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| How do I learn to enjoy being alone?
Posted: 5/26/2008 5:44:27 AM | Find your goal in life. Some people find GOD, some people get into their addictions, others...well they roam aimlessly around asking others "I was wondering, how do I learn to enjoy being alone?" Just kidding...
So what are your treasures? Perhaps being alone is a goal for some. Wherever your treasure is, there your heart will be also, that's it in a nutshell. Treasures come in many forms, good or bad, some are addictions of whatever sort, whether it be sports, materialism, money, sex, you name it. If you truly want happiness to find you, then volunteer, by helping others only then will you find purpose & happiness & perhaps the person of your dreams will see you & fall in love with your demeanor. Whatever it is, you must find the anwers to all your questions...
Even if you find someone & get together, there is no guarantee on happiness. You could be in bed right next to this person or sitting at the table or sitting in a stadium with 60,000 other people & you will feel totally lonely. Happiness is a state of mind, change how you view your world & you will have changed your outlook.
Some people get depressed. What is depression? Well the simplified version I was told was it was something that a someone does, they attempt to overcome an obstacle or a series of obstacles continuously day-in & day-out. Over time, this relentless feeling of getting nowhere, the body finally shuts down & depression sets in. Two people can go to the same Counsellor and one will get all their answers completely, whereas the other will not. The answers, by the way, are inside you, a good & effective counsellor will help you find your keys and the rest is history. Native people have a saying, "everyone beats to a different drummer..." Find your drummer (someone who can mentor you) & go from there...
By the way, while we are single, we are never alone. There are countless billions of micro-organisms & bacteria living on our body & goodness knows what other things we are a host to...
So if you want to get your mind off your present dilemma, wear too tight shoes or place a stone in one of them. It will immediately transfer your pain to the reality of now... Remember things are never so bad that they can't be made worse. I'm sure there are many people with afflictions & who live in constant pain who would just love to trade places with you & only have to deal with loneliness. I used to tell people that I used to have that "dog-kicked-in-the-@ss look too.
On the brighter side, even when things seem to be at their bleakest & darkest, just go outside, for when it is dark enough, you can see the stars. Enjoy your time alone & freedom, for in time you shall miss it. Just ask any married guy. 
**~Remington55~** 
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| How do I learn to enjoy being alone?
Posted: 5/26/2008 7:14:17 AM | I believe different people naturally have different personality types, and it's going to be way easier for some people to enjoy being alone than others. I can be pretty happy to be alone, but it took a little getting used to, but I believe I naturally have a personality that allows for that. When I am alone, I do things that enjoy and I do them just for me, and I enjoy them in the way I want to. I don't spend time alone and do boring things or stuff that will make me sulk or feel unproductive. I know that sounds obvious, but maybe not everyone does that. I still need to spend time with friends though, and I put some effort into this.
If you don't have a naturally introspective personality type, maybe you just need lots of platonic friends around you and a dog while you are single so that you don't actually feel alone. | |
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| How do I learn to enjoy being alone?
Posted: 5/26/2008 8:02:40 AM | Well, i do agree with all your suggestions, but you have to consider why someone is feeling lonely.
I am not feeling alone myself i am HAPPY..and CHEERFUL all the time, I have lots of friends but not PETS :) maybe just few spiders crawling around in my house, but they don't talk much.
I would say I am feeling alone because I don't have that special person next to me to spend "quality time" (that is what is called...right?). Somone you can trust, talk to and open myself up to and of course have good time together!
I believe most of us do miss all these and this is why we all say I AM FEELING LONELY! But surely not because we don't have a life out there, i am sure we all work and socialise.
So i think the bottom line is, we need that special PERSON to be with in good and bad time!
Good luck to you all
ciao,
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| How do I learn to enjoy being alone?
Posted: 5/26/2008 8:11:51 AM | Go out and enjoy life.
Get involved in your community, play sports if that's what you are into, make small get togethers/parties with family and friends. Your options are limitless. Think outside of the box. Meaning get out of your house and just do it!
I love NIKE :) | |
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| How do I learn to enjoy being alone?
Posted: 5/26/2008 8:14:05 AM | well... there ARE lots of things worse than being alone - or lonely.
The first that comes to my mind is hooking up w/ the wrong person.
I guess as others said, find hobbies and activities you enjoy, and keep an open mind when meeting people. Don't rush tho... no matter how tempting! | |
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| How do I learn to enjoy being alone?
Posted: 5/26/2008 8:42:56 AM | Well if you don't have anyone, then you don't have any choice except to be alone. Maybe that's your reality? Now how happy you are about this is up to you. In this world, there are an awful lot of people who are alone and will be until they fall into their graves.
The Eagle | |
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| How do I learn to enjoy being alone?
Posted: 6/1/2008 8:59:13 AM |
Meditation can be a nice way in to that...
When you are just 'be' ing with yourself, you may eventually notice that you are a miracle..
and that even the noticing, is also a miracle...
and then, when you become more fascinated with simply be-ing, more so than with vicarious and imagined possibilities....
you are well on your way to enjoying being alone, rather than lonely. It is one of life's great distinctions.
And then, watch out, because another may be more easily drawn to you. LOL
It can be like that. | |
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| How do I learn to enjoy being alone?
Posted: 6/1/2008 2:57:29 PM | | Unless you become happy being alone, and truly begin to enjoy your own company you will never be happy with someone else. You will breed a bad case of co-dependence, suck the energy out of whoever you become involved with in the future. You may be a great team with someone that is true, but we need to operate in life as a sovereign entity by ourselves. No one can make you happy but yourself. Is there a hobby or interest that you have always wanted to pursue? Try that, do anything that can make you more interesting and more well rounded, grow as a person. You will attract a much higher caliber of women, dolts are easy to find. | |
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| How do I learn to enjoy being alone?
Posted: 6/1/2008 3:43:38 PM | Learning to enjoy being alone does not equate with being lonely or not having someone in your life.
I've been single my entire life. I have close friends and enjoyed loving relationships with men. However, I look forward to what I call, "my time". The quiet of the house after a long, crazy day at work. Being able to change the channel to what ever I desire to watch or crank up the stereo and sing/dance while cleaning house.
Life is what you make it. Get out there and take a chance. | |
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| How do I learn to enjoy being alone?
Posted: 6/1/2008 10:00:45 PM | YOU NEVER LEARN TO ENJOY BENING ALONE
HAS SOMEONE HURT YOU
HAVE YOU DONE SOMETHING
YOU MUST NOT WANT TO BE ALONE
YOU ARE ASKING
HOW DO I ENJOY BEING ALONE ?
YOU DO KNOW WHEN YOUR ALONE YOU ARE NEVER REALY ALONE | |
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| How do I learn to enjoy being alone?
Posted: 6/2/2008 1:10:44 AM | | Hey Ross,I know how you feel,I used to have hobbies that I enjoyed WITH others,not by myself,so ditto to some posters on here. Its icing on the cake,if you will,If they are around to share them,and good times,but so many people seem to find it easy to move on,and forget ya,it happens,i dont know why.!! | |
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| How do I learn to enjoy being alone?
Posted: 6/2/2008 2:21:41 AM | | Hi Ross, You think deeply about who you are,and learn to love all the positives about yourself,and,if you want to,change the negatives. Once you get to know exactly who you are and like that person,everything else falls into place,and then being on your own,or with someone else,is always a position of strength. You will feel as if the world is what YOU make it,and that will be true. | |
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| How do I learn to enjoy being alone?
Posted: 6/2/2008 8:08:03 AM |
Quote::Enjoy your time alone & freedom, for in time you shall miss it.('') Just ask any married guy.
This is so true...
Time alone and freedom are very precious to me... I would not trade them in lightly!!!
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| How do I learn to enjoy being alone?
Posted: 6/2/2008 8:42:02 AM | It is true...dancing bananas aside, mshakti
As I look back on realationships now, it seems I was always 'bargaining' for some alone time. Since I was a young child, it has somehow been an important part of my existence. Wonder what that means??? oh well,
And, to add to that, the 'few' really long term relationships of friends I know, (very rare these days, it seems), are built around the foundation of balance...your time,my time, and our time.
When things are out of balance, ummmm....something is going to tip and fall
~~~~~~~~~ 'Kimbo ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ | |
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