| Can you actually, physically, feel a broken heart?
Posted: 5/5/2008 11:55:19 PM | | I can, but for me, it's usually an abrupt feeling of having the wind completely knocked out of you, followed by a horrible tugging feeling in your gut. No matter how crappy life can be, I don't believe we die if it is not our time to go. We just have to hold onto the faith that things happen for reasons we may not fully understand and time can heal wounds--not all, but most. There's a line in a song that I try to remember "some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers". Looking back on some relationships that I really wanted to last, I see now that there was something more to be added to my life. More great people and more life lessons. | |
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| Can you actually, physically, feel a broken heart?
Posted: 5/6/2008 5:49:56 AM | | Well -- if broken hearts do manage to kill some people it won't be the end of the world -- in fact over the last 150 years the extension of human life span -- effectly it has more than doubled --- through improved nutrition, health care and technology is the principle cause of massive natural resource depletions that are occuring now-- the only hope is some sort of plague that wipes out the surplus human population and restores the resource balance to perhaps about half of the six billion that are alive today. Maybe there's a down-side to that too, but hey -- it's nature --- what can you do.... Anyway -- the glass is half-full: if you don't have anyone in your life you aren't at risk of reproducing and making the problem even worse. | |
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| Can you actually, physically, feel a broken heart?
Posted: 5/6/2008 5:56:22 AM | the only hope is some sort of plague that wipes out the surplus human population and restores the resource balance
Well we will let you stand first in line!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Can you actually, physically, feel a broken heart?
Posted: 5/6/2008 6:48:46 AM | What doesn't kill us makes us stronger. Faith will keep us going until the healing starts to take hold. While some issues never fully heal, they then become a manageable memory. Each heartbreak holds a lesson in ego, but hopefully in the end a value to the enrichment of your life. I always believed that with each heartbreak we have to delve past our history, our ego, and love deeper that we've done before. | |
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| Can you actually, physically, feel a broken heart?
Posted: 5/6/2008 9:27:09 AM | | one sure can! You can die from one. As a matter of fact, crazy as I know this will sound, it was the only "out of body experience" I have ever endured...but, the good news is: broken hearts can be mended and good as new! Dont be too cautious for that reason! Lilli | |
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| Can you actually, physically, feel a broken heart?
Posted: 5/6/2008 2:55:38 PM | tigerlily1
Yes you can, but its often the thoughts about the situation and how you deal with it that dictates the level of pain your in, if you reason and self talk yourself into a good place the pain will lessen and go.....
Its grief it needs to be worked through, if you cant get through this then seek help with it, society doesnt seem to be able to cope with grief very well, medication is not the answer and many doctors treat grief as depression, councilling and education on the process is the best remedy....
Should you slip into depression, medication can be a relief to those symptoms but that is jsut one step of the grief cycle and you need to address all the stages........
A broken heart is an injury like a broken leg and it needs treatment, its not a sprain its a break and needs to be cared for and healed before you attemp to use it again.......
Pain is the bodies way of telling you something is wrong in that area, dotn ignore it, get it fixed quickly.......
a pretty girl will not cure a broken leg and neither will a pretty girl cure your broken heart, it may distract you from the pain for a while but it will not cure the break and if not fixed properly it will not mend properly........... Well this explains it all - why most gals play hopscotch from one guy to the next, and then have an amalgam of mental disorders along with their baggage. The heart never fully heals lily - no matter how mended, there are cracks, evidence of past tenants, tampered tempering, holes, etc. More like it, people simply care less and less each time, and those caught caring suffer, as punishment for really loving someone.
That's what people should fix... Properly.
- Excog. | |
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| Can you actually, physically, feel a broken heart?
Posted: 5/6/2008 3:01:29 PM | It's the anxiety you feel. It feels like it's constricting your chest. You have all these feelings of fear and loss. The thoughts of "Why wasn't I good enough?" "Will I be alone forever?" "What's wrong with me?"
You are filled with this sudden wave of self doubt. Even if you were the one that dumped the other person, you still have the feelings of why you weren't good enough to bother trying harder for. For many, this is quite traumatizing. | |
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| Can you actually, physically, feel a broken heart?
Posted: 5/6/2008 4:48:19 PM | Yes it pays to be aware of your body and how it is feeling, it gives signals for a long time before it speaks louder. Treasure your emotions they are a good compass, while you can still feel, you are still human. Every life has its story, step back from your own story, view it as just that. Yes a story with no challenging bits in it, is just going to be mush and it certainly won't make you a caring or compassionate person.
Yes the heart and body certainly do cop some punishment. I've actually felt stabbing sensations, the feeling of "bands" from the heart to the intestines snapping and breaking apart, I've felt the presence of "dementor" type effects, I've fainted from shock, I've had my legs collapse from under me, the gnawing and the dull ache thing. The feeling of an immanent heart attack etc, etc.
The lifeline on my palm once stretched to my wrist. My heart line once joined up with the heartline and even curled around my little finger. Now the heartline looks like a frayed broken rope, the lifeline breaks now and only extends 2/3rds along my palm and it looks frayed and hatched at the end. So I guess these things affect your soul and spirit as well. It is just a story and no more.
Then one day I opened my eyes and said: I am not playing anymore, and I don't want the relationship deal, because it is just not worth it. I would just rather live a healthy life and have my self respect. I began to say more and more thankyous I began to be more grateful and I became more at peace.
Love is not a reality in this world for some of us - does it really matter? Probably not, we are just travelling through a desolate terrible terrrible place on our way to somewhere better. Walk your journey proudly knowing that as you have passed on your way through this awful seemingly endless horror - you have done all you can to cast your flowers along the way. Live proudly and gratefully with your own personal integrity, it is more a companion than any liar, cheat etc. Walk as a warrior, befriend those you can, expect nothing in return but value those who cross your path with all your heart. Animals have the purest love, thank God for the sight of paired birds flying, it just amazes me, not all creatures turn and tear apart their partners, thank God for some things that hint all is not ugliness.
OP you are a young and handsome man, I think the pull of adventure is a good one, go for it. Laugh at the snotty nose women, you don't need them. From a 43 yro who realises she has most certainly missed the boat for good now - never, never, ever, sell your soul for "love". | |
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| Can you actually, physically, feel a broken heart?
Posted: 5/6/2008 4:58:46 PM | After my long time love broke my heart, yes, I felt the physical pain. I can't remember exactly when it finally subsided enough for me to be normal. But I didn't date for 2 years and 3 weeks after we broke up. It was more painful cause she was cheating.
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| Can you actually, physically, feel a broken heart?
Posted: 5/6/2008 5:11:50 PM | | Please don,t hurt yourself..Yes its a tough world and it seems no one cares for you. Do not take any drugs..it will only worsen your aching Heart. God made you ..take care of your body respect it..and LOVE you..because you come first. | |
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| Can you actually, physically, feel a broken heart?
Posted: 5/6/2008 5:27:43 PM | I totally agree.. I like to seperate the pain from the person. Without loosing sight that they are one in the same.. People dont realize what they are doing, they can be mean, thoughtless or even give the appearance of on purpose. ( we can be this too) Truly its usually the other trying to hurt you cause they hurt . I believe that not every one stays attracted forever and some times its a shock that your mate wants to move on. It feels personal yet, not to them.. They arnt trying to hurt you . These and more are the stories we all share. Life is a journey of selfishness and need. When that matures then we are able to appreciate the time and get out or let go before the energy gets negative and bad..The truth is sometimes we do learn from our pain. Sometimes it is your fault. The hardest thing in life is to fix what was said or done. Sometimes the consequences are forever. Dont give up , turn your pain into compassion for yourself ,life and others. Youll feel better
I want to say this too. There are alot of mental issues and medical problems out there. Use wisdom,caution... You cant help everyone no matter how hard you try..Look for all the goodies not just one thing. Like this person is this way and no one ever did that. Get the big picture. | |
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| Can you actually, physically, feel a broken heart?
Posted: 5/6/2008 6:01:50 PM |  yes....when the life of my Mother left this one..a Part of me left with her..then Dad..the same...my only Brother..nearly all that is in me with him.one breath at a time ,an endless search to find Love to replentish and renew..But Faith is a wonderous thing..as is "DESTINY"? So I shall contine this walk..open minded..and Faith clutched closely to my Breast...Hoping..Waiting..BELIEVING....ALWAYS..BELIEVING...
Lisa | |
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| Can you actually, physically, feel a broken heart?
Posted: 5/6/2008 6:18:19 PM | | Love isnt just a relationship between a man and a woman. Relationships happen all day long and can be awsome..We shouldnt limit them like we do..Most male and female or partner relationships are needy, and selfish..Each with the other for different reasons. Not usually the right ones. Its not the movies,so live on and love on... | |
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| Can you actually, physically, feel a broken heart?
Posted: 5/6/2008 6:24:10 PM | Just me again. Id like to add.A broken heart and depression created by these situations occure due to Hope being deferred. Hope shifts and its a earthquake. I think if people could grasp this one concept. Things could improve..New hope is what changes your heart...In this case anothers attention..Id hope the improvements dont come from that,but from new dreams and ideas of ones own...Lasts longer | |
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| Can you actually, physically, feel a broken heart?
Posted: 5/6/2008 7:01:36 PM | I cannot read another word, because the memories of the pain I felt are making my whole body hurt again. I think a part of you dies and a part of you stays scarred which is just natures way to remind you of the injury, as if to ask you if you learned anything. Grow from it, learn from it, you will eventually look at life differently. And appreciate REAL love again one day.
Blessings. | |
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| Can you actually, physically, feel a broken heart?
Posted: 5/7/2008 11:57:29 AM |
I think a part of you dies and a part of you stays scarred which is just natures way to remind you of the injury, as if to ask you if you learned anything.
I couldn't have said it better myself. I still possess a hollow place (and buried pain) in my heart from the love I lost, but I have hope I *will* feel the positive effects of love again, more than likely when I least expect it. | |
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| Can you actually, physically, feel a broken heart?
Posted: 5/7/2008 11:58:05 AM | | Once again, the gypsy is over a man...how stupid can I be? I told myself I would NEVER cry over a man again...perhaps reading the pain & heartache of others will put my woes into perspective...after all...IT'S HIS LOSS NOT MINE! | |
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| Can you actually, physically, feel a broken heart?
Posted: 5/7/2008 1:00:35 PM | Feel a Broken Heart . . ??
You Obviously have never been Totally..Madly In Love, before....
and had that partner taken from you by a terminal Illness, have you...???
If you really want to ~Speed Up~ the process . .
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A brisk game of *Hop-Scotch* on any local Interstate should do the trick...!!! | |
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