehehe | |
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| How long can I date two women?
Posted: 5/9/2008 7:56:15 PM | The best decision is a well informed decision so I say continue dating them both.
However if you are planning on being intimate with one or both you need to let them know up front that you are not exclusive so they can make a well informed decision.
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| How long can I date two women?
Posted: 5/9/2008 8:31:35 PM | Ugly Betty ( post 3) is right again. Do you ever get tired of being right, btw?
It's early days, OP, the whole point of dating is to go out with people until you find one that you want to go out with exclusively. It usually takes some time to determine that, and it actually appears a bit full of yourself to assume that anyone has to be hurt by your decision. As UB said, it's very likely that at least one of these women is also interested in other guys at the moment.
Be honest, make sure everybody is using the same dictionary, have fun & good luck. Just remember: It takes a fast car, baby, to lead a double life! | |
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| How long can I date two women?
Posted: 5/9/2008 8:36:26 PM |
I met two great women the same week on a site. I set up dates on successive nights, earlier this week. It turns out that both of these women are absolutely fantastic. They are the nicest women I have ever met in my life and they are both my type. They both have also been hurt multiple times in their lives and I truly would not want to add to that. Even crazier is they both seem to like me. I have follow up dates set with each. I really don't know what to do.
1) Should I tell them?
No.
2) Should I make a choice now on which one I may like more?
No.
3) Should I go out with each one a few more times before deciding?
Yes.
4) At what point do I start being the bad guy?
When you start lying to them. | |
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| How long can I date two women?
Posted: 5/10/2008 7:45:34 AM | zero days.
try one alone and if that doesn't work out leave then go after another. i don't get all this "normal" dating people do | |
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| How long can I date two women?
Posted: 5/10/2008 8:00:30 AM | "Tryin' to love two women is like a ball and chain!"
OK, to be serious now. I agree that dating is just that! We don't know what will happen in the casual dating stages, so I really don't see anything wrong with dating these two. As others have observed, how do you know they aren't doing the same? But if and when you feel those proverbial "sparks" with one, you might want to concentrate for a while on that woman. Tough, I know! | |
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| How long can I date two women?
Posted: 5/10/2008 8:09:07 AM | | I dont think it sounds juvenille.. legitimate question as far as I am concerned. In my opinion.. If you are dating than you are doing just that dating. Until the words girlfriend, boyfriend, or relationship enter the conversation than you owe no one nothing.. As long as you dont enter into a relationship with one while still dating the other than you are ok. | |
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| How long can I date two women?
Posted: 5/10/2008 3:17:22 PM | Until you feel like having sex with one of them.
After that, dating the other constitutes cheating to the first one, since you have been building a relationship. | |
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